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So tell me what you want, what you really, really want.

Answered on August 19, 2014
Created January 04, 2012 at 10:23 PM

What's missing in your life?

Reading paleo success stories, one might come to the conclusion that avoiding gluten/sugar/n6 makes you a superhero. But sometimes, life gets in the way, our bodies get in the way, or things just fall apart. Unfortunately, it can be uncomfortable to discuss negative things when everybody seems fairly happy. Do you have something that weighs on your mind that is not directly nutrition-related? Do you hope that improving your nutrition habits will improve this problem? Some common issues are...

-Diseases of the body (bad skin, bad joints, bad airways, etc)
-Diseases of the mind (depression, ADHD, OCD, etc)
-Relationship strife
-Job dissatisfaction
-Money troubles
-Negative self image

So please, vent. Excessively and negatively, if you feel like it. If nutrition is helping you in this issue, that is cool. If nutrition isn't helping you, THAT IS ALSO COOL. Not cool per se, but don't feel limited to success stories. Some things never work out, but some things come with time, effort, and an open mind. Mark Sisson writes about tipping points...

"The reality is that it may be next to impossible to plan and engineer your tipping point. What you can do, though, is put yourself in a position to provoke an emotional response, and be ready for it when it comes."

0dbd7154d909b97fe774d1655754f195

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on September 07, 2013
at 01:28 AM

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58c33847c5b7ecbf6572075df2cdd002

(866)

on May 28, 2012
at 05:31 PM

You may also want to explore Pilates. We are fortunate in my town to have a former physical therapist who went on to become a Pilates instructor. My husband is a high level amputee (left hemipelvectomy) who has been walking with crutches for 20 years. One visit to the Pilates instructor helped him realize he had been walking wrong for 17 years and she helped him improve his walking and body mechanics, most likely adding innumerable years to his mobility.

518bce04b12cd77741237e1f61075194

(11577)

on May 28, 2012
at 04:18 AM

My friend today: "The house would be perfectly clean, the dishes would always get done, and the calender would be properly filled out...if I SCREAMED ALL THE TIME. Believe me, I've done it before, it was amazing.". The power of the parental voice...

518bce04b12cd77741237e1f61075194

(11577)

on May 28, 2012
at 04:16 AM

Also, I've never really admitted any of that baby stuff. I'm glad my boyfriend doesn't go on here, otherwise he might go a little faint...

Ae3b7ea9f3755af32287825db8d98796

(2022)

on May 28, 2012
at 01:04 AM

That's such a great goal to have. I have to remind myself of these things on a daily basis. It's hard not to take life so seriously, especially with small kids. It feels like death by papercut sometimes, but so rewarding too. I'm constantly reminding myself to sit and watch/play with my girls rather than setting them up with an activity, then going to clean the kitchen (or something!). Those small moments are so big to them and I don't want to remember their childhoods with me always saying, "just a minute." I feel like I say that 100x a day.

Af1d286f0fd5c3949f59b4edf4d892f5

(18452)

on January 20, 2012
at 04:27 AM

hmm. very interesting stuff. i don't have acne, but some of this is ringing a bell with me. I am gonna dig further into it. once again, thanks grace. and thanks to enchantress melissa as well.

3864f9a2af09b1b447c7963058650a34

(3703)

on January 19, 2012
at 11:06 PM

Good citations here. Aldehydes and alcohol and mycotoxins from fungi in our gut/skin. When the gut balance is 'off' from decades of f&cked up SAD eating, the fungi/yeast/candida overgrow. Their byproducts further breakdown the tight junctions of both the gut and skin lining: http://www.vrp.com/liver-support/the-missing-link-to-glowing-healthy-skin

3864f9a2af09b1b447c7963058650a34

(3703)

on January 19, 2012
at 11:01 PM

Let me direct you to our paleo enchantress...http://huntgatherlove.com/content/gut-brain-skin-axis

Af1d286f0fd5c3949f59b4edf4d892f5

(18452)

on January 17, 2012
at 04:32 PM

i have heard about thyroid affecting skin, but intestinal lining? do tell more grace.

3864f9a2af09b1b447c7963058650a34

(3703)

on January 17, 2012
at 04:04 PM

i hear you. i would concur with the above statements. i am undoing several years of damage from dentists and ignorant physicians (imho, all physicians are ignorant unless they understand the hormonal gut-brain-organ axis). sorry if this sounds harsh but this includes immediate family too.

3864f9a2af09b1b447c7963058650a34

(3703)

on January 17, 2012
at 04:01 PM

the skin is a dirct reflection on intestinal lining (and thyroid function) in a most curious fractal way...

F5f742cc9228eb5804114d0f3be4e587

(7660)

on January 07, 2012
at 10:39 PM

Funny you mention it...I've had the same issue (albeit, too a lesser degree). Never stepped foot on a scale pre-Paleo, but got hooked on watching the numbers tick down. After a Whole30, I lost a few more and haven't been able to get down that low since. Very addictive. Are you having any other issues? Sleep? Anxiety? Just FYI, I've found when I up my carbs a bit (sweet potato, a little fruit), I definitely find my mind calming a bit. Best of luck to you! Awareness is the first step.

F5f742cc9228eb5804114d0f3be4e587

(7660)

on January 07, 2012
at 09:07 PM

Consider this vantage point your wide open, blank canvas. What a gift! Scary, but a gift nonetheless. Trust me, I'm here at 35 and so many doors have been closed (married, house, kid), so I actually envy all the amazing opportunities available to you. (I should say here, I love my life). Honey, I didn't go o undergrad until 24, and now I am doing exactly what I want to be doing (writing/editing, now mostly for Paleo projects). Keep on keeping on! Your path will make itself known to you, but possibly only in hindsight. :)

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on January 07, 2012
at 07:43 PM

Thanks Doris :-)

0e395acc856e3353f3f5892e6b09b0e7

(1227)

on January 07, 2012
at 06:30 PM

Ah, there you are Aravind. I've missed your sharp witted comments.

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(5147)

on January 07, 2012
at 06:22 PM

Also, omnivorous.

D1c02d4fc5125a670cf419dbb3e18ba7

on January 07, 2012
at 05:58 PM

May as well add omniscience and omnipresence while you're at it.

C8b2136ef95ba6aac211825ff38cc0e9

(971)

on January 07, 2012
at 05:24 PM

Like Jon, I really relate to this post. I'm now 37, but at twenty I felt like I came from nowhere, no support and no identity and very much lost for a home or a career. I can tell you that I have developed a strong sense of self over time. There are artifacts of my past I still accept and deal with, but I have done a ton of work to heal myself. Some of the best people I've ever met have this kind of history, and I'd say I fit into that as well. I'd also say take your unique persepective with you along the way, it's invaluable.

0dbd7154d909b97fe774d1655754f195

(16131)

on January 07, 2012
at 01:36 AM

I am facebook friends with wjones3044. I can vouch for penis size and the abs. @WJ - please stop with all those explicit status updates already!!!!!

7c9f81d68c78de1a31eab9c91c17b4b8

on January 06, 2012
at 11:09 PM

That is very true. :)

35ba1f50dad25c85ac1aa2599fe5c5cb

(2485)

on January 06, 2012
at 11:07 PM

Yeah, but you know those TV kids, they all turn out to be junkies anyway. Getting yelled at for torturing your sister builds character!

D1c02d4fc5125a670cf419dbb3e18ba7

on January 06, 2012
at 04:00 PM

"Transformational change" is redundant. "As time ticks"...perhaps you are referring to the Arrow of Time and increasing entropy as per the 2nd Law of Thermodynamics. In this regard you have already achieved your objective as your mental entropy seems to be increasing without bound. Success!

0e395acc856e3353f3f5892e6b09b0e7

(1227)

on January 06, 2012
at 03:42 PM

I am confident that you can do whatever needs to be done, Kamal. Thank you for starting this wonderful community thread. I'm sorry for whatever troubles you are having that mean you can't pick up a bag of groceries, but you have picked up my spirits by this open question. Good to hear your voice again.

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(39831)

on January 06, 2012
at 03:37 PM

Pretty much raging over here now that this song is stuck in my head, broseph.

21fd060d0796fdb8a4a990441e08eae7

(24543)

on January 06, 2012
at 02:17 PM

Excellent! Reading other people's experiences is always nice.

Aead76beb5fc7b762a6b4ddc234f6051

(15239)

on January 06, 2012
at 02:11 PM

^^^ not getting the joke?

Ed71ab1c75c6a9bd217a599db0a3e117

(25477)

on January 06, 2012
at 01:36 PM

good fear Ed.........plus one

6cca02352c216b4ca8325fda7d83832c

(1042)

on January 05, 2012
at 07:57 PM

Besides some of your personal experiences, I could have created this answer almost word for word. I have suffered from clinical depression for about 8 years and at 25 I am in the same situation as you - no friends, no job let alone career, no confidence, etc, etc. Severe mental illness strips everything away, but what I have learned is most if not all of what you lose can return over time if you are patient and educate yourself about how to heal your illness. I would give you a +10 for this answer if I could because of how well it represents the mindset of one recovering from mental illness.

F0e558010a2ecb31fa37b7c491596b8e

(3850)

on January 05, 2012
at 07:54 PM

I hear you. I went through awful periods like that and the situational depression that results is difficult for people to imagine who haven't been there. Fortunately for me, giving up gluten has improved me enough that I now have a sliver of hope that I may eventually get better. Don't give up, and I hope you find your trigger some day.

