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How can I follow Paleo without sounding like a smug jerk?

Answered on September 12, 2014
Created February 20, 2013 at 7:01 PM

Question: How can one do paleo without coming off as a smug jerk. I am asking because sometimes for fun, I always do not come off as the most serious person in the world. I recently asked a question or so I thought and it was closed. so what do people do, as to not sound like an self righteous pompous person?

Thanks in advance,

Eed7dabde3d61910685845e04605267f

(2934)

on February 21, 2013
at 03:37 PM

I really should have said 'emotive terms' fwiw. What I said doesn't really make sense.. like you mundane human, I have learning to do (daresay I always will...)

Fad6cc45c86408332aaf337d68e7b8c2

on February 21, 2013
at 03:23 PM

I have to learn not to be so defensive....forums are what they are, i do apologize for being so, well defensive.

Eed7dabde3d61910685845e04605267f

(2934)

on February 21, 2013
at 03:15 PM

It seemed to me to be a question, albeit couched in pretty subjective and emotive phraseology. There have certainly been worse repeated questions asked on here

0382fa263de4c83328dc34a56e25437f

(4238)

on February 21, 2013
at 01:29 PM

Yeah, I'm not comfortable playing the allergy card when I don't have allergies. It diminishes both the reality of those who really do suffer from allergies, and of my own philosophy of leading by example.

9f54852ea376e8e416356f547611e052

(2957)

on February 21, 2013
at 11:16 AM

Lying is getting votes up? Sign of the times...

Fad6cc45c86408332aaf337d68e7b8c2

on February 21, 2013
at 01:59 AM

you are right i should read the entire FAQ and then exhaust the entire database of possible answers to my non-questions.Thanks for your incite.

61844af1187e745e09bb394cbd28cf23

(11058)

on February 20, 2013
at 07:48 PM

Well, you didn't ask a question. Read the FAQs. Though many of us have a sense of humor, this isn't a comedy board or blog.

Fad6cc45c86408332aaf337d68e7b8c2

on February 20, 2013
at 07:27 PM

I say that as well at times. I put myself and my over-weight son on it. we do very well, but we do cheat, were certainly not perfect at it. You are right. Not sure how one can dismiss whole foods as foolish or a bad choice. thanks for the reply

Fad6cc45c86408332aaf337d68e7b8c2

on February 20, 2013
at 07:25 PM

I work in a hospital and people are always shoveling in doughnuts and I constantly say no-thanks, and they always say oh that Paleo - Bleep! it gets frustrating at times. thanks for your reply

Fad6cc45c86408332aaf337d68e7b8c2

on February 20, 2013
at 07:24 PM

I thought it was funny.

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32652cb696b75182cb121009ee4edea3

(5802)

on February 20, 2013
at 07:09 PM

I usually just say I eat whole foods, but avoid grains for personal health reasons. If the person wants to know more, I mention paleo. But no one can argue with "whole foods." I just only eat certain whole foods, not all of them ...

Fad6cc45c86408332aaf337d68e7b8c2

on February 20, 2013
at 07:25 PM

I work in a hospital and people are always shoveling in doughnuts and I constantly say no-thanks, and they always say oh that Paleo - Bleep! it gets frustrating at times. thanks for your reply

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0382fa263de4c83328dc34a56e25437f

on February 20, 2013
at 07:21 PM

I just explain that it's a lifestyle choice I've made, and try to keep in mind that I should respect everyone else's sovereignty of choice as to what they eat. The first few years of eating this way, I had to constantly remind myself that I had no desire to proselytize or convert anyone else, and found that helpful in governing my conversational tone.

In my worst moments, I realize I sometimes whip out at people out of defensiveness, which fortunately occurs less often over time. I've achieved results in the last five years that no one's really able to argue with. Most conversations, no matter how gently engaged, almost always end with the other person admitting they could never willingly give up their grains -- which only drives home that all this comes down to personal choice and priorities.

I also remind myself that not only is there no single diet that works for everyone, I also don't want to sound like the majority of dogmatic vegetarians I've met. That helps immensely.

Fad6cc45c86408332aaf337d68e7b8c2

on February 20, 2013
at 07:27 PM

I say that as well at times. I put myself and my over-weight son on it. we do very well, but we do cheat, were certainly not perfect at it. You are right. Not sure how one can dismiss whole foods as foolish or a bad choice. thanks for the reply

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75d65450b6ff0be7b969fb321f1200ac

(2506)

on February 20, 2013
at 09:28 PM

I simply lie, or semi-lie. I don't say I follow Paleo but rather that I'm cursed with severe food allergies (to gluten, grains, starchy veggies, and dairy). So instead of sounding smug I garner sympathy/pity. But the truth is I only exhibit an allergic-type of reaction to dairy.

_Lazza

9f54852ea376e8e416356f547611e052

(2957)

on February 21, 2013
at 11:16 AM

Lying is getting votes up? Sign of the times...

0382fa263de4c83328dc34a56e25437f

(4238)

on February 21, 2013
at 01:29 PM

Yeah, I'm not comfortable playing the allergy card when I don't have allergies. It diminishes both the reality of those who really do suffer from allergies, and of my own philosophy of leading by example.

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62fafa8cb15af7c562fa8c270f7b6174

on February 21, 2013
at 12:22 PM

Grok was a smug jerk, but without the language skills to express his true nature. Try to grunt more often.

