Paleo loner in a house full of SAD eaters

Answered on August 19, 2014
Created March 30, 2012 at 4:36 AM

I have taken care of so many diabetics that have had to get their toes or legs amputated because they didn't take care of themselves. Whats even worse, is that even though they lose their toes they still refuse to change their eating habits or attempt exercise(not saying that everyone is like this, just the ones that I have had the privilege to take care of). Taking care of these people led me to become paleo. I want to keep my body fit and healthy for as long as possible.

Now, I am the only person in my family that believes in eating paleo. Sometimes I feel like the odd man out when everyone is eating pizza and I am eating meat and veggies. So my question is how do you stay on the paleo path if you are living with SAD eaters? What keeps you motivated not to just join in and eat some pizza with the family and how can I approach my family in a non-threatening way to encourage them to change their eating ways?

Edit: I wanted to say thanks to everyone that has given me such great answers! I will try to cook some meals for my family to show them that just because it's healthy doesn't mean that it doesn't taste good and see where that carries me. :)

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on March 30, 2012
at 06:12 AM

I cooked and served two pizzas for my family and guests today and then cooked my meal. I am the only Paleo for miles (as far as I know :-).

Most meals are easier though. Cook some meat and veggies and then a side of white rice, pasta or bread for the SAD eaters. Hang in there. Dont worry about the others moving to Paleo. However on the days you cook for them their food can be a little bit healther then normal and they won't even notice.



on March 30, 2012
at 08:18 AM

I heard an interview with the author Charles Duhigg about his book The Power of Habit: Why We Do What We Do in Life and Business earlier this year and was riveted. I have not read the book myself yet, but it is on my list of books to read.

According to the author once a habit is formed you pretty much have to move heaven and earth to change it, it is just too exhausting to the mind to live so consciously and police every decision, which is one of the reasons (beyond straight up addiction or the lack of focus of ADHD) why you get the diabetic amputee munching on a candy bar, or the cigarette smoker with an oxygen tank. The mind just doesn't register the cognitive disconnect between what would be a healthier choice and what was decided years ago as an acceptable choice.

If you have been able to overcome that I want to give you a big pat on the back for putting in the work to get there, but please don't be disappointed in your fellow man for not being able to follow you on your path to health because not everyone has the strength to face that kind of change.



on March 30, 2012
at 05:10 AM

Kate - it's extremely hard to change people's minds and some would argue is not polite to attempt to. Maybe just lead by amazing example. Everyone I know who's gone paleo has people all around them asking what the secret is to their changes. The positive effects are undeniable and everyone will notice.

Also it's going to be hard and you won't survive without community reinforcing how important your choices are so stay active in online forums. They're popping up everywhere. There are some great ones on Facebook. Seek them out...make some paleo friends...it'll make all the difference for you.


on March 30, 2012
at 05:09 AM

Kate, that definitely makes it so much harder - but don't give up!

I was in the same situation, but then after about a year my housemate decided to try the whole30, with no intentions or expectations to continue. However, it went so well and he was so suprised by how good he felt, we are now a 100% Paleo household.

So don't give up hope that they will follow your good example.

In the meantime, can you make "replacements" that wouldn't impact them hugely, perhaps replacing no-fat milk with full fat, margarine with butter, seed oil with coconut oil?

If you're prepared to put in a lot of extra work, would you cook for them regularly? I made sure during my housemates whole30 we ate something different and amazing every day, not maintainable perhaps, but worth while to get over that first hurdle. It would surely be hard to have a pizza when someone had made you a home cooked meal.

Don't give up!


on March 30, 2012
at 11:27 AM

Make them some paleo pizza



on March 30, 2012
at 05:08 AM

Being leader often means, leading by example, rather than by exhortation. They have to see that you are healthy consistently and for long periods of time.

Drop subtle bombs. Get your VAP cholesterol tests and talk about how you are pattern A with high LDL and low triglycerids which presumably you are. Low fasting glucose (though paleos can get some insulin resistance). Get that awesome body. Be everything they know you shouldn't be. Let them see you eat butter and steak all the time, but ace every cholesterol/cbc/chemistry panel. Get them to come to you on this.

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