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Do you feel uncomfortable with teenagers on here?

Answered on January 19, 2015
Created December 10, 2012 at 12:38 AM

Sorry this is so long and off topic. Feel free to skip ahead to my original question. I just felt the need to explain this. I promise no more in the future.

Anyway, to all that responded, thank you. I really appreciate the feedback because it has helped me put things into perspective.

I've finally realised what it essentially comes down to. It's more than just wanting to learn about good nutrition.

There are problems we need to face in the world we live in, and also with the people we interact with. Sometimes, facing this stress hurts your health more than anything. I've been there a lot and this has affected me in many terrible ways. It's a neverending struggle and I want to stop suffering.

Paleo is a way of doing something beneficial for myself because I was hoping it might help me with the bigger things. Maybe even completely heal me of all my problems. But I need to be serious with myself, a good diet isn't going to fix everything and that's definitely not what I should be expecting.

I think I'm just going to stick to reading articles on Mark's Daily Apple and other similar sites to educate myself. I know there's a lot on reducing stress which would really help me a lot. It's just that nutrition is such a big part of this and I forgot about other important things. Mark's Daily Apple is pretty much a place for everyone. The articles are truly inspirational and make me feel very relaxed, even in this crazy world of mine. Everything is simple to understand. Somehow it all goes back to our ancestors and what we can learn from them. Because we biologically are who our ancesters were. Nothing has changed, except the world.

Sure, it would be kind of cool to receive advice specificly for me. But this is probably not the right place for a desperate teen to post crazy, complicated questions. I don't need to be stressing myself out and I definitely don't want to be making others feel uncomfortable or stressing out parents who have their own kids to worry about.

Maybe I'll be back when I'm older and ready for this. And hopefully less deluded. For now, I think I'll ask questions I'm curious about and are appropriate. I have plenty of those and am sure they're questions that people are comfortable answering without a problem. But I will definitely watch my limits now that I understand better.


Original question: Teenage girl, 14 years old. I am a newbie on here who's very interested in exploring primal/paleo topics and that's why I joined. I definitely want to post questions as well as answer some. But I'm hesitant to do so because I'm worried people won't take me seriously. I am not impressionable at all, I really do try and think things through before deciding to take other's advice. And I realise that some aspects of paleo may not be right for growing teenagers (IF, low carb, etc.)

Now that I've cleared this up, I'm just wondering, would you be comfortable answering a teenager's questions on here? Or having them answer yours? Or would you be inclined to parent them? (Trust me, I don't need any more people trying to parent me I have my own folks at home, all I want is advice) Do you see any other problems with teenagers being on here? Please be honest.

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on December 11, 2012
at 02:28 AM

thank you. I was a little nervous so I erased the whole thing on impulse. I'm glad i found this option.

543a65b3004bf5a51974fbdd60d666bb

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on December 10, 2012
at 11:14 PM

as i say, your question was fine, while you wait for it to be Closed, it would be good if you edit your question again & select 'rollback' so at least it makes sense to anyone reading it now... (btw, others can also rollback your question)

543a65b3004bf5a51974fbdd60d666bb

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on December 10, 2012
at 11:02 PM

Hi lily, i think the only option is to close a question. your question was fine btw. to prevent any further answers, click the 'Tick' next to an answer you like.

543a65b3004bf5a51974fbdd60d666bb

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on December 10, 2012
at 11:01 PM

Hi lily, i think the only option is to close a question. your question was fine btw. to prevent any further answers, click the 'Tick' to select an answer you like.

C40ce8fc4392ea8ee1f8194f40540307

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on December 10, 2012
at 09:14 PM

Why all the upvotes for such a jerky response?

F5a0ddffcf9ef5beca864050f090a790

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on December 10, 2012
at 05:25 AM

Totally agree!!!

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on December 10, 2012
at 02:50 AM

I agree 100% .

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on December 10, 2012
at 01:42 AM

I believe that anyone has the ability to contribute to this forum, or at least the ability to make people think (through interesting and/or provocative questions).

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on December 10, 2012
at 01:21 AM

Your quite welcome :) (I love that quote).

76026e8ef496039d5075440ff731aa0d

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on December 10, 2012
at 12:59 AM

Thanks Stephen!

76026e8ef496039d5075440ff731aa0d

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on December 10, 2012
at 12:57 AM

Being careful when cornering a Predator is paramount.

Cb9a270955e2c277a02c4a4b5dad10b5

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on December 10, 2012
at 12:55 AM

- Chanakya

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on December 10, 2012
at 12:51 AM

ask all you want.

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on December 10, 2012
at 12:49 AM

It's perfectly okay.

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on December 10, 2012
at 12:45 AM

I think it's fine. Don't worry about it.

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on December 10, 2012
at 01:56 AM

As a parent of two kids, one a few years younger, and one a few years older than you, I do want to parent you to a degree, if only because there are some real whackos on this board and sometimes the answers they give are just plain scary or stupid, and sometimes extremely offensive. Not knowing you, I don't know how refined your "smell-o-meter" is, whether you can tell when something's way off kilter or whether you might be bruised by some of the nastiness I've seen here.

I have brilliant daughters who are very careful and have great heads on their shoulders, but I'd worry about them on this board. I trust them implicitly, but I don't trust other people. And at 14, no matter how much you think you know (and you sound incredibly smart and articulate, so you know a LOT) you just haven't had the life experiences to fully protect yourself. Developmentally, this is the time to make mistakes, under the theory that you have parents and others watching out for your safety. But if your parents aren't aware of your activities here, and you want us to butt out, there's no safety net for you.

So would I step in if I saw something dangerous going on that would worry me with my own daughters? You bet, and I hope someone would do the same for my children.

