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Should an otherwise healthy, 150 pound teenage girl try to lose weight?

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Created November 08, 2012 at 6:21 PM

I'm 14 and I feel like I've struggled with my weight my whole life.

I started paleo fully around 6 days ago. Not a lot of time at all, I know. I think I'm still adjusting to low carb, considering I went sprinting and had to lie down for half an hour because my muscles were so drained.

But even though I've been eating healthier (and less!) than ever I'm just not losing weight. I've got big shoulders, you can really see my collar bones, I'm getting big hips, my legs are a combination of fat/muscle and my butt is honestly huge. People call me J-Lo because of it :P and I have a belly that went away when I was 12 with absolutely no effort, and now it's came back (with a vengeance)

I'm doing low-carb right now (I think) going to start doing HIIT (I did loads of training before, but I couldn't lose weight for some reason) I'm not exactly keeping a check on my calories because I don't know how much is in the meat. I'm even thinking if it doesn't work I'll do some IF? Not sure if it's safe/it works.

Today for breakfast I had 3 eggs cooked in butter (quite a lot of butter this morning; a decent slab) and 2 slices of bacon. For lunch I had a small amount of thinly sliced ham off the bone, some chunks of cheese, avocado and 5 or 6 nut salad (precise :p) for dinner tonight I'm having 2 burgers without the bun and some vegetables.

Tomorrow will probably be the same breakfast, but with a 1 hamburger and avocado salad for dinner and a 8-10z steak for tea with veggies.

I haven't been eating a lot of fruit and I kind of miss it. I think I may have a piece tomorrow.

First of all, is this healthy? Am I getting the right amount of nutrients/too much fat? Will I lose weight like this? I'd like to think I'll lose weight as I grow, but I've grown over half a foot in the space of about a year. And like 2 breast sizes in a year. When I was 12 I was around 4'8-10 and 120 pounds. Now I'm 5'3-4" and 150. I don't think that's healthy, but i'm just a little confused as to what to do. My mam doesn't know much about paleo and I've tried to make her listen, but she's having a hard time accepting this. Before she had me on a low-fat, calorie restricted diet and I actually gained weight from it.

(by the way, I know I've posted a lot on this but I'm just confused at the minute. I'll shut up when I get some more knowledge :P)

66a7ef84ed129bba4ea2dc3aea26f67f

on November 10, 2012
at 04:40 PM

Thanks so much :) I'm a regular visitor of MDA and I've posted in the forum a few times. It's a good place. I'll just have to see how this all goes

8d3cb0be5f31c75a05f853cb3b5c245a

(1601)

on November 09, 2012
at 02:34 PM

it doesn't help to say this food is bad or that food is BAD - there is a spectrum! it might help if you and your mom make small changes - first, buy more fruit, avocadoes, potatoes, spinach and broccoli, etc. Find tasty ways to cook them. try to make some delicious fish and beef things. If you're with friends and you happen to have some skittles or pizza, ask yourself how you feel afterwards - did you get a big high and then get really tired, or maybe get a pimple, or maybe you found yourself getting hungry 2 hours later. that's the kind of thing It Starts with Food helps you realize.

8d3cb0be5f31c75a05f853cb3b5c245a

(1601)

on November 09, 2012
at 02:19 PM

Also wanted to add, if you like journaling, and keeping a record of how much you eat and getting support, mark's daily apple can be a good place for that. Sometimes people need encouragement as they start a new lifestyle and as long as you don't take everything you read on the internet too seriously (it can make you crazy!! and don't research too much!! it can also make you crazy) you might find some good support there.

Eed7dabde3d61910685845e04605267f

(2934)

on November 09, 2012
at 05:29 AM

'If you don't feel good about yourself, then you should try to lose weight.' Depends on whose standards are being used for measrument...

8d3cb0be5f31c75a05f853cb3b5c245a

(1601)

on November 08, 2012
at 10:53 PM

just wanted to say, my sister had your stats, and i was SO jealous of her. my mom gave her a hard time over her love of food that shoewd on her body, but you know what? She is the most amazing cook, and has the best marriage of anybody I know. basically, don't go crazy and try lots of things that are new and get mad when you don't see results. Be YOU!

