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Does the paleo diet/lifestyle heal a broken heart?

Answered on August 19, 2014
Created September 10, 2011 at 11:58 PM

Seriously.

Has anyone gone through any emotionally traumatic experiences since switching to paleo? I recently got my heart broken (for the first time ever, I might add), and I'm really having a hard time getting back on my feet. Is there any ancestral wisdom that I can turn to that will help guide me through this difficult time? I've been good about avoiding the typical junk food binges. Yet no matter how well I eat and how much I sleep, I still feel like crap.

Any advice?

50637dfd7dc7a7e811d82283f4f5fd10

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on November 15, 2011
at 10:45 PM

Sounds terrible... Bone broth for the win!

584b19d2b6cebc7cdf070b5f8a5a7937

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on November 15, 2011
at 10:34 PM

Oh nemesis.. Yes, doing well- aside from some pneumonia(!), can't complain ;)

50637dfd7dc7a7e811d82283f4f5fd10

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on November 15, 2011
at 04:53 PM

Glad to hear you're doing well :)

D05e94d3fa7fbf32eb56445ad932f654

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on September 12, 2011
at 05:37 AM

Raw eggs for tryptophan? This should be mentioned more in the raw-vs-cooked-eggs discussions!

584b19d2b6cebc7cdf070b5f8a5a7937

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on September 11, 2011
at 03:32 PM

Excellent info BAMBAM!

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on September 11, 2011
at 02:37 PM

Thanks for sharing this Bam.

226b10cbb6b1d3530b00d2d84a2dc86e

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on September 11, 2011
at 02:33 PM

almost forgot...vitamin C

226b10cbb6b1d3530b00d2d84a2dc86e

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on September 11, 2011
at 02:12 PM

Nice choice, Danielle! It is definitely possible to manipulate mood. Starfish, you just need the right ingredients required by cells to make serotonin. The basic building block is the amino acid tryptophan which degrades in heat. It's very sensitive to cooking temps. Raw eggs from grass-fed chickens is the best source. Blend one a day into a smoothie. B-vitamins from grass-fed beef and supplement with B-6 as pyridoxal-5-phosphate and B-12 as methylcobalamin. Vitamin D from wild caught seafood and fresh fish/sushi. Tan. 5000IU/day. Stay strict paleo, target serotonin.

2f931662684a7747be36255c8b486228

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on September 11, 2011
at 11:24 AM

Here is a hug to get you started. Don't buy it just feel it.http://graphicleftovers.com/graphic/caveman-hug/

584b19d2b6cebc7cdf070b5f8a5a7937

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on September 11, 2011
at 07:44 AM

@MasterB- Thank you :)

0dbd7154d909b97fe774d1655754f195

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on September 11, 2011
at 04:51 AM

BTW - even though I am married I have had a few terribly emotional break ups. If I hadn't experienced those relationships and then moved on from them, then I would never have met my husband.

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on September 11, 2011
at 02:56 AM

Love it, Great advice

Ed71ab1c75c6a9bd217a599db0a3e117

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on September 11, 2011
at 02:48 AM

Yes......you get so hot people crave you into forgetting your ills

1fc9c11cf23b2f62ac78979de933ad83

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on September 11, 2011
at 02:17 AM

Working out will also help when you're ready to seek a new mate :D

0dbd7154d909b97fe774d1655754f195

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on September 11, 2011
at 01:37 AM

This is great advice! :)))

0dbd7154d909b97fe774d1655754f195

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on September 11, 2011
at 01:36 AM

You are a great Granddaughter! I'm so proud, now granny has to get back to her knitting :)

0dbd7154d909b97fe774d1655754f195

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on September 11, 2011
at 01:08 AM

Oprah says it's possible, so it's TRUE!

65430e39d7e9e9322718d016fe668051

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on September 11, 2011
at 12:47 AM

Mer, he's not gunna resurrect no matter how many times you type his name on the Internet.

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on September 11, 2011
at 12:46 AM

Get out in nature. Get plenty of vitamin D. Express your primal urges (sex, the hunt, friendship, competition, vigorous living). Hell yeah I think "the paleo lifestyle" could help heal a broken heart.

