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Holiday Time... How do I handle this?

Answered on August 19, 2014
Created December 19, 2011 at 12:19 PM

So, this is my first Christmas as a Paleo. I am extremely nervous about it. On Thanksgiving, we went to my husband's side and everyone was very uncomfortable with the fact that I wasn't eating. I just fasted because everything was not friendly to my particular diet choices. There wasn't even a relish tray. Anyway, I'm not sure how to approach this holiday, as there will be extended times when I am unable to access my own refrigerator. Not to mention, several days in a row. What is the best way to handle this? I can handle a short, 12 hour fast, sometimes. It all depends on my mental state, where I am in my cycle, etc. My mental state when with my in-laws is generally not the greatest... HELP!

F3583667d653163c121640a015ffa93a

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on December 20, 2011
at 01:43 PM

And when you do find something you can eat, praise it lavishly like it's one of the best things you've had in a long time. This will help with the "My God, she's being so picky about her diet one day off is not going to kill her" attitude. And bring a dish that you know you can eat to pass around, too, that way you'll know there's something there that you can eat. Some of the paleo recipes posted around the web for the holidays look really good!

C796170f6af6f9b9afbf31f4550d1d84

(345)

on December 19, 2011
at 10:03 PM

During the Thanksgiving holidays I ate the Turkey- all of the veggies regardless of what was on them and thank goodness I was too full to fall of the the wagon with Praline Bundt Cake!

A968087cc1dd66d480749c02e4619ef4

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on December 19, 2011
at 06:16 PM

I must be a midwesterner, then! An antipasto tray is nice too.

A968087cc1dd66d480749c02e4619ef4

(20436)

on December 19, 2011
at 06:14 PM

I loved that old TV show.

1dda08efb8ba98e9128fdef038153227

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on December 19, 2011
at 06:11 PM

I agree with heavyarms. I went through this during Thanksgiving. Beforehand, there was a lot of hand wringing amongst my family members regarding what I could eat. I already knew there would be plenty of things I could eat, plenty of things I couldn't and wouldn't, and plenty of things I couldn't, but would taste. Eat what you can and don't worry about the rest.

Dfada6fe4982ab3b7557172f20632da8

(5332)

on December 19, 2011
at 05:08 PM

Beans and margarine? Have these things caused serious issues for you in the past?

96bf58d8c6bd492dc5b8ae46203fe247

(37227)

on December 19, 2011
at 05:00 PM

I still remember when I was first married and I was worried about meeting my in-laws. At the end of the visit, my mother-in-law said, "I was so nervous about meeting you! I wanted to make a good impression." So you see, they're probably just as nervous and you can help them by cheerfully avoiding things you really don't want to eat but compromising on others and bringing a couple things so you can enjoy yourself (rather than being a martyr?)

96bf58d8c6bd492dc5b8ae46203fe247

(37227)

on December 19, 2011
at 04:59 PM

I still remember when I was first married and I was worried about meeting my in-laws. At the end of the visit, my mother-in-law said, "I was so nervous about meeting you! I wanted to make a good impression." So you see, they're probably just as nervous and you can help them by cheerfully avoiding things you really don't want to eat but compromise on others and enjoy yourself (rather than being a martyr?)

Cf32992bfa1907147c7cdc451bba9c63

(2890)

on December 19, 2011
at 04:47 PM

I am more concerned with impressing my in-laws than my own family. My family is stuck with me, but not my in-laws. So I will eat whatever they make me and enjoy it whether I want to or not!

32f5749fa6cf7adbeb0b0b031ba82b46

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on December 19, 2011
at 04:47 PM

Well, just be prepared to become crazy "sister/cousin/aunt/daughter/etc" Stephanie who doesn't eat "normal" food... I'd truly be surprised if a bit of cream soup, bread crumbs or cured ham does you in after 1 meal.

