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Got engaged! How can I be more healthy, feel more healthy, and look better?

Answered on September 12, 2014
Created January 27, 2013 at 10:36 AM

sigh i really need some on this...

firstly, i dont want to cut out all milk. i have milk goats. so some milk/homemade cheese is going to still be in my diet. {note: diet meaning the food which i eat, not diet like drink only juice for a week and lose lbs or something}

i'm still reading up on the paleo lifestyle diet but i would REALLY love peoples help on this! i tend to not make changes very quickly, or i make them too fast and cant handle them. so with this i am determined to take it as slow as i need to, switching over to paleo (or at least mostly paleo with some cheats, haha).

one reason being my health {ie. BAD chronic constipation and PCOS, polycystic ovary syndrome). second reason being i just got engaged and dont want to look like the lard {my sisters term} i do now. not to be vulgar or anything but there should only be so much jiggling going on. and i think i've crossed the line ages ago.

future hubby currently working at mcdonalds and with the current situation he tends to eat there. you get free food while you are working, with very few restrictions on that. and looking back at pics of him before he started working there... lets just say there is definitely a difference. we both love each other for who we are but it would be alot better if we were both healthier.

now here's where i grind my teeth as i type, though i think it will help me later on to look back at....

i am 20 years old, female, about 5' 6", and 220#

in april 2011 (pretty sure it was 2011) i weighed 245#. so i have lost some weight but its been over a VERY LONG TIME and i'm just not happy about my body anymore in the least! my parents were both big and though my mom is slim now i believe its only through about starving herself and lots of diet pills though i've yet to prove it.

i really dont have a goal weight or size or anything. i just want to be more healthy, feel more healthy, and look better. {don't worry i will post before and after pics if i can stick it out with paleo.}

i am a farm girl and having my own animals which i butcher all myself i know about the meat aspect. my biggest problem other then converting to paleo is making myself do the dreaded exercise. as i said i am a farm girl. i can throw bales on hills most people dont want to walk up and throw bales up way above my head. and i live on 250 acres of hills so i love walking, just not as much in winter. i just dispise "exercise". so a good starting point for that would be appreciated too.

thanks!

PS: myself and future hubby tend to be meat, rolls, and potatoes people and make childish faces at broccoli and veggies. so places to get recipes also appreciated! thanks goodness i like to cook ;-)

B9896355c7cfc3aafcb589c97f9c8bc9

on January 29, 2013
at 10:05 AM

i was the type who would sit at the table with veggies gone cold on my plate hour ago and stay there quietly until i was let go to my room. i had a sweet tooth but i would even forego dessert rather then eat veggies. only ones i'd eat is corn (which, ya not really even a veg). though i do adore split pea soup to this day. my mom always called it "green eggs and ham" and i swear i never saw the actual can until i was like 13. then i found out its actually split pea soup. still gag at the thought of regular cooked peas though.

B9896355c7cfc3aafcb589c97f9c8bc9

on January 29, 2013
at 10:01 AM

i have showed him the info on paleo. he found a sort of similar thing "viking" something or other.... he adores vikings and that type thing, he is asatru, so that really appealed to him. though i'm not sure how much he will follow through with that until we live together.

B9896355c7cfc3aafcb589c97f9c8bc9

on January 29, 2013
at 09:59 AM

i wouldnt say gorging himself. i dated a guy whom would SERIOUSLY GORGE! ... i know future hubby can pack it in a bit but i wouldnt say gorge. though i know we both need to relearn eating habits.

B9896355c7cfc3aafcb589c97f9c8bc9

on January 29, 2013
at 09:59 AM

i agree on the relationship bit. though i doubt we would do that, just our personalities. but i wont ramble on about that on here. yes i have never actually "dieted" or anything because my mother always did them growing up. i remember once she sat at the table with a bowl of broth and the rest of us had heaping plates. i think i was 6y/o. and she never lost the weight until recently and i think it is due to eatin next to nothing and too many diet pills. now she is too thin. though she doesnt listen... anyhow...

