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How do you respond to "Are you Pregnant?"?

Answered on September 12, 2014
Created January 03, 2013 at 11:20 PM

I was asked today if I was pregnant. I am not pregnant. It was mortifying, but it was not the first time I've been asked this question. I am a size 4/6, 125lbs, 5'4. Not fat, but thin limbed, high-waisted, large-chested, and my lower-stomach is always bloated. I've been mostly Paleo since 2010 and have tried every variation of eating- eliminated beer, grains, dairy and no difference. Then eliminated nightshades, no difference. So I added the nightshades and occassional dairy back in. Probiotics didn't help, either :( I exercise most mornings and stand at my desk. I'm stumped. Any other women have preggo tummy look and able to fix it?

C722090a175a94e99bf8a1e56ec47d4a

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on January 07, 2013
at 11:51 PM

ok, then I wish you best of luck on finding out what the issue is. Being/feeling bloated is awful.

26b0f1261d1a0d916825bd0deeb96a21

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on January 07, 2013
at 10:40 PM

It seems to be a combo of bloat and fat. A bad combo.

26b0f1261d1a0d916825bd0deeb96a21

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on January 07, 2013
at 10:35 PM

I don't eat bananas or kiwis or fruit much at all. Avocados every so often, but certainly not enough to cause an issue.

26b0f1261d1a0d916825bd0deeb96a21

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on January 07, 2013
at 10:34 PM

I don't eat banana's or kiwi's or fruit much at all. Avocados every so often, but certainly not enough to cause an issue.

F92e4ca55291c3f3096a3d4d3d854986

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on January 07, 2013
at 08:44 PM

Well, they are not huge for people who are sensitive to FODMAPS! I am Paleo but I sure as hell don't eat em :)

6eb2812b40855ba64508cbf2dc48f1b6

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on January 07, 2013
at 07:34 PM

Yep, this is what I was going to ask. I will say this though: my hubs can't tolerate the FODMAPs and his primary symptom is reflux, not gas or constipation. Onions, cabbage and cauliflower are primary FODMAP offenders and are HUGE in the paleo diet.

6eb2812b40855ba64508cbf2dc48f1b6

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on January 07, 2013
at 07:31 PM

Yep, this is what I was going to ask. I will say this though: my hubs can't tolerate the FODMAPs and his primary symptom is reflux, not gas or constipation.

8634d4988ced45a68e2a79e69cc01835

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on January 07, 2013
at 05:16 PM

Is it bloat or is it fat? I bloat super easy too. It's WAY worse around my period. I bloat bad if I eat refined sugar too much also. It feeds the bad gut bugs I think.

8634d4988ced45a68e2a79e69cc01835

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on January 07, 2013
at 05:12 PM

" a rude, intruding question" <- this exactly. Nobody should be asking.

Eecc48184707bc26bce631485b5b7e34

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on January 07, 2013
at 04:57 PM

Even then, you don't ask.

45ace03a0eff1219943d746cfb1c4197

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on January 04, 2013
at 08:30 PM

Wow! Lindsay. I wish you luck finding a good solution.

F92e4ca55291c3f3096a3d4d3d854986

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on January 04, 2013
at 06:38 PM

Oh, I see, so it's like a little pouch of fat. Most women have this to some degree, esp after their 20s. I'd suggest a) lowering your body fat/increasing muscle mass, which will reduce overall fat mass and therefore shrink this pouch, or b) slap on some Spanks and forget about it. :)

Fd70d71f4f8195c3a098eda4fc817d4f

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on January 04, 2013
at 02:30 PM

Yes. You never, ever, EVER ask a woman about her pregnancy unless you are 100% CERTAIN that she *is,* in fact, preggers.

06ca9c524c28bc3fba95d4d90f8f43c6

on January 04, 2013
at 03:42 AM

Anterior pelvic tilt perhaps?

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on January 04, 2013
at 02:33 AM

No doubt standing help, it could be a genetic thing still or poor posture standing/learned behavior. Again, I have no idea...just saying some possibilities.

26b0f1261d1a0d916825bd0deeb96a21

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on January 04, 2013
at 01:20 AM

I have a standing desk at work, and before this job, worked all day on my feet, but I do spend my off-time hunched over books.