25b139cc1954456d9ea469e40f984cd3

on September 11, 2011
at 12:36 AM

What she said. I have been there recently, brutally, and still am to some extent. My advice: focus on socializing with friends/family who love you, healthy amounts of exercise, not interacting with your ex (challenging), conscious awareness of why it couldn't/didn't work, and know that time WILL heal your wounds; trust that a better partner lies in store for you...

0dbd7154d909b97fe774d1655754f195

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on September 11, 2011
at 12:10 AM

“What should young people do with their lives today? Many things, obviously. But the most daring thing is to create stable communities in which the terrible disease of loneliness can be cured.” - That's Kurt Vonnegut. But you can click to my profile and join a FB discussion group to actually discuss. Otherwise, I think grassfed beef can be great for the body, but sometimes community is what is needed for the heart :)

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65430e39d7e9e9322718d016fe668051

(2944)

on September 11, 2011
at 12:55 AM

I had a very traumatic breakup 2 1/2 years ago and it took me over 2 years to get (mostly) over him, and I was moderately/severely depressed that whole time too, I wasn't truly happy for one minute during those 2 years. About 4 months ago I started taking vitamin D supplements (I recommend the ones in extra virgin olive oil) and within a few hours literally 90% of my depression disappeared. I'd been eating paleo that whole time too and live in hawaii so I have a lot of natural sun exposure. I can't say if vitamin D supplements will help you and of course there is a grieving process, I was grasping for any fix and false happiness, but it helped me and it's something to try out.

0dbd7154d909b97fe774d1655754f195

(16131)

on September 11, 2011
at 01:36 AM

You are a great Granddaughter! I'm so proud, now granny has to get back to her knitting :)

226b10cbb6b1d3530b00d2d84a2dc86e

(3313)

on September 11, 2011
at 02:33 PM

almost forgot...vitamin C

584b19d2b6cebc7cdf070b5f8a5a7937

(369)

on September 11, 2011
at 03:32 PM

Excellent info BAMBAM!

226b10cbb6b1d3530b00d2d84a2dc86e

(3313)

on September 11, 2011
at 02:12 PM

Nice choice, Danielle! It is definitely possible to manipulate mood. Starfish, you just need the right ingredients required by cells to make serotonin. The basic building block is the amino acid tryptophan which degrades in heat. It's very sensitive to cooking temps. Raw eggs from grass-fed chickens is the best source. Blend one a day into a smoothie. B-vitamins from grass-fed beef and supplement with B-6 as pyridoxal-5-phosphate and B-12 as methylcobalamin. Vitamin D from wild caught seafood and fresh fish/sushi. Tan. 5000IU/day. Stay strict paleo, target serotonin.

D05e94d3fa7fbf32eb56445ad932f654

(773)

on September 12, 2011
at 05:37 AM

Raw eggs for tryptophan? This should be mentioned more in the raw-vs-cooked-eggs discussions!

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226b10cbb6b1d3530b00d2d84a2dc86e

(3313)

on September 11, 2011
at 01:49 PM

It took me 35 years to find love. My first and only love broke up with me in April, 2010, right before her 10th HS reunion. We were trying to manage a long-distance relationship and she was a single mother. I fell in love with her almost instantaneously. The first moments we shared together seemed magical, one after the other. We embraced for the first time at the base of a waterfall in the mountains while mist fell to our skin. We cuddled by a fire beneath a blanket of stars and kissed for the first time. She introduced her son to me. I brought my dog and we hiked to the top of a mountain then he had iced cream. He asked me if I could be his father.

I had a diamond ring ready and wanted to move in with her in her hometown where she secured a job working as a secretary for a school district. I was ready to rent out my home, find part-time work in her school district and go back to school online to study nutrition. Since the place she planned to rent didn't allow pets, I was making arrangements to send my BTF (Boston Terrier Forever) to live with my mother far, far away from me. The day before a prospective tenant was to make a security deposit on my house, she told me that we should slow down. A few days later, she sent me a goodbye email and has never answered any of my attempts at contact since.