0d0842381492a41b2173a04014aae810

(4875)

on January 05, 2012
at 07:11 PM

Kamal - I'm going to attempt to tackle reading that hack and all of the subtopics - I definitely have a few opinions based on what has helped and hindered me over the last six months. I'll post something up at some point.

0d0842381492a41b2173a04014aae810

(4875)

on January 05, 2012
at 07:09 PM

Shah, thanks. I've actually stopped going to PT the last couple weeks, having come to a similar conclusion: it's conventional wisdom based. I've been using the money towards yoga classes, which have been much more beneficial thus far. I'll look into neuromuscular massage.

Af1d286f0fd5c3949f59b4edf4d892f5

(18452)

on January 05, 2012
at 05:50 PM

have had dry skin since I was a small child. why do you make this connection?

77877f762c40637911396daa19b53094

(78467)

on January 05, 2012
at 05:13 PM

Jack, do you have dry skin? I'm thinking connection to the low HDL, low vit d.

77877f762c40637911396daa19b53094

(78467)

on January 05, 2012
at 05:02 PM

I hit bottom at 37 and stayed there till 45 and then bottomed out even further between 52 and 54. You've got lot of time on your side.Just keep perfecting you diet and activity. Thing will happen.The finnish line isn't at twenty, thirty or forty. That's only when the race even begins.

77877f762c40637911396daa19b53094

(78467)

on January 05, 2012
at 04:56 PM

I saw thirteen MD"S for my problem. Useless. Your aversion is real. Do not fear it.

77877f762c40637911396daa19b53094

(78467)

on January 05, 2012
at 04:50 PM

You are sick of physical therapy because conventional physical therapy (insurance based) is the SAD of physcial rehabilition modalities. Its almost useless! Find a good neuromuscualr therapist in your area and start going. I broke 8 bones in 2005 and within six week I started excersising, and within 4 months I was up to top speed.Three days of pain pills, only. The rest NMT, Ice, and aspirin. Granted my therapist, was Paul ST. John himself, but his "clones" are well trained. It is an easy method to teach and learn. I'll help you find the best therapist in your area.Suffering is optional!!

0dbd7154d909b97fe774d1655754f195

(16131)

on January 05, 2012
at 03:47 PM

Zuzka has only shown up to give recipe advice. She may be on to bigger things - I just don't know.

21fd060d0796fdb8a4a990441e08eae7

(24543)

on January 05, 2012
at 03:20 PM

That sucks (last paragraph, especially). Going from exercise being my main activity a few years ago to not being able to lift ten pounds pretty much took the wind out of my sails. If you get a chance, weigh in on this hack...http://paleohacks.com/questions/28181/paleo-and-pain-which-issues-are-you-interested-in-nightshades-bone-broths-pu#axzz1iVWEGsQ5

21fd060d0796fdb8a4a990441e08eae7

(24543)

on January 05, 2012
at 03:13 PM

Zuzana is gone forever?

Ec7cb2a7a68655954a01f03e95be1383

(1453)

on January 05, 2012
at 10:13 AM

"I also get so jealous seeing the kids I grew up with succeeding at uni, travelling the world, falling in (and out) of love and just generally LIVING." Don't forget that studying, travelling and falling in love doesn't mean to live a meaningful, interesting or happy life. A lot of people do that things because they don't know what to do with their lifes, are lonely inside or want to forget. In the end when you fight for the life you desire you will be a much more powerful person than the average student.

Ec7cb2a7a68655954a01f03e95be1383

(1453)

on January 05, 2012
at 10:11 AM

"I also get so jealous seeing the kids I grew up with succeeding at uni, travelling the world, falling in (and out) of love and just generally LIVING." Don't forget that studying, travelling and falling in love doesn't mean to live a meaningful, interesting or happy life. A lot of people do that things because they don't know what to do with their lifes, are lonely inside or want to forget. In the end when you fight for the life you desire you will be a much more powerful person than the average student. Which 20 year old has the experience you have?

Ec7cb2a7a68655954a01f03e95be1383

(1453)

on January 05, 2012
at 10:10 AM

"I also get so jealous seeing the kids I grew up with succeeding at uni, travelling the world, falling in (and out) of love and just generally LIVING." Don't forget that studying, travelling and falling in love doesn't mean to live a life a meaningful, interesting or happy life. A lot of people do that things because they don't know what to do with their lifes, are lonely inside or want to forget. In the end when you fight for the life you desire you will be a much more powerful person than the average student. Which 20 year old has the experience you have?

0d83a31f4066514252a2b6fb81f05b48

(907)

on January 05, 2012
at 06:56 AM

Thanks for the truly cheering and supportive comments. Communities like the one here on PaleoHacks certainly make one feel a little less alone. =)

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on January 05, 2012
at 06:11 AM

The first step is always the hardest. I had a time in my life when I had no sense of identity or direction in life, and I had to go through failures to find out who I was and where i wanted to go. It's painful, but for most of us necessary. I can really relate to you because I had to drop out of med school and watch all my peers succeed when I was lost and just trying to regain my health and sanity. You get a sense that time is going by too fast. But you have to find perspective. You have these weaknesses for a reason, and in the end they'll make you stronger than those other kids.

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on January 05, 2012
at 06:10 AM

Tatty. Don't despair. 20 is young and there is lots of life ahead. Hang in there.

7c9f81d68c78de1a31eab9c91c17b4b8

on January 05, 2012
at 05:54 AM

ahhhh haha heehee :)

0d0842381492a41b2173a04014aae810

(4875)

on January 05, 2012
at 03:58 AM

+1. I don't have any family in state either. On one hand, it has prompted me to really hold dearly the relationships I have with my closest friends, but I have a lot of family issues and I hold a fear that my parents will die before I have the opportunity to cultivate a loving relationship with them. I do what I can from afar.

0dbd7154d909b97fe774d1655754f195

(16131)

on January 05, 2012
at 03:56 AM

I think her ex-husband Freddie is. Now it is him, his brother and their new girlie girl.

Ce7e28769d92d5de5533e775b1de966e

on January 05, 2012
at 03:55 AM

I find that a good shriek, in addition to tasty meals, loads of sleep, nice exercise, and general skipping about is a most excellent combination to get through the muck when the muck occurs - because it will. Gotta roll gotta scream! And ask for hugs when applicable.

Ce7e28769d92d5de5533e775b1de966e

on January 05, 2012
at 03:54 AM

I find that a good scream, in addition to tasty meals, loads of sleep, nice exercise, and general skipping about is a most excellent combination to get through the muck when the muck occurs - because it will. Gotta roll gotta scream! And ask for hugs when applicable.

96bf58d8c6bd492dc5b8ae46203fe247

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on January 05, 2012
at 03:14 AM

+++++++++++++++

Cf32992bfa1907147c7cdc451bba9c63

(2890)

on January 05, 2012
at 03:07 AM

abs of steel and a bigger penis don't help getting women. but dropping the narcissism and demagoguery would.

724ba4f39f7bbea7f74b45c0a79615f2

(1968)

on January 05, 2012
at 03:00 AM

Hey, optimal means optimal. When the benefits outweigh the costs, you win. So go enjoy your optimal!

96bf58d8c6bd492dc5b8ae46203fe247

(37227)

on January 05, 2012
at 02:55 AM

You can. You will. I wish you well in your process.

98bf2ca7f8778c79cd3f6c962011cfdc

(24286)

on January 05, 2012
at 02:51 AM

What happened to Zuzana? I thought she WAS Bodyrock?

B33f7c04c09d8bbbf181dd8aca04f373

(554)

on January 05, 2012
at 02:41 AM

I just yelled up the stairs "For the last time - stop playing hungry hippos and GO TO BED!!!!!" So this made me laugh :)

3aea514b680d01bfd7573d74517946a7

(11996)

on January 05, 2012
at 02:36 AM

Wish I could re-upvote for the edit.

3aea514b680d01bfd7573d74517946a7

(11996)

on January 05, 2012
at 02:34 AM

You folks with kids should all get awarded purple hearts, IMO. If I'd had kids, I'm sure I'd be in prison.

0dbd7154d909b97fe774d1655754f195

(16131)

on January 05, 2012
at 02:23 AM

On Wednesdays my kid has to wear a special school shirt - which we had to purchase for a pretty penny mind you. He just got it before the holiday break so he was wearing it constantly for the past two weeks. Of course as I was prepping him for school last night I was searching for the shirt to lay out. It was behind the TV covered in chocolatecookiemilkyogurtshit. I went KRAZY! I sat at the washer as it got cleaned and refused to join the bed time rituals. I am an idiot.

0dbd7154d909b97fe774d1655754f195

(16131)

on January 05, 2012
at 02:19 AM

I agree! I live in a dark place too. I have lived in sunny places as well so I know that this makes a HUGE difference. Sunny + higher altitude for me is what I am trying to manifest.

0dbd7154d909b97fe774d1655754f195

(16131)

on January 05, 2012
at 02:15 AM

Why oh why is the pelvis so tender? I mean nature intended the ladies to carry and push the babbies out the p region. Yet we prolapse and get SI problems. I do not love my pelvis. Not at all.

531db50c958cf4d5605ee0c5ae8a57be

(8878)

on January 05, 2012
at 01:25 AM

I love this answer. Even if the truth looks like penises. I mean trunks.

