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How can I tweak my paleo lifestyle to improve my motivation and self-confidence?

Answered on September 12, 2014
Created October 23, 2011 at 5:22 AM

So here's some background:

I am currently working as a farming apprentice, and I've been noticing a distinct lack of motivation and drive to perform well at my job. My boss is an extremely negative person, and while we get along most of the time, he always feels a need to criticize my work. To top it off, I never get any positive feedback, so it can be really discouraging (and feel completely pointless) when I go above and beyond. I feel like nothing is ever good enough for him, and if I did attempt to perform to his expected standard, I'd completely burn out, both physically and emotionally. The fact that I've been struggling has really taken a toll on my self-esteem, which has increased my self-doubt and depressive tendencies, and ultimately affected my energy and motivation. It's a viscous cycle. I have little motivation to do well at my job because I'm depressed, but I'm depressed because I can't seem to get it together at my job.

My apprenticeship is ending in a few weeks, and I'm currently on the job hunt. As you can imagine, my current mental state is less than ideal when trying to convince a potential employer that I'm a good hire (and of course coming from a farming background isn't opening a ton of doors either). How on earth am I going to convince anyone that they should hire me if my current job has made me completely doubt my worthiness as a worker and employee? I feel so overwhelmed by negative thoughts and self-criticism since I can't seem to get it together. I want to succeed and do well, but I'm just so down on myself that everything seems like a struggle.

So I guess my question is how can I use aspects of the paleo lifestyle to re-build my self-esteem and confidence? Social bonding is limited, unfortunately. Did I mention that I live on a 160 acre farm with just my boss? I'm very isolated. I haven't been officially diagnosed with depression, but I'm wondering if that is what I'm suffering from. I'm pretty sure my boss just thinks I'm lazy and unobservant. I follow a paleo diet but I've been eating way too much sugar recently, and I'm wondering whether getting that under control could help. I'm fairly active since I have to do chores all day. Ugh, I just want to feel good about myself again. I feel like I failed at my first post-college job, and it's a sucky feeling.

77877f762c40637911396daa19b53094

(78467)

on October 28, 2011
at 07:25 PM

Cliff, I can only imagine that you have an amazing sense of humor. I think she would be better off if she ate the trout in that study...

E5c7f14800c5992831f5c70fa746dc5c

(12857)

on October 24, 2011
at 12:08 AM

http://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/pii/0305049182902218

77877f762c40637911396daa19b53094

(78467)

on October 23, 2011
at 10:13 PM

Great. A study with starving rats. Farmer's Daughter, are you a starving rat?

0bc6cbb653cdc5e82400f6da920f11eb

(19245)

on October 23, 2011
at 07:35 PM

It's hard to count how many times you spontaneously blink in a minute without in some way changing the number of times you spontaneously blink per minute...it's like when someone says "just breath normally".

Da3d4a6835c0f5256b2ef829b3ba3393

on October 23, 2011
at 06:22 PM

+1 Good post, Cody.

7d0c3ea9bf8be00b93e6433d8f125ac3

(7540)

on October 23, 2011
at 05:52 PM

I downvoted too because this post is stupid, reeks of pseudoscience, and is unhelpful.

E5c7f14800c5992831f5c70fa746dc5c

(12857)

on October 23, 2011
at 04:19 PM

How do we measure spontaneous eye blinking?

E5c7f14800c5992831f5c70fa746dc5c

(12857)

on October 23, 2011
at 04:18 PM

Provided references where? I have no problems with jack its his esoteric post I have problems with

E5c7f14800c5992831f5c70fa746dc5c

(12857)

on October 23, 2011
at 04:15 PM

sugar refills liver glycogen, liver glycogen is needed to deal with stress http://psycnet.apa.org/?&fa=main.doiLanding&uid=1962-00516-001

77877f762c40637911396daa19b53094

(78467)

on October 23, 2011
at 04:11 PM

I've had plenty of experience with sugar in my life. I would love to see some proof that sugar helps the body adapt to/deal with stress.

77877f762c40637911396daa19b53094

(78467)

on October 23, 2011
at 03:46 PM

I just wanted to say thanks for having the courage to put this out there. I'm not feeling as motivated in life as I would like to at the moment and need to kick myself in the ass and get back on track! Thanks for reminding me that EVERYONE in this world has moments like these and that they are an opportunity to do some soul searching and reflecting.

1f8384be58052b6b96f476e475abdc74

(2231)

on October 23, 2011
at 03:44 PM

it does... whether your willing to try and test it or not. the downfall of the paleo community as a whole is no one experiements on themselves, they rely on others...

77877f762c40637911396daa19b53094

(78467)

on October 23, 2011
at 03:44 PM

http://tinyurl.com/5uh92c4

77877f762c40637911396daa19b53094

(78467)

on October 23, 2011
at 03:42 PM

Its not magical if you **search** about it. Quilt provided reference, its up to you to find more info if you find it interesting.