66a7ef84ed129bba4ea2dc3aea26f67f

on November 08, 2012
at 10:07 PM

Yeah, I haven't shut up since I've found this site :P but I am a bit overwhelmed! Thanks for all the advice, elf. I really appreciate it. :)

8d3cb0be5f31c75a05f853cb3b5c245a

(1601)

on November 08, 2012
at 10:02 PM

Hi Ebrady98, I also noticed you have posted some other questions on here about your diet, and looking for advice. You're so young and new to paleo, I think it can be so easy to be overwhelmed! I know I was and I am 2 times your age. Just take it easy. I think you have talked a lot about your mum being resistant to paleo, and since she's the one that does all the grocery shopping, try to help her understand. Your body needs the right foods, the right nutrients and the right minerals. Paleo for kids site might be another good place for her to start (even though you're a teen, not a kid).

8d3cb0be5f31c75a05f853cb3b5c245a

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on November 08, 2012
at 09:57 PM

so true!!! I never felt good on IF, I never felt good on very low carb. It's so personal.

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on November 08, 2012
at 08:36 PM

+1 for everything.

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8d3cb0be5f31c75a05f853cb3b5c245a

(1601)

on November 08, 2012
at 07:08 PM

Hi Ebrady98, HUGE HUG.

Please don't stress. I'm sure you're beautiful. here is what I have to tell you: Paleo is more than what you eat. It's about trying to enjoy life more, and being healthier.

By that I mean: 1) having the good health and energy to go strolling around outdoors barefoot or swimming in the sun, and enjoying the environment 2) enjoying and eating natural food that tastes good and your body needs 3) relaxing - sleeping 8-9 hours a night 4) being with friends and family, and getting away from the computers, cell phones, and video games to remember what it's like talking, laughing, and being with people who love you and that you love.

But please, just RELAX. you are beautiful the way you are.

"I'm doing low-carb right now (I think) going to start doing HIIT (I did loads of training before, but I couldn't lose weight for some reason) I'm not exactly keeping a check on my calories because I don't know how much is in the meat. I'm even thinking if it doesn't work I'll do some IF? Not sure if it's safe/it works."

Please, please please be careful with diets and weight loss. I would advise you to check out it starts with food by the hartwigs. seriously, read this book with you and your mom. it's a good place to start thinking about changing your diet. it helps you understand how food affects you, and more importantly, helps give you a plan. fruit is totally ok, paleo does not have to be low carbohydrate or no carbohydrate, and UNDERSTAND what your body needs.

Some people say that weight gain happens because your body is malnourished. and others say it's because modern day foods, like cheese nips or oreos or goldfish or snickers have been manufactured to be extremely tasty, so much that it overrides your brain's ability to stop eating them. there are many theories. maybe you and your mom can research this together?

as a side note: PLEASE do not do Paleo + HIIT + Intermittent Fasting all at once. It's A LOT of stress on your body. Take it one step at a time. understand why you want to change your eating habits! understand how changing your eating habits will change your body! and understand that you are totally, completely beautiful.

also, the PerfectHealthDiet is a book for you and your mom, and I think it could help her understand. It will present the information in a way that's backed up by science to you and your mom. make sure you understand WHY, don't just follow the advice of someone who has a lot of followers, something that people perceive to be a fad, etc.

I think PerfectHealthDiet could help you make sure you're getting all the vitamins and minerals you need, versus eggs + hamburger + lettuce.

Your amount of food nobody can tell what you need - it depends on your activity level, how much you sleep, and yes, your age. So I'm sorry I can't answer your question about whether or you not you should lose weight. Some days what you eat may be too much, some days too little. Please, just tell your mom to buy avocadoes, tomatoes, apples, potatoes, sweet potatoes, and even white rice in the meantime. Scramble some eggs + tomatoes, or eggs and spinach. Make a stir-fry with vegetables you guys haven't tried before. try cooking some beef stock and make a beef stew.

I know you want a solution NOW but it's going to take time, but bring your mom on board. if you guys both eat healthier and feel better together it'll be easier to stick with your way of eating. It can be fun. Don't run yourself ragged doing sprints and weight lifting while trying to change your diet. you'll get exhausted, binge later on, and then get mad at yourself when you are actually wonderful, there is nothing wrong with you and people love you.

Learn more, think about why you and your mom have struggled, and I think you'll be ok.

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(310)

on November 08, 2012
at 08:36 PM

+1 for everything.