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(12379)

on January 05, 2012
at 01:24 AM

Ha ha! My husband thought zuzana's boobs were way too fake looking he likes Lisa though

Af1d286f0fd5c3949f59b4edf4d892f5

(18452)

on January 05, 2012
at 01:17 AM

ha! now that's an edit! thanks Sara S.

66e6b190e62fb3bcf42d4c60801c7bf6

(12407)

on January 05, 2012
at 12:34 AM

it was the bobbit dude's penis...

98bf2ca7f8778c79cd3f6c962011cfdc

(24286)

on January 05, 2012
at 12:24 AM

Where the hell is Chickensaurus when you need him?

Ca2c940a1947e6200883908592956680

(8574)

on January 05, 2012
at 12:23 AM

No, dropping gluten does.

98bf2ca7f8778c79cd3f6c962011cfdc

(24286)

on January 05, 2012
at 12:23 AM

I thought it was peni?

0dbd7154d909b97fe774d1655754f195

(16131)

on January 05, 2012
at 12:21 AM

That didn't turn out at all. See - it was NOT me.

Ce7e28769d92d5de5533e775b1de966e

on January 05, 2012
at 12:18 AM

The trunks look like peniseses.

98bf2ca7f8778c79cd3f6c962011cfdc

(24286)

on January 05, 2012
at 12:17 AM

I couldn't see them in your post before and now I can. This place is haunted.

0dbd7154d909b97fe774d1655754f195

(16131)

on January 05, 2012
at 12:16 AM

She's got energy and doesn't seem to be into porn. My husband misses Zuzana though.

Ca2c940a1947e6200883908592956680

(8574)

on January 05, 2012
at 12:15 AM

Thanks. OK goodnight y'all I need to go bed, it's like 00:14 here and way past paleo!

98bf2ca7f8778c79cd3f6c962011cfdc

(24286)

on January 05, 2012
at 12:15 AM

And a new PH bromance begins....

0dbd7154d909b97fe774d1655754f195

(16131)

on January 05, 2012
at 12:13 AM

Those elephants weren't me yo! Someone tagged my answer. Has Oak0y returned as an angel? I've heard about this random bombing. I hope nobody buffs these pieces so they can continue to burn on! http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Graffiti_terminology

6b8d12fc3e43179f9ae1765a4d1a9dc2

(5914)

on January 05, 2012
at 12:12 AM

David Beckham has more talent than all five put together!

21fd060d0796fdb8a4a990441e08eae7

(24543)

on January 05, 2012
at 12:11 AM

Even if you don't have a prostate issue, this book is often recommended for this type of stuff...http://www.amazon.com/Headache-Pelvis-Understanding-Treatment-Prostatitis/dp/0972775528

0bf4aaa16b8532ca8fb773d86900d153

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on January 05, 2012
at 12:10 AM

why does being spiritual helps getting a woman?

Ca2c940a1947e6200883908592956680

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on January 05, 2012
at 12:10 AM

Oh, +high five!+

21fd060d0796fdb8a4a990441e08eae7

(24543)

on January 05, 2012
at 12:08 AM

Ummmm...you've got company right here :) Long story, like yours.

Ca2c940a1947e6200883908592956680

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on January 05, 2012
at 12:05 AM

Kamal, I had worse. I got an entire camera up the thing. I got to watch the whole show on TV too. Quite interesting, I am one of a very select few who have seen inside their own bladder.

98bf2ca7f8778c79cd3f6c962011cfdc

(24286)

on January 05, 2012
at 12:02 AM

Good for you for taking good care of yourself. I'm on meds too and probably will be forever. I try once a year or so to come off but it always ends badly. Paleo is great but it doesn't heal all things for all people. I'm pretty sure if this diet doesn't cure it it can't be cured though. Keep up the good work and do what you have to do to stay in the game and make it a good one.

Ca2c940a1947e6200883908592956680

(8574)

on January 05, 2012
at 12:02 AM

Hahaha thank you. Personally I think it was training for when my future wife is pregnant, lets call it empathy preparation. But yes humour, prayer and responsibility kept me alive. If anyone is interested I actually wrote about it here: http://toshine.org/articles/end-of-year-letter-2011/

499f188c87c6980742b9ba98caa6f563

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on January 05, 2012
at 12:01 AM

And a bushy tail.

98bf2ca7f8778c79cd3f6c962011cfdc

(24286)

on January 04, 2012
at 11:59 PM

Um why when I click edit do I see two elephants holding trunks Mer??? Am I on good drugs and don't know it? Are you now embedding your posts with secret messages? You are hilarious.

21fd060d0796fdb8a4a990441e08eae7

(24543)

on January 04, 2012
at 11:58 PM

You didn't get the test where they stick the thing up the thing, did you?

21fd060d0796fdb8a4a990441e08eae7

(24543)

on January 04, 2012
at 11:57 PM

Also...mo' money, mo' problems, know what I'm sayin'?

21fd060d0796fdb8a4a990441e08eae7

(24543)

on January 04, 2012
at 11:56 PM

She more than made up for it with the elephants, though.

21fd060d0796fdb8a4a990441e08eae7

(24543)

on January 04, 2012
at 11:56 PM

She more than made up for it with the elephents, though.

98bf2ca7f8778c79cd3f6c962011cfdc

(24286)

on January 04, 2012
at 11:56 PM

Good god that sounds awful. I'm sorry you had to go through that. Kudos for keeping a great sense of humor. You are hilarious (something we need more of around here for sure!)

66e6b190e62fb3bcf42d4c60801c7bf6

(12407)

on January 04, 2012
at 11:54 PM

Don't you ever quote that sucky band again. Seriously. I consider it a character flaw. XONL

F0e558010a2ecb31fa37b7c491596b8e

(3850)

on January 04, 2012
at 11:53 PM

+1 for the Linkin Park sucks comment.

Ca2c940a1947e6200883908592956680

(8574)

on January 04, 2012
at 11:51 PM

Thank you, you are very kind. That means a lot to me, especially from a girl who is apparently healed by bacon!?

7c9f81d68c78de1a31eab9c91c17b4b8

on January 04, 2012
at 11:46 PM

I would like to affirm you are very funny and also you have fulfilled your motto since you made me laugh.

21fd060d0796fdb8a4a990441e08eae7

(24543)

on January 04, 2012
at 11:45 PM

Taking is too easy, but that's the way it is :(

Ca2c940a1947e6200883908592956680

(8574)

on January 04, 2012
at 11:45 PM

It gave me a shiny coat and a wet nose.

Ca2c940a1947e6200883908592956680

(8574)

on January 04, 2012
at 11:42 PM

I believe David Beckham was the sixth. Or perhaps he just made the tea.

Medium avatar

(12379)

on January 04, 2012
at 11:36 PM

I like her, but she's making me really sore!

0dbd7154d909b97fe774d1655754f195

(16131)

on January 04, 2012
at 11:31 PM

I am really liking Bodyrock's new host!

D30ff86ad2c1f3b43b99aed213bcf461

on January 04, 2012
at 11:13 PM

Now here's the story, from A to Z...aaaaaand now that song's in my head for the rest of the week.

724ba4f39f7bbea7f74b45c0a79615f2

(1968)

on January 04, 2012
at 11:12 PM

I'm there with you. Eating well is helping. Paleohacks, however, not helping... :)

5ef574d7893bc816ec52e04139e9bc09

(6097)

on January 04, 2012
at 11:03 PM

The short answer is: become more spiritual.

5ef574d7893bc816ec52e04139e9bc09

(6097)

on January 04, 2012
at 11:03 PM

That concern can be be resolved in the exact manner in which you resolved your health concerns.

21fd060d0796fdb8a4a990441e08eae7

(24543)

on January 04, 2012
at 10:59 PM

I'm experiencing a lot of challenges these days, and I'm confident I can rise to the challenges. The very thought of being able to do so, fills with me energy and optimism :)

F4aff43df6a8a49a1c3879c1233ee560

(459)

on January 04, 2012
at 10:52 PM

Ditto..........

1c67bc28f4e44bbb8770b86df0463df3

(6719)

on January 04, 2012
at 10:33 PM

Cantaloupes!!!!

21fd060d0796fdb8a4a990441e08eae7

(24543)

on January 04, 2012
at 10:29 PM

Okay, now the band's all here.

21fd060d0796fdb8a4a990441e08eae7

(24543)

on January 04, 2012
at 10:28 PM

Crap, you're right.

7841848bd0c27c64353c583fb7971242

(7275)

on January 04, 2012
at 10:27 PM

Ginger spice!..

6b8d12fc3e43179f9ae1765a4d1a9dc2

(5914)

on January 04, 2012
at 10:25 PM

wasn't there five spice girls?

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531db50c958cf4d5605ee0c5ae8a57be

on January 04, 2012
at 10:49 PM

Need a good woman, paleo preferred.

Unfortunately, now that I'm a rock god with abs of steel and a much bigger penis, I've also become an intolerable narcissist and nutrition demagogue.

5ef574d7893bc816ec52e04139e9bc09

(6097)

on January 04, 2012
at 11:03 PM

That concern can be be resolved in the exact manner in which you resolved your health concerns.

Ca2c940a1947e6200883908592956680

(8574)

on January 05, 2012
at 12:23 AM

No, dropping gluten does.

Cf32992bfa1907147c7cdc451bba9c63

(2890)

on January 05, 2012
at 03:07 AM

abs of steel and a bigger penis don't help getting women. but dropping the narcissism and demagoguery would.

