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Paleo Manifesto re: Children What should we do as new parents?

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Created August 31, 2011 at 11:06 AM

Hello

I've had enough of people undermining our efforts to paleoise our children. I've decided that I would write a manifesto to give to grandparents and other unconvinced interfering relatives. What I would love are some compelling stats, you know, the stats that made you cringe and feel like you had murdered yourself everyday before finding paleo.

For examples, Robb Wolf recently tweeted that eliminating dairy has shown to reduce the likelihood of childhood ear-infections by 70%. Those are the kind of stats I want to rub into their dirty-sugar-all-over-the-lips faces

If you can quote some research with statistics and cite the sources, my family would be forever grateful.

Thanks

F3e312545761ab663e37e6c2d5c831ea

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on September 07, 2011
at 03:20 PM

Oh good, happy to help. Let me know what you come up with!

7cab5a1f1fd48c3cc4938ab824fdb52e

on September 01, 2011
at 02:55 PM

I do believe that when children are old enough, they will make healthy choices on their own. My son is 3 and we are in the process of changing his diet to Paleo. We were at my mom's house this weekend, he said he was thirsty. My mom said Ill get you some Kool-Aid, I said uhhh and gave her the look. She said but its Sugar Free, I hardened my look, and said water will probably be fine. At this my son jumped up and shouted YEAH WATER!!! I was so happy.

7e746be2f0e550a8cd7df881322ae705

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on September 01, 2011
at 02:17 AM

I've talked about it here before, but my problem is my MIL will agree with you 100% and then do whatever the hell she wants. My husband will not put his foot down either, especially because he doesn't agree with my food choices anyway. It makes things tough.

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on September 01, 2011
at 12:26 AM

Wish I could upvote your comment twice Happy Now.

6120c989fd5b69f42a0834b69b87955b

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on August 31, 2011
at 11:57 PM

I think every time I've written a manifesto I've ended up looking like the crazy person even if I had all my facts right.

8d2921e736352c02b78b64d6805c4125

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on August 31, 2011
at 10:25 PM

"I tell eveyone to spoil him with love and affection and leave the treats up to us" <-- That's gold, I'm using that, thanks!

8d2921e736352c02b78b64d6805c4125

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on August 31, 2011
at 10:23 PM

That's exactly what I was after, thanks.

Ed71ab1c75c6a9bd217a599db0a3e117

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on August 31, 2011
at 10:05 PM

Plus one.........by the way. Your welcome for the edit. You must be mindful of the rules. I have been burned several times for coloring outside the lines.

Ed71ab1c75c6a9bd217a599db0a3e117

(25477)

on August 31, 2011
at 10:03 PM

If you decide to fuck up mother nature.......shame on you. This is God or evolution showing you the way. God if you buy that jazz and evolution if you its jazz. Dealers choice......whatever lowers your cortisol best i say.

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on August 31, 2011
at 08:11 PM

Hey Melissa! I'm pretty matter-of-fact with everyone regarding our little guy. I tell eveyone to spoil him with love and affection and leave the treats up to us (of course I'm ok with the occasional ice cream with grandpa etc. but beyond that i'm pretty firm). @Nemesis - fair enough - but as a parent I really believe that no one should undermine what I am doing - I have made educated and informed choices regarding our son and I excpect family memebers and friends to respect them

7e746be2f0e550a8cd7df881322ae705

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on August 31, 2011
at 06:36 PM

PLEASE COME TALK TO MY MIL BREE.

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on August 31, 2011
at 06:18 PM

I don't know if there's a statistic or study that will change their minds if they're already made up and not open to suggestions. If they know how you wish to feed your children and deliberately undermine that, that isn't a paleo issue, it's a family dynamics issue and it shows a fundamental disrespect for you and your ability to parent your children. I agree with Bree- if they refuse to respect your wishes, they shouldn't be allowed unsupervised access to the kids.

1d0497f8781845ab371b479455bfee8e

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on August 31, 2011
at 05:53 PM

You could apply the same arguments to vegan parenting, and that's not the healthiest diet for kids yet is also very exclusionary.

1d0497f8781845ab371b479455bfee8e

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on August 31, 2011
at 05:52 PM

Just point out how fat they and their kids are. That should shut them up.

1d0497f8781845ab371b479455bfee8e

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on August 31, 2011
at 05:52 PM

Just point out how fat they and their kids are. 'Nuff said.

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on August 31, 2011
at 01:36 PM

Rephrase this as a question please or I will delete it.

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on August 31, 2011
at 12:17 PM

Will that convince your relatives?

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on August 31, 2011
at 11:51 AM

I don't see the problem if your relatives give your kids the occasional non paleo treat? If the kids are always with the relatives and always have access to the non paleo foods that's a different story tho.

