I have friends who have gone Paleo and over the past almost year I have "dabbled" in the diet. I tried to go full fledge a couple times but gave up. Currently, I attempt to just limit grains and sugar (failing miserably on occasion.). I use some paleo recipes here and there. I've been eating an 80/20 organic diet for a few years now so I'm looking for the next step up. My biggest issues that keep me from sticking with it are a number of things.
I cannot understand some contradictions of the diet. No dairy but yet eggs and butter are major staples. Sometimes it makes me feel like someone just made up parts of the diet to suit them. ie, "I'm going to create this diet but I really love eggs, butter and bacon so I'm going to say those are ok."
I have a TERRIBLY hard time believing all the fat is good for my heart. I've always been told red meat is bad and to limit it. And even uncured bacon and cold cut ham are still processed meats. Processed meats=bad. I cannot get over the massive amounts of saturated fat in coconut. (Oil, milk, butter) I feel that everyone says their good but how do I know it won't affect me 15 years from now?
Our monthly budget and the paleo lifestyle are not friends. I stay at home with my 3 children so we tightly budget our 1 income. Besides the fact I find some things very hard to find (grass fed meat, butter, eggs. Ghee, arrowroot, etc) I also have trouble affording all the paleo staples for my family. How do you eat this way on a modest income and a large family?
My husband REFUSES to go with this lifestyle. Meaning he has separate groceries (which brings grocery costs up more to buy things like bread, milk for him, paleo for everyone else) This also makes it hard to resist temptation. Attempting the Whole 30 challenge while there is still bread, milk, goodies in the house is hard.
How do I transition my 3 children successfully? They are 3, 9 and 18 mos. My 3 year old refuses all veggies and is obsessed with PB &J. He's at the stage where he will only eat a list of about 5 things and nothing else. I've tried to take those things away and replace them with paleo friendly meals and he will have NOTHING to do with it. I dont want to starve my children by taking away the only thing they will eat and have eaten since birth. My 18 month old is now on whole milk. I am very afraid to take this away from her. What would I replace it with? I know Paleos do coconut/almond milk, but Whole 30 says no carrageenan. Which is always in those two milks. And can I safely replace her whole milk with either of those 2 things?
I'm sorry this question is so long and drawn out. I just really need some good advice and guidance and some clarity on things I find questionable so I can have success with this diet. Switching to organic was a breeze for me so I don't know why this is so hard! Thanks!
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on March 22, 2013
at 05:08 PM
I recommend you read It Starts with Food which is written by the Whole 30 couple. They do a very good job of explaining in layman's terms why foods are good for you and why foods are bad. For example, why no dairy but grass-fed butter is OK. (Eggs are not dairy, by the way.) The book will also discuss your concerns about fat and heart disease (there's a lot of nutritional unlearning that many people need to do).
They do a very good job of explaining how hormones work in the body that govern hunger, fat storing, etc. I think it's a great place to start for anyone thinking of starting Paleo.
The other thing that Whole 30 does well is explaining that everyone's Paleo template is different. You can be strict Paleo, but many many Paleo followers eventually devise their own rules. For myself I eat dairy occasionally (I love cheese!), I have not given up alcohol, I'll eat beans if I'm in a Mexican restaurant (but I never make them at home), and I do not make my own Paleo ketchup (that's just too much work). I never, ever eat any grains or processed seed oils. Once you understand why a certain food is or isn't Paleo, you can then make your own educated decision of whether you should incorporate it in your diet.
on March 22, 2013
at 06:42 PM
My advice would be to start small. Check out some whole foods blogs and get rid of all processed foods in your house. If your DH insists on bread, trade whatever he buys for something that has only a few ingredients (less than 5). If your kids really like crackers, be selective with what you'll buy (triscuts have only 3 ingredients, I think). These things aren't ideal, and certainly aren't Paleo, but it's a really good start into a journey of eating real, whole food. The blog another poster mentioned is good (if you can get past the self-righteous author).
If you thinking of getting serious about starting Paleo, set a small goal (30 days, and maybe you start by just eliminating gluten..without buying gluten free processed foods) and follow it on your own. See for yourself how you feel. As far as not buying into Paleo theories, I personally don't put a whole lot of thought into the science or evolutionary aspects behind Paleo, I just know that I feel my best when I eat this way. That's all that matters to me.
As far as cooking a meal for your family where your husband eats non-paleo, most people wouldn't notice if a meal is Paleo or not. My go-to is a roasted chicken with oven roasted veggies. It's easy, I can prep it in the morning when I have the most time, then pop it in the oven 1.5 hours prior to dinner time. Then I make some stock (super easy) and make a soup later that week. If your family insists on a starch, make a pot of rice and call it a day.
Also, don't worry about doing things perfectly Paleo. Try to get a handle on eating the right things before you worry about the specifics of grassfed, pasture-raised, etc. I think those things are really important, but not a deal breaker if you can't afford them. Another way to save money is by joining a CSA in the summer. I had more veggies than I could handle last summer, so I had to get really organized and find out how I could plan my meals around all that produce!
Sorry this is so long...geez. Good Luck!
on March 22, 2013
at 05:01 PM
Why do you want you and your family to go on a paleo diet in the first place? It sounds like you're thoughtful about your diet choices and you're not going blindly along with what you've heard is ok to eat. The argument about which is worse, fats or sugar goes on and on. (Try reading up on Gary Taubes, the low carb/sugar guru.)
Perhaps you should revamp your plan to what your husband and children will eat, but focus on keeping those items as healthy as possible e.g. organic meats and dairy, grass fed when you can find it, whole grains, no processed foods, little sugar etc. Yes it's pricey, but it can be done. And an hour of outdoor walking is free. May I suggest Lisa Leake's blog 100 days of Real Food.
To your health.
on March 22, 2013
at 04:51 PM
I've been Primal for 2 months, I'm single with no kids, so I can't address all your questions but when you mentioned feeling like some parts of the diet are made up it resonated with how I felt at first too. I can address that at least! What you'll find, especially here on Paleohacks, is that we all do the diet a little differently. It's not a set in stone or the Paleo gods will strike you down kind of diet. I tolerate dairy so I do use butter and heavy cream. Some people don't, so they don't. Some are more strict than others, some are way more relaxed. It's about finding what works best for you and your health! I do think being completely strict for the first 30 days makes it easier going forward.
My roommate is not Paleo/primal and keeps all the bad stuff around. I know how crappy I would feel if I were to eat it so I don't. My cravings have pretty much gone away anyway. I spend roughly $40-$60 a week for myself depending on what I'm buying and that feeds me REALLY well. I buy a lot of fresh produce though and that can add up. Paleo is only as expensive as you make it in my opinion.
There is tons of material free online explaining all the different Reasons why something in the diet is bad for you. Also, if you are interested, Primal Blueprint and Paleo Solution were both very helpful for me. This article on Mark's Daily Apple about fat might help: https://www.marksdailyapple.com/high-fat-diet-healthy-safe/
I hope something I said helps!