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Why do I get frustrated for no reason?

Answered on August 19, 2014
Created April 30, 2012 at 3:40 PM

I have this issue and was wondering if other people experience this. I have had it for many years and I don't like it. What happens is I get extremely irritated and frustrated, and there is no discernible reason for it. I start getting muscles tightened up, angry thoughts, teeth grinding, unable to focus, all I can think about is how irritated I am. I tell my boyfriend and he always asks what is wrong, but I can NEVER FIND ANY REASON FOR BEING SO irritable. If you do experience this, what do you do to stop yourself lashing out at anyone who talks to you, and how do you calm down? I try to go on a website that makes me laugh or go talk to someone who likes to chat about trivial things until the feeling passes. What is this stupidity I experience?

65bf1ca7071028018c6d8305d0ddcd76

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on April 30, 2012
at 08:30 PM

amplify, great answer. Welcome the feeling instead of fighting it, and remain an observer. Let it wash over you an pass... you may have more clarity into what has caused the anger/irritability.

81fca18329e68e227cdfef3857bfef96

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on April 30, 2012
at 07:02 PM

Just from my own experience, I would not take anti-depressants. They are prescribed by doctors who do not have a background in psychological treatment. Depression occurs for a reason. Anti-depressants are like taking an aspirin for a headache caused by someone continually hitting you on the head with a hammer without addressing getting hit on the head with a hammer! If you have not already and are wanting to, I would find a therapist (and you have to find one you connect with) that wants to treat the underlying issues.

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on April 30, 2012
at 06:47 PM

Then you need to find the *right* kind of doctor. I see a therapist for depression and she has a very holistic approach to treating illnesses. For example, instead of SSRIs, I take St. John's Wort. I believe medication should be the last resort which is why I said Joy should be *mentally assessed.* There may be some imbalances in her brain that are causing these problems.

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on April 30, 2012
at 06:40 PM

@amplify, this sounds interesting. I had honestly never considered it from that point of view. Thanks for the suggestion of the book - I will definitely look into it.

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on April 30, 2012
at 06:38 PM

@Bruno, I'm with you. A doctor will just prescribe unnecessary medication. The point of this site is to reach out and see if anyone has experiences that can relate. "See a doctor" doesn't have to be the only solution.

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on April 30, 2012
at 05:55 PM

I could give you a list of symptoms I had for years. I had acid reflux, constipation, skin issues, allergies, a double chin without being fat, blurry vision, constantly chapped lips, was pale, very slow wound healing, gas, ... . I'm not saying she shouldn't go to the doctor, I just doubt a doctor will do her much good. My experience with doctors is very bad though : they all told me "take an antihistamine and it will be solved". The one time they took it seriously and gave me antibiotics, I ended up so sick I had to do it myself through nutrition and found paleo.

685e3c967e63b4eacccf02628fd9a3ac

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on April 30, 2012
at 05:53 PM

You probably think you're sensitive to caffeine, but I'd like to see you try coffee with added cream, milk and/or sugar.

15e5f57b981183b21fff26ce815bf93f

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on April 30, 2012
at 05:52 PM

It's not an either/or situation, obviously pursue organic causes.

Ebb10603524dd22621c1155dd7ddf106

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on April 30, 2012
at 05:37 PM

re: "happy" tea - the placebo effect is nature's nearly most potent medicine!

D1728f99db66ff91d695a6df5cd38b02

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on April 30, 2012
at 05:32 PM

Its not that serious, sides, they would just put me on anti-depressants. I know cos I did all that.

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on April 30, 2012
at 05:10 PM

@Bruno Joy has had these problems for "many years." This is not normal. She needs to see a therapist. Why sit down and twiddle your thumbs waiting for strangers to tell you what's wrong with you? She needs to be mentally assessed.

D1728f99db66ff91d695a6df5cd38b02

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on April 30, 2012
at 04:56 PM

Yea, happens at work mostly, but I don't think it is low sugar, if i feel irritable I make sure I have eaten or else I blame it on low sugar and eating makes the mood go away. If I eat and the mood remains, it is not that. Yea on anti-depressants and if i forget to take them I get like this...

685e3c967e63b4eacccf02628fd9a3ac

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on April 30, 2012
at 04:55 PM

@April some things are just difficult to explain to a doctor. This is why I couldn't go to the doctor last year : my symptoms were just ... too weird.

