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How to deal with stressy situations?

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Created March 09, 2012 at 3:00 PM

The bus went way to fast to school today. When I got off it, I suddenly felt something wet on my back. Because of the bumps in the road, my water bottle got crushed in my backpack, where my expensive apple laptop always is. As I already spilled water on my laptop last year and lost 1800 dollars because of it, I got pissed and stressed.

Now I'm letting it dry next to me, and I'm typing on desktop at school. If it is broken, I have officially lost another 1800 dollars. After working 10 months to get my money back, that's not a lot of fun.

I just started breathing deeply and it worked a bit. Will eat bone broth soon to get calmer too. If my hard drive is broken, there is no way I'll pass my exams. If I don't pass my exams, I'll probably get sick from the insane stress. That would be the second time I can't enjoy summer.

UPDATE : my laptop survived for some strange, miraculous reason. I'm gonna buy a bottle of champagne for the guy that helped me at school, and I want to thank you all for the support and great advice. I just put it in a warm spot for 7 whole days and gave him so meat to recover :) Oh man this is a relief.


How would you deal with these kind of situations?

685e3c967e63b4eacccf02628fd9a3ac

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on March 25, 2012
at 08:54 AM

I agree with Korion. I'm the kind of person that doesn't really care about anything until I lose it, because I find it a waste of time to worry about it. Technically, everything can happen, and I don't want to waste my life thinking about all possible negative events that can happen. Even if I would have written down phone numbers, I would probably lose the paper I wrote them down on. I'd rather deal with it later, which is why I asked "*how to deal with stressy situations*" and not "*how to prevent stressy situations*".

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on March 20, 2012
at 02:56 AM

Your right, it takes too long to write out phone numbers on a piece of paper and put it in your wallet, save files to google docs, grab a sub $20 cheapo phone, backup your phone list online. I mean the 20 minutes you would save not doing any of those things you could probably post a couple times on Paleohacks

B0fe7b5a9a197cd293978150cbd9055f

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on March 17, 2012
at 03:35 PM

I'm not giving permission... I can't tell Bruno what he can and can not do. My point was that it's not up to decide whether the situation is stressful or not. Also, the question is :"how to deal with stressy situation", not "is this a stressy situation". That's why I down-voted Wayne's answer.

B0fe7b5a9a197cd293978150cbd9055f

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on March 17, 2012
at 03:32 PM

I'd rather lose a laptop than waste my time planning everything. It is impossible to prevent all stressy situations. Being minimalist is probably a better idea, since you can't lose anything if you don't have anything.

7841848bd0c27c64353c583fb7971242

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on March 17, 2012
at 03:29 PM

I actually disagree with this. I find that when I'm stoic about things I end up internalizing the stress in weird ways rather than just getting the emotion/stress out there. Also, as someone who has too recently watched her parent die of cancer, I can still acknowledge that losing your computer of value and the work contained therein is stressful. It's a different kind of stressful, but stressful nonetheless.

96440612cf0fcf366bf5ad8f776fca84

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on March 17, 2012
at 03:04 PM

Excellent advice. Others would do well to learn from it.

96440612cf0fcf366bf5ad8f776fca84

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on March 17, 2012
at 03:03 PM

Giving someone permission to freak out will not help them deal with it. Learning to be a stoic is a useful part of life, instead of pulling out your hair and chanting "Woe is me." Bad things happen, we'd do well to learn to deal with them instead of freaking out.

B0fe7b5a9a197cd293978150cbd9055f

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on March 17, 2012
at 02:17 PM

Yeah raydawg, everything is relative. But if Bruno think it's stressful, than it is, because it's his point of view that matters.

96440612cf0fcf366bf5ad8f776fca84

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on March 17, 2012
at 01:18 PM

No, Wayne is right. Watching a parent die of cancer is far more stressful. A computer can be replaced, you're blowing it out of proportion.

685e3c967e63b4eacccf02628fd9a3ac

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on March 16, 2012
at 05:29 PM

Thanks Jenny J, I guess it might not look stressful to Wayne, but it definitely was.

