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The challenges of living primal at age 21.

Answered on September 12, 2014
Created August 12, 2011 at 5:14 PM

I started eating primal about two months ago, but I've only been at 100% for about a month. I LOVE IT and will never go back to the way I used to eat (grains, sugar, etc.)

Here is my question, literally all of my friends eat like shit. Their idea of a good time is to split an ENTIRE handle of vodka between three people, get pizza at 2AM, stay up until 4AM and then go to IHOP for breakfast in the morning.

That is completely unappealing to me in every way.. I would much rather stay home and read a book, play a video game or hang out with my dog and get an adequate nights sleep. But by continually choosing to do that I'm running the risk of becoming an introvert.

Most of you will probably say get some better friends.. but these are the guys that I grew up with and have known since I was 8. Besides treating their bodies like crap, they are good guys.

TL;DR I eat primal, my friends treat their bodies like crap.. how do I hang out with them?

De641ff2accb4975e1f42886b43009db

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on July 18, 2012
at 09:21 PM

Yeah man, I totally agree. I wrote this like a year ago, but it still stays true today. Friends > perfect diet.

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on July 18, 2012
at 08:42 PM

Give up, no one is ever going to visit your blog.

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on January 12, 2012
at 03:59 PM

Hey guys! I want some paleo friends too! I don't know anyone else in my area! I'm 20 and live in Oshawa. Facebook me Vanesa Tunney or e-mail..vanesatunney@live.com. I'd love to hear from people my age going through the same kinda stuff as me!

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on November 18, 2011
at 06:56 PM

I wanna be friends too! I have no paleofriends :( I'm 22.

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on October 19, 2011
at 04:50 PM

Where is your daughter?

Ef4c5b09fdccf73be575d3a0c267fdd9

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on October 19, 2011
at 06:19 AM

I'm Orange.. wouldn't mind it. (22 year old college paleo guy)

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on October 18, 2011
at 06:18 PM

@Caleb: Thank you and glad that you find it helpful or meaningful! :)

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on October 18, 2011
at 05:52 PM

I've been making broiled buffalo wings lately and they're delicious. Perfect man-friendly paleo food. They're woman-friendly too, BTW.

De641ff2accb4975e1f42886b43009db

(2227)

on October 18, 2011
at 05:35 PM

Wouldn't that be great? Actually, I think there is something in the works called "Primal Unite" but so far it just looks like a blog..

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on October 18, 2011
at 04:17 PM

This is possibly one of the best answers I've seen here. Thanks.

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on August 27, 2011
at 01:34 AM

Well I have a daughter in Georgia I could introduce you to.... :-)

De641ff2accb4975e1f42886b43009db

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on August 26, 2011
at 02:54 PM

Yeah dude, shoot me a message: AIM ChrsStauffer (paleohacks really needs to implement a messaging system!)

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on August 16, 2011
at 06:36 AM

I doubt that a person eating paleo would chose a girlfriend that isn't down with it. That just cannot work, unless you give up paleo.

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on August 15, 2011
at 10:38 PM

Except if your girl isn't down with paleo it could be worse than your friends. Trust me. My significant other thinks I am stuck up about the way I eat despite the fact that I never speak about it unless asked, and I go out of y way to be as inviting and chill about it when asked... I'm also 21.

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on August 15, 2011
at 07:40 PM

+1 to Nemesis for the serious suggestion about Caveman-theme nights and for making me laugh with the rest - I wanna come!

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on August 15, 2011
at 06:30 PM

Sure what you're saying is spot on. I was just thinking back at all the care free fun and was kinda just wishing this kid his own good times without thinking too much about food. I think it was obvious that I was being light hearted.

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on August 15, 2011
at 05:33 PM

That whole thing people do when they wave the "forbidden" food in your face is an insecure reaction. They can't understand how you control yourself through willpower, because they have almost none, and it scares them. Once they realize it has no effect on you, and they see the results it has, they will either A) begin asking you questions/advice and want to join you, or B) sulk and ostracize you.

