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How to accept non-paleo gifts?

Answered on September 12, 2014
Created December 05, 2012 at 9:21 AM

My boyfriend's father is a sweet man and he likes buying gifts and doing things for people. We have told him we're on a diet and aren't eating wheat/sugar but he is foreign and doesn't really understand. He recently bought us a platter of cookies for the holidays. I do not want to hurt his feelings by turning them down (and it really is a beautiful platter). What do you suggest I do?

Cc3ce03985eac5ebcbb95fc2329f13b0

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on December 05, 2012
at 11:18 PM

Exactly. Be nice about it.

7a6529ea25b655132fe58d793f95547a

(2030)

on December 05, 2012
at 08:34 PM

Ha! https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gAYL5H46QnQ

7a6529ea25b655132fe58d793f95547a

(2030)

on December 05, 2012
at 08:31 PM

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gAYL5H46QnQ

61844af1187e745e09bb394cbd28cf23

(11058)

on December 05, 2012
at 04:36 PM

As a non-people person, I vote for the alternative suggestion. Thanks for the morning giggle.

61844af1187e745e09bb394cbd28cf23

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on December 05, 2012
at 01:43 PM

"Do you really want stuff you don't use or an experience?" You can always just be gracious, say "Thank you," and donate whatever you receive that you won't use.

F92e4ca55291c3f3096a3d4d3d854986

(11698)

on December 05, 2012
at 01:01 PM

My mom still doesn't get it. She lives across the country, was making homemade granola the other day and asked if she could mail me some. One day, one day...

B3173217a49b5b0116078775a17eb21d

(11488)

on December 05, 2012
at 12:46 PM

Option B.......

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D8f10efbb2da1d53290a4dad3ee58f00

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on December 05, 2012
at 04:37 PM

If explaining won't stop receiving non-GF or non-Paleo food items, consider donating it a food drive or local food bank. Many public schools and libraries and certain supermarkets have bins for food donations.

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3491e51730101b18724dc57c86601173

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on December 05, 2012
at 10:43 PM

Graciously.

Honestly, when someone gives you a gift you say thank you, it's not an opportunity to lecture or refuse. I'm sure Miss Manners would agree.

What you do with the gift is up to you.

A grateful client brought in a Costco box of cookies yesterday. He was so proud to do something nice to me. I let him know how much I appreciated his thoughtfulness. It IS the thought that counts. And as soon as he left, I put the cookies in the office kitchen for my co-workers.

I didn't even want to bring them home for my kids--my kids aren't paleo (too old to change their ways at this point when DH is not onboard), but I'm feeling worse and worse about feeding them "poison".

Cc3ce03985eac5ebcbb95fc2329f13b0

(7370)

on December 05, 2012
at 11:18 PM

Exactly. Be nice about it.

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F5a0ddffcf9ef5beca864050f090a790

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on December 05, 2012
at 10:59 AM

  1. Say "thank you".

  2. Put them in some place you cannot see them.

  3. As soon as he leaves, wrap up the cookies in individual gift bags and place them in your neighbors' mailboxes with a beautiful hand-written "Merry Christmas from Elle!" message (if you hate your neighbors that is).


Alternative suggestion. You might not want to do it, but it always works for me.

Get the platter and say with deep emotions, "What the hell is this? Cookies? What are you - some kind of sadistic mf? You damn well know we are on a diet and we only eat healthy foods? What, you maxed out your credit card and instead of buying us grass-fed beef you are poisoning us with gluten? You sob!"

Then you take the cookies and smear them in his face. Then take the platter and hit him a couple of times on the head.

Believe me, he will never give you cookies again, as long as he lives (and he might have a shorter lifespan after being hit with that beautiful platter).

In fact, he might not even give you any gifts again. In my experience, people tend to give less after things like that and actually try to avoid you.

But don't let it scare you. It is good for the environment and, in a long run, for your health.

Happy holidays!!! :)

B3173217a49b5b0116078775a17eb21d

(11488)

on December 05, 2012
at 12:46 PM

Option B.......

61844af1187e745e09bb394cbd28cf23

(11058)

on December 05, 2012
at 04:36 PM

As a non-people person, I vote for the alternative suggestion. Thanks for the morning giggle.

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3ce6a0d24be025e2f2af534545bdd1d7

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on December 05, 2012
at 12:36 PM

Just accept them. Then when you have a holiday party to go to, bring the cookies.