778b36f4f699f202de135ef176fe9ab7

(1123)

on December 19, 2011
at 03:52 PM

Haha! That's funny. Maybe relish tray is a mid-westerism or something. I've never heard it called anything else. That's why I love these sites, where I can talk to people from ALL over the place. Renee... that relish tray sounds fantastic. This one will most likely be carrots, celery, radishes, maybe some olives, if I'm lucky. It will be okay. I just get nervous!

778b36f4f699f202de135ef176fe9ab7

(1123)

on December 19, 2011
at 03:49 PM

Yes... you would think. The great bounty is generally crap. For example, all vegetables are garnished with some kind of cream soup and/or bread crumbs. I'm keeping my fingers crossed for a relish tray this time. I can live on carrots and olives. The meat is usually one of those football hams. Bleck...

32f5749fa6cf7adbeb0b0b031ba82b46

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on December 19, 2011
at 03:48 PM

It's one thing to stick to dogmatic paleo rules if you're going to get sick and/or die if you go off reservation, it's another if it means a little bloating. I find it hard to believe you ate these types of foods for years and years and now, less than a year paleo, you're incapable of eating any without vomiting. Drama queen much?

778b36f4f699f202de135ef176fe9ab7

(1123)

on December 19, 2011
at 03:48 PM

I'm mostly concerned about Christmas Eve, as I will only be able to have breakfast at my house. We are expected to be at the MIL's for lunch and then we have to go to the extended maternal side for supper, which is chili (with beans) and oyster stew (with margerine). I think that's the meal I'm most worried about. There usually isn't anything else, except for bread and cookies. It's horrible that I get anxious about this stuff. And maybe I'm over thinking it, but UGH. I detest nothing more than being hungry :p

07ca188c8dac3a17f629dd87198d2098

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on December 19, 2011
at 03:26 PM

Huh, I've always heard that referred to as crudités.

77877f762c40637911396daa19b53094

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on December 19, 2011
at 03:09 PM

Remember that Christmas is not just about food, it is about family too. Try to bend a bit because after all, this is your husband's family and it is better to get along. Quietly mention to your mother-in-law that certain foods upset your stomach and you will eat the ones that are OK for you. And make sure to bring something that you are able to enjoy.

1d0497f8781845ab371b479455bfee8e

(11157)

on December 19, 2011
at 02:39 PM

Eat a big Paleo meal BEFORE you go to your in-laws'. And if you're going for an extended visit, pack lots of Paleo-friendly snacks and try to make eggs and meat for breakfast. For everything else, you'll have to sort of pick around the food they offer you :/

1d0497f8781845ab371b479455bfee8e

(11157)

on December 19, 2011
at 02:37 PM

Eat a big Paleo meal before you visit your in-laws!

66974b2cb291799dcd661b7dec99a9e2

(11121)

on December 19, 2011
at 02:29 PM

+1 for working in a Hogan's Heros reference lol

Dfada6fe4982ab3b7557172f20632da8

(5332)

on December 19, 2011
at 02:21 PM

If it's that great a bounty then you ought to be able to find things to eat. And push some of the more tempting recipes your mother-in-law's way to start subverting the rest of the family :)

Dfada6fe4982ab3b7557172f20632da8

(5332)

on December 19, 2011
at 02:19 PM

Personally, I wouldn't look to start a guilt complex over your food choices. At some point, if people are insisting on trying to make you eat things that you know will make you physically sick, you have to start saying no.

77877f762c40637911396daa19b53094

(78467)

on December 19, 2011
at 02:14 PM

Three questions; Where, how long, and plane/car.It may make a differnce planning for the excape from Stalag 13 .

F92e4ca55291c3f3096a3d4d3d854986

(11698)

on December 19, 2011
at 02:02 PM

I never knew it was called that. For Xmas our relish tray is usually antipasto, marinated artichokes, olives, proscuitto, cheese etc. Who really wants raw veg on Xmas :)

778b36f4f699f202de135ef176fe9ab7

(1123)

on December 19, 2011
at 02:02 PM

I don't find it hard to set boundaries. I find it difficult when th people around me freak out and riddle me with questions because I'm not eating, or not eating much. My husband's mother is a big family that likes to eat when they get together. They seem to take it personally when I don't partake in the bounty before me. His mom knows I've drastically changed my eating habits... I'm not sure what you mean that this questions is not really paleo.