E12d01c41ed41315112c753c752bd7e2

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on March 09, 2012
at 07:41 PM

Dropbox is great for school work. You probably don't need more than 2GB unless you work with big files.

2a00b9a42e4cb6e489a0e69d20714576

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on March 09, 2012
at 05:24 PM

The emotional freedom technique works wonders:)

518bce04b12cd77741237e1f61075194

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on March 09, 2012
at 04:32 PM

You find losing an amazing amount of school work and a lot of money not stressful? In the context of being a student, this is SO stressful! The information contained on a non-backed-up laptop can represent months of work. Regardless, I would say that stress is based on individuals perceptions- some people might find going to parties or doing sports or being alone VERY stressful, but that doesn't mean other people do. Acknowledge that stress is not a quantity defined for every situation, and demeaning him doesn't help.

518bce04b12cd77741237e1f61075194

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on March 09, 2012
at 04:28 PM

Yeah, back-up everything + metal water bottle with an excellent seal = hopefully never happens again!

518bce04b12cd77741237e1f61075194

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on March 09, 2012
at 04:27 PM

+1 for Harold and Maude, on of my favourite movies! Maude is such a firecracker.

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on March 09, 2012
at 04:16 PM

while it's in the bag of rice - have a drink or two (that always helps a little with stress like this)!

685e3c967e63b4eacccf02628fd9a3ac

(1026)

on March 09, 2012
at 03:56 PM

I need an apple laptop since I program for the mac. Maybe the laptop will resurrect with more features because of all the magnesium and calcium in my mineral water. I have some uncooked rice at home I'll try it out. At the moment he's upside down on the radiator. Thanks Eric and Firestor!

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on March 09, 2012
at 03:48 PM

computer-->mesh bag-->rice or salt + 24 to 48 hrs= save the drowned computer

Ca1150430b1904659742ce2cad621c7d

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on March 09, 2012
at 03:46 PM

AND be PATIENT -- let it go for a FULL 2-3 days before powering it up. If it was plain water, you're probably going to be fine unless you power it up before it's COMPLETELY dry... so bury it in rice (I'd put it in one of those mesh veggie bags first, to keep it from getting rice in any important slots) and leave it alone until its dry.

685e3c967e63b4eacccf02628fd9a3ac

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on March 09, 2012
at 03:25 PM

If this laptop dies I'm gonna buy an iMac ; cheaper, and I'll waste less time on it.

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1a98a40ba8ffdc5aa28d1324d01c6c9f

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on March 09, 2012
at 03:33 PM

Do not power the laptop on. Place it in a sealed bag of uncooked rice after removing the battery.

Also 1800 is too much money. I spend less than $800.00 on my laptops...

Make sure you don't walk around with the laptop in a bag of rice...

Ca1150430b1904659742ce2cad621c7d

(12540)

on March 09, 2012
at 03:48 PM

computer-->mesh bag-->rice or salt + 24 to 48 hrs= save the drowned computer

Ca1150430b1904659742ce2cad621c7d

(12540)

on March 09, 2012
at 03:46 PM

AND be PATIENT -- let it go for a FULL 2-3 days before powering it up. If it was plain water, you're probably going to be fine unless you power it up before it's COMPLETELY dry... so bury it in rice (I'd put it in one of those mesh veggie bags first, to keep it from getting rice in any important slots) and leave it alone until its dry.

Medium avatar

(12379)

on March 09, 2012
at 04:16 PM

while it's in the bag of rice - have a drink or two (that always helps a little with stress like this)!

685e3c967e63b4eacccf02628fd9a3ac

(1026)

on March 09, 2012
at 03:56 PM

I need an apple laptop since I program for the mac. Maybe the laptop will resurrect with more features because of all the magnesium and calcium in my mineral water. I have some uncooked rice at home I'll try it out. At the moment he's upside down on the radiator. Thanks Eric and Firestor!