De641ff2accb4975e1f42886b43009db

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on August 15, 2011
at 01:30 PM

Nope, Kansas! :)

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on August 15, 2011
at 02:01 AM

@Ben: I've been restraining myself, but, just gotta say: It's a crap shoot, russian roulette - and plenty of us got shot young. I got slammed with ulcerative colitis at age 22. Lots of ppl don't make it to 31 to "recover" without meeting serious illness.The "answers" werent there to be found when I was that age. But for Primalgamer, there's alot more known...and if he get it at his present age...he's a helluva lucky (through effort!) guy.

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on August 15, 2011
at 01:49 AM

Thanks, Albert.

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on August 15, 2011
at 12:54 AM

+++1 -- well said, mem!

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on August 13, 2011
at 06:44 PM

When i go drinking i take some paleo snacks with me, like sugar free home made chocolate. I also drink mostly wine and sometimes gluten free beer. This is a tradeoff for sure, but im fine with it and get to do stuff with old friends.

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on August 13, 2011
at 02:22 PM

This is probably the most "real" answer in the thread.

A31b063c5866c08aa9968a8f2f1e9949

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on August 13, 2011
at 01:03 AM

+1 for your last line.

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on August 12, 2011
at 11:27 PM

Also, maybe having Caveman-theme nights, where everyone pitches in to buy steaks, taters and tequila, would be your contribution. No chips, pizza or other Neo foods are allowed. You can drive around town with the windows down, beating your chests and "OOG OOG OOG!" at everyone you pass, lol. Kind of retarded, but in a fun way.

De641ff2accb4975e1f42886b43009db

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on August 12, 2011
at 11:16 PM

Great advice, thank you!

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on August 12, 2011
at 10:10 PM

+1 for level of honesty in an important question.

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on August 12, 2011
at 07:28 PM

I second akd. Introverts are often viewed as abnormal in american society in my experience, which is an annoying idea. and based on how you'd rather spend your night you sound like you already are one.

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on August 12, 2011
at 06:19 PM

You can definitely make MEN friendly Paleo meals, even college men! I think once or twice a month is totally doable. You do your best to sneak attack them with Paleo goodies and also, don't worry too much if something non-Paleo sneaks in on you. As long as you aren't celiac or doing Paleo for medical reasons, you'll bounce back without much damage

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on August 12, 2011
at 06:19 PM

You can definitely make MEN friendly Paleo meals, even college men! I think once or twice a month is totally doable. You do your best to get sneak attack them with Paleo goodies and also, don't worry too much if something non-Paleo sneaks in on you. As long as you aren't celiac or doing Paleo for medical reasons, you'll bounce back without much damage.

De641ff2accb4975e1f42886b43009db

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on August 12, 2011
at 06:15 PM

Good suggestion! I'm an at-home workout kind of guy.. but I need to look into some bike clubs or something. And yes, they all know that I eat primal.. they always give crap and say "Oh you can't eat this Chris, IT ISN'T PRIMAL" But I have a feeling that down the road they will become more interested. I just need to keep educating myself so that when the opportunity presents itself, I can actually teach them.

De641ff2accb4975e1f42886b43009db

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on August 12, 2011
at 06:08 PM

I love that first suggestion, that is an idea I've had for awhile now. They all live on campus about 2 hours from my house, so I go out there about one/twice a month and this year I'm going to start cooking for them. Thanks!

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on August 12, 2011
at 05:37 PM

aint nuthin wrong with bring an introvert.

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on August 12, 2011
at 05:30 PM

My idea of a good time is to read a book or relax on the porch with my iPad, wearing pyjamas, lol. Must be why I have no friends :D Although I am going to Mayhem Fest in Tampa tomorrow, but I'll be bringing trail mix and beef jerky to eat.