A968087cc1dd66d480749c02e4619ef4

(20436)

on December 19, 2011
at 01:53 PM

Eat what you can, don't eat what you can't. Meat, nuts, olives, veggies/salad, cheese (if you do dairy). Cheat a little if you can get away with it. Try not to focus on being "paleo". If you can bring things to share, that's even better.

7dc950fc76a046048e683d2a27dced37

on December 19, 2011
at 01:50 PM

A relish tray is typically vegetable appetizers like sliced carrots and celery, pickles, cherry tomatoes, etc.

7dc950fc76a046048e683d2a27dced37

on December 19, 2011
at 01:49 PM

I just deleted my comment. If you get violently, disgustingly ill when you "cheat" and find it hard to set boundaries about your eating, then I'm not so sure this is really a paleo question!

19acef0aed67ef8dc1118d8e74edb349

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on December 19, 2011
at 01:19 PM

If they ask why you're being so rude as to bring your own food (OMG!) then tell you "have to, and you don't want to discuss the matter". Change the conversation to how aunties kitties are doing. :D Everyone likes to talk about themselves.

19acef0aed67ef8dc1118d8e74edb349

(2954)

on December 19, 2011
at 01:17 PM

Tell them that. I was thinking that, people are saying "eat and enjoy!" but I too don't want to deal with any side effects, including pimples, diarrhea, vomiting, itchy bumps on my skin, etc, etc. That's not what I call a good Christmas. Tell them you ARE bringing your own food (bring enough to share), eat the meat dish if you can. Buy your own breakfasts (eggs?) and such if you can. It doesn't matter what they think here, if they want you there, they suck it up.

778b36f4f699f202de135ef176fe9ab7

(1123)

on December 19, 2011
at 01:10 PM

It's not just about my Paleo Whims. It's about the vomiting. I get violently, disgustingly ill whenever I cheat.

778b36f4f699f202de135ef176fe9ab7

(1123)

on December 19, 2011
at 01:10 PM

It's not just about my Paleo Whims. It's about vomiting from consuming the food. Whenever I cheat, I get violently, disgustingly ill.

Dfada6fe4982ab3b7557172f20632da8

(5332)

on December 19, 2011
at 12:58 PM

Well the question is does anyone have full tolerance to gluten, and if you've not tried it since breaking the relationship it's hard to know what'll happen. But it's also hard to believe you'll never come across it again, and each time it should be easier to get back on the wagon.

685e3c967e63b4eacccf02628fd9a3ac

(1026)

on December 19, 2011
at 12:56 PM

There is one easy way out : tell them you're histamine intolerant.

082bf04a7486991c5e573a66f1404b3e

(813)

on December 19, 2011
at 12:47 PM

^ Agree. But bear in mind unless you have an intolerance to (lets use and example here) gluten; a few gluten-containing treats won't break the cycle. To steal a phrase from Mark Sisson, paleo is about positive genetic expression. It is not a set of "thou shalt nots". The joy of mince pies at christmas should not be forsworn over something so silly ;)

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531db50c958cf4d5605ee0c5ae8a57be

on December 19, 2011
at 05:46 PM

Most of the responses seem to be advocating "go with the flow," which is fine for some people I suppose. But if you started this diet to cure and reverse disease symptoms, then it's the worst advice ever. Would you tell a drunk, "get over yourself, have a drink...get back on the wagon after the holidays..."? One person's "cheat" is another person's "trigger."

Your husband is the key to making this work. You need to engage him to help clear the path for you socially. This is no time to be ambiguous. He should make your food intolerances clear to his family.

And bring snacks.

