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Parents don't understand my new paleo lifestyle

Answered on August 19, 2014
Created July 26, 2012 at 12:40 AM

I'm 23, I love my parents and there are few things I disagree with them on. Recently though I've had a terrible realization there are some subjects I know more about than them. I grew up all my childhood struggling with obesity. It was frustrating because I'd be treated like it was my fault even though I was being stuffed with spaghetti and other "low fat" foods. When I was 19 I discovered I had celiac disease, and going gluten free was life-changing. It was like seeing in color for the first time. My anxiety, depression, and constant sicknesses went away. My weight even dropped significantly. I led my Dad to believe he had celiac too, and his life was turned upside down and I probably saved my parents marriage. He was becoming mentally and physically ill because of celiac until he went gluten free.

While I was a thousand times healthier, I was still not satisfied with just being "gluten free". I still felt like I was missing something. I still struggled with weight and I was not 100% energetic. I saw the movie "Fat Head" and I realized I was still doing it wrong. A month ago I went paleo and I now feel 100%. I am eating grass-fed meat and vegetables and I don't eat grains in any form. I avoid sugar like its Satan's crack. It has paid off a ton in only four weeks.

My parents don't understand why I make my diet so complicated now. I see it as simple, but they think I'm being exploited. Grass-fed meats? Come on! It's a cow, who cares if it eats corn! I'm being exploited by hippies, lobbyists, and environmentalists pushing an agenda. They say I'm being duped and being taken advantage of. I counter that hippies, lobbyists, and government officials push grain and corn as our staples and they tell us NOT to eat meat. If anything I'm doing the opposite of the hippie diet and paleo is more conservative than any other dietary lifestyle. My parents also get concerned for my cholesterol as I eat 4 eggs a day, beef with all the fat, and other "fattening" foods the USDA tells us not to eat.

I tell my parents that as anti-federal gov't, poltically conservative people they should question what the government tells us to eat. My parents are not healthy and can't even admit the truth to themselves. They think there is nothing wrong with HFCS but they won't eat rice because "it makes them feel bloated and sick". I try to highlight their own observations but they just can't get past the propaganda they were fed their entire life by the FDA and USDA.

Is there any hope with reasoning with them? How can I at least make them respect what I'm doing and not worry I'm getting exploited?

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on July 26, 2012
at 04:06 PM

Did it make your dreams interesting, Karin?

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on July 26, 2012
at 02:40 PM

The second part of my comment stands: don't give a crap what your parents think of your diet. My own think it's a little odd, but I eat the way I eat for myself and no one else.

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on July 26, 2012
at 01:48 PM

I tend to agree with most of the responses below. I'm 25 (living in Texas, too!) and my parents definitely didn't understand the transition when I made it. They looked at me like I was crazy. But 1 year later and my dad has started to live a more paleo lifestyle after seeing the wonderful changes in me. Just be an example for them and they will eventually see the light.

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on July 26, 2012
at 12:39 PM

I do live on my own and I have a good career. I live in Texas and my parents are in another state. My problem is when they visit me or I visit them they don't understand why I don't eat whats in their house.

32f5749fa6cf7adbeb0b0b031ba82b46

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on July 26, 2012
at 11:58 AM

I think the problem is being 23 and still living with your parents. Go out and live your own life, don't give a crap what your parents think of your diet of all things!

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on July 26, 2012
at 04:09 AM

Um...yeah. Almost time for bed too...that's gonna suck having that song stuck in a loop in my head.

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on July 26, 2012
at 04:02 AM

LOL Sorry :) It's the first thing I thought of when I saw the title.

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on July 26, 2012
at 03:17 AM

Well I didn't until just now dammit.

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41dfb1a4fecb38d24075ff52f13ccb28

on July 26, 2012
at 12:49 AM

You can't make people do anything. All you can do is be a shining example of how awesome it is. Lead by example.

That's really all you can do. I mean I'm now at the point where family members are asking me about recipes ("did you post that one yet? email me when you do!") when they used to just brush off what I was doing as just "A being weird again..."

That's really it man. 'You can lead a horse to water' and all that, ya know?

EDIT: And does anyone else have the Fresh Prince song stuck in their head now because of the title of this post? Or is that just me? :)

41dfb1a4fecb38d24075ff52f13ccb28

on July 26, 2012
at 04:02 AM

LOL Sorry :) It's the first thing I thought of when I saw the title.

A65499f2f8c65602881550fe309cd48c

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on July 26, 2012
at 04:09 AM

Um...yeah. Almost time for bed too...that's gonna suck having that song stuck in a loop in my head.

5457372e78a910c00cd1dd579ecbdce3

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on July 26, 2012
at 03:17 AM

Well I didn't until just now dammit.

61844af1187e745e09bb394cbd28cf23

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on July 26, 2012
at 04:06 PM

Did it make your dreams interesting, Karin?

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on July 26, 2012
at 01:35 AM

Wow RacerRex GOOD FOR YOU! I hope you are really proud of yourself, cuz you should be.

Maybe you and your parents can just agree to disagree. They may not change anymore than they have already. I can imagine that is frustrating and even worrying to you since you want your parents to be healthy but the reality is, they may not change. That said, they should not be disrespectful to you. I hope you can tell them you feel disrespected and come to some agreement.

I have children your age and I think its great how you are taking care of yourself.
Do you live with your parents? If so, it may be a lot easier once you move out. Maybe you can find some housemates with similar eating philosophies.

Hang in.

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on July 26, 2012
at 01:55 AM

Ask them to watch the movie "Fresh" with you. Joel Salatin & the filmmakers do a great job at showing how conventional meat animals are raised--and how it the future of sustainable agriculture could look. Entertaining and eye-opening for most folk.

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on July 26, 2012
at 01:28 AM

Have them watch the movie?

The cholesterol argument is theoretically quite easy. Get your bloodwork done regularly and show them the actual proof of what's happening.

As to the rest, what A said. Be an example and suffer through it is the best advice I've really ever seen for this. My parents don't understand either, but they're a continent away so I don't have this issue. :)

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on July 26, 2012
at 02:51 PM

Everyone wants to be understood. Hang with us. We get you man.

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on July 26, 2012
at 11:33 AM

Check out "The Men Who Made Us Fat" and "The Skinny On Obesity" (The 7 parter) on youtube. Those 2 series will give you pretty much all of the ammo you need to back yourself up on corn and sugar.

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61844af1187e745e09bb394cbd28cf23

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on July 26, 2012
at 04:19 PM

Try to learn to put them on ignore when they start in with your diet and repeat, "This is how I choose to eat. You do not have to agree with it, but I ask that you respect my decision." Say it often enough and they should either get it or tire of hearing it.

My mother gave me the whole "I could never do that" when I changed my eating habits. She did know that following the USDA's and ADA's guidelines for T2 diabetics was going to kill me because I could not get my glucose levels under control. However, she went on and on about how whole grains are healthy and necessary to overall body function; meat is meat and it doesn't matter what it's fed before it hits your plate; animal fat is bad but canola oil is good; etc, etc, etc.

Fast forward to a week or so ago, and I get a phone call inquiring about some of the recipes I've made that she enjoyed. A little digging and I find out that her labs came back and she is now labeled as pre-diabetic, among other issues. Hmmmm, I guess my noticeable weight loss and controlled glucose levels aren't so crazy after all.

Love your parents, respect that they are concerned for you, understand they have been brainwashed by governmental guidelines for a very long time, and live your life as you choose, to the best of your ability.

I must also add that I am going to work "Satan's crack" into a conversation today.

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