5ef574d7893bc816ec52e04139e9bc09

(6097)

on January 04, 2012
at 11:03 PM

The short answer is: become more spiritual.

0bf4aaa16b8532ca8fb773d86900d153

(203)

on January 05, 2012
at 12:10 AM

why does being spiritual helps getting a woman?

F4aff43df6a8a49a1c3879c1233ee560

(459)

on January 04, 2012
at 10:52 PM

Ditto..........

Aead76beb5fc7b762a6b4ddc234f6051

(15239)

on January 06, 2012
at 02:11 PM

^^^ not getting the joke?

0dbd7154d909b97fe774d1655754f195

(16131)

on January 07, 2012
at 01:36 AM

I am facebook friends with wjones3044. I can vouch for penis size and the abs. @WJ - please stop with all those explicit status updates already!!!!!

18
0d83a31f4066514252a2b6fb81f05b48

(907)

on January 05, 2012
at 02:46 AM

I'm coming from a history of 5 years of mental illness (anorexia, depression, ocd) which has left me today at 20 with no qualifications (had to leave school at 15 for psychiatric inpatient treatment), no friends, zero confidence, family relationship issues, a lack of identity and sense of how to go forward. I'm grateful today to be very close to fully recovered - at least functional and able to start making plans for the future but it's easy to feel overwhelmed. I don't know what to do careerwise or how to get there and it can be scary and lonely. Time moves faster than I do. I also get so jealous seeing the kids I grew up with succeeding at uni, travelling the world, falling in (and out) of love and just generally LIVING. I am not going to sit idly by and watch my life continue as it has but the stage I am at is incredibly frustrating. Well enough to want more, still not robust enough to seize an opportunity. Improved health has brought back the will and desire to live... now I just need to get on with the process.

7c9f81d68c78de1a31eab9c91c17b4b8

on January 05, 2012
at 06:10 AM

Tatty. Don't despair. 20 is young and there is lots of life ahead. Hang in there.

0d83a31f4066514252a2b6fb81f05b48

(907)

on January 05, 2012
at 06:56 AM

Thanks for the truly cheering and supportive comments. Communities like the one here on PaleoHacks certainly make one feel a little less alone. =)

Medium avatar

on January 05, 2012
at 06:11 AM

The first step is always the hardest. I had a time in my life when I had no sense of identity or direction in life, and I had to go through failures to find out who I was and where i wanted to go. It's painful, but for most of us necessary. I can really relate to you because I had to drop out of med school and watch all my peers succeed when I was lost and just trying to regain my health and sanity. You get a sense that time is going by too fast. But you have to find perspective. You have these weaknesses for a reason, and in the end they'll make you stronger than those other kids.

96bf58d8c6bd492dc5b8ae46203fe247

(37227)

on January 05, 2012
at 02:55 AM

You can. You will. I wish you well in your process.

Ec7cb2a7a68655954a01f03e95be1383

(1453)

on January 05, 2012
at 10:10 AM

"I also get so jealous seeing the kids I grew up with succeeding at uni, travelling the world, falling in (and out) of love and just generally LIVING." Don't forget that studying, travelling and falling in love doesn't mean to live a life a meaningful, interesting or happy life. A lot of people do that things because they don't know what to do with their lifes, are lonely inside or want to forget. In the end when you fight for the life you desire you will be a much more powerful person than the average student. Which 20 year old has the experience you have?

77877f762c40637911396daa19b53094

(78467)

on January 05, 2012
at 05:02 PM

I hit bottom at 37 and stayed there till 45 and then bottomed out even further between 52 and 54. You've got lot of time on your side.Just keep perfecting you diet and activity. Thing will happen.The finnish line isn't at twenty, thirty or forty. That's only when the race even begins.

Ec7cb2a7a68655954a01f03e95be1383

(1453)

on January 05, 2012
at 10:13 AM

"I also get so jealous seeing the kids I grew up with succeeding at uni, travelling the world, falling in (and out) of love and just generally LIVING." Don't forget that studying, travelling and falling in love doesn't mean to live a meaningful, interesting or happy life. A lot of people do that things because they don't know what to do with their lifes, are lonely inside or want to forget. In the end when you fight for the life you desire you will be a much more powerful person than the average student.

Ec7cb2a7a68655954a01f03e95be1383

(1453)

on January 05, 2012
at 10:11 AM

"I also get so jealous seeing the kids I grew up with succeeding at uni, travelling the world, falling in (and out) of love and just generally LIVING." Don't forget that studying, travelling and falling in love doesn't mean to live a meaningful, interesting or happy life. A lot of people do that things because they don't know what to do with their lifes, are lonely inside or want to forget. In the end when you fight for the life you desire you will be a much more powerful person than the average student. Which 20 year old has the experience you have?

6cca02352c216b4ca8325fda7d83832c

(1042)

on January 05, 2012
at 07:57 PM

Besides some of your personal experiences, I could have created this answer almost word for word. I have suffered from clinical depression for about 8 years and at 25 I am in the same situation as you - no friends, no job let alone career, no confidence, etc, etc. Severe mental illness strips everything away, but what I have learned is most if not all of what you lose can return over time if you are patient and educate yourself about how to heal your illness. I would give you a +10 for this answer if I could because of how well it represents the mindset of one recovering from mental illness.

F5f742cc9228eb5804114d0f3be4e587

(7660)

on January 07, 2012
at 09:07 PM

Consider this vantage point your wide open, blank canvas. What a gift! Scary, but a gift nonetheless. Trust me, I'm here at 35 and so many doors have been closed (married, house, kid), so I actually envy all the amazing opportunities available to you. (I should say here, I love my life). Honey, I didn't go o undergrad until 24, and now I am doing exactly what I want to be doing (writing/editing, now mostly for Paleo projects). Keep on keeping on! Your path will make itself known to you, but possibly only in hindsight. :)

C8b2136ef95ba6aac211825ff38cc0e9

(971)

on January 07, 2012
at 05:24 PM

Like Jon, I really relate to this post. I'm now 37, but at twenty I felt like I came from nowhere, no support and no identity and very much lost for a home or a career. I can tell you that I have developed a strong sense of self over time. There are artifacts of my past I still accept and deal with, but I have done a ton of work to heal myself. Some of the best people I've ever met have this kind of history, and I'd say I fit into that as well. I'd also say take your unique persepective with you along the way, it's invaluable.

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0dbd7154d909b97fe774d1655754f195

(16131)

on January 04, 2012
at 11:46 PM

Ready...set...VENT!

Lack of autonomy is very very hard for me. Before kids I worked - a lot. I was the main breadwinner in fact. Now we have two kids and my husband's job requires we move often, mostly to remote places. As a result I stay at home with the babbies - which is great - but it can be isolating and irritating that I don't have a stash of cash to buy presents, go on trips, whatever.

Also the nature of my husband's job comes with a HUGE lack of control. His work involves responding to situations in which shit has hit the fan. He is VERY good at what he does, but the problem is you never know when the shit will hit, or how stinky it is going to be. So, I can choose to be on guard at all times or play blissfully ignorant. I bounce back and forth. Mainly I choose to laugh.

There ain't no macro or micro nutrient, no bacterial infection protocol, no biohacking regime that I know of that can help me deal with this situation better. BUT since nutrition is one area in which I can exert complete control, I do it and it seems to be helpful in that regard.

"There's something inside me that pulls beneath the surface Consuming, confusing This lack of self control I fear is never ending Controlling"

~linkin park or someone else?

BTW - Personally, I think Linkin Park sucks because I am not an 11 year old boy skater punk.

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21fd060d0796fdb8a4a990441e08eae7

(24543)

on January 04, 2012
at 11:56 PM

She more than made up for it with the elephants, though.

F0e558010a2ecb31fa37b7c491596b8e

(3850)

on January 04, 2012
at 11:53 PM

+1 for the Linkin Park sucks comment.

98bf2ca7f8778c79cd3f6c962011cfdc

(24286)

on January 05, 2012
at 12:23 AM

I thought it was peni?

0dbd7154d909b97fe774d1655754f195

(16131)

on September 07, 2013
at 01:28 AM

::: (\_(\ *: (=’ :’) :* •.. (,(”)(”)¤°.¸¸.•´¯`»

98bf2ca7f8778c79cd3f6c962011cfdc

(24286)

on January 05, 2012
at 12:17 AM

I couldn't see them in your post before and now I can. This place is haunted.

21fd060d0796fdb8a4a990441e08eae7

(24543)

on January 04, 2012
at 11:56 PM

She more than made up for it with the elephents, though.

0dbd7154d909b97fe774d1655754f195

(16131)

on January 05, 2012
at 12:13 AM

Those elephants weren't me yo! Someone tagged my answer. Has Oak0y returned as an angel? I've heard about this random bombing. I hope nobody buffs these pieces so they can continue to burn on! http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Graffiti_terminology

21fd060d0796fdb8a4a990441e08eae7

(24543)

on January 04, 2012
at 11:57 PM

Also...mo' money, mo' problems, know what I'm sayin'?

Ce7e28769d92d5de5533e775b1de966e

on January 05, 2012
at 12:18 AM

The trunks look like peniseses.

98bf2ca7f8778c79cd3f6c962011cfdc

(24286)

on January 04, 2012
at 11:59 PM

Um why when I click edit do I see two elephants holding trunks Mer??? Am I on good drugs and don't know it? Are you now embedding your posts with secret messages? You are hilarious.

98bf2ca7f8778c79cd3f6c962011cfdc

(24286)

on January 05, 2012
at 12:24 AM

Where the hell is Chickensaurus when you need him?