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082bf04a7486991c5e573a66f1404b3e

on December 19, 2011
at 12:42 PM

My advice is simple: ENJOY CHRISTMAS! A few days will not make or break your health kick.

How many years had you not been paleo? Seriously, the negatives (stress, less fun, not enjoying christmas ffs!) of trying to stick to paleo FAR FAR outweigh the benefits of sticking 100% to your guns.

If you just try and make healthy choices (example: eat the turkey, skip the gravy. eat the pudding, skip the ice cream. drink, but in moderation), you'll get the best of both worlds.

Hope this helps. I've been a health nut for years, but you're damn right Im eating chocolate, cakes and mince pies next week^^

1dda08efb8ba98e9128fdef038153227

(120)

on December 19, 2011
at 06:11 PM

I agree with heavyarms. I went through this during Thanksgiving. Beforehand, there was a lot of hand wringing amongst my family members regarding what I could eat. I already knew there would be plenty of things I could eat, plenty of things I couldn't and wouldn't, and plenty of things I couldn't, but would taste. Eat what you can and don't worry about the rest.

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Dfada6fe4982ab3b7557172f20632da8

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on December 19, 2011
at 12:42 PM

Don't worry, enjoy the holiday, and embrace the necessity of food. Even if the family provides the worst of commercialised SAD for christmas dinner, grok would still have eaten what was available and shook of the effects. Some people de-paleo just to reaffirm their commitment. If there's particular foods like gluten you want to avoid as it has a longer-term impact, that shouldn't be too uncomfortable, but for the most part the food, while not necessarily of the best quality, is not going to kill you within a few days. Use whatever control you have to take more of the parts of the meal which are preferable. If it's really bad, eat minimally so as to minimise discomfort all round. If you need to, you can fast when you get home.

Above all, exude an aura of quiet confidence and calm, even if you're not entirely happy with the food choices you're having to make. Otherwise the pressure might be too much and you'd lose all control. And, well, actually that's really not that big a deal either. If it helps, I tend to join in with big meals, but otherwise can pick and choose at other meal times, perhaps take some of my preferred snacks/travelling food, or even go to the store and buy something to cook for myself. But then, I could fast for several days. Seems to miss the point of the holiday to me though.

082bf04a7486991c5e573a66f1404b3e

(813)

on December 19, 2011
at 12:47 PM

^ Agree. But bear in mind unless you have an intolerance to (lets use and example here) gluten; a few gluten-containing treats won't break the cycle. To steal a phrase from Mark Sisson, paleo is about positive genetic expression. It is not a set of "thou shalt nots". The joy of mince pies at christmas should not be forsworn over something so silly ;)

Dfada6fe4982ab3b7557172f20632da8

(5332)

on December 19, 2011
at 12:58 PM

Well the question is does anyone have full tolerance to gluten, and if you've not tried it since breaking the relationship it's hard to know what'll happen. But it's also hard to believe you'll never come across it again, and each time it should be easier to get back on the wagon.

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Ef9f83cb4e1826261a44c173f733789e

on December 19, 2011
at 12:50 PM

Focus on the dead critter that is the main course, and any veggies that aren't covered nasty sauces. If you can bring a dish then make something paleo. Those who don't know paleo will be none the wiser.

778b36f4f699f202de135ef176fe9ab7

(1123)

on December 19, 2011
at 01:10 PM

It's not just about my Paleo Whims. It's about vomiting from consuming the food. Whenever I cheat, I get violently, disgustingly ill.

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4779440d56982a21fd23d695316a11dc

on December 19, 2011
at 01:08 PM

A couple of things you could do:

-Offer to bring a dish or an appetizer to the main holiday dinner. You could do something like a shrimp tray or a big mixed salad bowl... lots of good paleo options that others would probably eat as well.

-Eat your other meals at decent restaurants. Most decent places will have some paleo friendly choices. If you are worried about being able to find good place, you could do some research online before you go. Order two meals when you are there and ask to have one them boxed up, you can eat this meal the next day if you are staying with someone over night.