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on August 12, 2011
at 05:22 PM

I'm torn on this one. I'm happy that you're smart enough to eat well at 21 and all, you'll be better off when you're 31, etc. But I also look back and I'm kinda like, dude eff it just go nuts and party it up for a few years. You can recover later like us;)

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7e746be2f0e550a8cd7df881322ae705

on August 12, 2011
at 05:20 PM

Bring hard cider and make them a meatza?

Really, you just have to deal with it. If I know guys at that age, they probably give you are hard time for not going along with their plans too. So on top of not really enjoying yourself, you are also getting heckled.

If it's an every day thing, I would just deal with becoming the introvert of the group.

If it's an every weekend thing, I would probably try to go every other weekend and do my best to fit in without compromising my body too much.

7e746be2f0e550a8cd7df881322ae705

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on August 12, 2011
at 06:19 PM

You can definitely make MEN friendly Paleo meals, even college men! I think once or twice a month is totally doable. You do your best to get sneak attack them with Paleo goodies and also, don't worry too much if something non-Paleo sneaks in on you. As long as you aren't celiac or doing Paleo for medical reasons, you'll bounce back without much damage.

De641ff2accb4975e1f42886b43009db

(2227)

on August 12, 2011
at 06:08 PM

I love that first suggestion, that is an idea I've had for awhile now. They all live on campus about 2 hours from my house, so I go out there about one/twice a month and this year I'm going to start cooking for them. Thanks!

7e746be2f0e550a8cd7df881322ae705

(18701)

on August 12, 2011
at 06:19 PM

You can definitely make MEN friendly Paleo meals, even college men! I think once or twice a month is totally doable. You do your best to sneak attack them with Paleo goodies and also, don't worry too much if something non-Paleo sneaks in on you. As long as you aren't celiac or doing Paleo for medical reasons, you'll bounce back without much damage

4ec0fe4b4aab327f7efa2dfb06b032ff

(5145)

on October 18, 2011
at 05:52 PM

I've been making broiled buffalo wings lately and they're delicious. Perfect man-friendly paleo food. They're woman-friendly too, BTW.

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on August 12, 2011
at 09:55 PM

The issue for you is not one of "becoming an introvert." It is one of feeling increasingly socially isolated because you are growing and searching and making new choices for yourself that are setting you apart from the group. And your choices are leading to your feeling very differently now about what you, yourself, may have previously experienced as being a "good time."

I think there is the possibility of a middle road for you here. I also applaud the fact that you are able to see your friends as apparently good human beings aside from some of their, erm, less than healthy, choices/ behaviors. As far as the verbal pressure, blow it off. It's very expectable and occurs at every age in every kind of group. All it takes is for one person in the group to make choices which make others in the group question themselves....and the heat is on. It's human nature! ;)

I'd suggest that you begin to see in yourself that the changes that you are making in your life are far bigger than what you are eating. Start asking yourself what would look like an enjoyable time with others these days. We don't know where you live, but there is a possibility that there are paleo inclined others somewhere near you. Look online. Ask yourself what kinds of activities that are consistent with where you want to be going with your life are available to you. These could be a wide variety of things involving movement, fitness, all different kinds of skills, sports, etc. What do you really want to do? What would be FUN? What would be a blast to do/learn/experience with others?

When we embark on big change in our lives, things typically aren't just laid out for us. There isn't a real roadmap in most cases. It's all a little crazy and confusing and exciting as well. And it requires the kind of research you've been doing to land here and more research and self reflection to flesh out just what is going to be inspiring and healthiest and the most fun and the most positively challenging for YOU. So, put the effort in and snoop around for what you can find and create. Dream a little too...

You are right to be wary of isolating. We all need a balance in life and as is said sometimes here, we all need to find/create our "tribe." You need yours.

