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Bachelorette Weekend-HELP!!!

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Created August 23, 2011 at 4:13 PM

I am attending a bachelorette party this weekend that lasts all weekend. Friday night is a house party with drinks (beer and some mystery punch I'm sure) and the hosts are cooking the food. I have no idea what they are planning on preparing. Saturday is relaxing by either a natural pool or a river and then Saturday night is drinks and dinner downtown. I have gotten pretty good about eating meals out, but this is a whole weekend and I'm already getting anxious. My friends are HUGE drinkers, and I'm not so much anymore (thank goodness for gluten free ciders!)
I'm getting overwhelmed thinking about Friday night's dinner, eating during the day on Saturday and of course downtown that night. I guess I should also mention that I have barely any money for the weekend's festivities. I know they will heckle me to no end about it, and frankly, I'm getting tired just thinking about it. Any tips and pointers on how to stay paleo (without losing friends and money) and avoiding their comments would be much appreciated!!!

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on August 25, 2011
at 12:13 AM

Good luck, have fun and let us know how it goes. Include detailed reports on the excessively fun parts!

584b19d2b6cebc7cdf070b5f8a5a7937

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on August 24, 2011
at 05:59 PM

Sounds great- I need to come to Austin!

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on August 24, 2011
at 04:20 PM

No they really arent, but I've known them FOREVER. They really are good people, but I just get tired of the peer pressure. I think I just grew up, and they are still mentally in college. Plus I've lost about 30 lbs on Paleo and they found it, so they might be a tad jealous.

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on August 23, 2011
at 08:07 PM

McMeghann, your friends are aren't supportive and will heckle you about your lifestyle? And you're getting tired just thinking about it? These don't sound like the greatest friends ever. In any case, I'd stick to my plan and forget the haters!

584b19d2b6cebc7cdf070b5f8a5a7937

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on August 23, 2011
at 07:57 PM

You are always welcome! Glad I could help. What would we do without this support system?? My friends are also not paleo so you can imagine how I rely on PH. And as CT said, don't beat yourself up for any rule bending- it's only a temporary situation. :)

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on August 23, 2011
at 05:14 PM

Thanks Jane! Its good to know I can always come here for the support my friends dont provide. The party is in Austin which is my health food Mecca in Texas. So many good health food stores and farmers markets! YAY!

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on August 23, 2011
at 05:12 PM

Great idea!! I keep my Loren Cordain book in my car. I call it my Paleo Bible lol

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on August 23, 2011
at 05:12 PM

I think I can honestly play a food allergy card. I cheated on Sunday and by Monday morning, I had developed a full blown cold! I couldnt believe after my body going to long without SAD food, when I actually indulged, I literally got sick. It sucks, but its kind of cool at the same time to know my body cant eat that crap anymore. So cheating this weekend is a no-no. I took your advice and emailed the host to see what she was serving and "asked if I could bring anything". Now I just need a tougher skin before the weekend. They arent very supportive....

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on August 23, 2011
at 04:33 PM

ALSO, I have found that a helpful tool is to have a paleo book with me. On the weekend I mentioned, I had Nora Gedgaudas' Primal Body Primal Mind with me (not that you'll be reading a ton this weekend, but stuff one in your bag), but when people asked questions, I could toss them the book to thumb through and a few times, I had to wait a while to get it back! ;)

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on August 23, 2011
at 05:33 PM

I had this same exact problem a few weeks ago - I also attended a bachelorette party that lasted the whole weekend.

Here's what I did: I brought some substantial snacks (nuts, jerky, fruit, hard boiled eggs, etc.) so I would at least have some things to tide me over in case of an emergency. We actually cooked a lot at the house we stayed at, so I was always in the kitchen helping to prepare stuff. One night they made a pesto chicken pasta salad. Before they threw everything together, I just took a serving of the veggies and chicken and put it over salad greens. That way, I didn't have to make an entire separate meal for myself and wasn't causing too much of an inconvenience. Breakfast was easy - eggs and fruit!

I think someone said this above, but head to the local grocery store and stock up on fruits, veg, eggs, etc. If these people are "true" friends, then it shouldn't bother them that you wanna eat this way. Best case scenario, you can open their eyes to the wonderful world of paleo!

Honestly, though, your friend is only getting married (hopefully) once. Enjoy the weekend! Have fun! If you slip up, who cares! Get back on track next week and you'll be all set.

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on August 23, 2011
at 05:53 PM

I've found that people actually consider NorCal Margaritas to be pretty hardcore. No one notices that I only have a few...but people rarely dismiss the person who brings a bottle of tequila and a ton of limes to a party as a party pooper. Just make smart food selections with what's available, bring some portable snacks, and have a good time!

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on August 23, 2011
at 05:03 PM

I'm diabetic, so I can always play that card. "Hey, what's gonna be available for me to eat? Or do I need to bring my own food?"

If you are gluten-sensitive or have food allergies you could use that. Or just say "I'm on a pretty strict training regimen. I just wondered what food is going to be there?"

Otherwise, you have three choices: (1) Don't go (2) Bring your own food (3) Blow it off and have fun!

Unless you are dealing with serious medical issues, I recommend number 3 - and making reasonbly good choices. If you have food intolerances, let them know and bring your own food if you can't eat what they have.

In any case, stress is not good for you. The best way to reduce stress is to face problems directly. Talk to the hosts and your friends and let them know your concerns. Most people are very accommodating. If not, who needs 'em!