66e6b190e62fb3bcf42d4c60801c7bf6

(12407)

on January 05, 2012
at 12:34 AM

it was the bobbit dude's penis...

0dbd7154d909b97fe774d1655754f195

(16131)

on January 05, 2012
at 12:21 AM

That didn't turn out at all. See - it was NOT me.

531db50c958cf4d5605ee0c5ae8a57be

(8878)

on January 05, 2012
at 01:25 AM

I love this answer. Even if the truth looks like penises. I mean trunks.

66e6b190e62fb3bcf42d4c60801c7bf6

(12407)

on January 04, 2012
at 11:54 PM

Don't you ever quote that sucky band again. Seriously. I consider it a character flaw. XONL

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Aead76beb5fc7b762a6b4ddc234f6051

(15239)

on January 05, 2012
at 01:14 AM

generally i just would like to be a better mom, better wife, better friend. more present, less rushes, less screaming at the kids, calmer, not taking things so seriously, less anxious and tightly wound, less defensive. i just want to be a better person for the people i love, who are legion, and deserve the best of me.

nutrition is a form of self improvement, and when im on track then im calmer, happier, more focused. but, its only a tiny piece of the puzzle, really. i want to live to see my daughter become a grandmother, so i keep that as the goal and tend to lose sight of the small, minute to minute goals like spending another minute cuddling instead of running off to clean the kitchen for the 234,985,643,795th time today.

3aea514b680d01bfd7573d74517946a7

(11996)

on January 05, 2012
at 02:34 AM

You folks with kids should all get awarded purple hearts, IMO. If I'd had kids, I'm sure I'd be in prison.

0dbd7154d909b97fe774d1655754f195

(16131)

on January 05, 2012
at 02:23 AM

On Wednesdays my kid has to wear a special school shirt - which we had to purchase for a pretty penny mind you. He just got it before the holiday break so he was wearing it constantly for the past two weeks. Of course as I was prepping him for school last night I was searching for the shirt to lay out. It was behind the TV covered in chocolatecookiemilkyogurtshit. I went KRAZY! I sat at the washer as it got cleaned and refused to join the bed time rituals. I am an idiot.

Ae3b7ea9f3755af32287825db8d98796

(2022)

on May 28, 2012
at 01:04 AM

That's such a great goal to have. I have to remind myself of these things on a daily basis. It's hard not to take life so seriously, especially with small kids. It feels like death by papercut sometimes, but so rewarding too. I'm constantly reminding myself to sit and watch/play with my girls rather than setting them up with an activity, then going to clean the kitchen (or something!). Those small moments are so big to them and I don't want to remember their childhoods with me always saying, "just a minute." I feel like I say that 100x a day.

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3aea514b680d01bfd7573d74517946a7

(11996)

on January 05, 2012
at 12:49 AM

Sunshine. Seriously. I live in a dark valley in a rainy coastal region, and winter sucks. Plus I live like a mole, going to work in the dark, slaving away under fluorescent lights in what I'm sure is a moldy building, and going back home in the dark.

I hate, hate, hate, hate it.

But I'm working on changing that, in a financially positive way! (C'mon, magic lottery ticket. j/k) I hope to have my own (profitable, please) business in a couple of years, so I can enjoy the sun when it's out, walk the dog when I want, hike when I want... Sigh...

0dbd7154d909b97fe774d1655754f195

(16131)

on January 05, 2012
at 02:19 AM

I agree! I live in a dark place too. I have lived in sunny places as well so I know that this makes a HUGE difference. Sunny + higher altitude for me is what I am trying to manifest.

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Medium avatar

on January 04, 2012
at 10:56 PM

"Unfortunately, it can be uncomfortable to discuss negative things when everybody seems fairly happy."

True, yet it seems to me no less accurate that it can be uncomfortable to take a positive, future oriented, make-the-most-of-the-moment approach to life, when many if not most people are routinely caught up in complaining about their life situation, second-guessing themselves at every turn, and making their quest for excellence dependent upon external circumstances. "I can't make any progress because nobody supports me, or I don't have enough time, or I'm tired a lot, or [fill in preferred excuse]..."

I am not referring to Paleo Hacks per se, but rather to something approaching the human condition. I'm particularly struck by how easy it becomes to say things like "I'm under a lot of stress," as if "stress" simply comes to us externally, like the weather. Even the statement, "My life is stressful at the moment." As opposed to: "I'm experiencing a lot of challenges these days, and I'm confident I can rise to the challenges. The very thought of being able to do so, fills with me energy and optimism."

Resilience can be taught. Life is a classroom that presents us with endless lessons, called opportunities. The learning is up to us.

21fd060d0796fdb8a4a990441e08eae7

(24543)

on January 04, 2012
at 10:59 PM

I'm experiencing a lot of challenges these days, and I'm confident I can rise to the challenges. The very thought of being able to do so, fills with me energy and optimism :)

0e395acc856e3353f3f5892e6b09b0e7

(1227)

on January 06, 2012
at 03:42 PM

I am confident that you can do whatever needs to be done, Kamal. Thank you for starting this wonderful community thread. I'm sorry for whatever troubles you are having that mean you can't pick up a bag of groceries, but you have picked up my spirits by this open question. Good to hear your voice again.

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078b14042d995aa2ad3cf31a4dcde988

(613)

on January 05, 2012
at 03:20 AM

Paleo/primal nutrition and exercise hasn't cured my diabetes (type 1.5/LADA), as much as I wanted it to, and as much as a lot of people can believe it will. I still have to take insulin, and insulin makes it hard not to store fat, no matter what I'm doing. When I started insulin, I could see my abs and quads. No more. Sometimes it's temping to quit insulin and get lean again, but then I've got chronically high blood sugar soooo that's no good. Anyway, eating this way certainly helps me manage it and use far LESS insulin than I otherwise would have to, but it's not magic. And I still get high blood sugars on days I eat too much protein, don't exercise, or get out of bed on the wrong side.

And count me among those depressed. Ironically, in a way cutting the sugar and carbs out made my symptoms more acute because, I suppose, I'm not self-medicating with carbs which are great for temporarily feeling better. I've got some focus issues. I'll be starting regular medication soon because I have to let go of the "if I just tried harder/was more perfect" thinking or I'll be in this cycle forever. (Same applies to the diabetes.) I've got the heredity on both sides and it's a different kind of insanity to think, even after trying everything else, I can conquer it without help.

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775bc83a7c54975e77a8500e065a24c3

on January 05, 2012
at 03:10 AM

I fear I have developed an aversion to allopatic medicine. First, I was diagnosed with diverticulitis, given multiple rounds of antibiotics which worsened my digestive tract, to having 4" of my sigmoid colon removed. I then developed an umbilical hernia likely due to the surgery and was informed that I had bowell wall thickening. Eventually, I was diagnosed with mild crohns only to be told that I would be medication dependent for the remainder of my life and eventually require furhter surgery. Thankfully, I found a naturopathic doctor who explained SIBO to me. I gave up wheat and began SCD before stumbling upon paleo diet which I believed has vastly improved my health. I am very resentful with regards to western medicine. I saw over 5 board certified physicians and can only recall 1 spending over five minutes with me and none discussing diet. I'm getting anxious and stressed just thinking about all of this. I was socialized to believe the doctor knows what's best and that I need to take my medicine like a "good little boy." I am grateful that I am feeling better, but have avoided seeing an allopathic doctor to confirm (through testing) that the dietary changes are actually working. Intuitively, I know I am improving based on symptom reduction and improved digestion. However, I still struggle that I am acting against medical advice and somehow need western medicine to tell me how to feel better. Our current medical system, should I say disease system just really angers me. Thanks for the excellent question

77877f762c40637911396daa19b53094

(78467)

on January 05, 2012
at 04:56 PM

I saw thirteen MD"S for my problem. Useless. Your aversion is real. Do not fear it.

Ed71ab1c75c6a9bd217a599db0a3e117

(25477)

on January 06, 2012
at 01:36 PM

good fear Ed.........plus one

3864f9a2af09b1b447c7963058650a34

(3703)

on January 17, 2012
at 04:04 PM

i hear you. i would concur with the above statements. i am undoing several years of damage from dentists and ignorant physicians (imho, all physicians are ignorant unless they understand the hormonal gut-brain-organ axis). sorry if this sounds harsh but this includes immediate family too.

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Ce7e28769d92d5de5533e775b1de966e

on January 05, 2012
at 12:37 AM

There are some things.. and some stuff.. and some things. And.. stuff.

What helps immensely is that I use nutrition, and exercise, as a platform to help me deal with well.. the stuff and the things, so a healthy body/healthy mind is the best path for me to handle it all.

Yep.

--EDIT--

I forgot to vent, too busy explaining my method of dealing and such. Ahem.

GODDAMNSHIZMOFOCRAPSHITFUCKMOTHERFAWKING AAAAAAHHHHHHHHHhhhh deep breath AAAHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH AHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHhhhhhhhhhhhhh hh hh....

Ok, done now.

Ce7e28769d92d5de5533e775b1de966e

on January 05, 2012
at 03:55 AM

I find that a good shriek, in addition to tasty meals, loads of sleep, nice exercise, and general skipping about is a most excellent combination to get through the muck when the muck occurs - because it will. Gotta roll gotta scream! And ask for hugs when applicable.