That summer I was strict Paleo. It was the hardest time of my entire life. I didn't have the energy to get the mail. I made it a point to complete just one task per day so I could feel connected in some way to my surroundings. I cried alot. I squandered away hours on the Internet every day. Sometimes I didn't leave my room. I ate there, plates stacked up on my night stand and dresser, clothes piled up all over my floor so I couldn't walk through my room without stepping on something. I kept telling myself that I had to do something. I had to get out or my depression would get the best of me. I knew I could get better but I was so shocked at how difficult it felt to actually feel better and heal.

Paleo gave me the energy and positive mindset that I needed for this awareness. I was in tune with myself. All along I had the strength to convince myself that my condition was temporary. My body and mind could detect even the smallest incremental improvement in mood or energy. There were few positive thoughts, laughs, smiles but I recognized them all and clung to them.

Then I joined a social networking site that forced me to get out of the house. I tried to live like Jim Carrey in the movie "Yes Man" where he agrees to every invitation to any event, no matter how awkward or unusual (in one scene he ends up receiving oral sex from an eager old lady whose technique involves removing her dentures). I joined a hiking group, a dog-walking group, a singles group, a karaoke group, a wine-tasting group, a salsa dancing group (never attended), a yoga group, a camping group. In all I joined 20 groups but only really attended a few meetups.

My first night out was July 4th, 2010. Through one of the groups I made my way to the top of a hotel overlooking Charlotte and watched the fireworks. I drank heavily. I danced. Girls flirted with me. I was really proud of myself that I finally made it out of the house that night. Again, I recognized my elevated mood and seized it.

I think Paleo helped in my healing. Paleo didn't remove all the pain but I think it limits how long I stayed hurting. I'm especially grateful that my state of health allowed me to be aware of my mood and energy. My health gave me a sense that I had some control over the quality of my life, even if only a small degree of strength in a moment of paralyzing sadness.

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on September 11, 2011
at 02:37 PM

Thanks for sharing this Bam.

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584b19d2b6cebc7cdf070b5f8a5a7937

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on September 11, 2011
at 02:03 AM

There is some great advice on here! A break up indirectly led me to find my love for Paleo, and in turn, the most love for myself that I have ever had. In my experience, Paleo can help the healing process, mostly because it turns your attention onto yourself and what makes you feel wonderful, healthy and whole. Balance is key- GO OUT, HAVE FUN, and take all the time you want to become as dedicated as you desire to the paleo philosophies. It's you time. Turn up some feel-awesome tunes while you cook and enjoy your time with your amazing self. Don't forget the bacon and 85% cocoa bars.

584b19d2b6cebc7cdf070b5f8a5a7937

(369)

on September 11, 2011
at 07:44 AM

@MasterB- Thank you :)

4ff24fb9a7d48305681487dfb8040a5e

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on September 11, 2011
at 02:56 AM

Love it, Great advice

50637dfd7dc7a7e811d82283f4f5fd10

(5838)

on November 15, 2011
at 04:53 PM

Glad to hear you're doing well :)

584b19d2b6cebc7cdf070b5f8a5a7937

(369)

on November 15, 2011
at 10:34 PM

Oh nemesis.. Yes, doing well- aside from some pneumonia(!), can't complain ;)

50637dfd7dc7a7e811d82283f4f5fd10

(5838)

on November 15, 2011
at 10:45 PM

Sounds terrible... Bone broth for the win!

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9d43f6873107e17ca4d1a5055aa7a2ad

on September 11, 2011
at 12:12 AM

Think about how much worse off you'd be if you also felt physically unwell. Paleo helps with that at least, but it doesn't really heal a broken heart. Only moving on can do that- getting out there and exercising, hanging out with friends, doing fun stuff...even when you don't want to. And oh, following the dreaded, but valuable no-contact rule for a month, which is hard, but keeps you from wallowing in regret and sadness for longer than you have to.

Good luck! I know it's hard, I've been there many more times than I would like to admit.

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on September 11, 2011
at 12:36 AM

What she said. I have been there recently, brutally, and still am to some extent. My advice: focus on socializing with friends/family who love you, healthy amounts of exercise, not interacting with your ex (challenging), conscious awareness of why it couldn't/didn't work, and know that time WILL heal your wounds; trust that a better partner lies in store for you...

