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Created March 26, 2011 at 9:38 PM

So this will be me 2nd real attempt at following paleo. When I was originally eating primal, I felt great, worked out harder, and saw significant change in my physical appearance. However, I also began to notice my growing narcissism, and decided to calm down a bit (in order to check said ego). My current eating habits, while still mostly paleo, are often plagued by binge-eating sessions of junk food, so now I am trying to find that happy medium. The good news is, I am in pretty good shape; I work out like an animal to maintain that. The bad news is, I (like most avid fitness athletes) struggle greatly with the body-builder dilemma: avoiding the point when diet and exercise no longer exist as a product of fitness, but rather a consequence of vanity. All that aside, my question to the paleo community is simply: How does one stay motivated and dedicated to the paleo lifestyle, while avoiding egocentric inspiration? -Sapere

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on July 16, 2012
at 01:51 AM

Yes, that is SO true! Preach it my friend

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on March 27, 2011
at 08:46 PM

"You do not have a soul, you are a soul. You have a body." C.S. Lewis

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on March 27, 2011
at 08:45 PM

"You do not have a soul. You are a soul. You have a body." C.S. Lewis

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on March 27, 2011
at 08:04 PM

A Soul with a body - you lose a leg, your Soul is still the same, you lose an arm your Soul is still the same, and so on, for ever and ever..............

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on March 27, 2011
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well, i think a certain degree of narcissism and egocentricism is really normal for someone in their 20s. i think that the fact that youre aware of your tendency to be "narcissistic" shows that youre NOT, since narcissists never think they are! ;) go easy on yourself, and find something that has deep meaning to you, bigger than you if you can. otherwise stay healthy so you can someday have a beautiful family and tumble all over the grass like puppies together. <3

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You are quite welcome.

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on March 27, 2011
at 06:24 AM

No, I am a single college student. Certainly pray for a family someday

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on March 27, 2011
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Allie, I appreciate the "intelligible ramble." You have a kind way with words; it's inspiring. Thank you for the Healthy Mind Fit Body suggestion, I will certainly look into it. And as for the proverb, I dig that very much. I've heard it before, but I am not sure where from. Either way, the lesson is solid. Thank you much.

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"Read a classic book, keep your shirt on, and go to church..." I must admit, there's a profound simplicity in that statement. Thanks for the encouragement and wisdom. I am excited I found this website, seems like a very solid community of level-headed joes and janes, with all the combined experience to learn a whole lot from.

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on March 26, 2011
at 10:12 PM

Read a classic book, keep your shirt on, and go to church or what ever you follow for your soul. Be humble my friend. Be who you are, not what you appear. I do this for me, no one else. My wife enjoys my progression and she feeds of of it also to become healthier. My children enjoy having a Dad that can play for hours on end. To hell with the women who come on and compliment, they are looking at the wrapping not the prize inside. Someone who comes on to you after your physical progress is never worth the time to deal with. Look at the A-holes on Jersey shore. Do you want to be like them? The body of a Greek god is nice, but it will never define the person inside.

62b02f957f8761649d3f324419bdd4d6

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on March 27, 2011
at 06:13 AM

"Read a classic book, keep your shirt on, and go to church..." I must admit, there's a profound simplicity in that statement. Thanks for the encouragement and wisdom. I am excited I found this website, seems like a very solid community of level-headed joes and janes, with all the combined experience to learn a whole lot from.

7fb6efb15030ea965d00be6e8eb13fd4

(253)

on July 16, 2012
at 01:51 AM

Yes, that is SO true! Preach it my friend

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on March 27, 2011
at 01:01 AM

Sapere, there is nothing wrong with wanting to be and look healthy. But, as you've noted there is a line between seeking a healthy self-image and an overt obsessive vanity. The former is an evidence of good self-esteem, self-worth, and confidence in being you while the latter is quite the opposite because one is placing all their 'worth', 'confidence', and 'esteem' in a physical aspect of themselves. And that, is unhealthy. A human being is not merely a body. A person is a composite of the physical, intelligence, humor, openness, caring, inner-strength (not lifting weights, but a strength that comes from holding to ones values in the face of adversity), memories, soul, and heart.

I can tell health and fitness are important to you. That is wonderful Sapere. But that is not all you are. You are not just a body but a soul as well. Sure, eat paleo and partake in the lifestyle but as you rejoice in positive changes in your body remember than you are more than that. If all your stock and effort is in put in being physically attractive, will there will be room for growth in other areas of your life?

