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Help my Mom lose weight!

Answered on August 19, 2014
Created March 09, 2013 at 7:03 PM

My mom is 57 years old, about 5' tall, and weighs 123. Both of us have been Paleo for about 5 months now, and we absolutely love it! BUT she has only lost 5 lbs (now granted her body fat is at 22%). I, on the other hand have lost 35 lbs (but c'mon I had 35 lbs to lose...)

So basically she's super frustrated with her Paleo diet because she wants to lost 5 more lbs and instead just waffles between a 3-5lb loss constantly gaining and losing those few lbs.

We both run 9-10 miles a week (about 2-3 miles every other day) and she always walks several miles on her lunch at work everyday. Her calories are at 1200 a day (to lose .5 lb a week). I've told her to try upping her calories to 1500 a day to see if that helps since she exercises so much, but she has a hard time even eating 800-900 a day. I also find she's really inconsistant with being honest with what she ate, so that way I can figure out why she can't lose weight.

We're not super strict Paleo (with me being about 90%, and her being about 80-85%) and I find she eats a banana everyday, or has a yogurt everyday.

Any info, advice, tips would be greatly appreciated! We're so much healthier and happier being Paleo, and I don't want her to stop just because she feels she's not successful!

32652cb696b75182cb121009ee4edea3

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on March 20, 2013
at 01:29 PM

Interestingly, what my mom eats has also changed. She really does not like red meat anymore (it makes her ache). She focuses on seafood and chicken, lots of soups, squashes, and beans. (I know beans aren't paleo, but they work for her). I think she looks great too! But as a woman who has always cared about her appearance, I think she is in general having hard time with aging. Weight just happens to be the one part of it that she can control. :)

E13b14d129df020a7fcee1eae5a9a055

on March 20, 2013
at 03:45 AM

Thanks so much for your answer, and not being a total jerk about it! She is post-menopausal, and still gets crazy hot flashes. I'll def pass this info along to her. I think she looks fantastic, but she's just frustrated and I think it's because I'm losing weight, but like I said I have weight to lose, she has virtually none apparently!

E13b14d129df020a7fcee1eae5a9a055

on March 20, 2013
at 03:41 AM

OK first of all I can't force my Mom to do anything, she's the most stubborn person I know. She got the 1200 calorie intake from a weight loss app...so saying I'm force feeding her is a little much. She still only eats about 1000 calories a day no matter what so it's not like she'll listen to me anyway!

E13b14d129df020a7fcee1eae5a9a055

on March 20, 2013
at 03:39 AM

Def not a troll, I'll pass this info along to my Mom. I think she's amazing, as she just ran her first competitive 5K, so she should be happy with how she's doing! I bet a lot of 57yr olds can't run races :)

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32652cb696b75182cb121009ee4edea3

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on March 10, 2013
at 01:05 AM

My mom also has a reduced need for calories (she is 60, 5'2"). I think it has something to do with being post-menopausal. Her weight is a lot heavier than when she is young, but she looks and feels great. (She used to weigh 105, now hovers closer to 130). I think it's normal, but hard to let go of that "skinny" number. A little fat can be a good thing as we age ... if she was that skinny she would look like a wrinkled hag. In our family we say, "at a certain age you have to choose: body or face!"

32652cb696b75182cb121009ee4edea3

(5802)

on March 20, 2013
at 01:29 PM

Interestingly, what my mom eats has also changed. She really does not like red meat anymore (it makes her ache). She focuses on seafood and chicken, lots of soups, squashes, and beans. (I know beans aren't paleo, but they work for her). I think she looks great too! But as a woman who has always cared about her appearance, I think she is in general having hard time with aging. Weight just happens to be the one part of it that she can control. :)

E13b14d129df020a7fcee1eae5a9a055

on March 20, 2013
at 03:45 AM

Thanks so much for your answer, and not being a total jerk about it! She is post-menopausal, and still gets crazy hot flashes. I'll def pass this info along to her. I think she looks fantastic, but she's just frustrated and I think it's because I'm losing weight, but like I said I have weight to lose, she has virtually none apparently!

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on March 10, 2013
at 12:48 PM

Is paleo helping her be healthier? So she carries around an extra five pounds (maybe -- really it sounds like she's just fine), but so what? Our goal is to get healthy, happy, energetic, and so on. Then over time the weight will normalize to where it should be, which might be five more pounds than what she wants. If she really wants to lose that five pounds, she could try stricter paleo. Life's a tradeoff, though, and that tradeoff might or might not be worth it for her.

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on March 09, 2013
at 08:15 PM

This question feels like a troll, but I'm going to answer it anyways.

Your Mom is upset because she fluctuates near her "ideal" weight by 3-5 pounds? I do have the exact answer for that: get her a robot body. A robot body will provide that kind of absolute weight control.

3-5 of weight fluctuation is completely normal. In fact, some people fluctuate by way more. Obsessing over 3-5 pounds is bordering on a disorder. Mom should toss the scale and read a good book.

You can't exercise or Paleo eat your way out of being human. Oh, and your complicity in this obsession might mean that you are in danger of a disorder as well.

E13b14d129df020a7fcee1eae5a9a055

on March 20, 2013
at 03:39 AM

Def not a troll, I'll pass this info along to my Mom. I think she's amazing, as she just ran her first competitive 5K, so she should be happy with how she's doing! I bet a lot of 57yr olds can't run races :)

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on March 09, 2013
at 07:40 PM

Huh? If she "has a hard time eating 800-900 a day" and you are force-feeding her 1200/day, why exactly are you wondering why she isn't losing any weight?

Let her body eat as much as it wants for a while, see what happens. Also, at 57 she should be more concerned about bone strength and retaining her muscles rather than her body fat which, at 22% for a woman is not bad at all.

E13b14d129df020a7fcee1eae5a9a055

on March 20, 2013
at 03:41 AM

OK first of all I can't force my Mom to do anything, she's the most stubborn person I know. She got the 1200 calorie intake from a weight loss app...so saying I'm force feeding her is a little much. She still only eats about 1000 calories a day no matter what so it's not like she'll listen to me anyway!

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089dd41b18fbb95ebb5347cded708d98

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on March 10, 2013
at 12:49 AM

i don't think the fact that she eats a banana and yogurt every day makes her less healthy. i eat both every day and consider myself 100% paleo with no cheating. maybe this is just where her body wants to be. she shouldn't force herself to eat anymore than her body wants.

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