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so in 3 months i lose my youth forever- how do i deal with it?

Answered on August 19, 2014
Created February 27, 2013 at 5:59 AM

so in almost 3 months, ill be turning 21. m true youth is over forever, along with the opportunities that go along with it.

i always had plans to rise up since i was 18. i planned on launching the hard rock revolution and rising to superfame, and using my wealth and fame to promote transhumanism and the develop of radical life exension technologies.

ive completey wasted and missed out of youth. that magical 18-20 age range is gone forever with nothing to show for it.

what i think i regret the most was missing out on the girls... the college partying experiencing and hooking up is supposed to be the golden age of life, thats gone forever. obviously im still a 100% virgin. its like whenever i walk past a hot girl jogginf or at the gym, i just cant stand how ive missed out. ive just sort of taught myself to pretend sex doesnt exist, so i forget about it. luckily i never get hit on so i never have to worry about it. sometimes i go down to UCLA or USC (i live in L.A) and jusdt walk around...i cant help but feel like i really missed out not going to college and pursuing this idiotic dream of being famous instead

sometimes, i just cant believe that this is really how things turned out. this just doesnt seem possible, like its not real life and one day ill hit the reset button and go back to 18. like, my youth was supposed to be filled with hooking up with girls and parties and being cool and getting famous. not this...this isnt how it was supposed to be

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on March 01, 2013
at 03:47 PM

I guess it doesn't seem important because I don't envision myself getting a great deal of enjoyment out of an intimate relationship. I like my time alone, and things my way. As far as sex, there is always masturbation. Even then I go long periods without caring about masturbation either.

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on February 27, 2013
at 09:22 PM

In that case it seems unlikely the cause is physiological. I would now turn my attention to possible cognitive causes, most likely related either to your identity or the sorts of attitudes your family and friends and others around you had while you were growing up. For what reason does it not seem important? For me in the past it seemed unimportant because I thought 'anyone can do that, I'm interested in more eminent pursuits', which for me was pursuing greatness in intellectual endeavors (my interests are linguistics, economics, etc). Only later did I realize my mistake.

33266cca338ab54cee9a2aa160f5bdb6

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on February 27, 2013
at 08:50 PM

How would I know if I have low libido? I definitely wake up with/get erections, encounter females in my dreams, etc. The idea of sex is appealing but it just doesn't seem "important" I suppose. What could this mean?

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on February 27, 2013
at 06:04 PM

Look into possible physiological causes for low libido. It's possible you just have other priorities at this time that make you feel good and fulfilled, but at the same time I should mention that there are few things I would consider a larger red flag for one's health than low libido / low romantic interest.

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on February 27, 2013
at 12:19 PM

I agree Matt. You guys all need someone to tell you that the 20s are better than the teens, and the 30s better than the 20s, and the 40s better than the 30s.... if you stay strong and healthy. Really, up until you are about 70 (or 60 if you are not healthy) each decade is an improvement upon the past one. Holy cow, 18-21 was probably the WORST 3 years of my life.

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on February 27, 2013
at 12:04 PM

Why is there a steady stream of younguns coming to PH ask to ponder why they're doomed at 21? Or is it just an elaborate trolling...

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on February 27, 2013
at 11:42 AM

-1 for whining. -2 (if only I could) for not giving us the particulars of the epic fail that is your life .

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on February 27, 2013
at 11:32 AM

Maybe you're asexual, a repressed non-'heterosexual', or just have other priorities!

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on February 27, 2013
at 06:33 AM

so the men who care about stupid shit like "radical life extension" are the ones who dont get laid. lol who knew! xD

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on February 27, 2013
at 06:23 AM

fuck a duck .

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7cf9f5b08a41ecf2a2d2bc0b31ea6fa0

on February 27, 2013
at 12:00 PM

What a fucking moron you are

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on September 07, 2013
at 12:44 AM

So you intend to spend the next 50+ years regretting the 3 that didn't go quite as you planned? Wow!

At 21 you still have plenty of time to party, meet girls, and do whatever you like! Just cos your life isn't like all those college movies doesn't mean you lost out... In fact whatever you do/did its better cos its REAL! Don't regret the past, its done and can't be changed while the present and future can be anything you want :)

And I'm still enjoying my 'youth' at the ripe old age of 32 ;)

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on February 27, 2013
at 09:39 AM

If you fell down yesterday, stand up today. H. G. Wells

Stop thinking about yesterday and focus on today but don't forget to dream about tomorrow. You're only 21. That seems massive to you but with each passing year, they will get bigger and bigger if you let it. What is age but the passing of time? What is time but simply a dimension. Didn't anyone ever tell you size doesn't matter?

Quit freaking out and take life by the balls. Live it or lose it.

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33266cca338ab54cee9a2aa160f5bdb6

on February 27, 2013
at 06:16 AM

My age and life circumstances are just like yours. I really don't see what the issue is. Just fulfill your desires and there is no reason to feel like your life is lacking. If you aren't fulfilling them, work toward that.

Why do you feel that your life should be anything? What is it that you want in life? Is it sex or to have what "everyone else" has?

I just don't think much about girls, I must be weird.

33266cca338ab54cee9a2aa160f5bdb6

(502)

on March 01, 2013
at 03:47 PM

I guess it doesn't seem important because I don't envision myself getting a great deal of enjoyment out of an intimate relationship. I like my time alone, and things my way. As far as sex, there is always masturbation. Even then I go long periods without caring about masturbation either.

5bd7f43c7da83282bcb78e3aa33832e0

(266)

on February 27, 2013
at 09:22 PM

In that case it seems unlikely the cause is physiological. I would now turn my attention to possible cognitive causes, most likely related either to your identity or the sorts of attitudes your family and friends and others around you had while you were growing up. For what reason does it not seem important? For me in the past it seemed unimportant because I thought 'anyone can do that, I'm interested in more eminent pursuits', which for me was pursuing greatness in intellectual endeavors (my interests are linguistics, economics, etc). Only later did I realize my mistake.

Eed7dabde3d61910685845e04605267f

(2934)

on February 27, 2013
at 11:32 AM

Maybe you're asexual, a repressed non-'heterosexual', or just have other priorities!

5bd7f43c7da83282bcb78e3aa33832e0

(266)

on February 27, 2013
at 06:04 PM

Look into possible physiological causes for low libido. It's possible you just have other priorities at this time that make you feel good and fulfilled, but at the same time I should mention that there are few things I would consider a larger red flag for one's health than low libido / low romantic interest.

33266cca338ab54cee9a2aa160f5bdb6

(502)

on February 27, 2013
at 08:50 PM

How would I know if I have low libido? I definitely wake up with/get erections, encounter females in my dreams, etc. The idea of sex is appealing but it just doesn't seem "important" I suppose. What could this mean?

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