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on April 30, 2012
at 04:48 PM

My wife does this. A lot.

D1728f99db66ff91d695a6df5cd38b02

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on April 30, 2012
at 04:36 PM

"Its like telling fat people to eat less and exercise". LOLOLOL I love that comment. So many people think that that is what overweight people don't know... how silly.. of course they know.

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on April 30, 2012
at 04:36 PM

This is something that you should seek professional medical help for.

D1728f99db66ff91d695a6df5cd38b02

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on April 30, 2012
at 04:28 PM

OK will do.Don't you think that something has to be causing it though? (I know that is the opposite of mindfulness, but I wonder).

15e5f57b981183b21fff26ce815bf93f

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on April 30, 2012
at 04:24 PM

You are assuming that the emotion has a rational foundation and that your attention can ferret out the cause and thereby get rid of it. This is a type of grasping. Try letting the emotion exist but watch it calmly from outside rather than being wrapped up in it. Keep watching it come, watching it go. Remain dispassionate about it.

D1728f99db66ff91d695a6df5cd38b02

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on April 30, 2012
at 04:19 PM

I try to be mindful, but I get stuck on the thought that I can't identify what is causing the emotion.

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on April 30, 2012
at 03:47 PM

Same thing happens to me. Sometimes I'll go a few weeks without it happening then something small triggers it again. For me it can last several days. My poor husband gets to deal with me and I'd really like to know how to fix it! +1 for pure understanding and relatability.

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Cfc7dee889a66db9cd76c4f348109294

on April 30, 2012
at 04:07 PM

Occasionally, I've experienced something similar where I feel a wave of sadness for no reason-- its potentially hormonal. This is an anecdotal answer, but what tends to work is for me to recognize this feeling, don't try to attach a reason to it arbitrarily, and let it pass. It takes as little as a few minutes or as long as a few hours. The more I think about it, the longer the feeling stays. A few other things that have worked for me:

-going for a walk/going outside
-some yoga
-sprints/hill sprints - i get a little euphoria kick
-drinking a hot beverage (i've probably tried some sort of voodoo
tea called "happy" or something, and this could have an effect real or
imagined/placebo)
-a little caffeine (i'm very sensitive to it, so a little seems to be a mood
lifter, but probs not for
everyone)

-my goofy boyfriend also tries to make me laugh, which seems
to help ;-)

685e3c967e63b4eacccf02628fd9a3ac

(1026)

on April 30, 2012
at 05:53 PM

You probably think you're sensitive to caffeine, but I'd like to see you try coffee with added cream, milk and/or sugar.

Ebb10603524dd22621c1155dd7ddf106

(19150)

on April 30, 2012
at 05:37 PM

re: "happy" tea - the placebo effect is nature's nearly most potent medicine!

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685e3c967e63b4eacccf02628fd9a3ac

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on April 30, 2012
at 04:58 PM

Probably hypoglycemia, Joy. Blood sugar issues are usually complex, but potassium plays a big role. I hate to bring Ray Peat into this, but his diet regulates my blood sugar like no diet has ever done before. You should see the constant smile on my face, my mother said I constantly am happy.

The common misconception is that sugar causes insulin resistance.

What made the biggest difference for me, is never eating protein (especially eggs and chocolate) without sugar (from well-ripened fruit). That has also removed my atopic dermatitis-attacks.

High doses of vitamin D3 also help tremendously with all this.

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F5f742cc9228eb5804114d0f3be4e587

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on April 30, 2012
at 04:30 PM

As someone who has practiced mindfulness for many years, I have to say that sometimes there are organic reasons for these sorts of episodes.

Right now, I suspect adrenal fatigue for myself and have started prioritizing sleep, taking Natural Calm magnesium before bed, reducing caffeine intake, and napping in the afternoon when I feel like I'm going to die if I don't. It's definitely helping.

It could also be other hormones at play.

So the mindfulness stuff is a great suggestion, but it isn't always helpful. It's like telling fat people to eat less and exercise.

D1728f99db66ff91d695a6df5cd38b02

(1368)

on April 30, 2012
at 04:36 PM

"Its like telling fat people to eat less and exercise". LOLOLOL I love that comment. So many people think that that is what overweight people don't know... how silly.. of course they know.

