After years of depression, eating disorders, and antidepressants, I lost my libido. I overcame my depression three years ago in 2011 when I adopted a paleo diet and quit all medications. All thanks to paleo, I am in very good health (my mood, personality, anxiety, outlook on life, and acne have all improved due to eating primal) but my libido has never turned up.
Mentally, I want to have sex. I crave it. These days, I'm very confident with my body. This isn't psychological. It's physiological: I don't get physically aroused easily, I don't get wet, it feels uncomfortable for my vulva and vagina to be stimulated. The only time I am a little bit aroused is after four or more glasses of wine and it goes away very quickly.
For the past year, I've spent a lot of money getting blood tests to sort out my issue. Frustratingly, the hormones I've tested so far are all in the normal ranges. The only hormone that's off range is sex hormone binding globulin (way too high), which (frustratingly again) my endocrinologist is not offering any suggests to improve. I went to see a gynecologist 6 months ago and after reviewing my test results she recommended I see a psychologist. Naturally, I've lost faith in medical professionals.
Blood tests have revealed that I have magnesium deficiency and copper/zinc imbalance. I have been addressing this for 10 months with supplementation, which has greatly improved my skin but that's all.
I'm saving money right now for further tests: I want to see if I have serotonin deficiency, B12, vitamin d, and thyroid issues (I tested TSH last year and it was normal but I want to go deeper).
In the meantime, I am continuing my primal diet ensuring that I get all my nutrients in. I am also doing kegels and practicing daily positive affirmations.
Low libido is killing me. I'm losing a lot of good relationships because of it.
If you have any suggestions or a similar story, please share.
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on January 28, 2016
at 06:13 PM
I am about the same age as you with a slightly similar story. Libido is my main "problem" even though I'm healthy and look great.
I think I may have some helpful info. You mention having taking SSRIs and also that your SHBG is high. Have you ever taken any form of synthetic hormones (ie. birth control)? Both antidepressants and synthetic hormones wreak havoc on your system, and especially your libido.
I had a strong libido up until 16 when I went on the pill. It DESTROYED my sex drive and I've been suffering for 6 years without it (at all!) and have logged about 5,000 hours researching every possible health topic trying to get to the bottom of it.
Well I finally have a good sense of direction and would like to help others who have suffered with this issue.
1) Progesterone - supplemeting is CRUCIAL after (and while) taking synthetic hormones or SSRIs. It has helped me TREMEMDOUSLY.
2) Low carb = low libido - While I first started progesterone, everything was getting better all the time, but I developed a fear of carbs based on some bad internet information and completely took them out of my diet. I went into ketosis for a couple of months and my mood, libido, well-being all took a turn for the worse. I was suffering from "Progesterone steal" and glucose deficiency (See Perfect Health Diet). Thanks to PaleoHacks though, I discovered that I needed the carbs back in my life. Now, two weeks later, I'm feeling my body healing and have had the strongest (still faint, but growing) sexual desire I've had since I was 16. Things are leveling out again. It feels great.
Also, vitamin D is very important for overall health. I recommend at least 5,000 IU/day but it won't do any good unless you take magnesium too. On a similar note, progesterone supplementation won't do any good unless you have enough vitamin D.
Please check out Wray White's web site: progesteronetherapy.org
You may find a lot of answers and healing there. I can vouch.
on April 19, 2014
at 10:45 PM
Have you tested DHEA and testosterone? Women need some testosterone for healthy sexual function.
on April 18, 2014
at 06:53 PM
Have you tried just doing it? That might get yo back into it.
Or reading some very erotic material?
How often do you masturbate and orgasm?
You need to be able to feel sexy on your own and orgasm alone before you want to try it with anyone else.
on April 18, 2014
at 03:20 PM
Thanks for the contribution. I have a moderate to high carb intake most days.
on April 15, 2014
at 11:31 PM
How is your carb intake? I was an idiot and ate too low of calorie especially carbs (100% paleo) and probably was over training for a solid year. Im in the same boat. Ive done a lot of reading and carbs are the answer.
I also haven't seen my period for over a year, almost 2 now. Ive increased carbs and calories, gained weight (which mentally is stressful; probably not helping with gaining a cycle) but I have no libido. It sucks.
I've noticed some changes since I've increased calories and carbs.
Id recommend figuring out daily calories needed and making sure you reach them. Its hard to eat under calories with Paleo (unless you increase your fat, but high fat makes me feel groggy)
Best of luck!