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D2e6eb2ab91f5e11589cf34b44b8e4cd

on August 31, 2011
at 12:48 PM

I treat it like an "allergy." They bring a special snack to Church (no goldfish for them!) We have an allergy chart up in their Sunday school class and my daughters are on it as "no grains no sugars." My mother law was sneaking them kit kat bars when she babysat. My husband gets mad and yells at her, so she stopped! My husband and I are in great shape and no health issues. My kids are really healthy now. My oldest daughter's allergies completely went away, so I will bring that up. No more Nasonex! I just start telling them how we are rarely sick, have lots of energy, ect. If they say-kids need treats! I say-I can bake a mean Paleo pumpkin muffin ;)

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on August 31, 2011
at 04:21 PM

This one for me is quite simple - if you can't play by our rules...go play in your own sandbox!

I'm not saying don't let them have access to your children at all; however, limit the access that is one on one until they can get on board with your wishes.

In my opinion no one should try to undermine your choices as a parent, regardless of what they are. This applies to diet, lifestyle and discipline. You are the parent - you are making the right choice. PERIOD!

7e746be2f0e550a8cd7df881322ae705

(18701)

on August 31, 2011
at 06:36 PM

PLEASE COME TALK TO MY MIL BREE.

Medium avatar

(12379)

on August 31, 2011
at 08:11 PM

Hey Melissa! I'm pretty matter-of-fact with everyone regarding our little guy. I tell eveyone to spoil him with love and affection and leave the treats up to us (of course I'm ok with the occasional ice cream with grandpa etc. but beyond that i'm pretty firm). @Nemesis - fair enough - but as a parent I really believe that no one should undermine what I am doing - I have made educated and informed choices regarding our son and I excpect family memebers and friends to respect them

7e746be2f0e550a8cd7df881322ae705

(18701)

on September 01, 2011
at 02:17 AM

I've talked about it here before, but my problem is my MIL will agree with you 100% and then do whatever the hell she wants. My husband will not put his foot down either, especially because he doesn't agree with my food choices anyway. It makes things tough.

1d0497f8781845ab371b479455bfee8e

(11157)

on August 31, 2011
at 05:53 PM

You could apply the same arguments to vegan parenting, and that's not the healthiest diet for kids yet is also very exclusionary.

7cab5a1f1fd48c3cc4938ab824fdb52e

on September 01, 2011
at 02:55 PM

I do believe that when children are old enough, they will make healthy choices on their own. My son is 3 and we are in the process of changing his diet to Paleo. We were at my mom's house this weekend, he said he was thirsty. My mom said Ill get you some Kool-Aid, I said uhhh and gave her the look. She said but its Sugar Free, I hardened my look, and said water will probably be fine. At this my son jumped up and shouted YEAH WATER!!! I was so happy.

8d2921e736352c02b78b64d6805c4125

(25)

on August 31, 2011
at 10:25 PM

"I tell eveyone to spoil him with love and affection and leave the treats up to us" <-- That's gold, I'm using that, thanks!

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on August 31, 2011
at 06:32 PM

I think that writing and delivering a "manifesto" (if this is in fact the plan) might not go over so well.

It seems a little passive aggressive and reminds me of times when someone has left me a note telling me to do something or other without ever bothering to have an honest conversation or confrontation with me (which I much prefer).

The bottom line is that you are the parent and ultimately have the final say as far as your children are concerned. If you and your spouse are in agreement about how your children should be fed and cared for, then sit down with your inlaws/relatives and let them know without judging/condemning them.

Where the undermining situations are occurring also make a difference. Is it during family gatherings? Are you inlaws babysitting on a regular basis? It can ultimately be harmful if you never allow your children to enjoy a non-paleo food on special occasions just as it can be harmful if they are constantly being fed sugar and other junk foods.

Trying to "prove" them wrong with research and information is a battle that you lose before you even begin, but asking them to respect your right to raise your children in a particular way seems perfectly reasonable.

Medium avatar

(19469)

on September 01, 2011
at 12:26 AM

Wish I could upvote your comment twice Happy Now.

6120c989fd5b69f42a0834b69b87955b

(24553)

on August 31, 2011
at 11:57 PM

I think every time I've written a manifesto I've ended up looking like the crazy person even if I had all my facts right.

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8d2921e736352c02b78b64d6805c4125

(25)

on August 31, 2011
at 10:23 PM

That's exactly what I was after, thanks.

F3e312545761ab663e37e6c2d5c831ea

(1049)

on September 07, 2011
at 03:20 PM

Oh good, happy to help. Let me know what you come up with!

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Ed71ab1c75c6a9bd217a599db0a3e117

(25477)

on August 31, 2011
at 09:56 PM

Children are born paleo......a mother's breast milk is 54% saturated fat. Enough said. If she choose not to feed it to them......epigenetics will make her pay for that decision in her own cortisol level being elevated big time for a lifetime.

Ed71ab1c75c6a9bd217a599db0a3e117

(25477)

on August 31, 2011
at 10:03 PM

If you decide to fuck up mother nature.......shame on you. This is God or evolution showing you the way. God if you buy that jazz and evolution if you its jazz. Dealers choice......whatever lowers your cortisol best i say.

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7d64d3988de1b0e493aacf37843c5596

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on August 31, 2011
at 01:57 PM

I???m fairly pessimistic about this sort of thing doing much good. Even Conventional Wisdom says sugar is bad, but daycares are full of it. With my own relatives we even have to fight them to not to give our 3 year old caffeineted beverages. You just have to lay down the law.

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