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Answered on August 19, 2014
Created July 10, 2012 at 4:29 PM

I know I'm going to sound insane with an eating disorder ( never that that issue, btw ) but it seems like when I make progress, I swear it's getting worse ( much like anorexic people will say they look. ) I don't try to feel this way, I have a realistic goal and I do my best to be positive, but when people say I'm looking skinny, I get upset, because all I can see is what needs to be improved.

4ef079c57d2140bba4dbf4e30240a645

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on July 10, 2012
at 08:18 PM

June1985-its not one or the other! Take the compliment. YOu have lost & look good but you want to lose more fat. All Black or All White gets us nowhere. I learned SO MUCH in the For Family and Friends DBT Skills I took. I had a family member in DBT who I wanted to support and took the course offered at UW and learned all the DBT skills. GREAT STUFF. Everyone needs these skills. Very applicable to ED, BDD & Anxiety.Anyway, point is that both things, opposites (dialects) do and can exist. And I know what you mean. I dont have BDD or an ED & I look great in clothes but I also need to lose fat

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on July 10, 2012
at 08:07 PM

LOL thats awesome! I did take a BF test, actually Im waiting another month to do a follow up one to see my results

C192b4897c35682c4e97982e73b25b6b

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on July 10, 2012
at 08:06 PM

Like foreveryoung said, it really is sad, because though I appreciate their efforts to compliment, the fact is that theyre not being realistic. All they can tell is that I have lost weight, but body fat doesnt mean anything to them. Just because I look thinner doesnt mean I am in shape - still very much not in shape, lol ... so it kind of stings when they say it, because I'd like to smile but really I feel worse. Is that bad?

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on July 10, 2012
at 06:43 PM

It is referring to the automatic negative thought loops we can get trapped in, our thoughts can lie to us much more than we'd expect.

4ef079c57d2140bba4dbf4e30240a645

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on July 10, 2012
at 06:40 PM

I learned it in Therapy :) I want the bumper sticker!! Foreveryoung- you haven't heard it before is what you mean right? I know you can "figure out" what it means smarty pants.

1edb06ded9ccf098a4517ca4a7a34ebc

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on July 10, 2012
at 05:38 PM

I will announce my stupidity by saying I have no idea what that quip means.

1edb06ded9ccf098a4517ca4a7a34ebc

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on July 10, 2012
at 05:28 PM

it's fairly easy to look at someone and if you can rule out certain disorders, telling whether they are unnaturally thin or naturally thin. Unnaturally thin is "too thin," for the individual at hand.

1edb06ded9ccf098a4517ca4a7a34ebc

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on July 10, 2012
at 05:27 PM

Most people who tell someone they look "too thin" have a valid point. Too thin connotes unhealthy. The world generally recognizes the differences between healthy thin and unhealthy/unnatural thin.

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on July 10, 2012
at 05:26 PM

My favorite bumper sticker was, "Oh, no...not another learning experience!"

A3a4696c919e916ec971691559e9c942

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on July 10, 2012
at 05:22 PM

Ha! the funny part is the first time I saw it it was on a bumper sticker and I thought "OMG, that may be the first bumper sticker that says something useful, that and 'eat more kale' "

4ef079c57d2140bba4dbf4e30240a645

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on July 10, 2012
at 05:18 PM

Juju!!!!!!! that is one of my absolute favorite quotes. Seriously :D I say it all the time. I have it on my Facebook profile and actually want to have a bumper sticker made. Its so flipping true!

1edb06ded9ccf098a4517ca4a7a34ebc

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on July 10, 2012
at 05:11 PM

Well, are you too thin? What's your age, gender, height, weight, and approximate body fat percentage?

1edb06ded9ccf098a4517ca4a7a34ebc

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on July 10, 2012
at 05:06 PM

Right, but third parties are telling him/her that he/she looks "too thin." It might be the case the rest of the world knows what looks healthy and what does not.

Fd70d71f4f8195c3a098eda4fc817d4f

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on July 10, 2012
at 04:57 PM

Sometimes I get hung up on how far I feel like I still have to go, but it helps--when you can--to focus on how far you've ALREADY COME. Be proud of yourself for the improvements you've already achieved.

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on July 10, 2012
at 04:35 PM

forget what people are saying and what you think you are seeing - all it matters in the long run is how healthy you are and feeling.

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A3a4696c919e916ec971691559e9c942

(2043)

on July 10, 2012
at 04:50 PM

When I start to have negative thoughts I remind myself "don't believe everything you think".

1edb06ded9ccf098a4517ca4a7a34ebc

(14952)

on July 10, 2012
at 05:38 PM

I will announce my stupidity by saying I have no idea what that quip means.

4ef079c57d2140bba4dbf4e30240a645

(4413)

on July 10, 2012
at 06:40 PM

I learned it in Therapy :) I want the bumper sticker!! Foreveryoung- you haven't heard it before is what you mean right? I know you can "figure out" what it means smarty pants.