B9896355c7cfc3aafcb589c97f9c8bc9

on January 29, 2013
at 09:54 AM

haha yes i generally try to avoid anything labeled as exercise other then my walking/hiking. in the summer i do alot, as well as some biking, which is alot on our hills here. i am going to start crunches and pushups. just see how many i can do without pushing myself. then add a few more each day. i *was* doing that a while back and was up to like 40 pushups (my arms dont like to move like that lol) and 75 crunches. i dont know why i stopped.

B9896355c7cfc3aafcb589c97f9c8bc9

on January 29, 2013
at 09:50 AM

yes i'm quite in love with my farm life. haha. i dont drink alot of milk as it is. just use it in cooking and some chocolate milk once in a while. i already almost never drink soda. and juice upsets my stomach so i avoid it anyways. on the downside i'm fairly addicted to noodles and rice haha. so will really have to work on that. though i made sweet potatoe fries and venison steak today. good but i need to get better at makin the fries to my liking.

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(9402)

on January 27, 2013
at 11:35 PM

Just realized my last comment contradicts itself. I guess the raw goats milk would have to be an exception to the avoid liquid calories rule.

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on January 27, 2013
at 11:07 PM

I forgot to say: in my opinion, adding your raw goats milk and raw goats milk cheese should be fine. Also, if you aren't getting weight loss, you can try cutting out snacks. Just eat 2 or 3 meals per day, and don't eat any other time. Of course, only eat to satiety and then stop. Also, avoid liquid calories.

Ae8946707ddebf0f0bfbcfc63276d823

(9402)

on January 27, 2013
at 11:06 PM

I forgot to say: in my opinion, adding your raw goats milk and raw goats milk cheese should be fine. Also, if you aren't getting weight loss, you can try cutting out snacks. Just eat 2 or 3 meals per day don't any other time. Of course, only eat to satiety and then stop. Also, avoid liquid calories.

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on January 27, 2013
at 11:01 PM

you guys aren't being very welcoming to a new user.

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(11698)

on January 27, 2013
at 07:12 PM

Yes. Veg cooked in fat = heaven.

Ae8946707ddebf0f0bfbcfc63276d823

(9402)

on January 27, 2013
at 03:02 PM

haha. no problem. :)

Ce41c230e8c2a4295db31aec3ef4b2ab

(32564)

on January 27, 2013
at 03:02 PM

Thanks, Mike T! I wok up grumpy this morning, sorry for the griping!

Ae8946707ddebf0f0bfbcfc63276d823

(9402)

on January 27, 2013
at 02:58 PM

It read as a question to me, but I'll edit the title just to be safe.

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on January 27, 2013
at 01:35 PM

Paragraphs 1,3,5,6 could've been excluded, but knowing 2,4,7,8,9,10,11,12 helped me to give her a better answer, so I agree in part with you.

Ce41c230e8c2a4295db31aec3ef4b2ab

(32564)

on January 27, 2013
at 01:27 PM

I get that, but she needs to make it a clear question, Stephen, not a rambling essay.

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on January 27, 2013
at 01:17 PM

@dragonfly, she's asking how to lose weight and be healthier.

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on January 27, 2013
at 11:18 AM

ps. You may be happier with the forum at www.marksdailyapple.com. Lots of great info, recipes, etc.

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on January 27, 2013
at 11:16 AM

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on January 27, 2013
at 02:54 PM

Wow. I think you are in a perfect position to do paleo. Raise and butcher your own animals, milk your own goats, spend your days throwing bales of hay and hiking hills. That all sounds really paleo to me, and I'm guessing a life that many of us here (at least sometimes) dream of having.

I think the easiest way to do this is just focus on only eating meat, fish, eggs, fruits and vegetables. Eat these with as little processing as possible. Avoid any packaged foods. Avoid anything with flour or added sugar. Cook with animal fat rather than vegetable/seed oils. This means cutting out the rolls. You don't have to eat a ton of vegetables. It's probably good if you can eat some (a variety), but it doesn't have to be a lot.

