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What should I do about low social self esteem (paleo style)?

Answered on August 19, 2014
Created January 16, 2011 at 1:11 AM

This might be the weirdest question in the world... but I feel like I have fixed a lot of problems with paleo so Im wondering about self esteem... I have fixed my mild depression and I am doing well so far. Is there anything I could do to help with my confidence in social situations? By the way Im a 20 year old male... just curious. Thanks!

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on May 22, 2012
at 06:23 PM

I've never thought of it this way...if our bodies starve and don't thrive when they don't get the right nutrients and inputs, why wouldn't our spirits/souls do the same?

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on January 18, 2011
at 10:43 PM

On the contrary...I find it to increase my appreciation of menial tasks.

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on January 18, 2011
at 03:49 AM

Before starting on the Paleo some seven years ago, I always had anxiety attacks, panic attacks and my mind was usually always in a fog.

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on January 18, 2011
at 01:42 AM

Just don't go overboard on the negative visualization; it can be a real buzz kill ;-)

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on January 17, 2011
at 09:22 PM

thats right, fake it till it becomes real.

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on January 17, 2011
at 09:21 PM

get a male V hormone panel run & talk with a good doctor. many different deficiencies can result in less testosterone - its a wide variety of factors. eat lots of the good fat to start, do some IF.

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on January 17, 2011
at 06:35 PM

how do I get my levels up? I have been eating well for a little while, how long would it take? I definitely need more testosterone haha

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on January 17, 2011
at 09:49 AM

im with familygrok, practicing the skills will make you more comfortable, practicing them with like minded individuals make it easier. Only thing Id add, is Testosterone. I was very shy when my levels sucked, and Very outgoing after...

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on January 16, 2011
at 04:21 PM

This is helpful- thank you!

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on January 16, 2011
at 02:09 AM

i agree. great answer.

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on January 16, 2011
at 01:32 AM

Bronson, I hope you don't mind. I re-tagged your answer to reflect your victories.

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on January 16, 2011
at 01:27 AM

Familygrokumentarian, what a lovely answer.

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on January 16, 2011
at 01:23 AM

Great answer! The more you do things, the easier it is.

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on January 16, 2011
at 01:20 AM

Beat me to what I was going to say. Meet people, do things, and evolve.

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on January 16, 2011
at 01:19 AM

If you have the time and resources you could seek out a paleo-oriented or paleo-friendly conference or seminar, like MovNat, PrimalCon, or a Weston A. Price Foundation event. Similarly, you could seek out a local CrossFit box or other fitness group, like a barefoot running group (if you haven't done these already).

What's the common thread here? Self esteem can be boosted by creating and sustaining relationships - and a good way to get a head start on relationships is by meeting people with similar interests and value sets. Then you can cheer each other on as you strive for new fitness and dietary goals and have fun while doing it! :)

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on January 16, 2011
at 02:09 AM

i agree. great answer.

D31a2a2d43191b15ca4a1c7ec7d03038

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on January 16, 2011
at 01:27 AM

Familygrokumentarian, what a lovely answer.

1471beca8e3adff4ae2f89d10e5f7acb

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on January 16, 2011
at 01:20 AM

Beat me to what I was going to say. Meet people, do things, and evolve.

7e746be2f0e550a8cd7df881322ae705

(18701)

on January 16, 2011
at 01:23 AM

Great answer! The more you do things, the easier it is.

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on January 16, 2011
at 04:48 AM

The answer already posted is excellent. However, consider additionally that it may be counterproductive to always place your self-worth in the hands of others. Relationships are important but your sense of you will come from understanding who you are, what you want in life and creating a path to get there. You mentioned that you've fixed some things that weren't going well for you. That's your self esteem right there! You've proven you can do anything you want; now decide what's next and go for it!

Once you've centered yourself, you'll have plenty of confidence and it will show to others. You'll be more comfortable in social situations and everything will fall into place for you.

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on January 16, 2011
at 03:09 PM

Spend time in Nature or around animals. It helps. My theory is that everyone is depressed, but depression is a matter of how your experience life. I think depression is a type of hunger, your minds way of sayin "it's time to nourish me!", so get out and nourish your life.

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on January 16, 2011
at 04:21 PM

This is helpful- thank you!

Fd70d71f4f8195c3a098eda4fc817d4f

(8014)

on May 22, 2012
at 06:23 PM

I've never thought of it this way...if our bodies starve and don't thrive when they don't get the right nutrients and inputs, why wouldn't our spirits/souls do the same?

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on January 16, 2011
at 05:53 PM

In addition to exercise, sun, and relationships I would highly recommend mindfulness meditation. Meditation helps you know and accept yourself and allows you to have better control over your thoughts.

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on January 17, 2011
at 05:23 AM

Practice, practice, practice. Go to a party or a bar and find someone sitting alone. Most people are nervous or anxious when alone in social situations. Just strike up a conversation. Most people will be happy to be noticed. Every now and then you'll encounter someone who's weird and offputting, but generally people will be happy you talked to them and asked them about themselves.

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on January 17, 2011
at 09:22 PM

thats right, fake it till it becomes real.

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on January 18, 2011
at 03:49 AM

Before starting on the Paleo some seven years ago, I always had anxiety attacks, panic attacks and my mind was usually always in a fog. Since being on the Paleo Diet, and especially since I have eliminated grains,sugars, dairy,legumes and salt, I feel calm, more relaxed internally, and the confidence that I am doing something right, has propelled me to being a bit more sociable and interactive. I am a better listener. All round, I think people feel comfortable around me, because I am comfortable with myself. Yes the diet reduces various forms of internal inflammation, making one feel great, ready to take on challenges.

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on January 18, 2011
at 01:09 AM

I wish I knew you in real life. I have had the same social issues as you present in your question. I am an 18 year old female, so we belong to the same age group.

I used to feel extremely anxious around people. I still want to isolate myself from others sometimes. I noticed recently a correlation between my energy level and my desire for social stimulation. When I feel tired, I just feel like I will mess it up when I talk to someone. That seems to summarize my problem.

The best solution I can offer you is Stoicism, my favorite school of philosophy. I recommend reading "The Manual" by Epictetus. It really changed the way I look at the world.

Just don't forget (I often forget this!) that whatever you feel is your opinion on the matter in front of you, not a fact. You can not change facts, but your own opinions can be changed with practice.

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on January 18, 2011
at 01:42 AM

Just don't go overboard on the negative visualization; it can be a real buzz kill ;-)

8274ce9d4bffd8209055e1e34def04d6

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on January 18, 2011
at 10:43 PM

On the contrary...I find it to increase my appreciation of menial tasks.

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on January 16, 2011
at 01:22 AM

Familygrokumetarian's answer is so good, I am deleting mine.

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