As for the balance...perhaps you can hang with your friends as it seems you have been doing and still make the choices you want to for yourself. Hanging doesn't = huge intake of alcohol, or foods that you've decided are not good for you. Hanging is about being - being with others. You can hang for several hours, maybe at a much lesser frequency than previously, and still leave when you feel like it and when it works for your sleep needs and your life.

It may be hard for you to see, but your friends will, underneath all the necessary "top babble" admire you for being able to be your own person. And as others have said...over time...you may find at least some of them inching your way, especially if you are able to carry this off without laying judgement on them or seeming to exude a "superior attitude."

Good luck and glad you are finding your way! Hang in there!

De641ff2accb4975e1f42886b43009db

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on August 12, 2011
at 11:16 PM

Great advice, thank you!

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on August 15, 2011
at 12:54 AM

+++1 -- well said, mem!

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on August 15, 2011
at 01:49 AM

Thanks, Albert.

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on October 18, 2011
at 06:18 PM

@Caleb: Thank you and glad that you find it helpful or meaningful! :)

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on October 18, 2011
at 04:17 PM

This is possibly one of the best answers I've seen here. Thanks.

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on August 12, 2011
at 05:20 PM

If you truly want to keep your friends - stick with it - hang with them but don't eat. You're 21 - this stage will pass! Whatever you do don't get preachy with them - nobody likes that. Maybe try to get them all doing something different occasionally and see how that goes

Just keep doing what you're doing - find an insanely hot paleo gf - and instantly they'll be asking how you did it! J/K (well sort-of)

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on August 12, 2011
at 10:58 PM

Maybe you guys don't need to be close friends anymore. I'd say move on. Be nice stay in contact just get some space. Maybe they're holding you back. I gotta say getting drunk eating pizza and going to IHOP sounds like a pretty terrible time to me. I mean come on your 21 not 14 shits probably getting old. Find some new people to hang out with. People that will expand your world not confine it to mindless, unhealthy, consumerism.

As for being an introvert, you are one. Maybe you'd be more of a loner. But that depends on you. People want to meet new people it's not hard to make friends. Just do what you have passion for and be open to new experiences push your limits a little and you'll make friends. If your passions aren't pizza, booze, and IHOP. Neither will it be your new friends. Life's too short to waste time with people who don't inspire you.

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on August 13, 2011
at 01:03 AM

+1 for your last line.

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on August 13, 2011
at 02:22 PM

This is probably the most "real" answer in the thread.

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on August 12, 2011
at 05:42 PM

I know exactly what you are talking about! I'm only 20 years old but have been paleo for about two years.

Talk to them. Do they actually know you are paleo and what it is? Don't be afraid of talking about it. Tell them why you can't or don't want to drink that much. If they are true friends, they won't laugh at you. They should respect the way you are. Also, make exceptions. Go out, enjoy yourself. I stick to some soda with lime in it or plain sparkling water with a slice of lemon. Believe me, no one will notice or bother. You can have fun and dance without booze, just try it! It is all about your attitude.

Fortunately, i have some friends who enjoy cooking with me at home or just meet up for a glass of wine. Is that not an option at all? What kind of sports do you do? When I joined crossfit for example, I made really good friends with like-minded people. They are a really good support system and when my roomate decides to throw a sangria party, I will just escape and seek shelter at my CF pals house and we eagerly discuss why excessive drinking is bad haha... :-)

And one more thing: you havent been paleo for that long. Give yourself half a year and you will make such progress (body, overall appearance). They sure will notice and maybe THEN they will be interested in the way you live.

De641ff2accb4975e1f42886b43009db

(2227)

on August 12, 2011
at 06:15 PM

Good suggestion! I'm an at-home workout kind of guy.. but I need to look into some bike clubs or something. And yes, they all know that I eat primal.. they always give crap and say "Oh you can't eat this Chris, IT ISN'T PRIMAL" But I have a feeling that down the road they will become more interested. I just need to keep educating myself so that when the opportunity presents itself, I can actually teach them.