For exercise, just keep doing what you're doing: throwing hay bales, lots of walking, all the other stuff that goes with keeping a farm.

Make sure you are getting good sleep (hopefully at least 8 hours in a dark room every night). Try to keep your stress levels under control (e.g., don't let wedding planning stress you out more than it needs to).

If you're consistent with everything above, I'm guessing you should start consistently losing weight without too much effort. If it doesn't work or your weight loss stalls, I would try one or more of these:

(1) Lifting heavy weights. This doesn't have to take a lot of time. The book Starting Strength by Mark Rippetoe is really good. You want to do things like bench press, press, squat, deadlift. It's probably enough to lift 2-3 times a week for 30 minutes. Interval training (like Stephen describes) could also work (in addition or maybe instead of the weights).

(2) Decreasing the food reward of your diet (Google Stephan Guyenet). This might mean things like eating your baked potatoes plain, rather than with butter or sour cream. Gently cooking your food (i.e., slow cooker) rather than frying. Less variety in your meals/diets (i.e., fewer foods/ingredients).

(3) Eating very low carb. If you have metabolic issues (insulin resistance), eating very low carb may make it much easier to lose weight. There is a lot of debate on this, but it has clearly worked for many people. If it works, you may also still find a point where weight loss stalls and you need to add carbs back. Also, this may make it more difficult to lift heavy weights or do interval training.

(4) Counting calories. No fun at all, but it works. Don't create too much of a deficit that could stress your body, and make sure you're eating nutrient dense foods (the same foods listed above which you should be eating anyway). Make sure you eat enough protein to help make the weight loss come from fat instead of muscle (e.g., 1 gram per pound of body weight is more than enough).

(5) Carb cycling. Either only eating starchy carbs at the end of the day (Google Kiefer's CBL or Nate Miyaka) or being low carb all the time except for a weekly carb re-feed (Google Kiefer's Carb Nite).

Oh yeah, and for recipes, there are lots and lots of paleo recipes all over PaleoHacks and the rest of the internet. Just search for "paleo, recipe" and whatever dish or ingredient you're looking for. My favorite is just to throw some cut up meat, bones, potatoes, onions, other vegetables, spices and some water into the slow cooker on low overnight.

Good luck!

Ae8946707ddebf0f0bfbcfc63276d823

(9402)

on January 27, 2013
at 11:35 PM

Just realized my last comment contradicts itself. I guess the raw goats milk would have to be an exception to the avoid liquid calories rule.

Ae8946707ddebf0f0bfbcfc63276d823

(9402)

on January 27, 2013
at 11:06 PM

I forgot to say: in my opinion, adding your raw goats milk and raw goats milk cheese should be fine. Also, if you aren't getting weight loss, you can try cutting out snacks. Just eat 2 or 3 meals per day don't any other time. Of course, only eat to satiety and then stop. Also, avoid liquid calories.

Ae8946707ddebf0f0bfbcfc63276d823

(9402)

on January 27, 2013
at 11:07 PM

I forgot to say: in my opinion, adding your raw goats milk and raw goats milk cheese should be fine. Also, if you aren't getting weight loss, you can try cutting out snacks. Just eat 2 or 3 meals per day, and don't eat any other time. Of course, only eat to satiety and then stop. Also, avoid liquid calories.

B9896355c7cfc3aafcb589c97f9c8bc9

on January 29, 2013
at 09:50 AM

yes i'm quite in love with my farm life. haha. i dont drink alot of milk as it is. just use it in cooking and some chocolate milk once in a while. i already almost never drink soda. and juice upsets my stomach so i avoid it anyways. on the downside i'm fairly addicted to noodles and rice haha. so will really have to work on that. though i made sweet potatoe fries and venison steak today. good but i need to get better at makin the fries to my liking.

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on January 27, 2013
at 01:25 PM

Hey walkswithgoats, I'm gonna give you a few simple recommendations.

