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I'm finding it hard to defend fat! HELP!

Answered on August 19, 2014
Created March 16, 2012 at 6:15 PM

So I'm on day 5 of the leptin reset... been experimenting with increasing fat, and decreasing protein (when I see decrease, I mean decreasing from a 89g protein breakfast :)).

However, my close family and friends aren't happy with my fat intake, especially my family... its because I am post gastric bypass and they are afraid that I might turn back into the evil BIG self that I was before.

When they say fat is bad for you... how can I defend it? They say, i should reduce my fat intake and eat bran and wholemeal.

HELP!

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on March 17, 2012
at 11:28 AM

You're welcome!

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on March 16, 2012
at 08:43 PM

:-) Just pep talking - I know how family can try to be diet police from personal experience (not me in particular, but with diabetic grandparents, cousins on a weight loss journey). It can be trying!

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on March 16, 2012
at 08:10 PM

Thanks for the reply... family is important as I mentioned earlier, but I will do what I have to do to make this work :)

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on March 16, 2012
at 08:09 PM

Great articles... thanks a million!

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on March 16, 2012
at 08:09 PM

Agree with you 100% I have a blog where I post all my meals, and how I feel through out the day, as well as biomarkers, people can see my blood results, my body fat percentage and so forth... that way after the 8 weeks I can show them the difference http://paleoarabia.wordpress.com

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on March 16, 2012
at 08:07 PM

Don't get me wrong, I know that my family are looking out for me, and at the end of the day, what I do is what I do, and thats that. When they say that fat is bad for me, they expect a comeback response, it is that response that I am lacking.

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on March 16, 2012
at 07:44 PM

Ahh, well then give rates of "relapse" and it being a couple years later - I am sure they are just worried for you and coming from a place of love. I don't have a good answer besides to stick to your guns and do what you know is best for yourself. Ultimately, your family has zero say in how you eat, love and worry or not! Great resources posted below. Arm yourself with research, make your points succinctly. (There is a terrible place in me that says if your family is relatively nutritionally clueless, just say they're new guidelines on long-term post-bypass diets.)

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on March 16, 2012
at 06:56 PM

I'm 30 months post

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on March 16, 2012
at 06:51 PM

That's why I'm glad I'm a student. I just say "I eat a lot of fat" and they're all like "yeah, that's the spirit" :).

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at 06:34 PM

How long post-bypass are you?

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on March 16, 2012
at 07:36 PM

There's No better way to defend it than by results. If you had a gastric bypass you were obviously quite unhealthy so they do have every reason to fear for you. They love you it's what they do. But once you start showing results they'll trust you. Also if you're anything like me you've probably started and stopped lots of "diets" in the past. And for only being on this for 5 days you still have a while to go to prove both them and yourself that this is healthiest for you.

Until then give then a pale book to read for themselves or just say the fat is OK since there are No carbs and that the fat actually helps curb your cravings so in the long run it's better. It's like anything a person believes in you have to show it with your everyday living not with your words.

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on March 16, 2012
at 08:09 PM

Agree with you 100% I have a blog where I post all my meals, and how I feel through out the day, as well as biomarkers, people can see my blood results, my body fat percentage and so forth... that way after the 8 weeks I can show them the difference http://paleoarabia.wordpress.com

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on March 16, 2012
at 06:46 PM

Is your diet strategy about you, or about them? At some point you'll have to lead by example or go along with something you don't believe in AND that you realize could compromise your health.

I love my family but they can't make my decisions for me any more than I can expect them to comply with mine "just because." I just did what felt right and as I became obviously lighter and healthier they became very content with my program and started asking questions.

Now my family is very proud of me and my teen-aged grandson lectures his friends about how healthy meat is--I've advised him to back off, by the way.

From your family's side of things, they're just worried because they love you. If you think they'll be receptive, have them listen to Chris Kresser's/Chris Masterjohn's cholesterol series or print the Archetype principles page and/or the J Stanton page so they have a clear idea of what/why you're doing this.

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on March 16, 2012
at 08:10 PM

Thanks for the reply... family is important as I mentioned earlier, but I will do what I have to do to make this work :)

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on March 16, 2012
at 06:53 PM

I'm pretty sure that low carb/high protein is the recommendation for post-bypass, but I'm not sure where fat falls in that. (And I am not a doctor, nor do I play one on TV, insert all standard disclaimers here!) So while your family's fears certainly sound overblown, I can't know for sure.

If you don't have literature from your doctor that helps explain all this to them, you might check out a blog called "The World According to Eggface." She's not paleo, but she's a low carber who has undergone gastric bypass. Her material will at least be sympathetic to your plight.

If she doesn't have links to appropriate info, you might check out some of the Twitter lists she follows: https://twitter.com/#!/Eggface/lists . They might lead you to what you need.

I hope this helps!

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on March 16, 2012
at 08:09 PM

Great articles... thanks a million!

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on March 17, 2012
at 11:28 AM

You're welcome!

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