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E0250b1e6dc5ec1539ffb745042b4d80

(3651)

on March 09, 2012
at 03:55 PM

Toss the laptop over a bridge and tell yourself "At least I know where it is."

Then relax.

(Stolen from the movie "Harold and Maude.")

518bce04b12cd77741237e1f61075194

(11577)

on March 09, 2012
at 04:27 PM

+1 for Harold and Maude, on of my favourite movies! Maude is such a firecracker.

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Ebb10603524dd22621c1155dd7ddf106

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on March 09, 2012
at 03:23 PM

Emotionally ... I've learned to let stuff like that go. This wasn't a person-to-person act of mean-spiritedness, it was a freak accident. You should "worry" about getting a new one if you need it, not worry over a situation you cannot change.

While bad diet and lifestyle can destabilize the mind, this is a pretty potent stresser irrespective of diet. I think you are going to have to try to train your mind to let it go - there's no magic-mood-fixer.

Technically ... this is why I always backup. Machines are horribly fickle. I've had laptops that lasted 3 years, and I've also gone through 3 in 1 year. Also, and not to be mean at a moment like this, but: stop carrying your water bottle in your backpack! Maybe affix it to the bag on the outside, if possible.

685e3c967e63b4eacccf02628fd9a3ac

(1026)

on March 09, 2012
at 03:25 PM

If this laptop dies I'm gonna buy an iMac ; cheaper, and I'll waste less time on it.

E12d01c41ed41315112c753c752bd7e2

(50)

on March 09, 2012
at 07:41 PM

Dropbox is great for school work. You probably don't need more than 2GB unless you work with big files.

518bce04b12cd77741237e1f61075194

(11577)

on March 09, 2012
at 04:28 PM

Yeah, back-up everything + metal water bottle with an excellent seal = hopefully never happens again!

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Df6dabaf4b1ef3d5db980ad64c501a5b

on March 10, 2012
at 12:47 PM

The best way to deal with stress is to keep excessive stress out of your life in the first place, to the extent that you can.

Backups are a good thing, and the Mac makes it easy - the software is built-in, or you can use Dropbox, carbonite, etc. For $100 you could have a backup drive sitting at home and feel much less worried.

The other thing I learnt from travelling daily with a laptop for school and work for about the last decade is that neoprene laptop sleeves are worth their weight in gold. Get one that fits tight, and it'll help to absorb bumps and shocks while travelling. Takes the edge off any accidental knocks, drops, or falls. Neoprene is also water resistant.

I also have programmer friends who swear by "subversion," a revision tracking system developed for programmers to manage their code. Host it on a remote server, and you can always be backed up and more easily collaborate with others. After a few hard drive failures/spilled wine bottles, etc. you learn that this stuff will keep happening, and you just need to be able to keep on working!

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Ce41c230e8c2a4295db31aec3ef4b2ab

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on March 09, 2012
at 03:24 PM

I do some "tapping" aka EFT. Calms me down fast.

And this link may be helpful.

2a00b9a42e4cb6e489a0e69d20714576

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on March 09, 2012
at 05:24 PM

The emotional freedom technique works wonders:)

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7d01d86c539003eed77cf901bf037412

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on March 10, 2012
at 06:48 PM

My Mum used to say "worse things happen at sea."

And they do. You can listen to the world news today and realise that on this planet there are uncountable people who had a tragedy that broke their lives in a way you can't imagine. Meanwhile, you are in good enough shape to use the internet and get the help of strangers.

So, if your hard drive is broken you can't pass your exams? Probably, once you calm down and plan for that contingency, you can figure out a way. What happens if you fail your exams? Well, you get another shot later. Or you do something else. Later on in life, it will have worked out. Some of mental toughness is about looking at things as they are, accepting them, and making new plans. Ask yourself what the worst thing that can happen is, and then make a plan for it. It's a thing that you can learn.