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on September 11, 2011
at 12:51 AM

I'm so sorry. Heartbreak is so hard.

I haven't been through heartbreak while on paleo but I went through grieving the Spring and paleo was actually very helpful to me. I did expand my menu a bit and upped my carbs and ate plenty of "candy cigarettes". It was interesting though. Paleo was like this one true thing to hold onto. I almost clung to it in a way. When everything else felt like it was falling apart it was like a beacon to me. It helped keep some focus in my life in some weird way.

I agree with the others to try to be good to yourself right now. Let your family and friends support you now and lean on them for strength. Paleo may not heal a broken heart but time surely can. And it will. This I can promise you. Just tie a knot and hang on. You'll be feeling better in no time at all.

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on September 11, 2011
at 01:37 AM

This is great advice! :)))

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on September 11, 2011
at 12:08 AM

I'm sorry to hear about your heartbreak. Those are never easy.

I don't have any particular experience with paleo and emotional distress, but I can tell you to keep up the good fight: eating junk right now will only make you feel worse.

After a very bad break-up once, I took to long runs, protein smoothies, dark chocolate and lots and lots of bubble baths. Find a paleo indulgence and go for it? And working out will help you still get decent sleep, which also might be tough right now.

I know it's so hard to see the light at the end of the tunnel right now (I have been there!), but I promise it will get better eventually. Channel the energy into something positive, keep your chin up, and go scramble some eggs. :-)

xoxo --

Sarah

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on September 11, 2011
at 02:17 AM

Working out will also help when you're ready to seek a new mate :D

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on September 11, 2011
at 12:31 AM

Sorry for your heartbreak...I had a relationship of over a year end about 7 months ago, and it has been really hard, but I have to say that the paleo way of doing things has probably been the thing to help me the most. I feel like there's something new to learn about every day and so many recipes to try out. Best of all, between the nutrition and the exercise I feel like I'm really caring for myself, and doing it so much better than my ex ever did. Paleo lets you take charge of your life in so many areas, if you are willing to, and the feeling of confidence and independence from that is priceless.

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on September 11, 2011
at 12:18 AM

Of course paleo helps but even better with dark chocolate. Hang in there. :)

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on September 11, 2011
at 09:07 AM

Oh bless you I'm so sorry to hear this, Truly awful thing to go through. I think in answer to your question, having a healthy body and a healthy mind to support you through anything is massively beneficial. I know for one, since I cut the crap food I am a FAR more rational and calm person and that alone will go some way to supporting you in this tough time. I don't think it will heal your broken heart, but I do think it will go a long way to helping you on your way to mending it. All the best.

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on September 11, 2011
at 11:21 AM

All great advice. You need Paleo more than ever and the Paleo community. Paleo helps you think long term because it is not a whim. But for me the biggest motivation ever should be...

Get out of sugar's clenshes........then you begin to realize the hidden power within you.

You can start gaining control of yourself and then control of your surroundings and everything that effects you.

Don't let dietary imbalance make things worse. It's normal to have sadness and loss. Love yourself, mourn yourself, celebrate yourself, hug yourself........... Do it right now.

don't wait for someone else to do it. THAT IS TRUE HEALTHY INDULGENCE.

(though unfortunately most reach for a chocolate cake)......that is torture. When you're suffering, that last thing you need is torture.

2f931662684a7747be36255c8b486228

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on September 11, 2011
at 11:24 AM

Here is a hug to get you started. Don't buy it just feel it.http://graphicleftovers.com/graphic/caveman-hug/

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on September 12, 2011
at 01:25 AM

I can't really top anything that's already been said on here, but I really wanted to put in my two cents.

First of all, congrats on not binging on any unhealthy things! That's really awesome.

From my experience, the first week or so is the roughest. Give yourself enough time to grieve and then pull yourself out of your shit and get on with your life. For me, going through a break up leads me to better focus on myself and my health. Maybe you can really try to throw yourself into a 30 day challenge or take an exciting exercise class?

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