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(5639)

on August 15, 2011
at 05:33 PM

That whole thing people do when they wave the "forbidden" food in your face is an insecure reaction. They can't understand how you control yourself through willpower, because they have almost none, and it scares them. Once they realize it has no effect on you, and they see the results it has, they will either A) begin asking you questions/advice and want to join you, or B) sulk and ostracize you.

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on August 12, 2011
at 10:12 PM

What other interests do y'all share? There must be something all of y'all like doing that doesn't mean food, vodka, and the wee hours of the morning.

An afternoon of football? or going to the beach? or fishing? I don't know .. guy stuff that y'all like (I don't feel quite versed on what all that is .. but hopefully you get my meaning).

Additionally, couldn't the above be an opportunity to have a positive change on their lifestyles? I mean, don't force anything on them. But maybe they'd love a weekend of active recreation in lieu of a night drinking .. it can't hurt to try ...

And yes, they are your friends, you don't need to get 'new' friends but maybe some other friends that share your interests a bit more? And, you could also invite your childhood friends along? Mmm, just a thought.

Lastly, being an introvert is awesome. I love it. Don't hate on the introverts.

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on August 12, 2011
at 05:51 PM

I encounter this same thing, even at the ripe old age of 37. I hang out with a lot of outdoorsy type people. The perfect weekend for them is to go ski/hike/bike/climb, eating planters trail mix and some crap jerky and then get blotto after the adventure is over. I don't know how many times I've had to tell them that I don't drink anymore. It's worse during the ski season. I help run a ski club here in Germany, and every single trip, I get asked numerous times why I'm not going out for Apres Ski. It gets annoying, but I deal. I also have a lot of friends who like to eat out a few times each week. My wife and I eat out about once a month (unless we're on the road traveling). We decline our friends invitations most of the time because finding paleo food at German restaurants is near impossible. Thing is, we're still friends with all of them and I think they are beginning to understand. It has just taken a while. We've just had such great success with eating primal that there is no way we want to compromise what we have gained.

Hang in there. Your friends may not want to eat healthy, but perhaps someday they'll see the success you've had and try to curb some of their bad habits - when they are 30 years old or so!

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on January 12, 2012
at 03:56 PM

I know I'm probably pretty late on this but it was so good to hear someone in the same situation as me. I'm a 20 year old girl that used to party 4 outta 5 days a week. I decided to give up drinking completely when I started full primal living 7 months ago. Only thing is, my friends didn't even slow down! It was so hard going out sober for the first while but I actually don't mind it anymore. I can come and go whenever I please, I am able to make sure my friends get home safe! I've actually had numerous people tell me how much respect they have for me for still coming out all the time and for the amount of will power I have. So seriously, I commend you for your hard work, I understand completely. Keep it up!!

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on August 12, 2011
at 05:41 PM

You be the organizer. Arrange and invite them to events that you would like to do. Just because they are your good buddies, doesn't mean you have to do everything with them, either.

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on July 18, 2012
at 09:09 PM

I'm 21 as well, and my friends are the same. I dealt with it first when I was vegan, and now even though I "eat meat" I still rarely will eat something that's offered. Talk about a perplexing situation for them.

Anyway, the only thing that works for me is to compromise. Occasionally I'll go out with them and get to bed a few hours later than usual. Have a beer or two, etc.

Short term these things bother me, but in the long run I keep my friends. If they need a little give from me so they can be sure I'm still their bro, so be it. Some of them have been my friends for the past 11 years.

De641ff2accb4975e1f42886b43009db

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on July 18, 2012
at 09:21 PM

Yeah man, I totally agree. I wrote this like a year ago, but it still stays true today. Friends > perfect diet.

