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A month in, what am I doing right/wrong?

Answered on August 19, 2014
Created September 14, 2012 at 11:03 PM

Hey guys,

Pardon the long question.

I've been on Paleo for a month now. Went cold turkey. It was time. 33 year old male. I'm 6'1 and weighed 301 pounds when I started. I know, disgusting.

My eating patterns were all messed up. I have a busy schedule, so it's too easy to fall into this pattern: Grab a quick breakfast or skip it entirely, light lunch or skip it entirely, come home hungry, eat a big dinner and then snack late night. Terrible, I know.

Ever since I started paleo I've tried to at least have an apple/peach/banana with my morning coffee (one of my only two sins against the diet, the other being a vodka tonic about once a week). I then have dressing-less salad for lunch, often with a small piece of grilled chicken/salmon. I'll grab a handful of almonds/cashews once or twice during the day. But then for dinner I'll have a bigger meal (a couple of baked chicken thighs or a grilled steak with a lot of veggies and a bunch of berries and more nuts). I try and limit late night snacking, but I do vaporize weed almost every night, so when I do, I'll grab a bunch of berries and almonds. A couple of times I put a bunch of berries in a bowl with some almond butter.

I know my eating patterns are not great. I need to work on that. Same goes with sleep - I'm a light sleeper and sometimes find it hard to fall asleep.

Ever since I started I've, in general, been feeling good, but every once in a while I'll get a weird headache around 2-3pm. I'm drinking a lot of water so it's not dehydration. It might be lack of caffeine (i used to drink 2-3 cups a day, now I'm down to 1), but you'd think I'd get used to less caffeine after a month. I'm not sure what's causing it. Was hoping it would be gone by now.

My other frustration is weight loss. I lost 11 pounds in the first 11 days, which was awesome, but ever since I've been stuck around 289-291.

A couple of years ago I did weight watchers and noted consistent weight loss every week, but on paleo the scale keeps showing the same numbers. That said, I FEEL like I'm losing weight. My pants are looser and when I look in the mirror I'm pretty sure I notice a significant difference. My wife claims she sees it too. People at work make comments. But the scale isn't showing this at all. WTF?

I know I need to get back to the gym. A few months before I went paleo, I started going to the gym daily. Felt great but was still eating terribly. This went on for a month or so and then I fell off the wagon. I've only gone three times since I went Paleo, due to how tired I feel in the mornings.

What am I doing right? What am I doing wrong? Any insight into why I'm not losing weight? The headaches? Low energy when I wake up? Any tips?

Thank you, if only for letting me vent.

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Dc74083ea40473f84f93f96c03693967

on September 16, 2012
at 05:16 PM

Wow. Thank you.

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on September 15, 2012
at 03:06 AM

Also, if you're hungry at night, have an actual meal, with fats. Make eating a choice, rather than something you're just doing.

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(106)

on September 14, 2012
at 11:54 PM

You need to be eating the right stuff if you're IF ing. Lots of protein, minimal "sugars" such as fruit. And probably lower in fats on days you're more active.

E5a6bfd9cdfaef445bbfaa548897738f

(106)

on September 14, 2012
at 11:52 PM

Sorry, i posted this as the other was being ppsted...

Dc74083ea40473f84f93f96c03693967

on September 14, 2012
at 11:50 PM

Well I'm doing the IF very often (perhaps too often) by skipping breakfast almost daily and sometime lunch as well. I'm pretty sure I'm in a caloric deficit. Thanks for your reply.

2e1591c76896828077b930de5107f1af

on September 14, 2012
at 11:48 PM

i hope this helps

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A1a0baccef58499acf9ceb3c874997f2

on September 15, 2012
at 12:13 AM

Okay, you are being really hard on yourself. Please stop talking about how terrible you are and how awful everything that you do is... It's a PROCESS. Relax, we're all trying to figure out how to treat our bodies in a kinder way. So BAM, tip #1, no more negative self-talk!! Every time you scorn yourself, 10 burpees! Just kidding, sort of.

What strikes me most from your post, is that your sleep is interrupted and light. Working on your sleep is going to rearrange everything else in your life into a better pattern. Trust me. You will be hungry for better foods, your moods will be better, you'll have the energy to exercise, etc. I would say to take several weeks and really focus on this. WHY is your sleep interrupted and light? Is it because you've eaten too late in the evening and you're having trouble digesting? Are you anxious? What's going on?

Start walking and strength training. Don't do it grumpily and grudgingly. Do it for the yummy endorphins, for the fresh air, for the muscles that will start to grow and strengthen. Find a friend/partner to go with you maybe, if that helps with motivation. You can totally do it. That, in turn, will help you sleep better. See, it's all a cycle, yeah!

Try experimenting with a little more (GOOD) fat, and a little less fruit and nuts (or none!). See what happens.

Have patience. Because the real transformations take time. Good luck!