96bf58d8c6bd492dc5b8ae46203fe247

(37227)

on January 05, 2012
at 03:14 AM

+++++++++++++++

Ce7e28769d92d5de5533e775b1de966e

on January 05, 2012
at 03:54 AM

I find that a good scream, in addition to tasty meals, loads of sleep, nice exercise, and general skipping about is a most excellent combination to get through the muck when the muck occurs - because it will. Gotta roll gotta scream! And ask for hugs when applicable.

3aea514b680d01bfd7573d74517946a7

(11996)

on January 05, 2012
at 02:36 AM

Wish I could re-upvote for the edit.

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Ca2c940a1947e6200883908592956680

(8574)

on January 04, 2012
at 11:41 PM

Towards the end of 2010 I passed a 1cm kidney stone due to the doctors forgetting to zap it properly with their ultrasound asteroid gun. From what I can only guess was damage caused by giving birth to an oversized calcium oxalate baby, I actually developed a level of urgency which resulted in me having to run off to pee at best two or three times an hour, at worst eight to ten times. I basically did nothing the whole of 2011 apart from pee, and spent more time in a toilet-stall than a drunk girl does in a nightclub.

So forwards into my Paleo 2012, may yee be more certain and less porcelain.

And apart from that I want more humility, gratitude, passion and to be more useful with my time. Also this year I want to knock on the head my constant worry for affirmation, which come to mention is not helped with all this PaleoHacks vote tomfoolery. I also need to watch my focus with my new found passion for health and fitness and make sure I don't become self-obsessed. Self-esteem is like carbohydrate, I need not explain the metaphor any further.

So all that and perhaps I need to learn to use less commas in my sentences, or perhaps learn to use other forms of punctuation; and of course be less verbose and use full stops sooner rather than later.

My motto is "Be Useful".
Meditate on that, and you won't go wrong in anything.

Ca2c940a1947e6200883908592956680

(8574)

on January 05, 2012
at 12:10 AM

Oh, +high five!+

21fd060d0796fdb8a4a990441e08eae7

(24543)

on January 05, 2012
at 12:08 AM

Ummmm...you've got company right here :) Long story, like yours.

Ca2c940a1947e6200883908592956680

(8574)

on January 04, 2012
at 11:51 PM

Thank you, you are very kind. That means a lot to me, especially from a girl who is apparently healed by bacon!?

Ca2c940a1947e6200883908592956680

(8574)

on January 05, 2012
at 12:05 AM

Kamal, I had worse. I got an entire camera up the thing. I got to watch the whole show on TV too. Quite interesting, I am one of a very select few who have seen inside their own bladder.

0dbd7154d909b97fe774d1655754f195

(16131)

on January 05, 2012
at 02:15 AM

Why oh why is the pelvis so tender? I mean nature intended the ladies to carry and push the babbies out the p region. Yet we prolapse and get SI problems. I do not love my pelvis. Not at all.

Ca2c940a1947e6200883908592956680

(8574)

on January 05, 2012
at 12:15 AM

Thanks. OK goodnight y'all I need to go bed, it's like 00:14 here and way past paleo!

98bf2ca7f8778c79cd3f6c962011cfdc

(24286)

on January 05, 2012
at 12:15 AM

And a new PH bromance begins....

21fd060d0796fdb8a4a990441e08eae7

(24543)

on January 04, 2012
at 11:58 PM

You didn't get the test where they stick the thing up the thing, did you?

7c9f81d68c78de1a31eab9c91c17b4b8

on January 04, 2012
at 11:46 PM

I would like to affirm you are very funny and also you have fulfilled your motto since you made me laugh.

21fd060d0796fdb8a4a990441e08eae7

(24543)

on January 05, 2012
at 12:11 AM

Even if you don't have a prostate issue, this book is often recommended for this type of stuff...http://www.amazon.com/Headache-Pelvis-Understanding-Treatment-Prostatitis/dp/0972775528

Ca2c940a1947e6200883908592956680

(8574)

on January 05, 2012
at 12:02 AM

Hahaha thank you. Personally I think it was training for when my future wife is pregnant, lets call it empathy preparation. But yes humour, prayer and responsibility kept me alive. If anyone is interested I actually wrote about it here: http://toshine.org/articles/end-of-year-letter-2011/

98bf2ca7f8778c79cd3f6c962011cfdc

(24286)

on January 04, 2012
at 11:56 PM

Good god that sounds awful. I'm sorry you had to go through that. Kudos for keeping a great sense of humor. You are hilarious (something we need more of around here for sure!)

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Af1d286f0fd5c3949f59b4edf4d892f5

(18452)

on January 04, 2012
at 11:00 PM

Was hoping Paleo made me taller whilst invigorating my skin with rich moisture.

Neither has happened... yet!

"I wish I was little bit taller, I wish I was a baller, I wish I had a girl who looked good I would call her, I wish I had a rabbit in a hat with a bat and a six four Impala"

Ca2c940a1947e6200883908592956680

(8574)

on January 04, 2012
at 11:45 PM

It gave me a shiny coat and a wet nose.

499f188c87c6980742b9ba98caa6f563

(683)

on January 05, 2012
at 12:01 AM

And a bushy tail.

Af1d286f0fd5c3949f59b4edf4d892f5

(18452)

on January 05, 2012
at 01:17 AM

ha! now that's an edit! thanks Sara S.

Af1d286f0fd5c3949f59b4edf4d892f5

(18452)

on January 05, 2012
at 05:50 PM

have had dry skin since I was a small child. why do you make this connection?

77877f762c40637911396daa19b53094

(78467)

on January 05, 2012
at 05:13 PM

Jack, do you have dry skin? I'm thinking connection to the low HDL, low vit d.

Af1d286f0fd5c3949f59b4edf4d892f5

(18452)

on January 17, 2012
at 04:32 PM

i have heard about thyroid affecting skin, but intestinal lining? do tell more grace.

3864f9a2af09b1b447c7963058650a34

(3703)

on January 17, 2012
at 04:01 PM

the skin is a dirct reflection on intestinal lining (and thyroid function) in a most curious fractal way...

3864f9a2af09b1b447c7963058650a34

(3703)

on January 19, 2012
at 11:01 PM

Let me direct you to our paleo enchantress...http://huntgatherlove.com/content/gut-brain-skin-axis

3864f9a2af09b1b447c7963058650a34

(3703)

on January 19, 2012
at 11:06 PM

Good citations here. Aldehydes and alcohol and mycotoxins from fungi in our gut/skin. When the gut balance is 'off' from decades of f&cked up SAD eating, the fungi/yeast/candida overgrow. Their byproducts further breakdown the tight junctions of both the gut and skin lining: http://www.vrp.com/liver-support/the-missing-link-to-glowing-healthy-skin

Af1d286f0fd5c3949f59b4edf4d892f5

(18452)

on January 20, 2012
at 04:27 AM

hmm. very interesting stuff. i don't have acne, but some of this is ringing a bell with me. I am gonna dig further into it. once again, thanks grace. and thanks to enchantress melissa as well.

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7c9f81d68c78de1a31eab9c91c17b4b8

on January 05, 2012
at 12:46 AM

I would like it if my nutrition helped me talk like those Mom's I see on television...you know...who calmy/sweetly say stuff like.."...it's probably not a good idea to put gum in your sister's hair." Instead transforming into a scary looking Monster and screaming..."WHY DID YOU PUT GUM IN YOUR SISTER'S HAIR?!"

7c9f81d68c78de1a31eab9c91c17b4b8

on January 05, 2012
at 05:54 AM

ahhhh haha heehee :)

B33f7c04c09d8bbbf181dd8aca04f373

(554)

on January 05, 2012
at 02:41 AM

I just yelled up the stairs "For the last time - stop playing hungry hippos and GO TO BED!!!!!" So this made me laugh :)

7c9f81d68c78de1a31eab9c91c17b4b8

on January 06, 2012
at 11:09 PM

That is very true. :)

35ba1f50dad25c85ac1aa2599fe5c5cb

(2485)

on January 06, 2012
at 11:07 PM

Yeah, but you know those TV kids, they all turn out to be junkies anyway. Getting yelled at for torturing your sister builds character!

518bce04b12cd77741237e1f61075194

(11577)

on May 28, 2012
at 04:18 AM

My friend today: "The house would be perfectly clean, the dishes would always get done, and the calender would be properly filled out...if I SCREAMED ALL THE TIME. Believe me, I've done it before, it was amazing.". The power of the parental voice...

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Medium avatar

(12379)

on January 04, 2012
at 11:01 PM

What's missing for me is the clarity to accomplish all the tasks that I need to do in a day. I really need to stop procastinating and being lazy and get things done. I'm working on it and my whole30 and bodyrock 30 day challenge is really helping.

Medium avatar

(12379)

on January 04, 2012
at 11:36 PM

I like her, but she's making me really sore!

724ba4f39f7bbea7f74b45c0a79615f2

(1968)

on January 04, 2012
at 11:12 PM

I'm there with you. Eating well is helping. Paleohacks, however, not helping... :)

Medium avatar

(12379)

on January 05, 2012
at 01:24 AM

Ha ha! My husband thought zuzana's boobs were way too fake looking he likes Lisa though

0dbd7154d909b97fe774d1655754f195

(16131)

on January 05, 2012
at 03:56 AM

I think her ex-husband Freddie is. Now it is him, his brother and their new girlie girl.

98bf2ca7f8778c79cd3f6c962011cfdc

(24286)

on January 05, 2012
at 02:51 AM

What happened to Zuzana? I thought she WAS Bodyrock?

