I feel bad if I don't do it.
I perform worse if I don't do it.
I look worse if I don't do it.
I'm lucky. For me, it's as easy as a before picture, an after a year picture, and then a DAAAAAMN from whoever I'm talking to. No one can argue with results.
I give weight loss talks and a friend told me to stop talking low carb bc it turns people off. I had to say, "Too bad. Look at me. Look at them."
I try really hard to keep my eating habits a secret.
I think there are those that readily take to paleo because it's obvious and those who will never do it because it's different. When I first heard about it, I felt embarrassed that I hadn't thought of eating in a way that is consistent with evolution a long time ago. I was trying to address reactive hypoglycemia issues with whole wheat and couldn't figure out why it wasn't working.
If someone doesn't have any perceptible symptoms and they are at their desired bodyweight, don't expect to get through to them, but when SHTF they'll come sniffing around.
I have found that no matter what one is talking about, if it differs from what others think to be true or from what they put into practice, they will become defensive. No matter how nice you say "I eat real foods intended for humans," you might as well be saying, "you eat junk not intended for humans." I have encountered this so many times and the debate begins. It is in our nature when someone states something they believe or know to be true, even if you slant it as in your experience, you are still saying they are not making the right decisions or doing something right. Hence, eye rolls or sometimes genuine interest that can change someone's life.
"A man convinced against his will is of the same opinion still" - there's no use arguing or defending my diet because those who are skeptical are probably going to continue feeling that way. The changes in my body and my health should be enough to convince them and if they aren't - then nothing is going to change their minds.
My changes, so far, aren't all that dramatic so people tend to ignore whatever I have to say. Thankfully, I've pestered my mom enough to get her off statins and onto the Paleo bandwagon and that's all that really matters to me. Everyone else can eat shi*t for all I care.
I'm lucky in that there are four other co-workers in my office who have lost tremendous amounts of weight and seen dramatic improvements in their health. We are called "the diet cult" but it's hard to ignore the benefits of our dietary changes. I think just being the example is the best testimony. Those who really want to change and learn will pick up on that.
For others, yah, I just say, eating that makes me feel like crap.
Bear in mind the crucial distinction between Map and Territory. Map is the word "Paleo" which of course refers to an approach to eating (and exercise). Territory is what the approach actually consists of: meat, fish, vegetables, fruits, nuts, certain herbs and spices.
Now, how hard is it to explain to anybody why you like the items on the list, why you eat those items? Maybe gets a bit harder to explain why you don't eat other certain things, specifically grain stuff.
There, too: why even mention "grain" as a category to people who, likely, will think you're nuts, or a cultist, for pursuing such a "radical" dietary path? Trying to "explain" Paleo is really about justifying, or trying to justify, a particular Map (concept, paradigm, theory).
I always try to evaluate to whom I am actually, specifically, speaking in a particular conversation. How open are they to new information? How closed, how reactive, etc.?
The older I get, the more it occurs to me that efforts to "explain why" are generally a sign that I've embarked down an unproductive conversational venue.
To whom, and why, do I feel the need to explain "why" in any given situation? If it's someone who has expressed openness to new possibilities, I go for it.
Otherwise, who's got the time for it? Not me.
Read Thomas Kuhn on paradigms and how they shift. Headline: paradigms almost never shift because people who hold to a given paradigm decide to change their mind in the face of new evidence. Because the evidence that holds true in one paradigm doesn't really even "show up" to people who hold another paradigm.
In health terms, usually people who shift paradigms do so because too many anomalies build up in their lives, namely myriad health problems that are "supposed" to be the result of doing the "right" things like: low fat and high carbs. In short, people get sick and want to get well.
This of course isn't universally true. Sometimes people who are well explore health matters in order to STAY well. As with many others here, I approached Paleo the way I've been approaching health-and-fitness stuff since my 20s: trying to evaluating all the claims related to how to keep thriving. After 50 or so, the same question continues, though the search term seems to change to "healthy longevity."
Thus I find myself exploring the Territory called Paleo.
hehe well in my case I am a mother of a toddler who eats paleo and there for has energy in leaps and bounds, and a 3 month old. Eating Paleo gives me the energy, clear thinking and general health to keep up with them. Plus Im sure the paleo diet is to be credited to actually being able to conceive and keep this last pregnancy and remain healthy and energetic throughout. I tend not to waste my time debating, if they don't want to hear what I have to say then I don't need to waste my tine explaining my life choices. If they do want to hear about it I explain what it has done for both my family and myself health wise. I explain the benefits and the basics behind the theory and that it has done wonders for us.
i want to live long. i want to live with minimal pain. i want to die like animals in the wild who are lucky to get to old age- quick and quiet.
I start out with the phrase..."in my experience..." before I say why. That way it's subjective to me and they back off a little.
