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How did you get out of the diet mentality?

Answered on August 19, 2014
Created April 02, 2013 at 7:17 PM

I want to know how everyone has managed to eat this way without listing rules, feeling guilty, feeling deprived, etc etc what way d you approach eating in general? does it take time for a chronic dieter to learn ?

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on April 02, 2013
at 11:51 PM

Practice practice practice. Remind yourself to pay attention to your physical cues whenever you notice yourself stifling them. Eventually it will become a habit.

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on April 02, 2013
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This is great advice. Telling yourself you can't have something just because of the rules will make you feel deprived and will most likely set you up for a binge. If you change the way you view it and see it as a choice you are making and you're in control of, it's less likely to feel like a diet.

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on April 02, 2013
at 09:06 PM

I have always felt the phrase "eat to live, not live to eat" meant that a person takes no pleasure in eating. I don't live to eat it but I want to love what I do eat!

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on April 02, 2013
at 08:37 PM

Thats extremely true about the routines! I think een if you eat alot of junk it tends to be a combination of 2-4 regulars over and over :P Thank you! Gonna give it the 3 weeks! :P

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on April 02, 2013
at 08:25 PM

Amen, Limey. .

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on April 02, 2013
at 08:22 PM

oh god sure I had 5 bags of chips today AND a load of chocolate haha aw well tomorrows another day! :D

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on April 02, 2013
at 08:13 PM

The boredom factor I can really relate too! Food is fun so that's another great reason not to develop feelings of guilt about it. It still blows my mind how many bags of chips I could eat when my growing brain was not stimulated enough.

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at 08:02 PM

Makes sense :) I think I just stuff my face in boredom and being afraid I'm missing out on something haha I'll get it right if I keep Tryaing : Thanks!

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33266cca338ab54cee9a2aa160f5bdb6

on April 02, 2013
at 07:54 PM

Just by keeping a really open mind about what is good and what is bad. Now, instead of restricting based on principles, I restrict based on how things make me feel. Wheat, peanut butter, and high fiber foods make me feel terrible so I avoid them. Watermelon, chocolate, and salt only seem to improve my life so I eat them when I desire. You should only feel guilty about something if you know that it will make you feel bad and you do it anyway.

It's hard to think yourself into health but it's easy to stress yourself out of it. Make rules that work for you and you will comply. My rule is: Eat real food that makes me feel healthy.

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on April 02, 2013
at 08:02 PM

Makes sense :) I think I just stuff my face in boredom and being afraid I'm missing out on something haha I'll get it right if I keep Tryaing : Thanks!

33266cca338ab54cee9a2aa160f5bdb6

(502)

on April 02, 2013
at 08:13 PM

The boredom factor I can really relate too! Food is fun so that's another great reason not to develop feelings of guilt about it. It still blows my mind how many bags of chips I could eat when my growing brain was not stimulated enough.

23a240b30b8622fed011ccbd4054fac2

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on April 02, 2013
at 10:38 PM

This is great advice. Telling yourself you can't have something just because of the rules will make you feel deprived and will most likely set you up for a binge. If you change the way you view it and see it as a choice you are making and you're in control of, it's less likely to feel like a diet.

C2fefd191418f9a7bd691077ab9b527a

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on April 02, 2013
at 08:22 PM

oh god sure I had 5 bags of chips today AND a load of chocolate haha aw well tomorrows another day! :D

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on April 02, 2013
at 08:35 PM

Just set the rules for yourself and promise yourself you'll eat that way for 3 weeks. They say it takes 20 days to change your habits. It will be an adjustment period but after 3 weeks, it will be your "normal" and you can stick with it.

It might or might not work for you, but you should know after 20-30 days. If it does work, you won't want to go back. In my case, I lost about 10 pounds and cleared up a bunch of health issues that I didn't know that I had. I have no reason to go back to my old diet because I'd gain 10 pounds and feel like crap. So it's pretty simple.

After a much longer time, say 3-4 months, it will actually be difficult to vary from your diet... just like it was difficult to change it the first time. Truth is that most people eat in routines and have the same kinds of things regularly, so as long as you have good Paleo options for your regular meals it's easy to stick to it.

C2fefd191418f9a7bd691077ab9b527a

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on April 02, 2013
at 08:37 PM

Thats extremely true about the routines! I think een if you eat alot of junk it tends to be a combination of 2-4 regulars over and over :P Thank you! Gonna give it the 3 weeks! :P

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on April 02, 2013
at 08:00 PM

I go by the idea of "eat to live, not live to eat."

I eat for health and want to put the best fuel in my body that I possibly can. If I get a bad reaction to something or mess up in some way, I take that as part of the learning experience and move on. No need to feel guilty, mistakes are bound to happen. It's how we tweak and fine tune things for ourselves. Another quote "One man's poison is another man's medicine."

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on April 02, 2013
at 09:06 PM

I have always felt the phrase "eat to live, not live to eat" meant that a person takes no pleasure in eating. I don't live to eat it but I want to love what I do eat!

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on April 02, 2013
at 08:25 PM

Amen, Limey. .

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on April 02, 2013
at 09:40 PM

I'm about 2 years in now. I can't claim to be totally free of the old diet mentality/anxiety, but I've definitely made profound progress.

Step 1 was to discover (accidentally) after 3 weeks on paleo that my physical symptoms were tied to eating wheat. Basically, I was amazed to find myself feeling good with tons of energy simply because I'd been off wheat for a few weeks.

Step 2 was to learn that despite what many blogs promised my cravings didn't go away after a few weeks or months. In fact, they were as strong as ever after 12 months of not touching wheat.

Step 3 was relapse; actually it was 3 relapses. That turned out to be highly effective aversion therapy, because it made me sick and now when I see a food containing wheat I have a "shudder" response and have no cravings at all. For me, the verdict was: wheat is guilty as charged.

Step 4, which took months and lots of experimentation while other things were going on, was to learn what constitutes satisfying meals that can be smoothly digested by my gut and will leave me content and with high energy until I choose to eat again. The last part is important because eating often can threaten to trigger binge cravings. I do best on 1 main meal per day although once in a while I divide it into 2 partial meals. I really appreciate being more free of meal-related tasks.

My current status is that my body's working and feeling great. My appearance still reflects to some extent my past patterns of binge eating--as in, I'm still overweight--but I am gradually losing fat and I don't care how long it takes or at what weight I finally stabilize. I like the old saying, "Form follows function" and I'm currently functioning at a high level so I'm confident about my future.

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