77877f762c40637911396daa19b53094

(78467)

on October 23, 2011
at 03:39 PM

BS. No one needs MORE sugar. Show us some proof cliff that additional sugar helps with stress.

0a0c8c37d3a56738dc017e4ff09f21ee

(480)

on October 23, 2011
at 03:39 PM

It's vague and magical but it's not stupid. Why go through the effort to downvote?

77877f762c40637911396daa19b53094

(78467)

on October 23, 2011
at 03:38 PM

Yeah, cliff, we get it. You don't like the Quilt.

E5c7f14800c5992831f5c70fa746dc5c

(12857)

on October 23, 2011
at 03:08 PM

need more info too vague and magical

B4e1fa6a8cf43d2b69d97a99dfca262c

(10255)

on October 23, 2011
at 09:22 AM

that is so interesting; can you provide a link to more info?

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6371f0ae0c075ded1b8cd30aafd4bf16

on October 23, 2011
at 02:59 PM

http://chriskresser.com/theres-more-to-health-than-food-and-theres-more-to-life-than-health

http://chriskresser.com/perfecthealth

I would check out Dr. Chris Kresser's site for some very helpful tips on this subject. He wrote a series titled "The 9 Steps to Perfect Health." The first 4 steps are about food and the last 5 are about lifestyle. Nutrition is important but it's only 4/9 th's of the battle. The other 5/9 th's is living a lifestyle that is pleasurable and rewarding. He recently did two podcast's that relate to this topic.

http://balancedbites.com/podcast http://chriskresser.com/nutrition-healing-obstacles-to-optimal-health-macronutrient-ratios-and-more

I recently went thru a similar situation. My wife was at a job she hated so much she was having daily anxiety attacks. She couldn't quit the job because we needed the money. We were stuck in this situation for 4 years and the entire time both of us were depressed and dying from the stress. Here is what I did.

  1. Set up some goals and create a life plan. If you lack motivation it is primarily because you don't see life progressing the way you think it should. Change your self talk. Do some affirmations and tell yourself you are capable of more.

  2. I'm omitting step 2 because it advocates religion and connecting to a higher power.

  3. Set up some "ME" time daily. A job for the most part is only 8 hours a day. Sleep is the other 8-10 hours, so you should have 6-8 hours of personal time. Find something healthy that helps you deal with the stress. For me it was Crossfit. As strange as it may sound given step 4, it gave me a release of all the pent up frustration.

  4. Eliminate all other stress. Anything that puts extra demand on your adrenals is going to make you feel worse. I even stopped drinking coffee as it made me more anxious.

  5. Clean up the diet. Crappy food will only make you feel crappier.

  6. Stand up to your demons. My wife eventually quit her job and went on unemployment. If you only have two weeks left then I would tell your boss how you feel. You don't have to be mean about it but just be honest and let him know you don't like how he treats you. He may not even realize that his attitude is bothering you. He'll probably still continue to be a jerk but he may try to clean up his act for a little while.

  7. Fake it until you make it. If your struggling or depressed no one really knows unless you tell them. The problem is most people look to others to solve their problems. We've all heard that misery loves company. Unless the person is a licensed professional they really don't need to know about your stress nor do they care to know. When going on an interview you really need to act as if your the best person they can hire and that everything is perfect. I recently interviewed some people for a position and 5 out of 7 came in complaining about their previous job. The 2 that are coming back for 2nd rounds focused on themselves and their experience. I find that reading an interview book helped me land a new position as it helped me organize my internal thought process during the interview.

GOOD LUCK.

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25b139cc1954456d9ea469e40f984cd3

on October 23, 2011
at 06:31 AM

You probably are suffering from situational depression caused by your exposure to this abusive asshole. Leave as soon as possible. Socialize, to whatever extent possible, with positive people who care about you (phone, Facebook, email, whatever). If exercise (long walks, running, lifting, etc.) is not a huge part of your job already, that may help. Do what you can with your diet, but do not hold yourself to unrealistic standards of purity. OTC moodboosters include Saint Johns Wort Extract, SAM-e and moderate caffeine. Re the interview process and the job hunt--fake it 'till you make if need be. Focus on accomplishing specific goals each day, whether or not you feel good...

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77877f762c40637911396daa19b53094

(78467)

on October 23, 2011
at 03:42 PM

B vitamins are your friend. Sunshine. Drink some green tea. Meditate. Long walks. Pray. Journal. Talk to friends.

No one controls how you feel about yourself. YOU CONTROL HOW YOU FEEL ABOUT YOURSELF.

Write down all of the good things about yourself. In fact, edit your post and tell us what you are good at. What you do well.

Do something nice for someone else everyday. Make sure you get nothing in return. Not even praise.

