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Paleo parents: How can I get a gluten intolerance diagnosis for my non-intolerant baby?

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Created September 30, 2012 at 4:35 AM

Ethical implication aside, here's the problem:

Single mom to a 15 month old paleo baby. She isn't intolerant as grandma had a tendency to sneak her crap-food when she watched my daughter and she handled it fine. I've fired grandma from baby duty (it wasn't related to the food issues) and have a babysitter replacement. However, baby sitters/nannies are a LOT more $$$ than the daycare where I work.

Since I'm military, the daycare is government managed and they are REQUIRED to feed babies according to government recommendations - clearly not paleo. I cannot believe that as a parent I cannot decide what I want my child to eat and what not to eat, especially when The choices I make are in her best interest. (I like you Michelle Obama, but stay out of my daughter's tummy).

However, if my daughter were diagnosed as gluten intolerant, the menu for GF kids is a lot more aligned with what she eats at home. I disagree with offering fruit juices (100% fruit doesn't matter) bc when she drank juice with my mother it made it tough to get her back on water... And I'd prefer the fancy pants organic hormone free food/milk that I buy for us but that's secondary to them forcing whole wheat bread/noodles/crackers/etc. on my little girl.

Picking another daycare is not an option. They are a combination of too far away, too expensive, crappy, and/or cannot work with my schedule (I need to be at work at 5:30 am some days and only the military daycare here offers that).

So... Thoughts?

61844af1187e745e09bb394cbd28cf23

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on September 30, 2012
at 11:53 PM

Even military can choose. You can pay cash to see a pediatrician once. Look for one in your area. In my area, there are no MDs that are Paleo friendly, but lots of chiropractors that are.

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on September 30, 2012
at 09:13 PM

Food fascism is not constitutional, although it's understandable in practical terms why you can't defy your employer in this situation.

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on September 30, 2012
at 05:41 PM

Would the home daycare let you pack a lunch and snacks for your daughter? I would go that route instead of the government daycare.

Caea19ebc8c7141168efe907881e0c3b

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on September 30, 2012
at 05:00 PM

That's so bizarre that they won't make a reasonable accommodation for you, when they're already prepping gf food! I hope it works out for you in the end. Maybe get a mom with a "certified gf" baby to make a fuss about being uncomfortable with bread products being served *around* her kid at the daycare. gf for everyone!

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on September 30, 2012
at 04:29 PM

I suspect they just want a piece of paper that absolves them of liability. If you produce something signed by a doctor their requirement is met. They don't have any motivation or time to see if it's really true according to her medical record, they just want documentation to cover their own behinds.

Fb677d93955eb0fac597e3d94db92980

(1115)

on September 30, 2012
at 04:29 PM

Your experience mirrors mine. I went to see one of the at home daycares near where I live - it would have been SUPER convenient and affordable. I arrived right before snack time: a HUGE bowl full of boxed Macaroni and Cheese powder/skim milk. Sigh...

Fb677d93955eb0fac597e3d94db92980

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on September 30, 2012
at 03:43 PM

Oh and I'm pretty sure almost everyone in the government would support giving whole grains and scoff at the amount of protein and fat in my daughter's diet saying this diet is more unhealthy than the pyramid. Despite massive evidence to the contrary...

Fb677d93955eb0fac597e3d94db92980

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on September 30, 2012
at 03:41 PM

Just googled naturopath in my area and got nada. :-/

Fb677d93955eb0fac597e3d94db92980

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on September 30, 2012
at 03:38 PM

Lol. I wish I had the balls to do that. Unfortunately, as an officer, I am expected to demonstrate a certain level of bearing. And by bearing I mean I can't rock the boat unless I'm willing to lose my job. Problem there is that I like my job and I need my paycheck to support my daughter. I did talk to the director who referred me to the kitchen "director." The government has mandated that they follow their program so that is what they do. However, the waiver they offered only has two choices: medical or religious. And it has in bold: "parental preference is not a justification."

Fb677d93955eb0fac597e3d94db92980

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on September 30, 2012
at 03:23 PM

Oh and not to throw out the military card but my career has been dedicated to supporting and defending the constitution of our country which means I've taken an oath to defend the government's right to tell me what to do with my baby. ARGHHHHH!!!!! :)

Fb677d93955eb0fac597e3d94db92980

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on September 30, 2012
at 03:17 PM

You have NO idea! I made this baby and the government has decided it knows best with it's dietary recommendations which is designed to accommodate government subsidies and based on out-dated science... >:( It sortof mirrors my experience with the hospital birth. I had great intentions of having a low-intervention birth and had to fight the doctors and nurses the ENTIRE time because they "knew what was best for me." Still pissed about that. Unrelated but I have yet to completely vent that situation. :)

Fb677d93955eb0fac597e3d94db92980

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on September 30, 2012
at 02:37 PM

Nope. Because she doesnt have a valid medical reason. I can't think of a good reason either but I talked to the lady who runs their kitchen and I'd rather poke myself in the eyeball than talk to her again. She is by the book... I got so aggravated I went off (politely) about why I don't want my daughter eating grains, legumes, sugar, and soy... Her response? "but you don't give your daughter bread?!?" argh.