-Pack a little bit of non-perishable food like jerky/pemmican/canned fish.

-Make the best choices possible. A couple meals of crappy food likely won't kill you. Just be reasonable with your portions and such, don't binge on junk like sugar cookies and cheesecake. You are only looking at a few days out of the year, don't let food make you holidays miserable.

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96bf58d8c6bd492dc5b8ae46203fe247

(37227)

on December 19, 2011
at 04:42 PM

There's a natural tendency to "not rock the boat" when you visit in-laws, but it's more healthy to realize these folks are now family. If you went to your mom's you wouldn't hesitate to say "wheat makes me sick so I have to skip that." You wouldn't hesitate to take some fruit and shrimp to "add to the feast."

So treat your new family the same way you'd treat the old--take care of yourself and have a good time.

96bf58d8c6bd492dc5b8ae46203fe247

(37227)

on December 19, 2011
at 04:59 PM

I still remember when I was first married and I was worried about meeting my in-laws. At the end of the visit, my mother-in-law said, "I was so nervous about meeting you! I wanted to make a good impression." So you see, they're probably just as nervous and you can help them by cheerfully avoiding things you really don't want to eat but compromise on others and enjoy yourself (rather than being a martyr?)

Cf32992bfa1907147c7cdc451bba9c63

(2890)

on December 19, 2011
at 04:47 PM

I am more concerned with impressing my in-laws than my own family. My family is stuck with me, but not my in-laws. So I will eat whatever they make me and enjoy it whether I want to or not!

96bf58d8c6bd492dc5b8ae46203fe247

(37227)

on December 19, 2011
at 05:00 PM

I still remember when I was first married and I was worried about meeting my in-laws. At the end of the visit, my mother-in-law said, "I was so nervous about meeting you! I wanted to make a good impression." So you see, they're probably just as nervous and you can help them by cheerfully avoiding things you really don't want to eat but compromising on others and bringing a couple things so you can enjoy yourself (rather than being a martyr?)

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F44b15b2fd1ad134200793d6b474fc4c

(938)

on December 19, 2011
at 04:00 PM

I had my first Paleo Thanksgiving last month. The way I handled it worked for me. I hope it might work for others. I didn't tell anyone about my diet. When the food was put on the table, I just ate what was paleo -- the turkey, the veggies, and some sweet potatoes -- and just let the other dishes pass. No one said anything or even noticed because they were all so focused on their own plates of food and on the socializing. I'd even made a pumpkin pie for the occasion and when it was served, just said "no thanks" and no one cared.

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828429fe885f42968c0519d5b84cec40

(608)

on December 19, 2011
at 02:17 PM

Agreed with the person that said ENJOY CHRISTMAS. You need to relax. My motto is that the stress of not eating Christmas dinner with your family is far more detrimental than some sugar or wheat. If you would like some tips to mitigate the effects here are some:

1) Intermittently fast before events. For example I have a X-mas party today with cake, martinis, and tons of other neo food. I do a 24 hour fast to help with calories, as well as get some benefits of IF.

2) Go for the protein. Most X-mas dinners have a large piece of meat, and a bunch of side dishes. Load up on the protein and veggies and then have a little bit of the sides. Make sure to tell whoever made whatever side how good it is and that they see you eat it.

3) Do a weight lifting session before (or if you're in a rush, some box jumps and body weight exercises- push ups etc). The glycogen (carbs) will then go to your muscles instead of your gut.

4) Skip most desserts. You can just feign being too full or that you'll have some later. Also skip all non alcoholic liquid calories.

5) Create a calorie/neo buffer the day before and after. Eat super clean and low cal. Maybe even just eat meat and eggs the day after to help with any bloating/water retention.

6) RELAX! Seriously. I can't imagine you there with a long face X-mas dinner. If Paleo is going to gain widespread acceptance we have to be a little less rigid. Now your family thinks Paleo = spoils Thanksgiving and that is not true at all!

