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Is arguing healthy?

Answered on August 19, 2014
Created July 30, 2012 at 11:35 PM

So, arguing (say, about the paleo diet) should be unhealthy because it raises cortisol levels? Or is it healthy, because arguing releases pent-up tension/aggression and makes you use your noggin (in defense of particularly thorny psychological or scientific arguments). Have any of you tried to reduce your stress by staying away from Paleohacks, only to come back, because you need to release some stress?

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on July 31, 2012
at 11:10 AM

i have a Gobo doll...i love him!

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on July 31, 2012
at 10:03 AM

Not wonder I have grown weaker and she has grown stronger.

F5a0ddffcf9ef5beca864050f090a790

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on July 31, 2012
at 07:06 AM

+1 (Colbert bump).

77877f762c40637911396daa19b53094

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on July 31, 2012
at 06:59 AM

@ Nemesis, Right on, brotha! I see so many meek and mild paleo folks I have to wonder if they're eating tofu-finished steers.

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on July 31, 2012
at 01:47 AM

Lol, Lyndsay, I totally agree! Just not married atm :/

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on July 31, 2012
at 01:44 AM

Put your cares away, worries for another day!

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on July 31, 2012
at 01:24 AM

Yeah, as long as our arguments end in sex or hilarity (which they almost always do) we always finish way closer, happier, and more impressed by each other. Plus, it forces us to continuously evolve our relationship!

26b0f1261d1a0d916825bd0deeb96a21

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on July 31, 2012
at 01:20 AM

My husband and I have philosophical arguments at least twice a week. They leave us spitting mad, exhausted, then we have sex, and admit, we LOVE arguing, absolutely.

26b0f1261d1a0d916825bd0deeb96a21

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on July 31, 2012
at 12:54 AM

I prefer Fraggle-rocks. Yes, they're sharp, but you can always plead whimsical-insanity. Thank you, Henson, thank you.

1d0497f8781845ab371b479455bfee8e

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on July 31, 2012
at 12:51 AM

Which ever one fits most comfortably in your hand, preferably with a sharp end ;)

26b0f1261d1a0d916825bd0deeb96a21

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on July 31, 2012
at 12:21 AM

It's true. Arguing whilst eating is dangerous... so many knives!

26b0f1261d1a0d916825bd0deeb96a21

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on July 31, 2012
at 12:12 AM

What sort of rock? A calcium deposit, or one laced with iron?

26b0f1261d1a0d916825bd0deeb96a21

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on July 31, 2012
at 12:10 AM

I take nothing seriously. Word.

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on July 30, 2012
at 11:58 PM

Bashing their skull in with a rock would be more Paleo.

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on July 31, 2012
at 12:16 AM

For the love of god, don't argue during a meal.

My family has an awful habit of arguing over dinner. I imagine getting so stressed during a meal makes the food total poison.

Don't argue around other people, and don't do it over food.

Don't argue at all. It's a waste of time. Chill out, be honest, and work things out.

Most of the arguments I see are caused by something little that causes a release of pent up emotions from previous situations. Most arguments are an excuse to get mad being taken advantage of.

This is just my opinion.

26b0f1261d1a0d916825bd0deeb96a21

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on July 31, 2012
at 12:21 AM

It's true. Arguing whilst eating is dangerous... so many knives!

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on July 30, 2012
at 11:59 PM

The combo I take of Vitamins D, magnesium and calcium has really helped to make me much more even tempered...if I achieved nothing else, I do thank Paleo for that unforeseen gift.

From a personal level I frequent PH to help me unwind and to just check out how the other half lives...maybe read a funny Paleo moment, read a gripe or two, chuckle at the most recent noob question that makes me wish I had asked it first, and then, I move on...I've never felt any stress from PH and if you do, you might be taking things a little too seriously, life or otherwise.

Truth.

F5a0ddffcf9ef5beca864050f090a790

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on July 31, 2012
at 07:06 AM

+1 (Colbert bump).

26b0f1261d1a0d916825bd0deeb96a21

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on July 31, 2012
at 12:10 AM

I take nothing seriously. Word.

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77877f762c40637911396daa19b53094

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on July 31, 2012
at 08:52 AM

There is evidence that the party that dominates in a conflict is rewarded with an increase in testosterone whilst the loser is 'punished' with a decrease in testosterone.

Interestingly, the more competitive the activity - and this includes type of employment, e.g. being a trial lawyer - the higher the testosterone output when a winning outcome is achieved.

Having said that, there is really no purpose for intelligent people to find themselves in arguments that escalate into conflict. We have evolved a magnificent organ - the brain - which unfortunately tends to be remarkably under-utilised by the majority of people.

To answer the question, however, is arguing healthy? Probably for the winner of the argument.

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on July 31, 2012
at 10:03 AM

Not wonder I have grown weaker and she has grown stronger.

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518bce04b12cd77741237e1f61075194

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on July 31, 2012
at 01:08 AM

Arguing is usually better than being passive aggressive pent up human being who never moves past issues or voices an opinion. "debating" or "discussing" aka mild arguments keep the relationships with the people around me passionate and relevant.

I used to never argue and be one of those annoying "say yes and smile" weak little girls. No one took me seriously. Now I stand up for myself and have genuine conversations with people.

I have friends in relationships where they "never argue, not even once" and it's usually really obvious because it's usually tense, immature, and stunted. My relationship became exponentially better when we became comfortable enough to discuss things and be ourselves. We discovered so many honest things about each other when we opened up and had mature, but passionate, arguments.

Like everything, it's about balance. If you can get steam out and move on, great. A little fire is invigorating and releases tension. Too much and it ADDS significant stress and disorder to your life. A life without arguments seems like a life where no one can disagree though- something I'd never want to re-experience. Too much though sounds like a painful nightmare.

C0c839648b31512515daaffe8e4e9ad1

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on July 31, 2012
at 01:47 AM

Lol, Lyndsay, I totally agree! Just not married atm :/

26b0f1261d1a0d916825bd0deeb96a21

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on July 31, 2012
at 01:20 AM

My husband and I have philosophical arguments at least twice a week. They leave us spitting mad, exhausted, then we have sex, and admit, we LOVE arguing, absolutely.

518bce04b12cd77741237e1f61075194

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on July 31, 2012
at 01:24 AM

Yeah, as long as our arguments end in sex or hilarity (which they almost always do) we always finish way closer, happier, and more impressed by each other. Plus, it forces us to continuously evolve our relationship!

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F5a0ddffcf9ef5beca864050f090a790

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on July 31, 2012
at 06:45 AM

Arguing is a part of life, but there are certain rules that apply to arguing. Think of it as a game that should be highly regulated.

Here is a great video - it is intended for marriage counseling but it is the same stuff for everybody:

Part 1:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LLXX8wzvT7c

Part 2:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-gFldZtVIqQ

Watch all four parts.

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C0c839648b31512515daaffe8e4e9ad1

on July 31, 2012
at 01:45 AM

Arguing can be seen in at least two ways:

  1. Questioning, curious, caring, listening, helping, self-inquisitiveness and introspection, interpersonal connection.

  2. Angry, uncaring, irate, feelings hurt. People want to stay away from you. Abuse.

It can certainly be healthy.

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77877f762c40637911396daa19b53094

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on July 31, 2012
at 06:54 AM

DAMN RIGHT IT'S HEALTHY!!!

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