Fb677d93955eb0fac597e3d94db92980

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on September 30, 2012
at 02:34 PM

Nope. Not allowed to bring food. Can't even send her with her favorite no-drip sippy cup of water. And i'd be paying these people... Crazy right?

Fb677d93955eb0fac597e3d94db92980

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on September 30, 2012
at 05:10 AM

Lol, your last comment ran through my mind! I briefly considered asking my local crossfit box to sign the religious box. :) I did ask her doc (a nurse practitioner actually) and she refused. Given that I'm military and cannot pick who my daughter (or me for that matter) receive healthcare from, I'm kindof SOL with them. I'm also considering what you said and might to the "paleo physicians network" to get the diagnosis but I'm troubled that my daughters military health records wouldn't reflect this and the Child development center would refuse to accept it..

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3491e51730101b18724dc57c86601173

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on September 30, 2012
at 04:55 AM

Have you asked her doctor? Some pediatricians will do that just because they are willing to support you as a parent. If not, start asking around for a paleo friendly "civilian" doctor. Or ask all your friends and relatives if they know a doctor well enough (family or friend) to request this small favor.

It's ridiculous that these seemingly benevolent mandates usurp your parental concern for your own child's health and well-being.

Maybe we should claim Paleo is a religion that prohibits grains, legumes, and processed food. LOL!

3491e51730101b18724dc57c86601173

(8395)

on September 30, 2012
at 04:29 PM

I suspect they just want a piece of paper that absolves them of liability. If you produce something signed by a doctor their requirement is met. They don't have any motivation or time to see if it's really true according to her medical record, they just want documentation to cover their own behinds.

Fb677d93955eb0fac597e3d94db92980

(1115)

on September 30, 2012
at 05:10 AM

Lol, your last comment ran through my mind! I briefly considered asking my local crossfit box to sign the religious box. :) I did ask her doc (a nurse practitioner actually) and she refused. Given that I'm military and cannot pick who my daughter (or me for that matter) receive healthcare from, I'm kindof SOL with them. I'm also considering what you said and might to the "paleo physicians network" to get the diagnosis but I'm troubled that my daughters military health records wouldn't reflect this and the Child development center would refuse to accept it..

61844af1187e745e09bb394cbd28cf23

(11058)

on September 30, 2012
at 11:53 PM

Even military can choose. You can pay cash to see a pediatrician once. Look for one in your area. In my area, there are no MDs that are Paleo friendly, but lots of chiropractors that are.

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6426d61a13689f8f651164b10f121d64

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on September 30, 2012
at 03:26 PM

The military and the first lady are both cogs in the totalitarian state. You can't fight them directly, or you will be squashed like a bug. The indirect approach I would recommend is to become--or threaten to become--a "whistle-blower." The cause of food freedom plays well in media. Witness this recent viral video protesting the first lady's new lunch diet edicts.

I'm not suggesting that you make a video, but you can speak with the day care director and tell her how strongly you feel about your child's diet, and what actions you are willing to take to achieve your goals. The idea is to make it more attractive for the director to give you some type of "waiver" vs strictly following "the rules." Such actions may include:

  1. complaint to the base commander
  2. notification of the press concerning the food totalitarianism at the day care
  3. letters and phone calls to your senator and congressman

Government employees fear unwanted attention from their superiors and the press, but they are especially terrified of even the possibility of a congressional investigation. Good luck!

Fb677d93955eb0fac597e3d94db92980

(1115)

on September 30, 2012
at 03:38 PM

Lol. I wish I had the balls to do that. Unfortunately, as an officer, I am expected to demonstrate a certain level of bearing. And by bearing I mean I can't rock the boat unless I'm willing to lose my job. Problem there is that I like my job and I need my paycheck to support my daughter. I did talk to the director who referred me to the kitchen "director." The government has mandated that they follow their program so that is what they do. However, the waiver they offered only has two choices: medical or religious. And it has in bold: "parental preference is not a justification."

