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Are there any paleo-vegetarian couples out there?

Answered on September 12, 2014
Created July 08, 2011 at 7:50 PM

I'm curious about whether there are any inter-diet relationships. If any of you are or were in one... how did it go? What advice do you have? Did one of you end up converting the other? What diet did you raise the kids in? :)

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on July 11, 2011
at 05:50 PM

I actually agree with you on your last points. I just thought the line was pretty black and white when it came to this one, singular issue.

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on July 11, 2011
at 04:52 PM

and my husband doesnt need to say "im effectively vegetarian, but i did partake in a pig roast at my friends farm for his bachelor party." hes an ethical vegetarian, and if he is able to reconcile that conflict, then thats his business. he has his own struggles with being good enough versus perfect. a lot of my vegan friends think vegetarians are no different than omnivores, and paleo people look down their nose at vegans as ignorant. i think people need to be more tolerant of ambiguity and give up on the need for strict black and white labels.

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on July 11, 2011
at 04:48 PM

i dont think this is taking it too far. theres this purist idea in a lot of food movements that really is judgmental and pretty smug. when i was vegan it was a lot of, "well if theres beeswax in your lip balm, then youre not vegan." and theres a ton of it in the paleo community, too. in the yoga community, some people think you cant be a yogi if you eat any meat at all. language is shorthand- i dont need to qualify my diet as "im paleo but ill have a bite of birthday cake at my nephews party, and sometimes drink too much wine." continued

4164a77c7ccf4839ec7f1e665d27cc6d

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on July 11, 2011
at 04:25 PM

"usually, i make my meat, he makes his veggie burger, and we share the veggies. its not that big of a deal." - my wife and I do the same thing.

4164a77c7ccf4839ec7f1e665d27cc6d

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on July 11, 2011
at 04:14 PM

youre taking this too far now. Look, I apologize if my comments came across as attacking. I dont have any interest in going back and forth about this. What you had to offer on this topic was worthwhile, I just felt your idea of vegetarianism was off. Vegetarians dont eat meat. End of story.

Aead76beb5fc7b762a6b4ddc234f6051

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on July 11, 2011
at 03:47 PM

ok then. so what if i eat HFCS a couple of times a year? youre going to burn my paleo cred card? revoke my right to call myself paleo? i ate pizza last week- am i kicked off the boards?

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on July 11, 2011
at 03:46 PM

I dont agree with you here. Im pretty sure eating meat is a big deal when determining if you are a vegetarian or not. The dairy/paleo comparison is not on the same level. Perhaps a better statement would have been, people might not consider me paleo because I eat high fructose corn syrup.

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on July 11, 2011
at 03:08 PM

semantics. i wouldnt call someone who eats fish a vegetarian, but if someone identifies themselves as that, then im not going to fight them on it. a lot of people might not call me paleo because i eat dairy.

4164a77c7ccf4839ec7f1e665d27cc6d

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on July 11, 2011
at 02:18 PM

"my husband is effectively vegetarian, but will eat meat if he knew the animal personally." I'm not trying to be the party pooper here but with all due respect, your husband is not a vegetarian. He simply has standards for his meat eating, which is wonderful too. But a meat eating vegetarian is a new one to me. My wife and other vegetarians I know wouldnt consider someone vegetarian if they were taking fish oil pills, let alone meat.

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on July 10, 2011
at 08:22 PM

Pretty sure, Carrie is paleo too. Eating X, Y and Z aren't what paleo is about, it's about *not* eating A, B and C.

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on July 08, 2011
at 10:57 PM

Total upvote for your parents. My kids aren't picky but if I introduce something new or prepare something differently the rule is one bite to try and move on. But I'm lucky since I got to raise them by myself. Please go thank your parents for me for totally rocking!

Aead76beb5fc7b762a6b4ddc234f6051

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on July 08, 2011
at 08:53 PM

thats awesome. i try to do the same sort of thing with my kids. they generally eat paleo meaning lots of veggies and some meat, but neither one of them is a huge fan of meat except smoked salmon. i still give it to them, and ask they try everything but a lot ends up on the floor for the dogs. i think its more about laying a foundation for healthy choices when they are grown. ill make them eggs for breakfast, my husbands tends towards steel cut oats or gluten free pancakes. its all good with me...