Life is beautiful, and I'm very sorry that you are caught up in such a negative energy/space. But it will get better! Hang in there!

Da3d4a6835c0f5256b2ef829b3ba3393

on October 23, 2011
at 06:22 PM

+1 Good post, Cody.

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1f8384be58052b6b96f476e475abdc74

(2231)

on October 23, 2011
at 03:35 PM

reason #1 i love this site...OP asks question.... replies 'dont eat sugar' and 'eat sugar' .... haha

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E5c7f14800c5992831f5c70fa746dc5c

(12857)

on October 23, 2011
at 03:09 PM

You've been eating way more sugar lately because your body needs sugar to cope with stress whether you eat it or not, if you don't eat sugar your body will make it from protein which will cause more stress on your body. Eat more fruits and dairy in small frequent meals if possible, this will keep your liver glycogen stocked and ready to deal with stress.

1f8384be58052b6b96f476e475abdc74

(2231)

on October 23, 2011
at 03:44 PM

it does... whether your willing to try and test it or not. the downfall of the paleo community as a whole is no one experiements on themselves, they rely on others...

E5c7f14800c5992831f5c70fa746dc5c

(12857)

on October 24, 2011
at 12:08 AM

http://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/pii/0305049182902218

77877f762c40637911396daa19b53094

(78467)

on October 28, 2011
at 07:25 PM

Cliff, I can only imagine that you have an amazing sense of humor. I think she would be better off if she ate the trout in that study...

77877f762c40637911396daa19b53094

(78467)

on October 23, 2011
at 04:11 PM

I've had plenty of experience with sugar in my life. I would love to see some proof that sugar helps the body adapt to/deal with stress.

77877f762c40637911396daa19b53094

(78467)

on October 23, 2011
at 10:13 PM

Great. A study with starving rats. Farmer's Daughter, are you a starving rat?

E5c7f14800c5992831f5c70fa746dc5c

(12857)

on October 23, 2011
at 04:15 PM

sugar refills liver glycogen, liver glycogen is needed to deal with stress http://psycnet.apa.org/?&fa=main.doiLanding&uid=1962-00516-001

77877f762c40637911396daa19b53094

(78467)

on October 23, 2011
at 03:39 PM

BS. No one needs MORE sugar. Show us some proof cliff that additional sugar helps with stress.

0
1a98a40ba8ffdc5aa28d1324d01c6c9f

(20378)

on October 23, 2011
at 06:32 AM

I would go for walks. Cut back on the sugar. Your lucky furture employer will not have any knowledge of the negative things. I have interviewed many people. Keys are wear a collar of some sort even if it is a polo. Get lots of sleep and food. Smile and stay conversational. Never make up an answer. You are going to do great!

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Ed71ab1c75c6a9bd217a599db0a3e117

(25472)

on October 23, 2011
at 05:44 AM

increase your dopamine level by changing what you eat and how you think. When you do it you can monitor your success by counting how many eye blinks you do in 60 seconds to see if it worked.

77877f762c40637911396daa19b53094

(78467)

on October 23, 2011
at 03:44 PM

http://tinyurl.com/5uh92c4

77877f762c40637911396daa19b53094

(78467)

on October 23, 2011
at 03:42 PM

Its not magical if you **search** about it. Quilt provided reference, its up to you to find more info if you find it interesting.

7d0c3ea9bf8be00b93e6433d8f125ac3

(7540)

on October 23, 2011
at 05:52 PM

I downvoted too because this post is stupid, reeks of pseudoscience, and is unhelpful.

0a0c8c37d3a56738dc017e4ff09f21ee

(480)

on October 23, 2011
at 03:39 PM

It's vague and magical but it's not stupid. Why go through the effort to downvote?

0bc6cbb653cdc5e82400f6da920f11eb

(19245)

on October 23, 2011
at 07:35 PM

It's hard to count how many times you spontaneously blink in a minute without in some way changing the number of times you spontaneously blink per minute...it's like when someone says "just breath normally".

E5c7f14800c5992831f5c70fa746dc5c

(12857)

on October 23, 2011
at 03:08 PM

need more info too vague and magical

77877f762c40637911396daa19b53094

(78467)

on October 23, 2011
at 03:38 PM

Yeah, cliff, we get it. You don't like the Quilt.

E5c7f14800c5992831f5c70fa746dc5c

(12857)

on October 23, 2011
at 04:18 PM

Provided references where? I have no problems with jack its his esoteric post I have problems with

B4e1fa6a8cf43d2b69d97a99dfca262c

(10255)

on October 23, 2011
at 09:22 AM

that is so interesting; can you provide a link to more info?

E5c7f14800c5992831f5c70fa746dc5c

(12857)

on October 23, 2011
at 04:19 PM

How do we measure spontaneous eye blinking?

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