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Ff9ec8a0b1665314daa51426aaa13496

on April 07, 2013
at 10:35 PM

Short answer: nobody cares. Eat what you eat. Don't explain it. If asked (rare) vaguely reference allergies. Easy.

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0abbec29fdcc092e969885ad70aa4c11

on February 21, 2013
at 01:06 AM

Start by not being a self-righteous jerk.

I'm working on it, will let you know how it goes.

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F92e4ca55291c3f3096a3d4d3d854986

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on February 20, 2013
at 09:21 PM

I think that food-health awareness is high enough nowadays that you can say something like "Yeah, I just try to avoid processed foods" or "I mainly just stick to meat and veg, I feel better that way" without using labels, mimicking a caveman, or sounding smug. I don't mind the word Paleo, but that's just me. Ancestral's a nice one too.

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Ebb10603524dd22621c1155dd7ddf106

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on February 20, 2013
at 07:09 PM

Why are you assuming people thought you were being smug?

The question that was closed wasn't funny, so it's not surprising that people thought it was just a poorly written, non-question. You're allowed to be funny - many of us try to cause a laugh now and then! :-)

Eed7dabde3d61910685845e04605267f

(2934)

on February 21, 2013
at 03:15 PM

It seemed to me to be a question, albeit couched in pretty subjective and emotive phraseology. There have certainly been worse repeated questions asked on here

61844af1187e745e09bb394cbd28cf23

(11058)

on February 20, 2013
at 07:48 PM

Well, you didn't ask a question. Read the FAQs. Though many of us have a sense of humor, this isn't a comedy board or blog.

Eed7dabde3d61910685845e04605267f

(2934)

on February 21, 2013
at 03:37 PM

I really should have said 'emotive terms' fwiw. What I said doesn't really make sense.. like you mundane human, I have learning to do (daresay I always will...)

Fad6cc45c86408332aaf337d68e7b8c2

on February 20, 2013
at 07:24 PM

I thought it was funny.

Fad6cc45c86408332aaf337d68e7b8c2

on February 21, 2013
at 01:59 AM

you are right i should read the entire FAQ and then exhaust the entire database of possible answers to my non-questions.Thanks for your incite.

Fad6cc45c86408332aaf337d68e7b8c2

on February 21, 2013
at 03:23 PM

I have to learn not to be so defensive....forums are what they are, i do apologize for being so, well defensive.

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55e9ff265dd970ad34e96e38bde46575

(50)

on April 07, 2013
at 11:17 PM

Maybe it's just me, but I'm sick of hearing people complain about their health problems when they don't even TRY to control what goes in their mouths.

Kinda wish paleo was more like the anti-smoking campaigns. If we started showing commercials of morbidly obese people riding around on scooters eating bread while injecting themselves with insulin, maybe people would get the message.

Your health sucks because of what you eat. Mine doesn't because of what I eat. Get over it. I don't pressure you to eat anything, don't pressure me.

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37115c8eace2f7f2b936be76417fe716

on February 21, 2013
at 01:24 AM

I think people will always think you're a jerk because you're not indulging in some SAD binge fest or even politely refusing a piece of cake. It inevitably makes you look snobby. But I also try to bring some totally delicious paleo thing (without saying its paleo) to most food gatherings so people know I want to be there and be friendly.

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Bfd70bb38267fcc2d762063d691fa226

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on February 21, 2013
at 01:04 AM

Personally, the only person who I told that I follow "the paleo lifestyle" is my boyfriend. the average person on SAD will probably think the whole "eating like a caveman" concept is something out of the ordinary and hence try to undermine it or poke fun at it. Instead, I just say that I get indigestion from gluten and wheat. Gluten or wheat allergies are not uncommon. I also avoid dessert and sweets because I work out. Tell people that you are training for some athletic event whether it be a 5k or a Tough Mudder. People shouldn't see it as weird to forgo sweet when you are training for something.

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142d7e06e608cff536ab78e6ca78ce38

on April 08, 2013
at 03:55 AM

I have celiac but I don't broadcast it. I eat Paelo. If anyone offers me something such as cake I just say no things I am allergic to it. End of story.

I really believe we think people care more about what we do than they actually do.

Just do it!

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7d46edca72c2f8347f65d7b734d1f1eb

on April 08, 2013
at 02:11 AM

I'm with a lot of the other answers here. When I first started paleo I was very excited and liked talking to everyone about it but now I keep to myself especially around the office and gym. I had one too many people say things like "too much protein is bad for you" or "oh so you're pretty much following the Atkins diet then - my friend got sick from that" or "you shouldn't eat so many eggs they are high in cholesterol." I found that the folks that had the worse diets and carrying the most extra weight seemed to be the most judgemental/critical ironically. If asked now I just say I try to avoid processed foods and sugars as much as I can and eat healthier wholesome foods. That has done the trick for me because most people don't push beyond that.

Funny side bar - I have a woman in my office who is very unhealthy and eats a bag of Doritos and a Diet Coke every morning at her desk for breakfast. True story - every morning. She saw me peeling three hard boiled eggs to go with my sweet potatoes and coconut oil breakfast and was the one who told me I shouldn't eat so many eggs. That was actually when I decided to go out of my way to keep to myself about paleo....

Closet paleo ftw.....!

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00f034ed9cdeab04f4a7e72296c3d4d9

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on February 20, 2013
at 10:37 PM

Or better yet, don't say anything at all. Actions speak louder than words, and when people see what you eat versus what you say you eat, it makes a larger impact. Especially if they can see the results, like losing weight, clearer skin, vitality, etc.

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