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on January 12, 2012
at 07:52 PM

Yeah, this may be too late as well, but maybe not for someone else. Let me start off by saying we're all different people, so you gotta figure out what's best for you, the unique person you are. Next, the reason why we're all doing this paleo thing is because we want to live as long as possible (bc of our innate fear of death) and while we're living that damn long, to be feeling good, right? On that premise, part of being happy is being the social beings we are. So, one plan would be: Continue to drink with your friends, but less often, less indulgently, and find a stronger desire for red wine, rather than potato vodka. Experiment with all the delicious paleo-recipes on the interwebs and feed it to your friends instead of going out for pizza. Stay up late playing games (bonus if it's physical) with your buddies, because life is about having fun- not making rules that limit fun. And lastly, make some breakfast for those hungry friends- do you really think they're going to turn down eggs and bacon and sausage and fritattas and blueberry pancakes and.. and.. and.. So all in all, my advice to you -and everyone really- is learn to cook. Your friends will love to come over for delicious food, and hell, you may even convert some of them by modeling instead of lecturing/guilting them!

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on October 19, 2011
at 05:18 AM

Hey I've got the same situation. My friends aren't quite as big of partiers but the party scene is everywhere around here. I'm a 21 year old guy too. I started making my own gluten free beer and cider. Just as a note of comparison, I usually drink once a week with my friends. Most of the time, I end up having 4-6 drinks, so not great but not horrible by any standards. I almost always call it a night around midnight or 1am. This way I've spent time with my best buddies and still not done too much damage. At this point in my life, it's about minimizing harm. I feel so lucky to have found paleo early. Anyway, if you have access to it, try grilling with your buddies and having a drink or two. Maybe you can participate in the earlier part of the night and wind down later. I do feel the same way about staying in and much prefer my apartment, but there is something to be said for social interaction with good friends versus a lack of persistent social interaction.

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on October 18, 2011
at 07:37 AM

Can we start a paleo dating site?

De641ff2accb4975e1f42886b43009db

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on October 18, 2011
at 05:35 PM

Wouldn't that be great? Actually, I think there is something in the works called "Primal Unite" but so far it just looks like a blog..

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on August 15, 2011
at 05:24 PM

Not specific to eating Paleo; go to a bodybuilding forum and everybody says this too (or anyone who eats a non-mainstream diet). You just eat beforehand if you're going to go out with them, and have a diet coke or club soda at the bar. Also, none of the PUA guys online drink alcohol, they typically just have a non-alcoholic drink and go talk to women.

I'm 24 now, I've been eating the Paleo Diet since I was 17, and never exactly had a hard time. Maybe its because I was bodybuilding first so was already used to eating differently than other people.

Some of my friends have since converted to exercise and working out. I went out with them this weekend, and we barbecued salmon and steaks before we left. You might have an easier time convincing your bros to hit up the gym and eat more meat for the aesthetic / lady pleasing effects rather than health.

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on August 15, 2011
at 03:41 PM

I honestly think the best solution is getting a girlfriend. A group of friends like you have will respect you way more if you get one. You'll also avoid being the introvert and, if your girlfriend is cool, you could cook together (which really helps when being on paleo).

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on August 16, 2011
at 06:36 AM

I doubt that a person eating paleo would chose a girlfriend that isn't down with it. That just cannot work, unless you give up paleo.

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(2539)

on August 15, 2011
at 10:38 PM

Except if your girl isn't down with paleo it could be worse than your friends. Trust me. My significant other thinks I am stuck up about the way I eat despite the fact that I never speak about it unless asked, and I go out of y way to be as inviting and chill about it when asked... I'm also 21.

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on August 13, 2011
at 02:45 PM

I second hard cider. I'm celiac, and 20, and it's much tastier than Natty or PBR in my opinion. It's also a nice alternative to wine/hard liquor when everyone else is drinking beer. Anyway, I'm often in a similar boat, but my friends at school are mostly healthy, outdoorsy types who go to bed at 10. Too much alcohol wreaks havoc on my system, so I almost never drink enough to get "drunk"???maybe a little buzzed, which seems to be enough. I'd recommend hanging out with these guys during the day, doing "bro stuff", as it were. And maybe join them for a weekend night on occasion. Offer to DD. Or just have 1-2 at the beginning of the night and peace out early. It sounds like they drink too much to care about the rest of the night any way. Also: do they really prefer IHOP to bacon & eggs in the morning?