F02990386b12528111740ad6279ba29d

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on January 04, 2013
at 01:00 AM

I think it's a problem with society in general. Too much time sitting. Tough to say from here and I'm not qualified to diagnosis, BUT if that were the problem. I think the standard thing to do is lengthen the front and strengthen the back. Hip flexor stretch and deadlifts at a most basic level.

26b0f1261d1a0d916825bd0deeb96a21

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on January 04, 2013
at 12:56 AM

Thanks for the responses so far. Some suggestions I'm going to check into are hormonal testing (I'm 31, have had this problem since puberty), and structural/posture issues. Thanks all!

26b0f1261d1a0d916825bd0deeb96a21

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on January 04, 2013
at 12:47 AM

Thanks, I'll check into that book.

26b0f1261d1a0d916825bd0deeb96a21

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on January 04, 2013
at 12:47 AM

I'll add more planks to my morning pilates routine, thanks :)

9f54852ea376e8e416356f547611e052

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on January 04, 2013
at 12:41 AM

Check out Esther Gokhale's book.

26b0f1261d1a0d916825bd0deeb96a21

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on January 04, 2013
at 12:37 AM

I did Whole 30 paleo-style, strictly for 4 months. Others things definitely improved, just not the preggo tum :)

26b0f1261d1a0d916825bd0deeb96a21

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on January 04, 2013
at 12:35 AM

Pretty bookwormish :)

Ce41c230e8c2a4295db31aec3ef4b2ab

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on January 04, 2013
at 12:27 AM

+1 If you have been "mostly Paleo" but haven't done a full gluten/dairy/FODMAP elimination for 6 weeks, you may never give your gut a chance to reboot.

26b0f1261d1a0d916825bd0deeb96a21

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on January 04, 2013
at 12:15 AM

How did you do that, Rebecca?

26b0f1261d1a0d916825bd0deeb96a21

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on January 04, 2013
at 12:13 AM

I don't ever have gas and am not constipated. Maybe I just retain water? It's never flat, but sometimes not as "puffed" as other times. I was 105 at one point and still had this damned tummy!

Ca22738a3c3efc400a35c426dfab47a3

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on January 04, 2013
at 12:00 AM

Exactly…I've always had the same issue, even when thin my lower belly jutted out.. until I strengthened by posterior chain which seemed to reel in my belly.

26b0f1261d1a0d916825bd0deeb96a21

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on January 03, 2013
at 11:38 PM

I don't know. Is it a problem for many women?

26b0f1261d1a0d916825bd0deeb96a21

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on January 03, 2013
at 11:35 PM

Hah! No, 5'4, and a lousy typist!

8f87879387f2a357db7c33008ff9a04a

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on January 03, 2013
at 11:29 PM

You are 6 4"..really?

26b0f1261d1a0d916825bd0deeb96a21

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on January 03, 2013
at 11:27 PM

Hah! That's exactly what I said!!

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61844af1187e745e09bb394cbd28cf23

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on January 03, 2013
at 11:26 PM

I say, "Nope, just fat, but thanks for noticing." I then enjoy the look of horror on their face. Mean, but just desserts for asking such a rude, intruding question.

26b0f1261d1a0d916825bd0deeb96a21

(5798)

on January 03, 2013
at 11:27 PM

Hah! That's exactly what I said!!

Fd70d71f4f8195c3a098eda4fc817d4f

(8014)

on January 04, 2013
at 02:30 PM

Yes. You never, ever, EVER ask a woman about her pregnancy unless you are 100% CERTAIN that she *is,* in fact, preggers.

Eecc48184707bc26bce631485b5b7e34

(4764)

on January 07, 2013
at 04:57 PM

Even then, you don't ask.

8634d4988ced45a68e2a79e69cc01835

(1617)

on January 07, 2013
at 05:12 PM

" a rude, intruding question" <- this exactly. Nobody should be asking.

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2a0f1afde303eadc422d015fc22f7512

(1118)

on January 03, 2013
at 11:56 PM

How do you respond to ???Are you Pregnant?????

I'm pretty sure a punch in the face is the right response.

6
8949bf87b0e0aefcad10f29975e4fa2b

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on January 03, 2013
at 11:41 PM

Just burst out crying while telling them you lost the baby but your hormones aren't back to where they are yet. But seriously, look into hormonal reasons why your shape has changed. That is the only thing that has worked for me, other than overall weight loss, and of course, reducing offending carbs.