It's like they say in Cool Hand Luke, "Some men you just can't reach."

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956bcad1d462d433a4e1e22f6e3355d5

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on December 05, 2012
at 12:53 PM

Just tell him you're sensitive to wheat/sugar and that it really negatively affects your health. Until last year I got those treats too but I'm not going to harm myself by eating it or another by giving it away just because telling the truth would be seen as rude.

I definitely prefer the bitter truth above sweet lies and most people actually like that. They know I'm a no nonsense guy and they really respect (and even praise) that.

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Ebb10603524dd22621c1155dd7ddf106

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on December 05, 2012
at 04:07 PM

Step 1: Be polite, and refuse.

Step 2: If Step 1 doesn't end the attempt to gift unwanted food items, then the giver has violated any rules concerning politeness - so throw it on the ground.

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7a6529ea25b655132fe58d793f95547a

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on December 05, 2012
at 08:34 PM

Ha! https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gAYL5H46QnQ

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68294383ced9a0eafc16133aa80d1905

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on December 05, 2012
at 12:54 PM

It will pass. This happened to me when I first got into Paleo. It's been 2 years of holidays, birthdays, etc...people have learned. After a while...

F92e4ca55291c3f3096a3d4d3d854986

(11698)

on December 05, 2012
at 01:01 PM

My mom still doesn't get it. She lives across the country, was making homemade granola the other day and asked if she could mail me some. One day, one day...

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97d98cdf2f18fa2c0bd8567ea1159609

on December 06, 2012
at 12:50 AM

I would politely and graciously accept the gift, then afterwards donate the food to a homeless shelter; OR if it was a gift given to me at work, I would place it in our floors kitchen for the entire floor to share.

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Cc3ce03985eac5ebcbb95fc2329f13b0

on December 05, 2012
at 11:17 PM

Be gracious, say thank you and mean it. It's a gift! It's very easy to give away cookies, take them to a party, drop them off at a community centre, give them to a homeless person. Lots of things.

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7e36094a0f7a2fbad24290225405220b

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on December 05, 2012
at 07:03 PM

Be happy that he wants to give you gifts. Say 'Thank you' and mean it, then give them away when he's gone.

BTW if it is a beautiful platter only give away the cookies - keep the platter.

Next time he comes over serve something paleo on the platter. Tell him you love the platter and that this (Whatever it is) is one of your favourite dishes. Maybe he will ask for the recipe!

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78cb3c4f70de5db2adb52b6b9671894b

on December 05, 2012
at 04:41 PM

To be honest, I'd re-gift, haha. Or bring it to an office potluck. I'm budget conscious these days I figure I'd make two parties happy by re-gifting...

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627cf3f5d1ddfb4c2f4c96169420f55f

on December 05, 2012
at 01:19 PM

I told my mother last year not to get me any gifts. I'm a minimalist and so I prefer experiences. She refused. Did I find use in any of the gifts? One - it's something I have used nearly daily all year.

This time around I am telling her the same thing. I think she kind of get's it. She refuses to literally get me nothing to open but I do think I'll only see a few stocking stuffers. The "big gift" will be her giving me a small amount of money to help pay for the WISE Traditions class that I am taking right now.

I have 3 siblings and we are continuing our tradition of doing no gift giving. We started this last year. We don't do gifts amongst us kids and our grandparents too. We started this last year.

For our relatives, we just do white elephant.

This makes it easy, saves money, manages stress, helps the economy, and allows us to do what's truly important: spend time with each other.

Now us kids have a little extra money to take our parents out for Dinner for the 4th straight year. Before we started this they would take us out.

I hope this sheds at a least a little insight on what I think is a very Primal instinctive way to approaching gift giving...

Do you really want stuff you don't use or an experience?

61844af1187e745e09bb394cbd28cf23

(11058)

on December 05, 2012
at 01:43 PM

"Do you really want stuff you don't use or an experience?" You can always just be gracious, say "Thank you," and donate whatever you receive that you won't use.

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3254b9dcf8b2a00f3a76c9549c62bffa

on December 05, 2012
at 05:24 PM

By a Paleo Recipes cookbook - seriously. Show him that you're on a strict diet for health reasons (which is true).

This will politely show him "why" you have to be particular about what you eat. When he "sees" what you're doing a little better, he'll understand more.

http://www.RockefellerReviews.com/paleo-cookbooks/

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