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Help, I'm really bad at managing stress

Commented on January 10, 2014
Created January 04, 2014 at 11:22 AM

I've got a corporate job and lately I've really been struggling to manage the stress associated with it. Holiday vacation has made me realize all of the effects the stress is having on me, especially in regards to sleep:

-waking up at night anxious and hungry

-trouble falling asleep

-trouble staying asleep

-nocturia

I've tried/still do meditation. Sometimes it helps, sometimes it just makes me more anxious as I can't calm down my mind thinking about all the things I need to do.

I really like my job outside of the stress, it's very interesting and suits my skillset. Part of the stress comes as a result of a desire to "prove myself" and also comparing myself to my peers.

I don't think my job is even that stressful, I think I just respond to it very poorly.

E3e82c4f21724d6b358b6e54ece89b26

on January 10, 2014
at 09:54 AM

That's true.

E3e82c4f21724d6b358b6e54ece89b26

on January 09, 2014
at 02:06 AM

thanks. vacation would help.

96440612cf0fcf366bf5ad8f776fca84

(19463)

on January 06, 2014
at 12:45 AM

Yeah, it's lame, I know, the trick is to only look at the "completed" side of the checklist. Infact, you might not even want to have a todo list, but rather have a "done" list and make it for a long period of time, like stuff done this month. Stack the odds to stroke your ego. You'll feel like you achieved a lot and start to get less competitive.

E3e82c4f21724d6b358b6e54ece89b26

on January 06, 2014
at 12:04 AM

I think I'm going to make a checklist with a bunch of minor things I need to do each week and check things off as I do them to kind of pat myself on the back. Kind of weird...but it makes sense with what you're saying I think.

E3e82c4f21724d6b358b6e54ece89b26

on January 05, 2014
at 02:48 PM

I get a fair amount of exercise but not every day or anything. I could be more consistent.

E3e82c4f21724d6b358b6e54ece89b26

on January 05, 2014
at 02:47 PM

That's an idea I haven't heard yet. I'll give this a shot.

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4ee70be4b90aebf30fd55e303147a5fe

on January 09, 2014
at 07:15 AM

Stress sometimes is come from our needs ,we always want to have many things that out of we can get.We struggling on it so it feel really unsettling.Peace with you.

E3e82c4f21724d6b358b6e54ece89b26

on January 10, 2014
at 09:54 AM

That's true.

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on January 06, 2014
at 01:40 PM

This happens to every one but to kill and manage the stress is completely upon you. Take one week holiday and go for a vaccation, the place which you like the most in the world. Forget the office, mobile, internet, mails etc.. Live the life on those days. As you said you are not able to do meditaiton, but i suggest you to continue it, as meditation really works. Push your self to the world and live like you are born today, eat natural food, natural life etc......

E3e82c4f21724d6b358b6e54ece89b26

on January 09, 2014
at 02:06 AM

thanks. vacation would help.

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5b65bdb7a2385333dff64b40b575fddd

on January 04, 2014
at 08:08 PM

Hit on the exercise. Just do it (Your brain will give you fifty thousand excuses not too, override it). Go for anything moderate intensity, no longer than 30 mins. Don't forget to warm up and, enjoy lots of stretches to cool down. Get your heart rate to within 10 bpm from your initial heart rate. I promise you will feel better. Endorphins will kick in and you sleep like a baby repeat 3-4 times a week. xXx.

E3e82c4f21724d6b358b6e54ece89b26

on January 05, 2014
at 02:48 PM

I get a fair amount of exercise but not every day or anything. I could be more consistent.

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96440612cf0fcf366bf5ad8f776fca84

(19463)

on January 04, 2014
at 04:55 PM

A big part of stress is how you view the situation. That's the difference between stress an eustress: your reaction to it. Take a look at anything you check off your todo list as a win... even if it's something like taking out the garbage, or brushing your teeth, etc. It sounds stupid, but our brains are very easy to fool this way, and the outcome is useful (just keep it to yourself.)

You could invest in a heartmath device, or you could train yourself to do more meditation. See if there are some meditation training apps for your phone you could use.

There are some things that can help: tulsi tea (aka holy basil), ashwagandha, phosphatidyl serine, eleuthero.

E3e82c4f21724d6b358b6e54ece89b26

on January 05, 2014
at 02:47 PM

That's an idea I haven't heard yet. I'll give this a shot.

E3e82c4f21724d6b358b6e54ece89b26

on January 06, 2014
at 12:04 AM

I think I'm going to make a checklist with a bunch of minor things I need to do each week and check things off as I do them to kind of pat myself on the back. Kind of weird...but it makes sense with what you're saying I think.

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