You asked how to stay motivated to do paleo (in lieu of a 'narcissistic' view of oneself), here are just a couple reasons I do paleo:

  • The food rocks my socks, and it is often cheaper.
  • I feel better on paleo. Energy = amazing
  • My brain feels like it's on steroids. It makes me want to eat knowledge like some people eat Wheaties for breakfast.
  • I'm happier. Paleo = mood booster
  • I don't have to plan anything. I just eat meat, vegetables, and fat.
  • Things are simpler in general.

You might like: Healthy Mind Fit Body

which talks about being a healthy paleo-ish eater as well as keeping your noggin' well.

And lastly, as I conclude this hopefully intelligible ramble, here is a quote I have posted above my desk that seems fitting:

"Watch your thoughts, for they become your words, watch your words, for they become your actions watch your actions, for they become your habits, watch your habits, for they become your character, watch your character, for it becomes your destiny." -Proverb

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on March 27, 2011
at 12:44 PM

You are quite welcome.

B1fcaceba952861d0324bdb291edbbe0

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on March 27, 2011
at 08:45 PM

"You do not have a soul. You are a soul. You have a body." C.S. Lewis

B1fcaceba952861d0324bdb291edbbe0

(3159)

on March 27, 2011
at 08:46 PM

"You do not have a soul, you are a soul. You have a body." C.S. Lewis

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on March 27, 2011
at 08:04 PM

A Soul with a body - you lose a leg, your Soul is still the same, you lose an arm your Soul is still the same, and so on, for ever and ever..............

62b02f957f8761649d3f324419bdd4d6

(145)

on March 27, 2011
at 06:22 AM

Allie, I appreciate the "intelligible ramble." You have a kind way with words; it's inspiring. Thank you for the Healthy Mind Fit Body suggestion, I will certainly look into it. And as for the proverb, I dig that very much. I've heard it before, but I am not sure where from. Either way, the lesson is solid. Thank you much.

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on March 26, 2011
at 11:45 PM

There will always be someone 'better' than you according to your own perception or someone else's. It is subjective. I went from being a very strong goddess in perfect shape even quite magnificent after 3 children...and then I got very, very sick. I could no longer work out or even hardly play. The prescribed drugs caused massive weight gain and I was in constant overwhelming pain. I was still facially beautiful as in, 'well, she has a pretty face.' Now, I'm down over 60 lbs, much better but still struggling with some things. I have to be very strict about my diet. Having my god-like body literally taken from me by an 'unseen' disease so that I simply looked like a 'fat slob' who had just 'let themselves go' really taught me something about ego and vanity. I still think that it is sad when people are unmindful of the food they eat but I cannot indulge a high level of personal vanity. Live, love, compassion, smart and hard thinking, not being swayed by stupidity, family, devotion and healthy pride are the tickets I think. Pair those with an ability and willingness to see the worth in others and 'too much vanity' takes a backseat.

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on March 26, 2011
at 10:12 PM

do you have kids? a spouse? i think about staying alive and healthy so i can be with my family. after all, for me thats all that really matters. everything else is just frosting, so to speak.

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on March 27, 2011
at 06:24 AM

No, I am a single college student. Certainly pray for a family someday

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on March 27, 2011
at 01:15 PM

well, i think a certain degree of narcissism and egocentricism is really normal for someone in their 20s. i think that the fact that youre aware of your tendency to be "narcissistic" shows that youre NOT, since narcissists never think they are! ;) go easy on yourself, and find something that has deep meaning to you, bigger than you if you can. otherwise stay healthy so you can someday have a beautiful family and tumble all over the grass like puppies together. <3

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on March 26, 2011
at 11:04 PM

what's so bad with "vanity" or "egocentric inspiration"? - as long as it doesn't hurt anyone those two would be quite reasonable motivators: you comb your hair, try to wear good clothes... looking good is just another aspect, perhaps even more important than hairstyle or something of that sort

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on March 26, 2011
at 10:57 PM

I focus on the health part, that I simply feel so much better. I also complement myself for looking good, even though I am not at my ideal weight. But I accepted it, I am fine where I am - if I lose some, fine, if I don't - it's ok. There is, in my opinion, sometime too much focus on racing after one kind of a body, considered ideal. As if we can call ourselves successful only after reaching a particular body fat percentage. I say - to hell with that :) I love eating meat, I enjoy my coffee with heavy cream. I love the way I feel after eating a good beef meal... I don't feel bad about the way I look, so I don't push myself too much, I don't obsess about my looks. I am fitter than most of my students who are half my age... what else would I want? :D

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