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on March 09, 2012
at 06:12 PM

Better than rice is crystal cat litter. It's basically silica, the same stuff they put in those little desiccant packages in things (the ones that say "do not eat" on them). I've rescued so many wet electronics with that stuff. Also online are instructions to take MacBooks apart. I've done that too and put in warm spot with a fan. Good luck!

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on March 09, 2012
at 04:55 PM

This is definitely a stressful situation. I'm sorry to hear about it and I know that it sucks. It's never good when money goes down the tubes, especially these days. It's even worse when work and productivity is lost.

I'm helping an old buddy on his organic produce farm right now. Yesterday he was disking a large field with one tractor while I was on another tractor tilling the field behind him. A rock became lodged in the tiller and burned out the clutch for the power take off. It happened fast. So, there we were at 2 o'clock out of commission for the rest of the day. A replacement part will need to be ordered and the implement repaired. My friend looked at me and said, "that's farming." It stinks. It means lost money and productivity. He and I are both in our late thirties. I think that after a lifetime of these sorts of things your coping skills do improve, or should improve (I suppose that they don't always). It doesn't mean that it doesn't suck or isn't a tough pill to swallow.

The point is that when I was in school, breaking a computer would have had a different impact on me than breaking a farm implement did yesterday. Life gets better, but you have to forge through the tough times to get there.

In the meantime , let's keep our fingers crossed that the computer will dry out and magically start working and I can get this equipment fixed so we can both get back to work ASAP!

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96440612cf0fcf366bf5ad8f776fca84

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on March 17, 2012
at 01:17 PM

I hear you buddy. I keep my Macbook on a cooling stand, so just incase there's a spill, it would be above it.

One day, I had a nice tall big mug of green tea next to it, that I knocked over right over on top of the keyboard, when I went to answer the phone, so most of it went right in! D'oh!

I immediately powered it off and put it upside down and let it drain and dry for several days before turning it back on, and it survived. But a few months later it died. Apple said it was out of warranty and since it had evidence of water damage, it wouldn't have been covered by AppleCare anyway.

These things happen, be as careful as you can be, and even then, accidents happen.

Water bottles should be on the outside of your backpack - most have a mesh pocket on the outside just for this kind of thing. You can also get a neoprene sleeve to cover it, though it won't be waterproof.

You might consider getting a Hackintosh notebook instead, and then take the $1800 and buy some shares of APPL instead.

In any case, it's just a bunch FRNs -- you can always get another. It'll just take some time to save up. And anyhow, you get to upgrade to the latest model this way. :)

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1c67bc28f4e44bbb8770b86df0463df3

on March 17, 2012
at 11:10 AM

Those who fail to plan, plan to fail. Have a back up plan in place. Have back up plans pre rehearsed for things like laptop issues (backup), cell phone failure (write #'s on paper, keep in purse), keep a backup cheap phone ($19.99 at walmart), store docs on line (google docs), have some back up food and anything else you feel you can not be without. Learn MINDFULNESS (google), learn breathing meditation (google). This too shall pass. and finally, God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I can not change (OTHER PEOPLE), the courage to change the things I can (MYSELF), and the wisdom to know the difference (see above).

B0fe7b5a9a197cd293978150cbd9055f

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on March 17, 2012
at 03:32 PM

I'd rather lose a laptop than waste my time planning everything. It is impossible to prevent all stressy situations. Being minimalist is probably a better idea, since you can't lose anything if you don't have anything.

1c67bc28f4e44bbb8770b86df0463df3

(6719)

on March 20, 2012
at 02:56 AM

Your right, it takes too long to write out phone numbers on a piece of paper and put it in your wallet, save files to google docs, grab a sub $20 cheapo phone, backup your phone list online. I mean the 20 minutes you would save not doing any of those things you could probably post a couple times on Paleohacks

685e3c967e63b4eacccf02628fd9a3ac

(1026)

on March 25, 2012
at 08:54 AM

I agree with Korion. I'm the kind of person that doesn't really care about anything until I lose it, because I find it a waste of time to worry about it. Technically, everything can happen, and I don't want to waste my life thinking about all possible negative events that can happen. Even if I would have written down phone numbers, I would probably lose the paper I wrote them down on. I'd rather deal with it later, which is why I asked "*how to deal with stressy situations*" and not "*how to prevent stressy situations*".