4ef079c57d2140bba4dbf4e30240a645

(4413)

on July 10, 2012
at 08:18 PM

June1985-its not one or the other! Take the compliment. YOu have lost & look good but you want to lose more fat. All Black or All White gets us nowhere. I learned SO MUCH in the For Family and Friends DBT Skills I took. I had a family member in DBT who I wanted to support and took the course offered at UW and learned all the DBT skills. GREAT STUFF. Everyone needs these skills. Very applicable to ED, BDD & Anxiety.Anyway, point is that both things, opposites (dialects) do and can exist. And I know what you mean. I dont have BDD or an ED & I look great in clothes but I also need to lose fat

4ef079c57d2140bba4dbf4e30240a645

(4413)

on July 10, 2012
at 05:18 PM

Juju!!!!!!! that is one of my absolute favorite quotes. Seriously :D I say it all the time. I have it on my Facebook profile and actually want to have a bumper sticker made. Its so flipping true!

1edb06ded9ccf098a4517ca4a7a34ebc

(14952)

on July 10, 2012
at 05:06 PM

Right, but third parties are telling him/her that he/she looks "too thin." It might be the case the rest of the world knows what looks healthy and what does not.

Fd70d71f4f8195c3a098eda4fc817d4f

(8014)

on July 10, 2012
at 05:26 PM

My favorite bumper sticker was, "Oh, no...not another learning experience!"

A3a4696c919e916ec971691559e9c942

(2043)

on July 10, 2012
at 05:22 PM

Ha! the funny part is the first time I saw it it was on a bumper sticker and I thought "OMG, that may be the first bumper sticker that says something useful, that and 'eat more kale' "

6120c989fd5b69f42a0834b69b87955b

(24553)

on July 10, 2012
at 06:43 PM

It is referring to the automatic negative thought loops we can get trapped in, our thoughts can lie to us much more than we'd expect.

C192b4897c35682c4e97982e73b25b6b

(208)

on July 10, 2012
at 08:06 PM

Like foreveryoung said, it really is sad, because though I appreciate their efforts to compliment, the fact is that theyre not being realistic. All they can tell is that I have lost weight, but body fat doesnt mean anything to them. Just because I look thinner doesnt mean I am in shape - still very much not in shape, lol ... so it kind of stings when they say it, because I'd like to smile but really I feel worse. Is that bad?

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4ef079c57d2140bba4dbf4e30240a645

on July 10, 2012
at 05:16 PM

Im unclear what your Question is but it sounds like you may have Body Dysmorphic Disorder.
You might want to read about it.

Like everything, there is a spectrum of severity. Many people have this problem so don't feel bad or alone. It goes along with eating disorders and anxiety disorder.

Take care.

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Fd7b128cf714044a86d8bd822c7a8992

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on July 10, 2012
at 05:10 PM

Is there an objective measurement you can focus on? Like BF% or something? Or improvement with any kind of health problems that Paleo is helping with?

Positive self-talk can also help. I like to pretend I'm writing a Cracked article about myself and what a badass I am.

C192b4897c35682c4e97982e73b25b6b

(208)

on July 10, 2012
at 08:07 PM

LOL thats awesome! I did take a BF test, actually Im waiting another month to do a follow up one to see my results

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1bbcd2122d9c75b07440f22ef57d6448

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on July 10, 2012
at 05:35 PM

I most likely have some level of body dysmorphic disorder as well, and I've felt everything you're saying. I've been making progress, but when I look in the mirror, I'm still not 100% satisfied. It's difficult to overcome, but I've made progress by focusing more on my training goals and improvement than my appearance.

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1edb06ded9ccf098a4517ca4a7a34ebc

on July 10, 2012
at 05:01 PM

It would help if you provided your height, weight, and body fat percentage (roughly). But since you can't do that, it sounds like body dimorphism. Or, you could be losing a lot of muscle mass and looking skinny-fat, so to yourself you see fat but with your clothes on people just see someone who looks to thin.

I have body dismophism and it either existed before I developed an eating disorder, it got very severe with the onset of one. I still have this to some extent, despite recovery to a healthy BMI. Now it's more of like perfectionism and dissatisfaction and as opposed to outright distorted, if that makes sense. Do

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on July 10, 2012
at 04:58 PM

It might sound weird but try High intensity interval training once or twice a week, this type of exercise, among others, raises your endorphin levels, creating a positive change in mood, energy and the way you see yourself.

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on July 10, 2012
at 05:18 PM

Most people are too fat and believe that they're "average weight." This leads many to believe that truly average weight lean people are underweight. Not so.

1edb06ded9ccf098a4517ca4a7a34ebc

(14952)

on July 10, 2012
at 05:27 PM

Most people who tell someone they look "too thin" have a valid point. Too thin connotes unhealthy. The world generally recognizes the differences between healthy thin and unhealthy/unnatural thin.

1edb06ded9ccf098a4517ca4a7a34ebc

(14952)

on July 10, 2012
at 05:28 PM

it's fairly easy to look at someone and if you can rule out certain disorders, telling whether they are unnaturally thin or naturally thin. Unnaturally thin is "too thin," for the individual at hand.

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