Hi PH! It's been a while. This isn't in the nutrition realm, but it does deal with the primal relationship between a mother and child, plus, you guys are great and I'd love your opinion.
Here's the skinny:
My best friends in this world are a young married couple (young is relative...we're all about to be 30). They are my family. We've spent every holiday together, and have seen each other through rough times over the years. I'm also their 1 year old daughters godfather.
The 1 year old...she is amazing. I love her to death. My issue is...they haven't even been out on a date since she was born. It's been a year. My girlfriend and I are planning to throw a dinner party, and it's so important to me that they're there. But they said they can only do an afternoon thing since they have the baby. When I say they...I really mean the mom. She refuses to be away from the child at all, if she doesn't have to. I understand that spending time with baby is important, but she is starting to lose friends...she forwent all of her hobbies last year, and only identifies as a mom.
I'm not sure how to approach this; does anyone have any experience with this? What's your advice? I don't have kids, so I'm not sure how patient I should be.
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on February 22, 2015
at 11:04 AM
I don't have any solid answers but I do have a one-year-old so I may be able to give some insight. We didn't really go out until he was about 6 months. It just wasn't worth it. With breastfeeding, he had to eat every few hours and I couldn't be bothered to pump, and he wouldn't go to sleep unless I put him down. Now that he is older it's easier, but it's still a pain. He doesn't like being apart from us, especially at night, and he resists going to sleep, then is overtired the next day. Every baby is different -- some have less separation anxiety. The case you described sounds a bit extreme, but I can understand where she is coming from. By the way, you sound like a great friend and godfather.