Dc74083ea40473f84f93f96c03693967

on September 16, 2012
at 05:16 PM

Wow. Thank you.

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on September 15, 2012
at 12:42 AM

I would try adding in more for breakfast and lunch. Hardboil a dozen eggs on Sunday night and then have two a day with your fruit. It will add some protein.

Mix up a dressing of oil/vinegar and whatever seasonings you like for the week and add some fat to your salad for lunch.

Those changes may help with your mid afternoon fatigue/headache.

Make little changes at a time. Your body is going through a huge one right now. Focus on the little successes and the weight will come eventually.

You aren't doing terrible! It is a big adjustment. Think of the positives that are happening inside you. They will catch up on the outside eventually...you are 11 lbs less than a month ago. Go pick up a 10 lb bag of something and imagine carrying that around with you every day!

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2e1591c76896828077b930de5107f1af

on September 14, 2012
at 11:48 PM

did you ever tryed intermittent fasting? youll shred pounds! also to loose weight, you have to make sure that you are in a caloric deficit, good luck

2e1591c76896828077b930de5107f1af

on September 14, 2012
at 11:48 PM

i hope this helps

Dc74083ea40473f84f93f96c03693967

on September 14, 2012
at 11:50 PM

Well I'm doing the IF very often (perhaps too often) by skipping breakfast almost daily and sometime lunch as well. I'm pretty sure I'm in a caloric deficit. Thanks for your reply.

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Cc3ce03985eac5ebcbb95fc2329f13b0

on September 15, 2012
at 02:17 AM

Do you have sleep apnea? I used to, and would wake with terrible headaches. It would be a very common thing to have at your current weight.

I will suggest cutting back on the nuts. Yes, they're yummy, but high in calories, and it's easy to overdo. Try to eat more fats, and eat veggies in the morning, with protein. Eggs are simple and quick.

Do you exercise at all, even walking? It sounds like you're stressed, which will be helped by taking even a half an hour at night just to walk, and breathe, and think. Forget pace, or heartrate, just walk.

I agree with the others that fixing your sleep problems is very important. And that you shouldn't get stuck on the numbers, because there's change even if the scale doesn't say so, and feeling pressured, even by yourself, is self defeating.

Cc3ce03985eac5ebcbb95fc2329f13b0

(7370)

on September 15, 2012
at 03:06 AM

Also, if you're hungry at night, have an actual meal, with fats. Make eating a choice, rather than something you're just doing.

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on September 15, 2012
at 02:05 AM

My number one Paleo diet tip is to give yourself credit for every positive change you've made. In fact give yourself credit every time you make a good choice all day long. You already have much better eating habits than you started with. And reinforcing that with some self-complimenting will go a long way. If you find this hard, then I invite you to check out the book The Beck Diet Solution ) I know - sounds dry and dull, but I'm telling you this is the best "diet book" I have ever read. It's a program of cognitive therapy techniques to help you succeed with weight loss using whatever "healthy diet program" you choose for yourself, such as Paleo. Consistently giving yourself credit is only one of the many gems in that book.

As far as Paleo itself - I think you need more food at breakfast and lunch, especially protein and fat. Could you add a hardboiled egg or piece of meat to the fruit at breakfast? Or better yet, trade your fruit for the piece of meat or eggs. Maybe some cream or coconut oil in your coffee? My hunch is that the lack of energy and afternoon slumps are because you aren't sleeping well, and you might not be sleeping well because you ruining your sleep patterns by eating a heavy dinner and late-night snacking. I personally find I sleep best if I don't eat after 7:00 at night. Anyway, eating a big ass breakfast full of protein and fat and reasonable lunch will help you not be so hungry at night which may help you sleep better or at least start to develop healthier sleeping patterns (which would be my number one goal for you to keep you going).

Edit: Oops. Here's an Amazon link for that book, The Beck Diet Solution. http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B001NXDRJO/ref=as_li_ss_tl?ie=UTF8&camp=1789&creative=390957&creativeASIN=B001NXDRJO&linkCode=as2&tag=lowoxainf-20

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E5a6bfd9cdfaef445bbfaa548897738f

(106)

on September 14, 2012
at 11:51 PM

Screw the scale... Take measurements. If ur putting on muscle, it weight more than fat. If you lost weight and replaced muscle, you'll weigh the same but be "smaller". Maybe check put intermittent fasting.... If ur consistently skipping meals. That may work better for you.

E5a6bfd9cdfaef445bbfaa548897738f

(106)

on September 14, 2012
at 11:52 PM

Sorry, i posted this as the other was being ppsted...

E5a6bfd9cdfaef445bbfaa548897738f

(106)

on September 14, 2012
at 11:54 PM

You need to be eating the right stuff if you're IF ing. Lots of protein, minimal "sugars" such as fruit. And probably lower in fats on days you're more active.

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