0dbd7154d909b97fe774d1655754f195

(16131)

on January 05, 2012
at 03:47 PM

Zuzka has only shown up to give recipe advice. She may be on to bigger things - I just don't know.

21fd060d0796fdb8a4a990441e08eae7

(24543)

on January 05, 2012
at 03:13 PM

Zuzana is gone forever?

0dbd7154d909b97fe774d1655754f195

(16131)

on January 04, 2012
at 11:31 PM

I am really liking Bodyrock's new host!

0dbd7154d909b97fe774d1655754f195

(16131)

on January 05, 2012
at 12:16 AM

She's got energy and doesn't seem to be into porn. My husband misses Zuzana though.

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B33f7c04c09d8bbbf181dd8aca04f373

on January 05, 2012
at 02:56 AM

I need a job. I am so tired of being way way way way w.....a.....y below the poverty line... I need to graduate with my teaching certifications and find a school that is hiring and get a job.

Eating better helps me feel better physically and emotionally, but I still have some emotional issues that I would like improved.

There are so many other things... but mainly I am tired of not feeling like I am not worth anything - financially, emotionally, physically... I just want to feel better all around. I would like things in my life to be less difficult.

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F074daf8ee19a4c101c533b7fdab708a

(284)

on January 04, 2012
at 11:30 PM

Well, I suffer from depression. I have dangerously thought, in the past that, as long as I was eating healthy paleo, I could go off my fairly small dose of antidepressant, and be ok. I was not! I don't know if it was the chicken or the egg, but all of a sudden I was no longer eating paleo and taking care of myself like I know I deserve when I am in a good frame of mind, and I wasn't taking my meds either. It finally came to me one day when I could not stop crying in front of a complete stranger! Things got quite awkward, and I kept asking myself "what the heck is wrong with me!?!". Once I figured out the whole mess, I got back on the meds and did a little thinking. I had become dangerously low, low enough to contemplate suicide at times, and I was constantly lashing out at my family.

But I have certainly learned my lesson, and as much as I would love to dump my meds, I know they keep me level and more enjoyable to be around. I still read about how someone has successfully come off their meds by supplementing with this or that, and I sigh wistfully, but I know I dare not try it at this point. I am now on a whole 30, cutting dairy out for the first time, and feeling great! I feel like this time I have got it... and I will make sure to keep taking my meds!

724ba4f39f7bbea7f74b45c0a79615f2

(1968)

on January 05, 2012
at 03:00 AM

Hey, optimal means optimal. When the benefits outweigh the costs, you win. So go enjoy your optimal!

98bf2ca7f8778c79cd3f6c962011cfdc

(24286)

on January 05, 2012
at 12:02 AM

Good for you for taking good care of yourself. I'm on meds too and probably will be forever. I try once a year or so to come off but it always ends badly. Paleo is great but it doesn't heal all things for all people. I'm pretty sure if this diet doesn't cure it it can't be cured though. Keep up the good work and do what you have to do to stay in the game and make it a good one.

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0d0842381492a41b2173a04014aae810

(4875)

on January 05, 2012
at 04:07 AM

Hey, might as well...

I've come to realize that what I do for a living means very little (read: nothing) to me, and spending 40 - 50 hours a week on something that doesn't invoke my passion is no longer an acceptable in my life.

I'm planning on going back to school fall semester of this year for biochemistry. The reading I've done on nutrition over the last year has had a definite impact on my realizing that I'd like to be doing something that better challenges my mind. I largely have paleo and the research based nature of the community to thank for this. I've spent much of the last five or so years reading about nutrition and had planned on going to school to become a dietitian even before I found paleo, but never delved as deeply into the science of it all until recently.

Also, this is a bit of a reiteration of my recent question on reduced quality of life, but I am absolutely sick of physical therapy, taking it easy in my physical activities, living with chronic pain, and dealing with this goddamn broken leg. And the healthiest coping strategy I had: exercising? Yeah, can't do that anymore; not with any sort of intensity. Sometimes I'd do just about anything to be able to sprint a few blocks.

21fd060d0796fdb8a4a990441e08eae7

(24543)

on January 05, 2012
at 03:20 PM

That sucks (last paragraph, especially). Going from exercise being my main activity a few years ago to not being able to lift ten pounds pretty much took the wind out of my sails. If you get a chance, weigh in on this hack...http://paleohacks.com/questions/28181/paleo-and-pain-which-issues-are-you-interested-in-nightshades-bone-broths-pu#axzz1iVWEGsQ5

77877f762c40637911396daa19b53094

(78467)

on January 05, 2012
at 04:50 PM

You are sick of physical therapy because conventional physical therapy (insurance based) is the SAD of physcial rehabilition modalities. Its almost useless! Find a good neuromuscualr therapist in your area and start going. I broke 8 bones in 2005 and within six week I started excersising, and within 4 months I was up to top speed.Three days of pain pills, only. The rest NMT, Ice, and aspirin. Granted my therapist, was Paul ST. John himself, but his "clones" are well trained. It is an easy method to teach and learn. I'll help you find the best therapist in your area.Suffering is optional!!

0d0842381492a41b2173a04014aae810

(4875)

on January 05, 2012
at 07:11 PM

Kamal - I'm going to attempt to tackle reading that hack and all of the subtopics - I definitely have a few opinions based on what has helped and hindered me over the last six months. I'll post something up at some point.

0d0842381492a41b2173a04014aae810

(4875)

on January 05, 2012
at 07:09 PM

Shah, thanks. I've actually stopped going to PT the last couple weeks, having come to a similar conclusion: it's conventional wisdom based. I've been using the money towards yoga classes, which have been much more beneficial thus far. I'll look into neuromuscular massage.

21fd060d0796fdb8a4a990441e08eae7

(24543)

on January 06, 2012
at 02:17 PM

Excellent! Reading other people's experiences is always nice.

58c33847c5b7ecbf6572075df2cdd002

(866)

on May 28, 2012
at 05:31 PM

You may also want to explore Pilates. We are fortunate in my town to have a former physical therapist who went on to become a Pilates instructor. My husband is a high level amputee (left hemipelvectomy) who has been walking with crutches for 20 years. One visit to the Pilates instructor helped him realize he had been walking wrong for 17 years and she helped him improve his walking and body mechanics, most likely adding innumerable years to his mobility.

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7841848bd0c27c64353c583fb7971242

(7275)

on January 04, 2012
at 10:34 PM

What's missing in my life is my family. I have 5 niecephews on the other side of the country, so I don't see them as often as I'd like. I also miss my in-laws and want to move back to be near them again. It's a big family, and they provide a lot of love and support, plus fun trips camping, clamming at the coast, cross-country skiing to a winter cabin, and dancing. Togetherness with family and friends is something I think hunter-gatherers in general had more than we do today, and I'm really missing it. Now I just have to drudge through a few more years of grad school and then hopefully we can move back.

0d0842381492a41b2173a04014aae810

(4875)

on January 05, 2012
at 03:58 AM

+1. I don't have any family in state either. On one hand, it has prompted me to really hold dearly the relationships I have with my closest friends, but I have a lot of family issues and I hold a fear that my parents will die before I have the opportunity to cultivate a loving relationship with them. I do what I can from afar.

7
363d0a0277a8b61ada3a24ab3ad85d5a

(4642)

on January 04, 2012
at 11:07 PM

Trying to figure out if my job is in line with the career path I really want. I keep waiting for some sort of inspiration to tell me what to do when I "grow up". I work for a big Wall St. firm in NYC but I miss my country life. I wonder how the city life has affected my health, even though there is so much here available in terms of food, but I don't get out and hike as much as I would like to, my 20 minute driving commute used to be my relaxation time, and I don't have that anymore. So many things are great in my life, but I feel this huge hole with wanting to know what to do. I really just want to go live in the country again and have a small farm, but that requires a lot of capital build up that I can't do right now, and we're waiting for the med school admissions information to come in for the spouse, so there is so much up in the air. I guess I want to learn balance, and just chill out for a while, eat right and perform well at work. I am suffering from body image issues too. I gained weight from Thanksgiving to Christmas and feel so uncomfortable in my skin. So I think that is at least the one thing I can actively do something about, so I guess it isn't so bad, but it preoccupies a large part of my mind. I thought venting would make be feel better but I kind of just feel more blah... good question though! I think venting is important.

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Ccdf3fbcaec76e025ff94d03cc4daf9a

on January 04, 2012
at 10:38 PM

MEGA JOB DISSATISFACTION. But instead of griping about it like I did for most of 2011, I have made finding a better job my main New Years Resolution for 2012.
Most of this newfound motivation for job hunting (which I loathe) came from the fact that I was in line for a promotion since I started over a year ago and then found out that they have decided they want a spanish speaker. I dont speak spanish. So I got screwed out of the promotion, which was the whole reason I took the job in the first place. GAWD! If you dont like it, change it, right?

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F1b39d4f620876330312f4925bd51900

(4090)

on January 05, 2012
at 05:53 PM

I really really want my digestive health to improve. I feel like I have been trying to solve a giant puzzle from hell, for 3.5 years. My life and general outlook is slowly getting darker and darker. Its like all the pieces of my life are in such a good place -but I don't get to enjoy them because my digestive troubles get in the way (like I can't go out with friends because I don't feel good, etc).

Just when I thought it couldn't get any worse -I now get weekly migraines! I am not naturally a depressed person -but having health problems can really wear a person down.