66a7ef84ed129bba4ea2dc3aea26f67f

on November 08, 2012
at 10:07 PM

Yeah, I haven't shut up since I've found this site :P but I am a bit overwhelmed! Thanks for all the advice, elf. I really appreciate it. :)

8d3cb0be5f31c75a05f853cb3b5c245a

(1601)

on November 08, 2012
at 10:02 PM

Hi Ebrady98, I also noticed you have posted some other questions on here about your diet, and looking for advice. You're so young and new to paleo, I think it can be so easy to be overwhelmed! I know I was and I am 2 times your age. Just take it easy. I think you have talked a lot about your mum being resistant to paleo, and since she's the one that does all the grocery shopping, try to help her understand. Your body needs the right foods, the right nutrients and the right minerals. Paleo for kids site might be another good place for her to start (even though you're a teen, not a kid).

8d3cb0be5f31c75a05f853cb3b5c245a

(1601)

on November 09, 2012
at 02:34 PM

it doesn't help to say this food is bad or that food is BAD - there is a spectrum! it might help if you and your mom make small changes - first, buy more fruit, avocadoes, potatoes, spinach and broccoli, etc. Find tasty ways to cook them. try to make some delicious fish and beef things. If you're with friends and you happen to have some skittles or pizza, ask yourself how you feel afterwards - did you get a big high and then get really tired, or maybe get a pimple, or maybe you found yourself getting hungry 2 hours later. that's the kind of thing It Starts with Food helps you realize.

8d3cb0be5f31c75a05f853cb3b5c245a

(1601)

on November 09, 2012
at 02:19 PM

Also wanted to add, if you like journaling, and keeping a record of how much you eat and getting support, mark's daily apple can be a good place for that. Sometimes people need encouragement as they start a new lifestyle and as long as you don't take everything you read on the internet too seriously (it can make you crazy!! and don't research too much!! it can also make you crazy) you might find some good support there.

66a7ef84ed129bba4ea2dc3aea26f67f

on November 10, 2012
at 04:40 PM

Thanks so much :) I'm a regular visitor of MDA and I've posted in the forum a few times. It's a good place. I'll just have to see how this all goes

8d3cb0be5f31c75a05f853cb3b5c245a

(1601)

on November 08, 2012
at 10:53 PM

just wanted to say, my sister had your stats, and i was SO jealous of her. my mom gave her a hard time over her love of food that shoewd on her body, but you know what? She is the most amazing cook, and has the best marriage of anybody I know. basically, don't go crazy and try lots of things that are new and get mad when you don't see results. Be YOU!

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366c23d69eadce094a2b22299c58a424

(2988)

on November 08, 2012
at 07:56 PM

First of all, I think it's perfectly possible to be healthy at your weight. If you're happy at that weight, try to stop worrying about it (easier said than done, I know). If you're not happy, try to lose weight. I know that personally I feel better and happier when I'm at my target weight, and I'm willing to go to some lengths to stay at that weight. But it's worth trying not to worry about what other people think your weight should be.

Totally agree with elf27 -- I'd leave off IF for now. (And it works for some, but it doesn't work for me -- I always put on weight when I fast, even if I keep my calories stable) I'd wait another couple weeks to give your body and hunger signals time to adjust, and then if you've lost nothing at all, think about how you can slightly dial down your intake - maybe 2 eggs & 1 piece of bacon, or 1.5 burgers instead of 2, for instance. You shouldn't have to go hungry, though. And you don't need to do sprints or HIT or exhaust yourself to lose weight -- lots of moderate movement (literally, increase your time NOT sitting) can have a big impact.

And if fruit doesn't give you sugar cravings, I wouldn't worry about fruit. I lost all the weight I wanted eating 3 pieces of fruit a day and often a 1/2 of a sweet potato or regular potato as well. Going too low carb is hard for some people -- I never felt well on very low carb. You'll have to see how those things work for you as obviously it isn't the same for everybody.

8d3cb0be5f31c75a05f853cb3b5c245a

(1601)

on November 08, 2012
at 09:57 PM

so true!!! I never felt good on IF, I never felt good on very low carb. It's so personal.

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Bfa1c9eacfc94a1b62f3a39b574480c6

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on November 08, 2012
at 06:58 PM

Don't focus on weight so much as doing "mirror" checks.

14 years of age should not be a time for orthorexia and dieting; the foods you are eating are fairly nutrient dense. Unless you know of any intolerances to dairy or nuts, your diet seems alright.

Know the difference between a mouth and vacuum cleaner, keep eating how you're eating, adjust to how hungry you're feeling, slow down and chew, eat fruit if you crave it, and don't forget to move some, and perhaps get some smartly programmed fitness. Your body will naturally find where it wants to be. From there, you can bio-hack further if you'd like.