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Aead76beb5fc7b762a6b4ddc234f6051

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on July 08, 2011
at 08:18 PM

my husband is effectively vegetarian, but will eat meat if he knew the animal personally (and how it was raised and killed). we have friends who raise livestock, so he will eat that meat, but nothing if he knows not its origins. usually, i make my meat, he makes his veggie burger, and we share the veggies. its not that big of a deal.

ive only been paleo for 9 months or so. i had actually just started eating meat again when i met him ten years ago, and he became vegetarian very early on in our relationship. frankly, i dont know if ive ever been in a relationship with someone who was on the same "eating plan" as me. and no, its never mattered a bit because they have always respected my choices. if someone didnt respect the fact that i choose what food i put in my body, there would certainly be larger issues that would be deal breakers in a relationship. i do not respond well to being micromanaged. i have been lucky to always be with men who allowed me the space to be myself, for better or for worse.

and we are very happily married, thankyouverymuch. dietary choices are such a small part of our partnership.

ETA: a friend of mine just said in a blog posting- "Food is the third most enjoyable thing in my life. Friends and family are number two. Friends and family with food are number one. Simply put, if I have to choose between friends and family or food, I???ll pick the people whom I adore. But I am fortunate to have the ability to be greedy and have both and thus I choose the combo!" and thats just how i feel. im not going to end up divorced in a crappy apartment alone with my paleo meat locker.

Aead76beb5fc7b762a6b4ddc234f6051

(15239)

on July 11, 2011
at 03:47 PM

ok then. so what if i eat HFCS a couple of times a year? youre going to burn my paleo cred card? revoke my right to call myself paleo? i ate pizza last week- am i kicked off the boards?

4164a77c7ccf4839ec7f1e665d27cc6d

(1085)

on July 11, 2011
at 03:46 PM

I dont agree with you here. Im pretty sure eating meat is a big deal when determining if you are a vegetarian or not. The dairy/paleo comparison is not on the same level. Perhaps a better statement would have been, people might not consider me paleo because I eat high fructose corn syrup.

4164a77c7ccf4839ec7f1e665d27cc6d

(1085)

on July 11, 2011
at 04:14 PM

youre taking this too far now. Look, I apologize if my comments came across as attacking. I dont have any interest in going back and forth about this. What you had to offer on this topic was worthwhile, I just felt your idea of vegetarianism was off. Vegetarians dont eat meat. End of story.

Aead76beb5fc7b762a6b4ddc234f6051

(15239)

on July 11, 2011
at 04:52 PM

and my husband doesnt need to say "im effectively vegetarian, but i did partake in a pig roast at my friends farm for his bachelor party." hes an ethical vegetarian, and if he is able to reconcile that conflict, then thats his business. he has his own struggles with being good enough versus perfect. a lot of my vegan friends think vegetarians are no different than omnivores, and paleo people look down their nose at vegans as ignorant. i think people need to be more tolerant of ambiguity and give up on the need for strict black and white labels.

4164a77c7ccf4839ec7f1e665d27cc6d

(1085)

on July 11, 2011
at 04:25 PM

"usually, i make my meat, he makes his veggie burger, and we share the veggies. its not that big of a deal." - my wife and I do the same thing.

4164a77c7ccf4839ec7f1e665d27cc6d

(1085)

on July 11, 2011
at 02:18 PM

"my husband is effectively vegetarian, but will eat meat if he knew the animal personally." I'm not trying to be the party pooper here but with all due respect, your husband is not a vegetarian. He simply has standards for his meat eating, which is wonderful too. But a meat eating vegetarian is a new one to me. My wife and other vegetarians I know wouldnt consider someone vegetarian if they were taking fish oil pills, let alone meat.

4164a77c7ccf4839ec7f1e665d27cc6d

(1085)

on July 11, 2011
at 05:50 PM

I actually agree with you on your last points. I just thought the line was pretty black and white when it came to this one, singular issue.

Aead76beb5fc7b762a6b4ddc234f6051

(15239)

on July 11, 2011
at 03:08 PM

semantics. i wouldnt call someone who eats fish a vegetarian, but if someone identifies themselves as that, then im not going to fight them on it. a lot of people might not call me paleo because i eat dairy.

Aead76beb5fc7b762a6b4ddc234f6051

(15239)

on July 11, 2011
at 04:48 PM

i dont think this is taking it too far. theres this purist idea in a lot of food movements that really is judgmental and pretty smug. when i was vegan it was a lot of, "well if theres beeswax in your lip balm, then youre not vegan." and theres a ton of it in the paleo community, too. in the yoga community, some people think you cant be a yogi if you eat any meat at all. language is shorthand- i dont need to qualify my diet as "im paleo but ill have a bite of birthday cake at my nephews party, and sometimes drink too much wine." continued

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on July 08, 2011
at 08:14 PM

Stranger things have happened...

are-there-any-paleo-vegetarian-couples-out-there?

