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I'm losing weight but my girlfriend isn't - why?

Answered on August 19, 2014
Created August 23, 2012 at 11:32 PM

My girlfriend and I have been eating strictly Paleo for almost a month, guided by Loren Cordain's book "The Paleo Diet". We are eating the same meals together, getting roughly the same amount of exercise, and neither of us are cheating significantly when we are apart.

I've lost about 20 pounds (maybe more since I last checked) and have gone from pudgy to approaching lean. My beer belly, love handles, thighs, and face have all noticeably slimmed.

My girlfriend is not having the same dramatic results, and looks pretty much the same, despite having more body fat that myself from the beginning.

Does anyone have any idea why?

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on August 24, 2012
at 10:33 PM

If you look I said "seem to need to." Also do a search on women and weight loss on paleohacks and you'll find quite a lot of women have to go under 50.

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on August 24, 2012
at 01:40 PM

I think saying women "need" to do <50g carbs a day is wrong. Some women may need to, but I am a woman and I cannot lose *any* weight other than immediate water weight (maybe 5 lbs) if I go below 50g/day.

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on August 24, 2012
at 03:04 AM

yes, the nuts hold me back. I've been keeping a food / sleeping habit diary for the past several weeks. I intermittent fast during the day and then eat one evening meal at 7pm. My weigh loss stalls when I eat macadamia nuts. Weight loss speeds up when I eat eggs.

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on August 24, 2012
at 02:43 AM

when you say 'We are eating the same meals' are you talking same serving sizes as well?

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on August 24, 2012
at 02:42 AM

when you say 'We are eating the same meals' do you mean same serving sizes as well?

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on August 24, 2012
at 01:20 AM

I've been Paleo 2 years. The number on the scale is the same. Body fat % is the same, but I look healthier (and am healthier), and the weight has been re-distributed on me a little differently. I'm pretty strict, and have just had to accept I'm never go have a 6 pack, no matter how hard I work at it. Just the way for some ladies.

19ff515e8ec02d95e8f2cf68c3ec1373

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on August 24, 2012
at 01:08 AM

Or any diet for that matter. Bloody men.

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on August 23, 2012
at 11:59 PM

Possibilities: hormones, she's eating too much, or the "insignificant" cheats aren't so insignificant for her. Personally, I have to be pretty much 100% strict to make any progress, 95% to maintain. Like Mscott said, we're all different. Tough to say without more specifics.

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at 11:54 PM

No two humans are the same and no dietary approach will work the same for everyone. Not knowing the specifics of the diet you're both eating I can only say experimentation–with macros, food groups, and eating patterns–can be really helpful.

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on August 24, 2012
at 12:30 AM

Women are not losing weight as easily as men (because of evolutionary reasons, to help them have "food" when pregnant/famine etc, or hormonal issues that are more prevalent in women). I'm on Paleo for a year now, I only lost 25 lbs in the first 5 months, and then it stopped (I need to lose another 30). I can now lose weight only if I go down to 1100 calories a day. For many women is like that, strict caloric-based Paleo or other diet. Most men I've seen, all they have to do is follow Paleo, without counting calories, and the weight just comes off.

19ff515e8ec02d95e8f2cf68c3ec1373

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on August 24, 2012
at 01:08 AM

Or any diet for that matter. Bloody men.

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on August 24, 2012
at 01:18 AM

Women seem to need to do the following:

  • Zero to 50 grams a day of carbs.
  • No dairy, nuts, sweet potatoes, probably minimal alcohol (although red wine seems to have other protective effects)
  • Get their hormones checked, especially for the estrogen/progesterone balance, I.e. looking out for signs of estrogen dominance.
  • Really watch for chronic cortisol elevations
  • Not quite as much exercise as men
  • Jury is out on IF for women. The only study has serious flaws in its test groups. It works for some but not all women.
  • Need more sleep
  • Consistent intake of d3

And when the inevitable plateau happens (8 weeks & counting for me, often months for many woman looking to lose more than 20 lbs), a very controlled carb refeed.

It's frustrating as the men just lose and lose. Thanks evolution, jerks!

19ff515e8ec02d95e8f2cf68c3ec1373

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on August 24, 2012
at 10:33 PM

If you look I said "seem to need to." Also do a search on women and weight loss on paleohacks and you'll find quite a lot of women have to go under 50.

Dbc43080bf9381864f5c6910e1264677

(176)

on August 24, 2012
at 03:04 AM

yes, the nuts hold me back. I've been keeping a food / sleeping habit diary for the past several weeks. I intermittent fast during the day and then eat one evening meal at 7pm. My weigh loss stalls when I eat macadamia nuts. Weight loss speeds up when I eat eggs.

E36cb992cf0a5eba8b97a359c15f38b3

(4347)

on August 24, 2012
at 01:40 PM

I think saying women "need" to do <50g carbs a day is wrong. Some women may need to, but I am a woman and I cannot lose *any* weight other than immediate water weight (maybe 5 lbs) if I go below 50g/day.

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on August 24, 2012
at 12:20 AM

Yes I've found it can take a bit of experimentation to find the right balance between making progress and feeling rotten and sluggish from lack of energy/carbs. Without knowing exactly what you guys are eating my suggestion as a starting point would be to look at the amount of carbs (and what kind) each of you is eating, and the actual amount of food consumed in calories. For acuracy this will need to be kept in a diary for a few days to a week, then you will be able to analyse and make tangible changes.

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