Fb677d93955eb0fac597e3d94db92980

(1115)

on September 30, 2012
at 03:43 PM

Oh and I'm pretty sure almost everyone in the government would support giving whole grains and scoff at the amount of protein and fat in my daughter's diet saying this diet is more unhealthy than the pyramid. Despite massive evidence to the contrary...

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1402c9a3dedfc9a22e2659fa2b8c664d

on September 30, 2012
at 03:18 PM

I would suggest a Naturopath. Mine is really savvy about this kind of thing. She tested me for gluten isuues but I came back negative. Since I had symptoms we discussed how to proceed. Her bottom line is there are many proteins in grain that the test does NOT assess, so just becauce you don't show intolerance to one doesn't mean you aren't intolerant. I bet if you found someone similar in mindset they'd be willing to work with you.

Fb677d93955eb0fac597e3d94db92980

(1115)

on September 30, 2012
at 03:41 PM

Just googled naturopath in my area and got nada. :-/

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7dab2d8c97e44d8d0c298e5c9d5d75bc

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on September 30, 2012
at 02:44 PM

Oh Susan! I would be SO angry!

Fb677d93955eb0fac597e3d94db92980

(1115)

on September 30, 2012
at 03:17 PM

You have NO idea! I made this baby and the government has decided it knows best with it's dietary recommendations which is designed to accommodate government subsidies and based on out-dated science... >:( It sortof mirrors my experience with the hospital birth. I had great intentions of having a low-intervention birth and had to fight the doctors and nurses the ENTIRE time because they "knew what was best for me." Still pissed about that. Unrelated but I have yet to completely vent that situation. :)

Fb677d93955eb0fac597e3d94db92980

(1115)

on September 30, 2012
at 03:23 PM

Oh and not to throw out the military card but my career has been dedicated to supporting and defending the constitution of our country which means I've taken an oath to defend the government's right to tell me what to do with my baby. ARGHHHHH!!!!! :)

6426d61a13689f8f651164b10f121d64

(11478)

on September 30, 2012
at 09:13 PM

Food fascism is not constitutional, although it's understandable in practical terms why you can't defy your employer in this situation.

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F891e7b1cbbbe3838c9bba9ff78aa3ed

on September 30, 2012
at 04:17 PM

Ugh this makes me sick. I went through an at home government run daycare and the food there was waffles and chicken nuggets...you know the healthy stuff. So anyway I now take them to a stay at home mom that welcomes the fact I pack their breakfast, lunch and snacks! Sorry I have no input in this but I share with your frustrations. Now if I could only get their dad on board with the lifestyle..sigh. GOOD LUCK. Keep us posted. I find the governments intereference with our lives fascinating. I don't think people understand just how intrusive it has become....

E791387b2829c660292308092dc3ca9b

(831)

on September 30, 2012
at 05:41 PM

Would the home daycare let you pack a lunch and snacks for your daughter? I would go that route instead of the government daycare.

Fb677d93955eb0fac597e3d94db92980

(1115)

on September 30, 2012
at 04:29 PM

Your experience mirrors mine. I went to see one of the at home daycares near where I live - it would have been SUPER convenient and affordable. I arrived right before snack time: a HUGE bowl full of boxed Macaroni and Cheese powder/skim milk. Sigh...

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Caea19ebc8c7141168efe907881e0c3b

on September 30, 2012
at 11:41 AM

Is it possible that the daycare would agree to just feed your kid the GF menu anyway? I can't think of what excuse they would have for refusing, since they do have the food and all.

Fb677d93955eb0fac597e3d94db92980

(1115)

on September 30, 2012
at 02:37 PM

Nope. Because she doesnt have a valid medical reason. I can't think of a good reason either but I talked to the lady who runs their kitchen and I'd rather poke myself in the eyeball than talk to her again. She is by the book... I got so aggravated I went off (politely) about why I don't want my daughter eating grains, legumes, sugar, and soy... Her response? "but you don't give your daughter bread?!?" argh.

Caea19ebc8c7141168efe907881e0c3b

(30)

on September 30, 2012
at 05:00 PM

That's so bizarre that they won't make a reasonable accommodation for you, when they're already prepping gf food! I hope it works out for you in the end. Maybe get a mom with a "certified gf" baby to make a fuss about being uncomfortable with bread products being served *around* her kid at the daycare. gf for everyone!

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Fc64db6a555559762432d503a1dbad19

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on September 30, 2012
at 06:11 AM

Can you pack her lunches an ask them to feed her only the food you have prepared? Just a thought. Not sure if it will work?

Fb677d93955eb0fac597e3d94db92980

(1115)

on September 30, 2012
at 02:34 PM

Nope. Not allowed to bring food. Can't even send her with her favorite no-drip sippy cup of water. And i'd be paying these people... Crazy right?

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