I am always trying something new, it would just have been a whole lot easier if paleo had been the answer!

(No need for suggestions on how to improve digestion please -just taking the opportunity to vent)

F0e558010a2ecb31fa37b7c491596b8e

(3850)

on January 05, 2012
at 07:54 PM

I hear you. I went through awful periods like that and the situational depression that results is difficult for people to imagine who haven't been there. Fortunately for me, giving up gluten has improved me enough that I now have a sliver of hope that I may eventually get better. Don't give up, and I hope you find your trigger some day.

5
0bf4aaa16b8532ca8fb773d86900d153

on January 05, 2012
at 12:18 AM

touch travel comunity back to my friends. expand time with them.

4
1096aa84d006fe967128ffbd37e8070e

(1002)

on January 06, 2012
at 03:57 PM

I will say that I really hope my new paleo diet will cure my psoriasis, my mood swings, take my gray hair away, and help me earn more money....

I also want to just point out that we are so lucky to be able to worry about and question the types of food we eat and to tweak our diets on a whim. A lot of folks out there don't have the luxury!

Lastly, I am so grateful to all of you, who are helping me learn things I didn't even know I didn't know!!

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3c6b4eed18dc57f746755b698426e7c8

on January 06, 2012
at 03:26 PM

Health and wealth and friends by the score. By the way, by wealth, I don't necessarily mean material wealth -- it translates to psychic and intellectual wealth, i.e., knowledge resulting in enlightenment.

Unlike material wealth, health is something we all can attain. Through many means, however. I'm now convinced that there are many, many roads to health. And many different ways of optimizing aspects of health. So let's not be too judgmental. Nutritional relativism rules. We all evolved from different areas of the planet. But we're all God's children.

4
Ed71ab1c75c6a9bd217a599db0a3e117

(25477)

on January 06, 2012
at 01:38 PM

What do I want..........easy

TRANSFORMATIONAL CHANGE IN EVERYTHING AS TIME TICKS

D1c02d4fc5125a670cf419dbb3e18ba7

on January 06, 2012
at 04:00 PM

"Transformational change" is redundant. "As time ticks"...perhaps you are referring to the Arrow of Time and increasing entropy as per the 2nd Law of Thermodynamics. In this regard you have already achieved your objective as your mental entropy seems to be increasing without bound. Success!

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0511b69b133556de6e7ef12d4ae262bc

(399)

on January 07, 2012
at 06:22 PM

I have loved the Paleo diet so far. Yet I have come to notice that I now have a huge flaw... that is taking over more than I want it to. And I have yet to admit this to anyone... so you are all the first. Since I started losing weight on the Paleo diet I have hit 114 pounds and I am 5'5". I have become obsessed with weighing each and every morning, and with wanting to lose weight STILL. My body fat % is at 18.6%, and yet I am trying to cut everything out of my diet except for meat and a few vegetables so that I can lose weight still. I had my annual woman's check up and my Dr let me know that I am getting dangerously thin and that she is worried for me. I started eating a little more, and am now 117 pounds. But here is the thing, as soon as I gained those three pounds I am now DESPERATE to lose them back ASAP. Something is obviously wrong... and I have never had this problem before in my entire life. I have always been happy with myself and have never worried about how much I weigh. I went on the Paleo Diet because I have seizures and I thought it might help, and you know what? It did! I am seizure free and medication free. But it has left me with this terrible problem of self image and never knowing when enough is enough. Now people are worried for me and asking me to eat more. (My husband and brother in particular.) Ah... there is my vent session...as well as myself facing the facts... I dont know what to do from here.

F5f742cc9228eb5804114d0f3be4e587

(7660)

on January 07, 2012
at 10:39 PM

Funny you mention it...I've had the same issue (albeit, too a lesser degree). Never stepped foot on a scale pre-Paleo, but got hooked on watching the numbers tick down. After a Whole30, I lost a few more and haven't been able to get down that low since. Very addictive. Are you having any other issues? Sleep? Anxiety? Just FYI, I've found when I up my carbs a bit (sweet potato, a little fruit), I definitely find my mind calming a bit. Best of luck to you! Awareness is the first step.

3
6714718e2245e5190017d643a7614157

on January 07, 2012
at 05:44 PM

I would like to be omnipotent.

3c6b4eed18dc57f746755b698426e7c8

(5147)

on January 07, 2012
at 06:22 PM

Also, omnivorous.

D1c02d4fc5125a670cf419dbb3e18ba7

on January 07, 2012
at 05:58 PM

May as well add omniscience and omnipresence while you're at it.

0e395acc856e3353f3f5892e6b09b0e7

(1227)

on January 07, 2012
at 06:30 PM

Ah, there you are Aravind. I've missed your sharp witted comments.

D1c02d4fc5125a670cf419dbb3e18ba7

on January 07, 2012
at 07:43 PM

Thanks Doris :-)

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518bce04b12cd77741237e1f61075194

(11577)

on May 28, 2012
at 01:05 AM

Through my short, innocent life, I had a few health hurdles that were big downers: several heart surgeries in my teen years, sinus surgeries in my childhood years, chronic migraines on a daily basis for ALL of puberty (longest 6 years of my life), an ovarian cyst that burst and oh-my-god hurt, several ulcers, and pretty rough allergies. The biggest bummer of them all was the heart problem, which incited very thrilling panic attacks and trips to emergency, all because of a silly little nerve that crossed my AV node for no real reason except that it was a mild birth defect. Thank god surgery fixed several of my issues (I now have real sinuses that are shaped like sinuses! My heart now beats like a normal person), but it was a struggle to have these things just completely out of my control. I came out like that, and sometimes we ain't all born perfect.

Now that I'm all surgeried up and fixed, as well as having my diet and health in ship shape (bout of disordered eating and weight fluctuations in late teens), all I want is a BABY. But a baby that doesn't have little defects like I was born with. Everytime I see a baby my heart rate goes up and my brain turns into mush that just says "HEY ITS A BABY YOU WANT ONE OF THOSE, YOU CAN MAKE ONE, GO MAKE ONE". The thought of having a baby in my stomach or breast feeding a baby literally makes me feel faint. I constantly have at least one pet in my life, which I get strongly, strongly attached to, and I get very powerful urges to get rid of all my stuff and move about twice a year. I don't know if it's just my age (20) or the stage I'm at in my life (stable long-term relationship) but it is just something that I am consumed by. Having a perfect little baby. Because I'm still in school, my finances are no where near in order, and everyone would be shocked/appalled if I got pregnant, it just isn't in the cards and that SUCKS. I assume that lots of other women feel these same urges, but it's just not something you can talk about very openly. I wish society was set up so that we could have babies when we wanted to, and could somehow be supported as we pursued our careers when our kids were older and more independent! Or, at the very least I could say "Wouldn't having a baby be such an experience? I want one of those" without everyone looking uncomfortable, and then laughing.

518bce04b12cd77741237e1f61075194

(11577)

on May 28, 2012
at 04:16 AM

Also, I've never really admitted any of that baby stuff. I'm glad my boyfriend doesn't go on here, otherwise he might go a little faint...

1
7cf9f5b08a41ecf2a2d2bc0b31ea6fa0

on May 27, 2012
at 11:54 PM

I want to find a nice girlfriend and it seems that everything that is an obstacle to that is what makes me depressed. I have been alone for the last 5 years after a relationship ended badly and as the years went on my self esteem practically disappeared, now I can't even imagine myself in a relationship. I hoped paleo would cure all my problems but it hasn't, I still have fairly bad skin and dark circles and a less than ideal body. But I am fairly new to this so maybe things will change. Depression and anxiety come and go but are definitely improved on this diet so that's something to be thankful for :)

It's nice to see a thread like this, particularly not centered around failures in weight loss but also in other aspects of life and health

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Cdc21bedc8c5ff5c90a9dc0ea117208b

on May 27, 2012
at 10:33 PM

My answer is a lot like tatty's. I had a traumatic childhood, and started using drugs when I was 10, and cutting and burning myself. I've thought about suicide, every day, since I was 8 or 9, and only in the past year have I been drug-free and NOT suicidal. I dropped out of high school, because I was so socially phobic that I could not be around people, without having panic-attacks and crying, all of the time, so until 8 months ago, I didn't have a friend, until I ran into someone I knew in middle school. She's actually the one who told me about Paleo. It's helped, a lot, and changing the way I think about food and health has helped me change the way I think about myself, and made me consider that I might be a worthwhile person. There's still a lot of fear, and a lot of anger, at myself and my parents, but I see the value in trying, now. I worry that I've thrown away my life and won't get anywhere, but I know I have people who love me, and I think I might be ready to love myself, now, and forgive myself for the mistakes I made. I know I can't change my past, and as much as I wish it hadn't happened, I recognize that it taught me, a lot, about myself, and other people. I know I just have to move forward, and that it's going to be difficult, and of course I'm scared. But at least I'll be doing something different, making a life for myself, and that's all I want, a chance to live my life, without a miasma of depression and doubt stalking my thoughts.

I hope it's okay that I answered this, I know it's kind of old, and my answer was probably sort of depressing, but it's something I needed to be able to say. And it's a question I'm glad was asked, because I think a lot of people are so overwhelmed that they look to one thing, to fix everything, and then give up, when it doesn't work like a miracle; I know I did that, a LOT, before I realized how much work life takes, but how much it's worth it. I'm not accusing anyone of this, just pointing out that it's something a lot of people do.

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