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Lost all confidence in my own diet self control... help?

Answered on August 19, 2014
Created July 29, 2011 at 3:47 AM

I have been trying to diet for almost two years now. I am a college student and would love to lose around 20 pounds at least. This is basically what has been happening for around two years: I get excited and start my diet... 7 days later I crash and binge and stay depressed for around 3-4 days. I start the diet once again and it goes on and on.

I have lost all self control. I live at home and my parents have horrible food (oreos, icecream, shit) all over the house. I would love to move out so I don't have to be around the bad foods. What am I supposed to do :(. I get really lonely sometimes and eat because I get depressed. That may have a lot to do with it too. My social life is not where I want it to be at the moment and I tend to eat away my emotions.

If only I had my own place and friends.. maybe then I could get to my weight goal and stay healthy.

Any advice?

Thank you

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on July 29, 2011
at 09:23 AM

+1 for thoughtful answer. It's gonna get better you just have to hang in there and set your sights on the long term benefits and forgive yourself unconditionally for any short term slip ups, guilt will only get in the way and you are at least 10 years ahead of where I was nutritionally. Are you on summer break right now, and stuck at home with your parents? Are there any summer electives you could take to get out of the house and give yourself something fun to look forward too. I met my favorite pals at school (one of whom turned into my husband) taking electives outside of my major.

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on July 29, 2011
at 08:46 AM

Plus one for a carb-free breakfast with sufficient protein and fat. I've found that this has been the single most effective way to curb food cravings for the rest of the day.

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at 04:47 AM

I'm curious to know what your daily intake of food is like on a weight loss diet. Are you restricting your calorie or fat intake? In my household I'm the only paleo eater, and if I don't don't fortify myself with a big breakfast of a good sized hunk of meat and a fair amount of butter or coconut oil I will eat all of my family's snack food. I have no will power if I let myself get undernourished.

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at 04:35 AM

Is there a reason you can't move out, or at least start planning to do it at some point? Do you have a job?

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Plus one just because your user name is Ron Paul.

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B1fcaceba952861d0324bdb291edbbe0

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on July 29, 2011
at 09:01 AM

Whether you live alone or with your family, there will always be temptation. I think the underlying issue is why you are so tempted. Is it physiological hunger? psychological hunger? or more emotional hunger?

Perhaps, when you start your 'diets' you do like many well-meaning individuals do and 'go all in'. You give up everything (or at least, a great deal). You make drastic changes to your diet. You make grand goals. etc. How about setting smaller goals that will help you to achieve your larger ones long-term? If you are wanting to go Paleo, which I presume you're not 100 percent due to the eating issues you've mentioned, how about eliminating one thing at a time? Maybe just starting to eat less bread or incorporating more healthy fat and protein.

When you cut out too much too fast, you feel deprived and your mind shouts 'rebel! rebel!' This ends up in binging and going off your healthy lifestyle. Heck, don't even say 'no bread' or 'no candy' or 'no fill-in-the-blank', just aim for healthier options - when you put that 'no' stamp on things the common psychological response is to feel some sort of deprivation and consequently, a craving for it.

Emotional Hunger

I get really lonely sometimes and eat because I get depressed. That may have a lot to do with it too. My social life is not where I want it to be at the moment and I tend to eat away my emotions.

Alright, this answers one of the questions I posed above. I am sorry you are feeling lonely and depressed, but it is good that you recognize this. Recognizing it is half the battle so to speak. First off, know that turning to food does not fill the void. It does not make you less lonely or depressed, it is only a temporary fix that has negative affects.

Why are you lonely and depressed? Is it college life? The social life issue? This may sound like well worn advice but: do you have any hobbies? clubs or organizations to join? classes to take that you might enjoy and meet people? meetup.com might be a good place for you to peruse. Have you thought of volunteering somewhere (perhaps even something future-career related to give you a shoe in the door)? How about just going to the library, museum, or a coffee shop? In these places you're surrounded by people, while it's not necessarily interaction you can ease into that and just feel others' presences and know that you are not alone. Because, frankly, you aren't. Know that wherever you are, people care about you and don't want you to feel lonely and depressed.