Here is a great link for the holidays. Cheating done right!

http://www.leangains.com/2010/11/cheat-day-strategies-for-hedonist.html

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77877f762c40637911396daa19b53094

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on December 19, 2011
at 02:05 PM

I get anxious just thinking about your problem. Like you , I unfortunately have no tolerance for SAD /NADS. none! I don't vomit, but I will get depressed/fatigued. Options. Bring your own cooler or two. One for the house, and a secret one for the car! This is real Mission Impossible stuff. I'm sure there will be no room in their Fridge. Just pretend to eat the crap, and sneak off to your coolers. plus Bring food platters of things no on else will eat (offal plate with lots of toothpicks!) all nicely "decorated for xmas". You'll be able to eat the whole thing. Bring your own potatoes and butter. Smile alot. Last resort,show them your abs and tell the assholes to f*ck themsleves , you're not poisoning yourself for their pleasure/comfort. Sorry, back to reality. Just pretend it's Hogans Heroes and pretend your mother in law is Capt. Klink. and .. Next year , just don't go, if it becomes Too much". To sum it up. THE COOLERS ARE THE KEY. Without THEM you are up the proverbial creek.Hogan always had his coolers.

Dfada6fe4982ab3b7557172f20632da8

(5332)

on December 19, 2011
at 05:08 PM

Beans and margarine? Have these things caused serious issues for you in the past?

Dfada6fe4982ab3b7557172f20632da8

(5332)

on December 19, 2011
at 02:19 PM

Personally, I wouldn't look to start a guilt complex over your food choices. At some point, if people are insisting on trying to make you eat things that you know will make you physically sick, you have to start saying no.

66974b2cb291799dcd661b7dec99a9e2

(11121)

on December 19, 2011
at 02:29 PM

+1 for working in a Hogan's Heros reference lol

77877f762c40637911396daa19b53094

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on December 19, 2011
at 02:14 PM

Three questions; Where, how long, and plane/car.It may make a differnce planning for the excape from Stalag 13 .

778b36f4f699f202de135ef176fe9ab7

(1123)

on December 19, 2011
at 03:48 PM

I'm mostly concerned about Christmas Eve, as I will only be able to have breakfast at my house. We are expected to be at the MIL's for lunch and then we have to go to the extended maternal side for supper, which is chili (with beans) and oyster stew (with margerine). I think that's the meal I'm most worried about. There usually isn't anything else, except for bread and cookies. It's horrible that I get anxious about this stuff. And maybe I'm over thinking it, but UGH. I detest nothing more than being hungry :p

A968087cc1dd66d480749c02e4619ef4

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on December 19, 2011
at 06:14 PM

I loved that old TV show.

C796170f6af6f9b9afbf31f4550d1d84

(345)

on December 19, 2011
at 10:03 PM

During the Thanksgiving holidays I ate the Turkey- all of the veggies regardless of what was on them and thank goodness I was too full to fall of the the wagon with Praline Bundt Cake!

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(380)

on December 19, 2011
at 03:29 PM

The best defense is a good offense. If you can bring a dish to share or volunteer to cook breakfast, for instance (hope everyone likes bacon!), then you can control the situation a little better. Not always possible, but sometimes.

For other meals, just cover your plate with the meat and other paleo-friendly type things since that blank space on your plate brings questions.

It also helps just to remember you're your own person and don't have to eat anything you don't want to. We're not in preschool. This worked for me last year.