A968087cc1dd66d480749c02e4619ef4

(20436)

on August 25, 2011
at 12:13 AM

Good luck, have fun and let us know how it goes. Include detailed reports on the excessively fun parts!

Ccdf3fbcaec76e025ff94d03cc4daf9a

(536)

on August 23, 2011
at 05:12 PM

I think I can honestly play a food allergy card. I cheated on Sunday and by Monday morning, I had developed a full blown cold! I couldnt believe after my body going to long without SAD food, when I actually indulged, I literally got sick. It sucks, but its kind of cool at the same time to know my body cant eat that crap anymore. So cheating this weekend is a no-no. I took your advice and emailed the host to see what she was serving and "asked if I could bring anything". Now I just need a tougher skin before the weekend. They arent very supportive....

8634d4988ced45a68e2a79e69cc01835

(1617)

on August 23, 2011
at 08:07 PM

McMeghann, your friends are aren't supportive and will heckle you about your lifestyle? And you're getting tired just thinking about it? These don't sound like the greatest friends ever. In any case, I'd stick to my plan and forget the haters!

Ccdf3fbcaec76e025ff94d03cc4daf9a

(536)

on August 24, 2011
at 04:20 PM

No they really arent, but I've known them FOREVER. They really are good people, but I just get tired of the peer pressure. I think I just grew up, and they are still mentally in college. Plus I've lost about 30 lbs on Paleo and they found it, so they might be a tad jealous.

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on August 23, 2011
at 05:20 PM

Don't let perfectionism get in the way of excellence. Don't worry about it - one slightly 'off' weekend won't do any long term damage. Try and avoid the worst things they have to offer, or have smaller amounts, and just get back to being good on Monday

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on August 23, 2011
at 09:25 PM

i'm an austin girl and paleo. you're coming to the right place to easily eat out healthy with alot of restraunts carrying local produce and beef. plus central market, whole foods, and downtown farmers market on sat am. i just did a whole week away with the worlds unhealthiest eaters who constantly made comments about what i was eating and why i wouldn't eat their "crap". While the complained after every meal about how lousy they felt i just smiled. breakfast is always easy eggs, fruit, sausage, bacon, etc. for lunch i would do leftovers from night before or just snack on coldcuts, avacados, nuts, berries. there is also snap kitchen that carries paleo meals that you could go pick up a meal for friday night and just eat that while they eat their food. snap kitchen $7-9 for a prepared meal and it's right near the whole foods on 6th street. i believe you can also pick up jerky, fruit, etc. hope this helps

584b19d2b6cebc7cdf070b5f8a5a7937

(369)

on August 24, 2011
at 05:59 PM

Sounds great- I need to come to Austin!

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584b19d2b6cebc7cdf070b5f8a5a7937

(369)

on August 23, 2011
at 04:26 PM

Ask if you can bring a stash of your own food. I just spent a weekend away visiting friends (the accepting kind) and brought my own food/went to the natural grocery store in the area after arrival and had no problems. Try to relax. If you are relaxed, OK and confident with your lifestyle and choices, it will rub off on other people and they will heckle less. The happier and healthier people perceive me to be about my lifestyle, the more interested they beome in it, and they end up asking me about it nonstop- in a good, inquisitive way. Bring your cider and drinks of choice, and when you go out, order minimally processed/least evil foods on the menu, like salad, veggies, fish...

Be confident and happy about your choices, and others will be more accepting. Good for you!

Ccdf3fbcaec76e025ff94d03cc4daf9a

(536)

on August 23, 2011
at 05:12 PM

Great idea!! I keep my Loren Cordain book in my car. I call it my Paleo Bible lol

584b19d2b6cebc7cdf070b5f8a5a7937

(369)

on August 23, 2011
at 07:57 PM

You are always welcome! Glad I could help. What would we do without this support system?? My friends are also not paleo so you can imagine how I rely on PH. And as CT said, don't beat yourself up for any rule bending- it's only a temporary situation. :)

584b19d2b6cebc7cdf070b5f8a5a7937

(369)

on August 23, 2011
at 04:33 PM

ALSO, I have found that a helpful tool is to have a paleo book with me. On the weekend I mentioned, I had Nora Gedgaudas' Primal Body Primal Mind with me (not that you'll be reading a ton this weekend, but stuff one in your bag), but when people asked questions, I could toss them the book to thumb through and a few times, I had to wait a while to get it back! ;)

Ccdf3fbcaec76e025ff94d03cc4daf9a

(536)

on August 23, 2011
at 05:14 PM

Thanks Jane! Its good to know I can always come here for the support my friends dont provide. The party is in Austin which is my health food Mecca in Texas. So many good health food stores and farmers markets! YAY!

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on August 25, 2011
at 06:00 PM

Try not to give yourself a complex over the food (trust me, I've been there). Laura and others have good suggestions. Load your bags up with good snacks that you can go to when you get hungry. Take a bag with you to the river with your "stuff" in it, including snacks you want to eat. You probably won't be as hungry come meal time, but if you are, do your best to eat the foods you prefer to eat. Having some smaller portions of items you wouldn't otherwise won't wreck your plan. I understand it isn't ideal, but it is waaay better than stressing about it the whole weekend. Relax and enjoy yourself. Also, don't feel like you have to make up a food allergy. Explain that you follow an eating style that you are comfortable with and enjoy and leave it at that. Lastly, if you don't want to drink, don't. No one should ever begrudge a person for abstaining from alcohol. I can't say I've personally abstained, but do as I say and not as I do...

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