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on November 09, 2012
at 03:15 AM

Don't worry about weight. As long as your waist size is 26 inches or lower (at the belly button) you will have no additional health risks.
Women can have a huge butt and hips and be perfectly healthy. The only thing of concern is the waist. I would minimize fructose and if you need more carbs go with potatoes, and white rice. If you are eating green leafy vegetables than you are covered just fine.

Don't worry about fat intake. Eat all the butter, coconut oil and beef fat you want. I would minimize avocado and chicken fat. Avocado can be very hard on the liver in some people.

You might have a fructose sensitivity. here is a website that can give you some info http://theprimalparent.com/2012/03/31/ibs-depression-skin-fructose-malabsorption/

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on November 09, 2012
at 02:14 AM

From what I've read, women will have the hardest time with some too restricted paleo and are especially in danger with their hormone household and period if they also try to do / overdo the (intermittent) fasting thing.

I would recommend not taking too much advice from "normal" people / strangers and making sure you are informing yourself specifically for YOUR current situation and don't cut out stuff that your body really needs (and that e.g. a man's metabolism deals differently with).

And please don't go down the road of "matchstick arms and legs" girls. There are places women should have body fat, no matter how much we might get the impression that any and all fat and weight and whatnot is bad, evil etc.

First and foremost, look to be healthy and happy, not somehow "ideal" as per someone's concept of it.

I won't go into the details of the risks of acute undereating, because fear based reasoning is exactly the type of stuff you should stay away from. Also I think you're a fairly smart kid.

Just don't let anybody tell you that having a big round butt is a bad thing, its a terrible thing to propagate. My opinion: Its only other women and some of the sicker magazines that will scorn you for it out of secret envy. The vast majority of men I've ever encountered will be more than happy over it for a good 20+ years to come.

Try to find positive, reaffirming outlooks and language for stuff like this and distrust the "its all bad for you" vibes when it moves too far away from normal (yes high fructose corn syrup is really and truly evil, but whether a normal earth grown potatoe means instant death is still very much debateable).

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518bce04b12cd77741237e1f61075194

(11577)

on November 09, 2012
at 01:34 AM

Keep it simple, make sure you have support from others so that if you start to feel down on yourself about your weight or are having a hard time you have someone to reach out to. Support is key!

Chill out. You are eating almost no carbs- if you want to have the energy to exercise while you are still growing, I can't see how that would be easy without at least some starches. Look into "Perfect Health Diet" for a more safe starch approach. Eat when you are hungry and eat a variety of nutrients from a variety of sources. At this point in your life you body is still changing a lot and your metabolism is all over the place- weight loss is typically not recommended for small margins (like "the last 10 lbs" and around there) because it is usually still grown into as the body finishes developing. So ignore the scale, in fact throw it out- it's just a number that isn't going to be a good reflection of your body comp. Focus on how you feel in your clothes, how you look, how good you feel in general. Cutting out processed foods is probably the greatest single thing you can do for your health- focus on that as the priority, then see how it goes.

Don't focus on implementing a super rigid exercise plan unless that is what you enjoy- find something that is FUN that you can do on a regular basis without seeing it as a chore. Go for walks, bike wherever you can, sign up for a fun class with a friend, join a fun team like dragon boating, look into intramural games at school, get together some friends and start a casual ultimate Frisbee team. It's a great age to explore an active lifestyle! This is probably one of the safest, greatest take-aways a teen can get from the "play" approach to exercise a lot of paleo's (like Sissan) take.

Lastly, an online forum is not a great place to come for your specific needs- your health status and what makes you healthy is very different from a fully grown adult. Lots of answers apply to adults, not growing, developing young females. Find a health professional if you need guidance- can be mainstream or alternative, whatever you feel comfortable with.

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089dd41b18fbb95ebb5347cded708d98

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on November 09, 2012
at 02:28 AM

if you don't feel good about yourself, then you should try to lose weight. i know i am not happy with myself when i am too heavy. i like feeling light on my feet and looking good in the mirror. i wouldn't become obsessed with a number though. that can turn into a problem. you've only started eating paleo less than a week ago so i wouldn't expect weight loss this quickly. your body has been accustomed to a different diet for a while. just take it slow and if after a month you haven't noticed any positive benefits, start to tweak things.

Eed7dabde3d61910685845e04605267f

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on November 09, 2012
at 05:29 AM

'If you don't feel good about yourself, then you should try to lose weight.' Depends on whose standards are being used for measrument...

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