So I've been trying to lose weight, well.. my whole life. A friend of mine told me I should read the Gary Taubes book, "Why we get fat", and I've been reading paleo websites since and everything makes sense. But I'm a college student, still live with my mom (who is also trying to lose weight) and... I've tried to explain to her some of Taubes' explanations. She immediately said "that sounds like Atkins" and totally dismissed the idea on the grounds that low-carb diets are unhealthy and will clog your arteries. At that point I didn't really feel like getting into any paradigm shifting arguments. I hate picking fights since we can both get ~emotional~ about things.
She seems to tolerate the fact that I don't want to eat grain anymore (It was hard to convince her that humans didn't eat grain for most of their existance because she's a moderate Christian and is not sure about evolution ghdkasf), because I mentioned that gluten intolerance can be linked to ADHD, which I have and am pretty sick of. Everyone knows excess sugar is bad and so I'm left with... vegetables, tubers, and fruit I guess, not so bad (potatoes take so long to make that only I really do so, and fruit is easy to limit). But it doesn't solve the problem of... how will I get enough fat?
I have a bit of income and can buy/prepare my own food, but it doesn't help with the inevitable question "hey, why is the freezer so full of meat? You shouldn't eat that much red meat!" and then having to try to explain that animal fat is not the monster it's made out to be and the faulty research that the lipid hypothesis is based on etc
Sure, I could wait four years until I'm (hopefully) legitimately employed and living on my own, but I also feel like if there is any time to get in better health it's in college-- one less thing to worry about among studying and trying to focus on reading, ugh. I also feel like if I can stick with it for a few months and reap all these results I've been hearing about like weight loss, better mood/energy, clearer mind, those results will speak for themselves but... how to get there?
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on November 02, 2011
at 11:10 PM
I was definitely an Atkins-phobe. I had a few friends try it in the 90s and it seemed like total lunacy to me. However, reading Gary Taubes's book--even though it has its flaws--really helped me see the light on the flaws of lipid hypothesis and that made me much more open to a higher fat diet. I'm still not sold on the VLC diet. I tried it briefly and felt terrible, but I know it works for others. I do well on a Paleo meets WAPF diet.
My point here is that you might ask your mother if she would be willing to read Taubes's book. It doesn't have any ancestral references that would be in conflict with her religious beliefs. She may never decide to go paleo, but she may be less meat-phobic.
Another option would be to come at her from a WAPF angle. They are more about traditional diets, but the end result is pretty similar. If you think she might be more open to that, see if she would be willing to read Nourishing Traditions. They don't demonize grains--so long as they are properly prepared--but they are very pro-healthy fats and meats.
If she's not open at all to either of these approaches you may just have to agree to disagree. Sit down with her and tell her this is something you want to try for a while and you are willing to purchase the supplemental food (meats, fats, etc.), but you don't want it to be a bone of contention.
on November 02, 2011
at 11:06 PM
As a parent whose child was out-and-in my place from age 17 to 38, it boils down to ... who paid for the food under discussion? If parents buy, you eat what they buy or get your own. If they buy theirs and you buy/fix yours, it's just a friendly discussion but parents must be forgiven for loving their grown kids and worrying about them. Even if what they "know" is equivalent to the earth being flat they're coming from a loving intent.
on November 02, 2011
at 11:25 PM
A compromise could be eating fish, shellfish, chicken, and eggs, with infrequent red meat. Everyone "knows" chicken and fish are healthy; maybe she'd be more open to a freezer filled with non-red meats?
Coconut oil would be a way to get saturated fat without looking as frightening as a slab of fatty steak.
on November 02, 2011
at 11:36 PM
is she just nagging u or forbidding u? like would she throw out the red meat/fat u put into the fridge?
establish ur rights; it's ur food u paid for it. it's ur health and no one has rights over it and u have the right (and now the knowledge as well) to make an informed choice. ur mom means well; she doesn't want to see u get sick and die - appreciate the sentiment, but don't let it hinder u (or worse, letting it snowball into some sort of degenerate disease in the future).
u don't need to convince her to do it urself. but if u still wanna convince ur mom, go to the blog "mark's daily apple" and look through the friday success stories and those have pictures and very short reads for ur mom.
getting fat in diet: whole cow milk (raw if possible and if not intolerant), whole goat milk, real heavy cream (with no filler of any kind), butter, ghee (youtube, make ur own), coconut oil (the good stuff is really expensive though), rendering ur own lard (got a farmer's market near u? ask for leaf lard and then youtube), raw pastured/free-ranged egg yolks (and i do mean raw, research it). also read "the skinny on fats", can find it online here:
there's also pork belly, as in what bacon is made of. but be warned that most packaged bacons are loaded with stuff ("cured" is it?). real food shouldn't come with an "ingredient list". go find the whole pieces of pork belly to buy (i go to a chinese place cuz that's the only way they sell it). and pork belly is so high in fat to protein ratio, eating some everyday will help out alot on balancing enough fat into ur diet (don't get rabbit starvation).
also, try fitday.com if u'r not sure how much of fat/protein/carb u'r consuming. u input the food items and amount u eat daily and it breaks it down for u.
i tried to be as accurate from my knowledge base as possible, but probably best that u do more research as u go along :)) good luck