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C513f1dba19e01bbd7e0f4f12b243a97

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on March 16, 2012
at 09:05 PM

Oh man. I know exactly how you feel! Yesterday I fell out of bed (who does that) and crushed my iPad 2. It is the most embarrassing, selfish thing I've done and I spent a good twenty minutes mourning like a loser. I won't say there were not any frustrated tears. (Same situation - although everything is backed up on Evernote, I can't really afford to be buying a new one.)

I sat with my mum, we laughed about how ridiculous it was that I fell out of bed / that money can cause such distress. And then after uni we went to the store, waltzed in and bought an iPad 3. I am the pinnacle of #firstworldproblems (and #firstworldsolutions!).

Just in general, I think it's totally okay to be emotional. Meditation is great when you want to go into zombie mode, but you are human and you don't have to meet some standard of total peace and concentration. Meditation is for when I'm chronically worried or in a negative self-talk pattern. It kind of helps compress thoughts that I don't want. But getting mad, crying because your partner left you, chucking a few plates in the garden - these aren't hurting anyone (careful with the plates) and you'll probably feel a smidge better afterwards.

Water and a good meal, sleep and laughter helps too I find :^) Glad your computer is OK!

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on March 09, 2012
at 03:13 PM

Drop it in a bag of rice and let it sit there for a few days.

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on March 09, 2012
at 04:18 PM

Thats not really a stressful situation,i take it you quite young because trust me,there will be many real stresses to come in the journey called life.

518bce04b12cd77741237e1f61075194

(11577)

on March 09, 2012
at 04:32 PM

You find losing an amazing amount of school work and a lot of money not stressful? In the context of being a student, this is SO stressful! The information contained on a non-backed-up laptop can represent months of work. Regardless, I would say that stress is based on individuals perceptions- some people might find going to parties or doing sports or being alone VERY stressful, but that doesn't mean other people do. Acknowledge that stress is not a quantity defined for every situation, and demeaning him doesn't help.

685e3c967e63b4eacccf02628fd9a3ac

(1026)

on March 16, 2012
at 05:29 PM

Thanks Jenny J, I guess it might not look stressful to Wayne, but it definitely was.

96440612cf0fcf366bf5ad8f776fca84

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on March 17, 2012
at 01:18 PM

No, Wayne is right. Watching a parent die of cancer is far more stressful. A computer can be replaced, you're blowing it out of proportion.

96440612cf0fcf366bf5ad8f776fca84

(19463)

on March 17, 2012
at 03:03 PM

Giving someone permission to freak out will not help them deal with it. Learning to be a stoic is a useful part of life, instead of pulling out your hair and chanting "Woe is me." Bad things happen, we'd do well to learn to deal with them instead of freaking out.

7841848bd0c27c64353c583fb7971242

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on March 17, 2012
at 03:29 PM

I actually disagree with this. I find that when I'm stoic about things I end up internalizing the stress in weird ways rather than just getting the emotion/stress out there. Also, as someone who has too recently watched her parent die of cancer, I can still acknowledge that losing your computer of value and the work contained therein is stressful. It's a different kind of stressful, but stressful nonetheless.

B0fe7b5a9a197cd293978150cbd9055f

(8938)

on March 17, 2012
at 02:17 PM

Yeah raydawg, everything is relative. But if Bruno think it's stressful, than it is, because it's his point of view that matters.

B0fe7b5a9a197cd293978150cbd9055f

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on March 17, 2012
at 03:35 PM

I'm not giving permission... I can't tell Bruno what he can and can not do. My point was that it's not up to decide whether the situation is stressful or not. Also, the question is :"how to deal with stressy situation", not "is this a stressy situation". That's why I down-voted Wayne's answer.

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