15e5f57b981183b21fff26ce815bf93f

(444)

on April 30, 2012
at 05:52 PM

It's not an either/or situation, obviously pursue organic causes.

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81b5d7e4c96ed2a703c3a2ef07c7d294

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on April 30, 2012
at 10:01 PM

+1. I had the exact same experience, although once I started eating paleo my moods have evened out significantly, and I don't have the crazy stressful frustration/anxiety attacks nearly as often. Are you getting enough sleep and eating enough? Sleep deprivation (or being kept up late at night) or not eating enough protein are both major triggers for my mood to fall apart. Too much stress does it too. Writing or playing with my dog have both always been strategies for releasing the tension. Going outside and engaging in something physical or using touch (sitting in the grass, throwing a ball for my dog, etc) also helps a ton...moving your focus from internal (mind, frustration, etc), to outside (what you are doing or touching or hearing or seeing) basically.

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C116f7e54620c6003b67cd4450a298cd

on April 30, 2012
at 09:31 PM

I sorta had the same issue, and ditching wheat was probably A #1 for me. I'd say my moods have definitely evened out over the past year since going paleo.

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15e5f57b981183b21fff26ce815bf93f

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on April 30, 2012
at 04:14 PM

Your mind is running away with you.

This is a job for Mindfulness practice. I highly recommend Mindfulness in Plain English by Bhante Gunaratana as a good starter manual.

D1728f99db66ff91d695a6df5cd38b02

(1368)

on April 30, 2012
at 04:19 PM

I try to be mindful, but I get stuck on the thought that I can't identify what is causing the emotion.

Ebcbbdcb8b727e69e06eaa102d49a84c

(1804)

on April 30, 2012
at 06:40 PM

@amplify, this sounds interesting. I had honestly never considered it from that point of view. Thanks for the suggestion of the book - I will definitely look into it.

D1728f99db66ff91d695a6df5cd38b02

(1368)

on April 30, 2012
at 04:28 PM

OK will do.Don't you think that something has to be causing it though? (I know that is the opposite of mindfulness, but I wonder).

15e5f57b981183b21fff26ce815bf93f

(444)

on April 30, 2012
at 04:24 PM

You are assuming that the emotion has a rational foundation and that your attention can ferret out the cause and thereby get rid of it. This is a type of grasping. Try letting the emotion exist but watch it calmly from outside rather than being wrapped up in it. Keep watching it come, watching it go. Remain dispassionate about it.

65bf1ca7071028018c6d8305d0ddcd76

(3049)

on April 30, 2012
at 08:30 PM

amplify, great answer. Welcome the feeling instead of fighting it, and remain an observer. Let it wash over you an pass... you may have more clarity into what has caused the anger/irritability.

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81fca18329e68e227cdfef3857bfef96

(1320)

on April 30, 2012
at 04:36 PM

My girlfriend has this issue as well. It is 99% due to Roxicodone use and 1% I can be thoughtless at times. I can predict her moods based on her Xanex/Roxi schedule. This is prescribed drug use. She was a heroin addict in her late teens. They weened her off heroin using oxycodone and are now tapering her off opiate addiction using Xanex/Roxi.

To be clear, I am not accusing you of being a drug addict. My point is too illustrate moods can change for a number of reasons...low blood sugar being one. I know my coworkers can always tell when the lunch hour is by my mood. I get more abrupt and my patience shorter when I have not eaten in a few hours. Does your frustration happen around the same time everyday/every week?

D1728f99db66ff91d695a6df5cd38b02

(1368)

on April 30, 2012
at 04:56 PM

Yea, happens at work mostly, but I don't think it is low sugar, if i feel irritable I make sure I have eaten or else I blame it on low sugar and eating makes the mood go away. If I eat and the mood remains, it is not that. Yea on anti-depressants and if i forget to take them I get like this...

81fca18329e68e227cdfef3857bfef96

(1320)

on April 30, 2012
at 07:02 PM

Just from my own experience, I would not take anti-depressants. They are prescribed by doctors who do not have a background in psychological treatment. Depression occurs for a reason. Anti-depressants are like taking an aspirin for a headache caused by someone continually hitting you on the head with a hammer without addressing getting hit on the head with a hammer! If you have not already and are wanting to, I would find a therapist (and you have to find one you connect with) that wants to treat the underlying issues.

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