Oh we all have our quirks, this is one of mine
I don't need to justify my choices to strangers and I have found not trying makes us both happier
i gave up trying to debate it. my roommates all ask why i eat like i do(real food..) and why i can and do eat so much food(i eat a lot...lol).
one- i tell them i am trying to gain my fertility back(hence copious food) two- i tell them i think real food is meant for the human body
then they ask questions. why isnt wheat real food...i link them to PHD's series...
they ask what is real food...i link them to Kurt's Archevore...
then they want tot try it. so i get home from work and am exasperated by 5 people who 'ate like me today!!!'... THEN THEY SAY THEY ATE ROASTED CHICKEN BREASTS AND STEAM SPINACH... wtf... then they all drank a bottle of wine each...
this is why i try to do everything in my power to NOT talk about my diet. i can give people the resources, they can read, and they can interpret it as they may. i get some hideous anxiety(actually had a panic attack the other night after feeling so bad giving the links and people interpreting it wrong) when i am around people trying to lose weight or diet who talk about it 24/7. besides i get annoyed theyre usually starving, hence the food thoughts & talk, they just dont get it. it is so flippin easy, just eat real food, but no one seems to interpret it right
If I don't feel the person is likely to be receptive to the full reasons, "Because I found that a lot of foods make me really gassy and uncomfortable." True and accurate. Purely subjective, so they can't really argue with it. Doesn't put them on the defensive about their own food choices. Doesn't have the fad association of "gluten sensitivity". Is TMI enough that it discourages further questions, without being off the Bristol Stool Scale TMI deep end.
"My breastfeeding baby has crying fits, rashes, and mucousy poop when I eat x" works similarly.
I just tell people I have a gluten allergy and most just go "oh that sucks" and thats about it. If you try to explain it things tend to go back and forth for awhile. Lots of conventional wisdom vs. science/itjustworks!
If I sense that someone isn't open to a real open -minded discussion , I tend to just say that I have a lot of food allergies. That leaves nothing to argue with(and it's true).
I tell them I really don't care if the Paleo Diet is "true." I have never felt better in my life.
I explain why I do it, why I feel that it's the best way of eating for me, but I make sure not to "bash" their way of eating. I do, however, say that processed foods are unhealthy no matter what your food belief system is. No one can argue that or find it offensive!
The concept made enough sense for me to try it. I tried it, and lost a lot of weight fairly easily. Period.
I take a little different tack. I say that there are cracks in the foundation of modern nutritional thought and then send them to look at the following three links.
The first is Gary Taubes and Andrew Weil on the Larry King show - http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=aoQGRJqGQTs
The second is an article by Andrew Weil in the Huffington Post about the Heart Attack Grill in Phoenix - http://www.huffingtonpost.com/andrew-weil-md/healthy-eating_b_629422.html
I use Andrew Weil for the opener because most people are familiar with him and he was a low-fat, veggie kinda guy. Was.
I then send them to Tim Noughton's 5-part Fat Fiasco on Youtube, each about a dozen minutes long - http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=exi7O1li_wA
It helps to lay groundwork before any serious discussion takes place otherwise you will be hounded with parrotted propaganda and endless parries and thrusts. If they don't look at them, end of conversation.
If people ask, I tell them "I feel *@#$#@ing awesome this way.
If they ask for more details, I talk about gluten intolerance, ancesterally based eating for my health, and improving my life/health without the use of drugs. Most people get it when I tell them I want to be mobile and not suffering from a degenerative disease later in life.
I did have one person give me really weird looks this last week after describing my diet, but it turns out she's a vegan...so I'm not worried about that.
It is hard that's for sure, I have a friend who I managed to get her to back off me when I told her it was to help me heal and that this was best for me. However that same friend takes every opportunity to 'taunt' the issue with snyde remarks like "on her diet she can eat all the bacon she wants" ...etc. My retorts are only comments like, "as long as its whole clean organic foods and comes from grass fed happy animals, its good!"
beyond that I wont engage. It depends on the person, some are more debative than others, it doesn't always end well to engage them because they simply are trying to goat you into a corner, not expand their minds. At least in my experience.
someone who wants to listen, consider and later research is another story completely. I often here that most people assume I'm a vegetarian, which I so am not!
By framing it as food sensitivity leading to nutritional journey. I don't preach, I just explain that it's what's best for me, and that I've found a large/growing community that feels the same.
I also keep a copy of Kendrick's 'The Great Cholesterol Con' on my desk, which has spurred some conversations.
Because I did some genetic testing and found out that I carry the Ancestral Allele (Apo E4), and don't carry the mutation necessary to eat an agrarian diet without keeling over prematurely.
To start with, calling someone else's diet a myth will start a debate. Guaranteed. And making such a hostile opening comment is like trying to convert someone at gunpoint.
Instead of that, why not talk about the good old days? How things were and how they've changed for the worse. And what you've done personally to fix your problem.
I used to get angry a lot. Calling my ex-boss a parrot wasn't the smartest thing to do even though it was true. Use your head and remember that you can't fix other people's problems. You can only fix your own.