14 year old girl, 5'3", 150 pounds. Started paleo initially to lose weight and to feel better.
I've been fully paleo for about 4 days (not long, I know) and it was hard. Because I couldn't eat as much as I wanted because of the fat-phobic, calorie counting mother. (she is trying to help but she's still scared of saturated fats) And we were away from home, with family. So of course, it was junk food galore. Cake and ice cream everywhere, homemade biscuits and lindt chocolate. They were eating that while I was stuck eating my measly turkey salad (was lean turkey too, my mum won't buy fatty meats cos she doesn't like them) but I resisted.
This morning though, I felt so miserable. I had my bacon and eggs (breakfast is the only time I can get good quality fats in) and when I got to school, I just felt so bad. I didn't want to talk, and I was very close to tears all morning. I had to really bite my lip when I saw all the skinny girls eating chocolate bars and I'm eating turkey salad and I exercise and I'm still fat.
However, I got over it at lunch, after I had some fruit. I still felt miserable all day though, but I was talking to my friends whereas before I just wanted to sleep for ages. I know that sounds dramatic, but that's honestly how I felt!
I came home and had some cheese and my mood is a little better now.
I'm just wondering, what is it? Could it be not enough calories, or fat? Or is my body just getting used to paleo ways? Right now I'm eating 2 bacon and 3 eggs (scrambled with 30g of butter) for breakfast, a salad for lunch (which is pitifully small - one breast of a chicken ((which is really dry and I hate it)) or turkey, one salmon fillet or 2 tins of tuna with a handful of lettuce and 6 or 7 nuts) maybe some fruit, and meat and veg for tea. The meat is usually lean though i'm trying to persuade my mum to buy fatty meats. Hopefully we'll be able to get coconut oil at the weekend too.
I'm also going to start doing sprints 3x a week. I've stopped cycling for now cos I can't bear to cycle when i feel so overweight.
This sounds stupid, but will my mood improve? I still feel a little miserable but nowhere near as bad as this morning. And do you think I'll lose weight? I could definitely eat a lot more but I'm not allowed.
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on November 05, 2012
at 07:54 PM
Congrats on resisting all the junk food, that's half the battle!
You could be eating not enough carb for energy. Unless you're really committed to it, I wouldn't try to go very low carb right away...try just moderate-to-low carb for a bit and give your body a chance to adjust and see how that works for weight loss -- you can always go lower carb later if you stall. Would agree w/ adding potatoes, and use plenty of butter to make up for the lean meats.
And it is hard to tell if you're taking in enough calories. Have you tried entering a daily menu into a tracker like Fitday? Might be worth a shot.
on November 05, 2012
at 06:36 PM
Sounds like you might need some carbs to up your energy. Maybe add some sweet potato or root veggies? You can still avoid white potatoes and get some energy from plantains, yams, sweet potatoes, taro, etc.
on January 23, 2013
at 10:43 AM
Absolutely big congratulations on resisting the temptations around you; I've been paleo for a few months now and I can assure you that's a massive win on your part, not sure I could have done it, particularly so early on! I agree, mums can be very difficult when you're trying new things but as Nathan says, ypur mum just wants the best for you and only knows the conventional wisdom.
Don't worry about being overweight, I was very much overweight when I was 14 and then it all just fell off as I got older but there were many miserable years in between. You'll get through this and going paleo/making good food choices is the first step! There's been quite a bit of time between now and when you asked that question; how are things now with you? I agree with most here in that increase the carbs and let your body get used to not being on a SAD diet. Also, for your salads adding lots of oil (I like olive and walnut oils), cheese, olives and/or avocado is a good way of adding healthy fat to your diet. Again with dinner, eating lots of butter with your lean meals maybe a way of getting around your mother.
I'd be very interested to know how you're getting on!
on January 22, 2013
at 06:29 PM
I agree with everyone telling you to add more carbs. Olive oil is also a good fat that even people raised on standard dietary advice are usually OK with.
I also think that it's very psychological. Feeling deprived is depressing. Feeling isolated for what you eat is depressing. Looking at food you want and feeling like you can never have it again is super depressing. It's perfectly normal and OK to feel terrible because of this, especially when you're so young and especially when you're still getting used to it. I work in an office, and when Coworker A has chocolate ice cream for lunch and Coworker B brings in a delicious-smelling sandwich, sometimes I also feel like so miserable and lonely and isolated and like I'm going to cry all afternoon. So don't feel as though you're abnormal or strange at all for this; it's very natural and it's very hard to deal with and I'm sorry you have to go through this :( The good news is that it gets better with time, if you can stick it out for a few weeks of transition.
I don't know what your situation is, but would it help if you learned to cook? Then you could make some of your own meals and make something more interesting than that salad for lunch (that sounds super unappetizing to me and I usually love salad). Or at least throw some different veggies in there: red/green/yellow peppers, spinach instead of lettuce, arugula or other greens for a different kind of taste, etc.
on January 22, 2013
at 05:33 PM
Try eating a salad with the following. Quinoa, 1/2 and avacado slices, red onion, tomatoes, evoo and vinegar. Choose a protein (chicken, fish, tofu, etc). Try to remember good fats are good for you. Also, you need to eat more often when changing diets. You need to try and bring fruits to school with you. In between classes, eat some fruit or a few carrots or some of the suggested nuts that are allowed on paleo.
My second opinion. Love yourself. You're saying derogatory things to yourself. Calling yourself fat, envying girls who you think look better than yourself. Stop it. Stand in front of the mirror every day and tell yourself you are beautiful, because you are and you need to believe that. Once you start to believe you are beautiful and wonderful and worthy of love, you will feel the drive to take care of yourself. You don't need to diet, you need to be healthy because you love yourself and you want a long, healthy, and happy life. Being thin will not solve your problems. Having the mentality that you need to be thin will only create problems and low self esteem. Eat healthy, exercise, listen to your body and feed it when it says and stop when it says, and the rest will follow. Good luck darling, remember, life is short. Do not waste it comparing yourself to others and wishing you were something you aren't. Believe me, it's not worth it.
on November 05, 2012
at 07:55 PM
Sounds to me like you have two things going on, 1) You're working your way through the carb flu and 2) I've never experienced this myself but I've heard others mention that they feel depressed on a low fat diet.
I'm still new to the whole primal/paleo diet myself but I'll offer my 2 cents. Since you're at the mercy of your Mom (sounds like she just wants the best for you, however ill advised) you're going to have to work at getting your fats. A few things came to mind:
- Keep your lunch salads interesting and BIG
- Check this out: http://www.marksdailyapple.com/two-minute-salad/#axzz2BNYj5foE
- Use olive oil vinaigrette of your own making, it not only tastes better but is a good source of fat
- Try adding some avacados to your salads as well. Your mom shouldn't have any problems with that right? I mean it's just fruit right? But they're a good source of healthy fat.
- Take a hand-full of almonds to snack on during the day
I know it's not much, but hopefully that helps.
on November 05, 2012
at 07:03 PM
I STRONGLY disagree about upping the carbs. That is not necessary. I agree that upping the fat would be good. I wonder if mum would let you buy Omega 3 fatty acids. Or, if you can get extra virgin olive oil. Nuts is another solution as long as you won't binge on them. I just read a lot of research articles about why fat is so good for you and not at all a risk factor.
That said, you may be going through some changes as your body becomes more keto-adapted which will leave you feeling lethargic. Hang in there. Real food will always make you feel better in the long run.
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