I hope this won't turn you off from posting here. I promise to keep parent mode off unless it's something really serious ;o)

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on December 10, 2012
at 02:50 AM

I agree 100% .

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on December 10, 2012
at 02:10 AM

It's admirable that a someone your age is taking the initiative to learn more about their health and wellness. It's an indicator of a much larger problem with society that children cannot get reliable dietary advice from their (close-minded) parents. If more people your age took this kind of interest in their health, the country would be heading in a much healthier direction.

Matt
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on December 10, 2012
at 12:44 AM

Just watch out for Quilt (srs):

do-you-feel-uncomfortable-with-teenagers-on-here?

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on December 10, 2012
at 12:57 AM

Being careful when cornering a Predator is paramount.

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on December 10, 2012
at 12:42 AM

i am young myself, 21, but I dont understand how you want the "older" members on this forum to reply to this inquiry, do you want them to coddle you and tell you everything is going to be ok?

this is a public forum for transmitting and sharing information on the paleo diet, not some risque sex forum, of course you are allowed to post and reply to others in a free manner. you do not need to seek out approval from people who may or may not be older than you.

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on December 10, 2012
at 09:14 PM

Why all the upvotes for such a jerky response?

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on December 10, 2012
at 05:43 AM

I would be happy if there were more teenagers on this board. Teenagers usually eat all kinds of junk food and if there were more teens who would follow some basic rules of nutrition, I am sure our world would become a better place.

Unfortunately, my body is all out of whack at this point and I have to follow a crazily strict diet due to my health problems, but it does fit under the Paleo umbrella and I hope once I heal myself I will be able to follow a more normal Paleo/traditional diet.

The good thing about Paleohacks is that you will get very different answers and you can see which ones would suit you better. One of them will point you in the right direction.

Another good thing is that the board is moderated and so far I have not seen any abuse - just minor trolling (and even trolling is kind of benign). So I think you are safe.

I am a former teacher myself who worked with 14 years old students for quite a while. I think it is awesome you have questions about health, food and diet.

The most important thing for you I think is to follow a reasonable diet (the Perfect Health Diet is good or Primal diet) and not add any supplements. If you want to add any supplements you need to consult a doctor. I would strongly advise you not to copy others and not to add any supplements to your diet.

I am glad you chose to eat healthy. This is probably the best decision that you have made in your life. You will definitely be ahead of your peers in terms of nutritional wisdom and physical health. You will be amazed how much proper nutrition can do for you.

Good luck and eat well!!!

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on December 10, 2012
at 04:49 AM

I am uncomfortable with it. Not because I think there's anything wrong with you researching, or asking questions, but because I don't know you or your parents. I have a fourteen year old, she has a brain injury, and I wouldn't want her getting information from strangers on a forum site, here or anywhere else. I would be comfortable with her reading sites, like Sisson and others, and asking them questions after talking to me. She's got a very complicated medical history, the wrong advice could be very dangerous for her. I don't know if you have any health history that my advice could hurt. For an adult, I would say that's their responsibility, but I would feel responsible if a child or teen got hurt from something I advised.

I think there's some great people on here, and much of the advice/answers are well thought out and good, but like anywhere else on the web, not all of them are good.

No, I wouldn't parent you. Parenting is something I do too much to want to do it on my downtime.

That's just me, and granted, I have learned to exercise way more caution than most parents out of necessity.

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on December 10, 2012
at 12:49 AM

"Education is the best friend. An educated person is respected everywhere. Education beats the beauty and the youth."

-Chanakya-

Truth.

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on December 10, 2012
at 12:55 AM

- Chanakya

Cb9a270955e2c277a02c4a4b5dad10b5

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on December 10, 2012
at 01:21 AM

Your quite welcome :) (I love that quote).

F5a0ddffcf9ef5beca864050f090a790

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on December 10, 2012
at 05:25 AM

Totally agree!!!

76026e8ef496039d5075440ff731aa0d

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on December 10, 2012
at 12:59 AM

Thanks Stephen!

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on December 10, 2012
at 01:02 PM

Technically, minors using PH are violating the site TOS.

Maybe we now live in a time where children need to do their own homework on nutrition because their parents are so nutritionally illiterate. Sad state.

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on December 10, 2012
at 01:23 AM

I only feel uncomfortable when they try to use their age as an excuse. There are several teenagers on here that are quite articulate and add to the conversations quite nicely. Others ask ridiculous questions and try to excuse it by saying, "I'm only 16!"

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on January 19, 2015
at 12:35 PM

Welcome aboard!

Well, I like people of diverse ages...and I wish I had gotten into this sort of thing when I was a teenager - now that I am dealing with Middle Aged Health Problems, I often advise younger people to sort out what they eat before it becomes a problem.

My only concern (like some people above) is that there are some people online who prey on people who are of a certain age range, and if you're specifying your age that could make you a target...so be sure to use your common sense and online safety protocols, and remember that you can never trust anyone you meet online (even me!). This is not limited to teenagers - I have friends in their 40's and 50's who have been duped by people they met online. Insofar as you don't know someone in-real-life and in a social context, you never reallyknow.

As for parenting...I think it's normal for some people to feel maternal/paternal towards someone who is substantially younger (again, not just teenagers... could be in their 20's or even 30's as well) but if this happens hopefully it would be in good spirit. :)

Anyway... that aside, good luck!

PS I don't think low carb is bad for teenagers - you could do some research on that if you are interested. However I also don't think it's necessary because generally teenagers have a great metabolism and do well on moderate carb especially just avoiding sugar. 

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on December 10, 2012
at 09:32 AM

Content is king. The articulate manner in which you pose the question leads me to believe this is a good place for you. There are no age requirements.

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