Full story here... http://bayourenaissanceman.blogspot.com/2009/10/talk-about-extended-family.html

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4164a77c7ccf4839ec7f1e665d27cc6d

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on July 08, 2011
at 09:19 PM

My wife has been a vegetarian for over 10 years (for moral reasons--as if it freaking matters) and I am 100% paleo. Its tough. I dont wish it upon anyone. I would elaborate but this is a struggle I live with on a daily basis and I've had about as much as I can handle on this topic. Cheers!

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on July 08, 2011
at 08:08 PM

Mark Sisson and his pescetarian wife Carrie.

32f5749fa6cf7adbeb0b0b031ba82b46

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on July 10, 2011
at 08:22 PM

Pretty sure, Carrie is paleo too. Eating X, Y and Z aren't what paleo is about, it's about *not* eating A, B and C.

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on July 08, 2011
at 08:36 PM

My step-mom is a vegetarian, has been for the past 25 yrs, yet my dad is a big meat-eater. Our meals growing up consisted of at least 2 veggies and a meat protein. The veggies were not a side, the meat was not the main portion. They were equal. The kids (me and my 3 step sisters) got to choose what to eat from what they had prepared, after we had taken bites of everything. If we chose not to eat meat, we ate more veggies, if we chose meat, we still ate veggies. I felt that this was the best upbringing because neither parent ever pushed their beliefs or feelings on us kids. They both shared their opinions and told us why they had each chosen their specific diet. I am paleo, one sister who is mostly vegetarian, one who is completely dairy free, and another who eats anything (mostly bread). Good Luck!

Aead76beb5fc7b762a6b4ddc234f6051

(15239)

on July 08, 2011
at 08:53 PM

thats awesome. i try to do the same sort of thing with my kids. they generally eat paleo meaning lots of veggies and some meat, but neither one of them is a huge fan of meat except smoked salmon. i still give it to them, and ask they try everything but a lot ends up on the floor for the dogs. i think its more about laying a foundation for healthy choices when they are grown. ill make them eggs for breakfast, my husbands tends towards steel cut oats or gluten free pancakes. its all good with me...

77877f762c40637911396daa19b53094

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on July 08, 2011
at 10:57 PM

Total upvote for your parents. My kids aren't picky but if I introduce something new or prepare something differently the rule is one bite to try and move on. But I'm lucky since I got to raise them by myself. Please go thank your parents for me for totally rocking!

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on July 11, 2011
at 01:46 PM

I am in that boat. She is vegetarianish (fish and eggs are eaten).

After I started gaining weight a few years ago, I started trying different things. Got fatter trying to eat like her, but ate lots of bread and rice.

Switched to the Paleo-ish Slow-Carb diet from 4HB, and saw immediate results. Learned more about Paleo and adjusted accordingly (got rid of the beans I was still eating a lot of), and had even better results.

She still gave me grief over everything, but I'd shut that down quick. She would say things about cholesterol for eating too many eggs, etc. When I showed her that my cholesterol was already far lower than hers, and it dropped 30 points after switching to a flat of eggs a week, she doesn't talk about that anymore.

I have laid it down simply that she doesn't get to lecture me on eating anything when I am the one getting the results, and she is still having the same struggles she has had since she started this lifestyle of hers (as a child). I don't give her grief and scoff at the things she puts in her mouth, and she doesn't get to do that with me.

I just let my results speak for themselves.

After months of this, last week she told me that she was going to start adding chicken to her diet.

Baby steps...

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on July 08, 2011
at 09:25 PM

My ex-boyfriend of 4 years is a vegan- maybe that's all I need to say.

Just kidding. For the last 2 of those years, I was paleo. We had based much of our relationship on food and we, in a sense, had to break that basis of being together when I started. At meals we would cook veggies together and then each take care of our own protein, but there was no longer the union of meal time that I love so much. Although he was incredibly supportive, it was difficult as our ideals shifted away from each other's. I do think it can work, tho, as long as there is respect for the other's choices, beliefs, and journey to health.

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on July 08, 2011
at 09:22 PM

My wife was a lacto-ovo vegetarian. I was strict paleo. Her eating was based on some kind of misguided "It's good for me!" mentality. After a few months of rigorous strength training and Brazilian jiu-jitsu, which she had decided to participate with me in, there were very notable differences in our recovery rates. I got stronger and could recover from max effort attempts faster. She now eats what I'd call "paleo-flex" because it was never a moral debate. Her BF% has dropped by 5% in the last 16 weeks since she decided that maybe eating animals wasn't such a bad idea.

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on July 08, 2011
at 08:02 PM

Not in a relationship, but anectdotally, all the combo relationships I've seen are either dual vegetarian or subsequently divorced. Usually what happens is it's the female that's vegetarian, and the male changes over to keep the peace.

It may work out for some, but it tends to turn into a severe conflict from what I've seen. Any regular argument turns into "You kill and eat Bambi", etc.

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