  1. Cut out grains, try substituting grains in your recipes with peeled potatoes or other tubers.
  2. If you're trying to achieve body Recomposition at a faster pace than you are currently then I suggest you incorporate a high intensity interval program similar to sprint 8 by Phil Campbell into your weekly schedule.
  3. Include an Iodine rich food, pcos might be in part caused by an iodine deficiency. Include more seafood, preferably smaller seafood like oysters or small fish like sardines (they have a high selenium to mercury ratio, which is important).

Also, you have an aversion to exercise, don't think of #2 as exercise, it's only 12 minutes of all out work per Week. It is not like slow state cardio, which I find I dread also.

B9896355c7cfc3aafcb589c97f9c8bc9

on January 29, 2013
at 09:54 AM

haha yes i generally try to avoid anything labeled as exercise other then my walking/hiking. in the summer i do alot, as well as some biking, which is alot on our hills here. i am going to start crunches and pushups. just see how many i can do without pushing myself. then add a few more each day. i *was* doing that a while back and was up to like 40 pushups (my arms dont like to move like that lol) and 75 crunches. i dont know why i stopped.

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on January 27, 2013
at 03:43 PM

Have hubby go low carb. Then he can eat the meat and eggs at McDonalds and throw away the sandwich buns/fries/any other crap they serve.

B9896355c7cfc3aafcb589c97f9c8bc9

on January 29, 2013
at 10:01 AM

i have showed him the info on paleo. he found a sort of similar thing "viking" something or other.... he adores vikings and that type thing, he is asatru, so that really appealed to him. though i'm not sure how much he will follow through with that until we live together.

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on January 27, 2013
at 03:28 PM

Your fiance and yourself should somehow BOTH share in the new nutritional lifestyle. If one of you become skinny and other stay fat, it make instability in the relationship dynamics.

It must be enjoyable to be sustainable. One person might practice self-denial, but not two. So yes, must find recipes both of you enjoy.

Avoid falling into the trap of yo yo diets, or fads, or ya'll be miserable & oscillating in weight for the rest of your time on earth.

I foresee a major difficulty in the free food your fiance gets. That's gonna be difficult to quit. Especially as he seems to have gotten into a habit of gorging himself. Maybe suggest he feast upon only sandwich meat and salad.

B9896355c7cfc3aafcb589c97f9c8bc9

on January 29, 2013
at 09:59 AM

i wouldnt say gorging himself. i dated a guy whom would SERIOUSLY GORGE! ... i know future hubby can pack it in a bit but i wouldnt say gorge. though i know we both need to relearn eating habits.

B9896355c7cfc3aafcb589c97f9c8bc9

on January 29, 2013
at 09:59 AM

i agree on the relationship bit. though i doubt we would do that, just our personalities. but i wont ramble on about that on here. yes i have never actually "dieted" or anything because my mother always did them growing up. i remember once she sat at the table with a bowl of broth and the rest of us had heaping plates. i think i was 6y/o. and she never lost the weight until recently and i think it is due to eatin next to nothing and too many diet pills. now she is too thin. though she doesnt listen... anyhow...

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24c27817ad9ac518946dda4a131737b5

on January 27, 2013
at 03:37 PM

"PS: myself and future hubby tend to be meat, rolls, and potatoes people and make childish faces at broccoli and veggies."

Personally I have always loved veggies because my mom would cook delicious dishes. I never understood why other kids hate veggies until I realized that in the SAD (Standard American Diet), the usual practice is to steam veggies. Steamed broccoli tastes like grass.

So yes, finding the right recipes are important.

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(11698)

on January 27, 2013
at 07:12 PM

Yes. Veg cooked in fat = heaven.

B9896355c7cfc3aafcb589c97f9c8bc9

on January 29, 2013
at 10:05 AM

i was the type who would sit at the table with veggies gone cold on my plate hour ago and stay there quietly until i was let go to my room. i had a sweet tooth but i would even forego dessert rather then eat veggies. only ones i'd eat is corn (which, ya not really even a veg). though i do adore split pea soup to this day. my mom always called it "green eggs and ham" and i swear i never saw the actual can until i was like 13. then i found out its actually split pea soup. still gag at the thought of regular cooked peas though.

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