Dear paleo friends,
I am in a deep depression and dont know how to get out of there. Hope you could help me.
I am (was) paleo since oktober 2012 and lost a lot of weight. Than I got really depressed and overate with gluten and sugar for about a week. Than I went back to paleo, because I felt disgusting and wanted to feel and look great again. But my overemotionality led me again to the pizza, 1 kg bread for a day and I started eating quantities of bread and rice I didnt thought I was able to. But I was convinced: This time was the last: I went back paleo for about 2 weeks.
Today I just felt so miserable and out of control of my life(not because of the food) that i again ate 500 gr bread with 200 g peanut butter and 400 g strawberry confitire. I have 14 % body fat, 170 cm tall, 63 kg. Maybe after today more. But I am just wandering....how do I get out of that????? I know, its emotional eating, but for some time i thought: "hey, why am i doing this actually?? is paleo the reason that i make this extreme binges now or its just my emotions??? and why cant i go back to paleo and am binging for 2 months "
I know, this questions can be answered only by myself. But I really need a good reason now to find again my eating comfort and want to do it paleo. Did you go through such a phase? How did you cope with that?
asked bymiragew (-1)
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on May 25, 2013
at 02:22 AM
You're miserable because you ate a lot of food you didn't want to eat? So have we all! Just because you found a style of eating that you think is healthful, doesn't mean it's easy to do it. When a smoker decides to quit, it can take quite a while before they actually do quit. They just have to keep trying.
But it's hard to break a habit when you hate yourself! If you decide you're too weak to break the habit, then it feels pointless to try. That's a bad place to be. Instead, remember that you are a human being with human frailties, and breaking bad habits is a long, but worthwhile, process. Two steps forward and one step back. "Pick yourself up, dust yourself off, start all over again." Somehow, though you don't know how now, your cheats WILL get less frequent, less severe, and of shorter duration. It's a process. Every time something goes wrong, just try to figure out what went wrong and if there's anything you can do to make it better. Sometimes you won't know what to do to make it better, but sometimes you will, and a year from now you'll look back to now and be pleased at your continued progress. Failure is an inevitable part of the process, and the only way you will not improve is if you beat yourself up so much that you give up and decide it's hopeless.
From the time I learned about Paleo until the point that I was 60% compliant was probably a year! Pathetic! But I just resolved to be better the each day, and I've continued to improve.
So, in summary, you're eating junk because that stuff is around and it's tasty, and it's what you're used to eating. It's a habit. Figure out what would have made this less likely. Eating a larger paleo dinner? Not having those foods in the house? Carrying snacks around for when you get hungry? Just keep trying for solutions.
And I guess I have to mention, as others have, that 14% body fat is very low for a woman. So I hope you're interested in Paleo for health rather than weight control. If it is for weight control, maybe you need to see someone about body image issues. If it's for health, you know that hating yourself is far worse for health than peanut butter and strawberry on bread.
on May 23, 2013
at 07:04 PM
First, "Mirabelle"? That sounds like a woman's name, right? If you are 14% body fat at 5'7", 141lbs, you're already incredibly low body fat and very fit for a female. Are you sure those numbers are correct?
I know, this questions can be answered only by myself.
If you are feeling out of control, I suggest you immediately discuss your issues with a loved one or a friend. If you do not have someone like that in your life, you should get in a touch with a mental health professional that specializes in disordered eating.
Stop spending time hating yourself, and start looking for help in real life, not on the Internet.
on May 24, 2013
at 03:02 AM
Wow. 14% body fat. I agree that that's very low. Are you menstruating regularly? If not, that's something to consider as well. Your body might be begging you for some higher fat stores!
I agree with the answers that suggest to make sure you're getting enough nutrients. Also, you might want to consider having more carbs, depending on your intake. (Is it less than 100g? Some women need more like 150 -200 g for thyroid purposes.)
Unfortunately there are lots of potential reasons you're experiencing this. Please tweak your diet until something seems right. But remember: gluten and soy-especially- make depression worse often times.
on May 23, 2013
at 09:19 PM
There are a few things to do.
The first thing to do is avoid all artificial sweeteners, and drop down your sugars for about two weeks. This will recalibrate your sweet tooth- make you more sensitive to sweet things. I used to sweeten my coffee with Splenda. When I gave it up, pizza and any sort of bread stopped looking like food after about two weeks.
The second thing to do is cheat, but read labels. You want something sweet? Read the label. If it has grains, legumes or dairy (protein) in it (and I include soy lecithin in this) don't eat it. You will have to buy good chocolate, or get your sugar rush from medjool dates.
This works. You can screw up, probably at least once a week, and still do fine, because the big three offenders- wheat, soy, and milk proteins- do more to keep you hooked and fat than simple sugars. Additionally, avoiding that wheat and peanut butter means you are removing some of the drug-like chemicals that are encouraging emotional eating. The strawberry confitire (assuming it is just fruit and sugar as a quick google search suggested it would be and not industrial crap filled with all kinds of other stuff) will be sweet, but not have any of these triggers.
And then, there is the preemptive strike. I don't think you should eat when you are not hungry, so wait until you are hungry rather than just eat immediately on waking, but when you do eat breakfast, make sure you have plenty of fat and protein.
on May 25, 2013
at 03:55 AM
Sounds like it's not a food problem but a life problem. You are focusing on a symptom, not the cause. Look at your life and maybe get some help. Talk to someone, figure out what is making you so unhappy in the first place, then see what changes can be made.
It sounds simple, but it isn't. And it's crucial...
on May 23, 2013
at 11:02 PM
Your missing some vitamins and probably some dopamine, eat paleo but eat nutrient dense foods. Someone can eat sweet potatoes and hunks of meat all day and be paleo try buying some nutritional yeast flakes, take magnesium, and make sure to have liver once a week along with your leafy green veggies. Make sure your getting vitamind d through supplementation, or tanning/tanning bed twice a week medium pressure bed. Start working out, if you haven't already. Feel better though, don't be so hard on yourself and live your life. You'll feel a lot better