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on August 12, 2011
at 11:38 PM

this is exactly my life right now. Live in Florida? ;)

De641ff2accb4975e1f42886b43009db

(2227)

on August 15, 2011
at 01:30 PM

Nope, Kansas! :)

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on August 27, 2011
at 01:34 AM

Well I have a daughter in Georgia I could introduce you to.... :-)

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(1059)

on October 19, 2011
at 04:50 PM

Where is your daughter?

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(3700)

on October 19, 2011
at 02:43 AM

Anybody want to meet up in L.A?

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(2539)

on October 19, 2011
at 06:19 AM

I'm Orange.. wouldn't mind it. (22 year old college paleo guy)

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(554)

on October 18, 2011
at 08:54 AM

I completely know what you mean! But I think there are ways to get around it. You can do two things, either take Harvey and decide the place to go/invite them over. Or bring your own liquor/drink wine. It might also be good to head home early. That way you only miss half of what happened :) this is if you want to party, that is. If you simply dont want to, try to share other activities with them, such as goin over and cookin for each other or shopping or jogging!

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on August 25, 2011
at 07:43 PM

I'm 18 an a sophomore in college, so I definitely know where you are coming from. I'm pretty introverted as well, in the way that I like being alone at times, but I also like hanging out with friends.

Paleohacks doesn't seem to have a PM system, so I thought I would ask you if you had any kind of messaging account (Gmail chat? facebook?) I think it's important to find other friends to support each other in this different lifestyle, especially in our age group. I'd love to get to know you!

De641ff2accb4975e1f42886b43009db

(2227)

on August 26, 2011
at 02:54 PM

Yeah dude, shoot me a message: AIM ChrsStauffer (paleohacks really needs to implement a messaging system!)

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(2301)

on November 18, 2011
at 06:56 PM

I wanna be friends too! I have no paleofriends :( I'm 22.

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on January 12, 2012
at 03:59 PM

Hey guys! I want some paleo friends too! I don't know anyone else in my area! I'm 20 and live in Oshawa. Facebook me Vanesa Tunney or e-mail..vanesatunney@live.com. I'd love to hear from people my age going through the same kinda stuff as me!

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on August 13, 2011
at 04:03 AM

The choice is not 'have no friends and stay home' or 'be self-destructive with my drunk friends'.

I'm sorry, but you do need some new friends if you are not interested in getting drunk, staying up all night and eating crap (or whatever they might do that you don't want to).

I had a lot of friends like this around your age and I mostly had to cut them out. We still see each other sometimes, but only for certain activities we can do together which support my healthy lifestyle. I don't 'hang out' with potheads because I know what will be going on and it's boring, but I will 'go out' and do other things where they can't just be high and sit on the couch.

I am an introvert and like my home and alone time, but I also have lots of friends. I don't see any of them more than once, rarely twice per week but we stay in touch and do all sorts of things together.

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on August 13, 2011
at 01:57 AM

You'd probably find that once you find people with the same interests as you, you're not so introverted as you'd imagine.

Pretty much you're developing different interests than your friends are. It might seem callous, but find some new friends. I don't know where you can, but keep on the lookout for like-minded individuals where ever you are. Maybe hang out at co-ops and farmer's markets?

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on August 12, 2011
at 06:00 PM

do what feels right for you! I'm sure they would miss you if you weren't hanging out with them, but there are times when you just want to chill at home so enjoy the best of both worlds while you are young! (later you'll just be too tired!! :)

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on July 18, 2012
at 08:12 PM

YOU WEIRDO DORK !

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on July 18, 2012
at 08:42 PM

Give up, no one is ever going to visit your blog.

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