Natural Aides

Just some thoughts:

  • 5-HTP is a serotonin precursor that is sometimes used to decrease cravings for carbohydrates and elevate mood, it might be of some use to you, but I recommend researching dosage and use beforehand - if you're interested, I did a post on it a while back
  • St. John's Wort is natural remedy for depression, you can find it in tea form or capsule form
  • Adequate Vitamin D affects mood (in addition to other things) so supplementing and spending sometime in the sun will definitely give you a boost
  • Meditating, prayer, journaling, etc. are means of listening to your heart, or soul, or mind, or thought (however you view it really) and discovering what you really want, what you really need, perhaps this might help as well.

I hope it all gets better for you.

6120c989fd5b69f42a0834b69b87955b

(24553)

on July 29, 2011
at 09:23 AM

+1 for thoughtful answer. It's gonna get better you just have to hang in there and set your sights on the long term benefits and forgive yourself unconditionally for any short term slip ups, guilt will only get in the way and you are at least 10 years ahead of where I was nutritionally. Are you on summer break right now, and stuck at home with your parents? Are there any summer electives you could take to get out of the house and give yourself something fun to look forward too. I met my favorite pals at school (one of whom turned into my husband) taking electives outside of my major.

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on July 29, 2011
at 07:20 AM

Wake up and eat a big breakfast. Eggs, butter, bacon. No carbs at all for breakfast. go to bed by 9:30 PM. Eat protein and some veggies and some fat at each meal and it will help.

Make some positive change and never give back that one thing. Start with eleminating all vegetable oils and margarine for example.

27e79ef3308bb5f2d7bd04ee7eea7b79

(2038)

on July 29, 2011
at 08:46 AM

Plus one for a carb-free breakfast with sufficient protein and fat. I've found that this has been the single most effective way to curb food cravings for the rest of the day.

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on July 29, 2011
at 04:33 AM

Do you have the ability to get your own food in your own cupboard? I've found that by not buying the things that I no longer eat, I don't eat them. My roommates aren't Paleo, but we have split cabinets so I hardly see a thing. They eat bread, cookies, etc but I'm not tempted because its "off limits" because it's not mine.

You might want to look into a mini fridge and a tiny room box/cabinet if possible. Don't beat yourself up too much about the binges. If you continue on it, they'll stop being as bad. My old binge used to be half a pizza. It's now one cupcake. It gets easier the more you repeat your own mantra of health c:

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on July 29, 2011
at 10:29 AM

Don't diet. Diets don't work.* Instead adopt a different WEO (Way of Eating). You're in the right place to learn about a way that will help you.

*To understand why, and to empower yourself with knowledge of why weight problems aren't your fault and what to do, read "Why We Get Fat" by Gary Taubes. If you want the advanced version, read his "Good Calories, Bad Calories: Fats, Carbs, and the Controversial Science of Diet and Health"

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B14dc4aa1ddefbec3bc09550428ee493

on July 29, 2011
at 04:31 AM

Think about what you can do to comfort yourself that doesn't involve foods. You are going to have to find substitutes that don't involve food in order to have long-term success. For example, if you are upset about something maybe go out for a walk instead of grabbing the twinkies? Find what works for you. Make it a goal to do something good and nurturing for yourself when those feelings strike instead of harming yourself with foods.

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on July 29, 2011
at 12:46 PM

I have a similar problem in that I live with someone who is not paleo and keeps plenty of neolithic no-nos around. Temptation can be a real killer. If you have the space and the means can you buy your own fridge and stake out a place to keep only your food? It makes it easier because you can "browse" your own stash of food when you get tempted and only eat what you find there, as opposed to going to the kitchen and finding oreos. And when you get hungry eat, just make sure it's something paleo. Eventually the cravings for crap will be reduced. Hope this helps.

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