Get some Paleo Kits if you can or some other jerky, and if all else fails, slink off to your room and shove those in your face. :D

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Ee957129d157b9b1225b52131f098e63

on December 19, 2011
at 02:48 PM

Eat. Enjoy. Relax. We stress ourselves way too often these days with the "all or nothing" approach, it makes our lives sometimes nearly impossible. We join the gym, we have to work out at least 7 days a week, start to go running, we have to finish a marathon in under 3 hours, we go paleo, we can never have neolithic food EVER again. It takes the fun out of everything and just adds stress. What's the worst that can happen? Will the paleo police show up and arrest you? Will the door going back to paleo forever be shut? Most likely, you'll feel sluggish or maybe a bit uncomfortable, but it will only remind you that the lifestyle you've switched to is so much better. The reason why other people freak out about it, is because they are being confronted with perhaps their own poor eating habits, but that is not your problem to solve or fix. Being a vegetarian for a long time, i know what it's like to "stand out" I just chose not to let it bother me anymore. Like other suggestions here, you can also bring a few dishes of your own, and mix it up. Don't stress, the holidays are stressful enough ;-)

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on December 19, 2011
at 01:54 PM

Dont let social pressure dictate what you eat or not. There are lots of possible solutions: hey i cant go, sorry, bring your own food, drink water- fast? eat before, etc IS a logistic problem: if you are going to eat, Just make sure to eat whatever the hell YOU want.

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F92e4ca55291c3f3096a3d4d3d854986

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on December 19, 2011
at 01:41 PM

Good advice from others here - I think going easy on yourself is number one, but also if you're gonna cheat on the big day, figure out what treat you like the most and go for that. Give yourself full permission, savour it, and make it feel special. Instead of just angrily inhaling rum balls all day and making yourself sick.

And I plan to go for a brisk walk on Xmas day with my dad, between breakfast and dinner, so I don't just feel like a beached whale in front of the fireplace all day.

I also will probably prepare a Paleo-friendly appie and dessert so I have something I can eat and also hope to impress my family with how good Paleo can taste.

PS. What's a relish tray?

7dc950fc76a046048e683d2a27dced37

on December 19, 2011
at 01:50 PM

A relish tray is typically vegetable appetizers like sliced carrots and celery, pickles, cherry tomatoes, etc.

A968087cc1dd66d480749c02e4619ef4

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on December 19, 2011
at 06:16 PM

I must be a midwesterner, then! An antipasto tray is nice too.

F92e4ca55291c3f3096a3d4d3d854986

(11698)

on December 19, 2011
at 02:02 PM

I never knew it was called that. For Xmas our relish tray is usually antipasto, marinated artichokes, olives, proscuitto, cheese etc. Who really wants raw veg on Xmas :)

778b36f4f699f202de135ef176fe9ab7

(1123)

on December 19, 2011
at 03:52 PM

Haha! That's funny. Maybe relish tray is a mid-westerism or something. I've never heard it called anything else. That's why I love these sites, where I can talk to people from ALL over the place. Renee... that relish tray sounds fantastic. This one will most likely be carrots, celery, radishes, maybe some olives, if I'm lucky. It will be okay. I just get nervous!

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on December 19, 2011
at 03:26 PM

Huh, I've always heard that referred to as crudités.

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on December 19, 2011
at 01:17 PM

I took a jar of coconut butter to this year's paleo-unfriendly visit to my in-laws. A few spoonfuls here and there tided me over the carbiest parts.

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on December 19, 2011
at 12:55 PM

Eat. Get over your paleo whims and enjoy family, friends and food during the holidays. January 1 will be here before you know it and you can refocus again at that time.

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on December 19, 2011
at 01:17 PM

Tell them that. I was thinking that, people are saying "eat and enjoy!" but I too don't want to deal with any side effects, including pimples, diarrhea, vomiting, itchy bumps on my skin, etc, etc. That's not what I call a good Christmas. Tell them you ARE bringing your own food (bring enough to share), eat the meat dish if you can. Buy your own breakfasts (eggs?) and such if you can. It doesn't matter what they think here, if they want you there, they suck it up.

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on December 19, 2011
at 03:49 PM

Yes... you would think. The great bounty is generally crap. For example, all vegetables are garnished with some kind of cream soup and/or bread crumbs. I'm keeping my fingers crossed for a relish tray this time. I can live on carrots and olives. The meat is usually one of those football hams. Bleck...