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F02990386b12528111740ad6279ba29d

(1363)

on January 03, 2013
at 11:34 PM

Could be somewhat structural? Lordosis? Hip Flexors?

26b0f1261d1a0d916825bd0deeb96a21

(5798)

on January 04, 2013
at 12:15 AM

How did you do that, Rebecca?

26b0f1261d1a0d916825bd0deeb96a21

(5798)

on January 04, 2013
at 01:20 AM

I have a standing desk at work, and before this job, worked all day on my feet, but I do spend my off-time hunched over books.

26b0f1261d1a0d916825bd0deeb96a21

(5798)

on January 04, 2013
at 12:47 AM

Thanks, I'll check into that book.

26b0f1261d1a0d916825bd0deeb96a21

(5798)

on January 03, 2013
at 11:38 PM

I don't know. Is it a problem for many women?

Ca22738a3c3efc400a35c426dfab47a3

(312)

on January 04, 2013
at 12:00 AM

Exactly…I've always had the same issue, even when thin my lower belly jutted out.. until I strengthened by posterior chain which seemed to reel in my belly.

F02990386b12528111740ad6279ba29d

(1363)

on January 04, 2013
at 01:00 AM

I think it's a problem with society in general. Too much time sitting. Tough to say from here and I'm not qualified to diagnosis, BUT if that were the problem. I think the standard thing to do is lengthen the front and strengthen the back. Hip flexor stretch and deadlifts at a most basic level.

F02990386b12528111740ad6279ba29d

(1363)

on January 04, 2013
at 02:33 AM

No doubt standing help, it could be a genetic thing still or poor posture standing/learned behavior. Again, I have no idea...just saying some possibilities.

9f54852ea376e8e416356f547611e052

(2957)

on January 04, 2013
at 12:41 AM

Check out Esther Gokhale's book.

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Fc64db6a555559762432d503a1dbad19

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on January 04, 2013
at 12:33 AM

How's your posture?

26b0f1261d1a0d916825bd0deeb96a21

(5798)

on January 04, 2013
at 12:35 AM

Pretty bookwormish :)

06ca9c524c28bc3fba95d4d90f8f43c6

on January 04, 2013
at 03:42 AM

Anterior pelvic tilt perhaps?

3
45ace03a0eff1219943d746cfb1c4197

(3661)

on January 03, 2013
at 11:57 PM

I used to always have that type of bloating. Even now, if I eat something that doesn't agree with me, it can return almost instantly, though that is rare. For the most part, now you'd never guess I struggled with that issue. I can seriously and completely relate.

Personally, I have to be 100% dairy-free, legume free, and grain-free. I have found that working on keeping small intestinal bacterial overgrowth under control helps a lot. For me eating 4 or 5 garlic stuffed olives can work wonders in that respect, the garlic having antibiotic capabilities.

I'm also a fan of the Whole30 and other structured plans. They just give you a nice framework.

45ace03a0eff1219943d746cfb1c4197

(3661)

on January 04, 2013
at 08:30 PM

Wow! Lindsay. I wish you luck finding a good solution.

Ce41c230e8c2a4295db31aec3ef4b2ab

(32564)

on January 04, 2013
at 12:27 AM

+1 If you have been "mostly Paleo" but haven't done a full gluten/dairy/FODMAP elimination for 6 weeks, you may never give your gut a chance to reboot.

26b0f1261d1a0d916825bd0deeb96a21

(5798)

on January 04, 2013
at 12:37 AM

I did Whole 30 paleo-style, strictly for 4 months. Others things definitely improved, just not the preggo tum :)

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F5a0ddffcf9ef5beca864050f090a790

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on January 07, 2013
at 04:15 PM

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E45c5a1c8df73da5e03bb6e7e90f8420

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on January 04, 2013
at 03:27 AM

I would say that it has to be something that you are eating OR excess estrogen which contributes to the 'pooch' so many women have. Have you made sure to eliminate all chemicals from you cleaning/beauty routine? Parabens synthetic fragrances and the like all can contribute to excess estrogen levels.