19acef0aed67ef8dc1118d8e74edb349

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on December 19, 2011
at 01:19 PM

If they ask why you're being so rude as to bring your own food (OMG!) then tell you "have to, and you don't want to discuss the matter". Change the conversation to how aunties kitties are doing. :D Everyone likes to talk about themselves.

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on December 19, 2011
at 03:48 PM

It's one thing to stick to dogmatic paleo rules if you're going to get sick and/or die if you go off reservation, it's another if it means a little bloating. I find it hard to believe you ate these types of foods for years and years and now, less than a year paleo, you're incapable of eating any without vomiting. Drama queen much?

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on December 19, 2011
at 01:10 PM

It's not just about my Paleo Whims. It's about the vomiting. I get violently, disgustingly ill whenever I cheat.

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on December 19, 2011
at 02:21 PM

If it's that great a bounty then you ought to be able to find things to eat. And push some of the more tempting recipes your mother-in-law's way to start subverting the rest of the family :)

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on December 19, 2011
at 02:02 PM

I don't find it hard to set boundaries. I find it difficult when th people around me freak out and riddle me with questions because I'm not eating, or not eating much. My husband's mother is a big family that likes to eat when they get together. They seem to take it personally when I don't partake in the bounty before me. His mom knows I've drastically changed my eating habits... I'm not sure what you mean that this questions is not really paleo.

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on December 19, 2011
at 04:47 PM

Well, just be prepared to become crazy "sister/cousin/aunt/daughter/etc" Stephanie who doesn't eat "normal" food... I'd truly be surprised if a bit of cream soup, bread crumbs or cured ham does you in after 1 meal.

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on December 19, 2011
at 01:49 PM

I just deleted my comment. If you get violently, disgustingly ill when you "cheat" and find it hard to set boundaries about your eating, then I'm not so sure this is really a paleo question!

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on December 19, 2011
at 07:12 PM

Eat before you go. Bring food to eat some how. Also bring a dish you know you will like. Bacon wrapped dates baked in oven. Eat the meat. Bring a side you like. Bring vanilla ice cream for dessert.

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on December 19, 2011
at 02:32 PM

in my opinion...calm down a bit. relax and enjoy the holidays. that doesn't mean gorge yourself on whatever "horrible" food is available. there is bound to be meats, fruits, nuts and vegetable dishes, probably even some potato dishes that won't be too bad. if eating a particular thing makes you literally SICK though, then don't eat that thing. just as someone allergic to a food item would avoid whatever food that is. however, i find it hard to believe that EVERY non paleo food makes you violently ill, i mean sure gas and bloating from carbs and sugar are normal but things more extreme than that seem a bit strange.

i know my family will have plenty of meat, olives, cheese, etc on christmas (think..rack of lamb. mmm). but i will have a bit of a struggle hanging with my boyfriend and his family the days before (they love their processed ham, american cheese and sugary everything). but i typically will just deal with it and eat in moderation. after all, in the big picture, the amount of time i spend eating well far outweighs the times i don't.

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7dc950fc76a046048e683d2a27dced37

on December 19, 2011
at 01:32 PM

Ah, I know exactly what you mean! There's a reason "home for the holidays" made it to the top of my alert system ;)

holiday-time...-how-do-i-handle-this?

Here's how I handled Thanksgiving ... I fasted through breakfast, had a small amount of turkey and coconut butter before heading off to my sister's, and then ate what I wanted at dinner. This included a piece of apple pie. Next day, it was back to my regular way of eating.

If you're really gluten-sensitive, obviously stay away from the wheat! But I've used this strategy over longer vacations too -- IF thru breakfast, eat paleo for lunch (take stuff if you need to; coconut butter and canned fish work great) and then relax for dinner. So this is going to be my plan for Xmas as well.

I grant that there's a lot to be said for being able to be 100% paleo (TM) all the time. But if it involves white-knuckling it through Christmas and giving yourself and ulcer, then maybe make a 100% compliant-paleo a goal for next Christmas!

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