I know for me though that it definitely has to do with food. I am 5'4 as well, and 110lbs so pretty thin and hwp. However my lower belly will became so distended that I literally look and feel like I'm 6 months along (make sure to have lots of baggy clothes on hand for these occasions). I know it is dietary because most days it is not this way, but then I will eat something on the go or just not be paying attention and suddenly I look in the mirror and wonder myself when I'm due!

So don't feel bad, I think a lot of women are in the same boat. Since it sounds like you really gave a good-go at eliminating possible problem foods it may be an estrogen issue for you... I would look into getting your hormone levels tested as others have suggested.

Good luck!

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Fe1a3fa4234243cd6d2fd3ea20fe572d

on January 03, 2013
at 11:56 PM

I would say, no, I'm not, and you?

1
776e2aa4718c4622b7244de0d95ac589

on January 04, 2013
at 03:43 AM

sounds like you've done a lot of N=1 research so I'm guessing its just your body type. As someone else said, punch in the face. I had the same issues till I got off the pill (huge difference here) and dairy. The hormones make you crazy! (also an n=1 on that conclusion but it works for me).

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on January 04, 2013
at 02:13 AM

Haha... I made this mistake once when I ran into a girl from high school. She had always been fit, this time she was pretty large. Possibly THE worst 'foot-in-mouth' experience of my life. I learned real quick to just neverevereverever ask that question!

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Ce41c230e8c2a4295db31aec3ef4b2ab

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on January 04, 2013
at 12:39 AM

One word. Planks.

(and I only suggest that based on your other comments in response to the answers you have received.)

26b0f1261d1a0d916825bd0deeb96a21

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on January 04, 2013
at 12:47 AM

I'll add more planks to my morning pilates routine, thanks :)

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F92e4ca55291c3f3096a3d4d3d854986

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on January 04, 2013
at 12:11 AM

Have you tried eliminating FODMAPS? Is the bloat just from gas or are you also constipated?

26b0f1261d1a0d916825bd0deeb96a21

(5798)

on January 04, 2013
at 12:13 AM

I don't ever have gas and am not constipated. Maybe I just retain water? It's never flat, but sometimes not as "puffed" as other times. I was 105 at one point and still had this damned tummy!

F92e4ca55291c3f3096a3d4d3d854986

(11698)

on January 04, 2013
at 06:38 PM

Oh, I see, so it's like a little pouch of fat. Most women have this to some degree, esp after their 20s. I'd suggest a) lowering your body fat/increasing muscle mass, which will reduce overall fat mass and therefore shrink this pouch, or b) slap on some Spanks and forget about it. :)

6eb2812b40855ba64508cbf2dc48f1b6

(2119)

on January 07, 2013
at 07:34 PM

Yep, this is what I was going to ask. I will say this though: my hubs can't tolerate the FODMAPs and his primary symptom is reflux, not gas or constipation. Onions, cabbage and cauliflower are primary FODMAP offenders and are HUGE in the paleo diet.

6eb2812b40855ba64508cbf2dc48f1b6

(2119)

on January 07, 2013
at 07:31 PM

Yep, this is what I was going to ask. I will say this though: my hubs can't tolerate the FODMAPs and his primary symptom is reflux, not gas or constipation.

F92e4ca55291c3f3096a3d4d3d854986

(11698)

on January 07, 2013
at 08:44 PM

Well, they are not huge for people who are sensitive to FODMAPS! I am Paleo but I sure as hell don't eat em :)

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C722090a175a94e99bf8a1e56ec47d4a

on January 07, 2013
at 04:24 PM

Have you tried eliminating bananas, avocado and kiwi's?

I went paleo and were still bloated like crazy then found out that there is a link to birch allergies and those fruits. After stopping those my stomach finally stop being bloated.

26b0f1261d1a0d916825bd0deeb96a21

(5798)

on January 07, 2013
at 10:35 PM

I don't eat bananas or kiwis or fruit much at all. Avocados every so often, but certainly not enough to cause an issue.

26b0f1261d1a0d916825bd0deeb96a21

(5798)

on January 07, 2013
at 10:34 PM

I don't eat banana's or kiwi's or fruit much at all. Avocados every so often, but certainly not enough to cause an issue.

C722090a175a94e99bf8a1e56ec47d4a

(25)

on January 07, 2013
at 11:51 PM

ok, then I wish you best of luck on finding out what the issue is. Being/feeling bloated is awful.

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