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How can I convince my mom to try paleo/primal?

Answered on August 19, 2014
Created June 19, 2013 at 6:17 AM

My mom is really reluctant to try Paleo/Primal. She wants to go on a diet to lose weight and lower her blood pressure, but swears by the "Del Mar" diet, which is basically a high-fiber, low fat, vegetables-and nuts bunny food diet the first week, but you slowly add back bread, dairy, eggs, fish, poultry, and red meat, in that order. In the past when she's done it, she's always been really cranky and miserable. On Paleo/Primal, you can eat meats and fish and healthy fats and i've never been cranky or miserable on Paleo, because it's healthy but not painfully healthy, like the Del Mar diet is. Only when i tell her about keto-ing or going grain free or limiting carb intake she doesn't want to hear about it, is skeptical about the amount of meat consumed on paleo, and doesn't want to give up fruit. Only i really think that it will work for us and it will be easier if we both do it together. How can I persuade her?

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on June 20, 2013
at 08:25 PM

@CD I try to go for hara hachi bu too

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on June 20, 2013
at 04:47 PM

Read the responses here: http://paleohacks.com/questions/189251/convincing-articles-to-encourage-adopting-a-paleo-lifestyle#axzz2WlpEMgtY

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on June 20, 2013
at 03:52 PM

Shoo .

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on June 20, 2013
at 03:37 PM

haha, and here I thought you were going for the hara hachi bu

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on June 20, 2013
at 03:43 AM

srry i cant do math :( just saying my plate isn't entirely meat. Actually, a typical dinner wil look something like this: some kind of meat, sliced carrots or cucumbers, sauteed onions/mushrooms/eggplant (any combination) salad with diced tomatoes/cherry tomatoes on top, maybe a sweet potato if I'm doing intense cardio training, and a handful of berries.

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on June 20, 2013
at 01:48 AM

and 1/5 empty ?

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on June 19, 2013
at 09:47 PM

yeah my plate is about 1/5 meat,1/5 cooked vegetables, 1/5 raw vegetables, and 1/5 fruit.

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on June 19, 2013
at 09:39 PM

I gave her my copy of Primal Blueprint yesterday and she said she didn't have time to read it, even though it's full of sticky notes of pages I want her to read :/ I then told her that she can still eat fruits on paleo, but she's still very indoctrinated that fat makes you fat and calories in/calories out is the way to go, etc.

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on June 19, 2013
at 06:59 PM

'the amount of meat consume' I see this all the time. What kind of mammoth (haha) proportions of meat do most people eat on paleo? I do 4-6oz a meal, which takes up 1/4 to 1/3 a plate, and fill the rest with veggies. Am I nuts? Should I be filling the meat up to 1/2 the plate or 3/4? Seriously.

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3ce6a0d24be025e2f2af534545bdd1d7

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on June 19, 2013
at 12:08 PM

Give her the primal blueprint. Ask her to read it. If she says no - then back off, if she not going to educate herself she going to fail anyway.

I think Sisson is fairly moderate and welcoming -- I could argue there are better books (like solution) and better diet plans (like phd), but in terms of getting someone to start thinking this is for real and not a fad, Sisson is the best.

Also, lay Off the Keto crap. That just scares people a way. Remember, low carb paleo is a tool, not a requirement. Forcing people to think paleo is low carb/ metabolically confusing make the transition tougher

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on June 19, 2013
at 09:39 PM

I gave her my copy of Primal Blueprint yesterday and she said she didn't have time to read it, even though it's full of sticky notes of pages I want her to read :/ I then told her that she can still eat fruits on paleo, but she's still very indoctrinated that fat makes you fat and calories in/calories out is the way to go, etc.

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on June 20, 2013
at 04:53 PM

I would say, "hey mom have you ever noticed how when you lose weight restricting calories, you have to eat even less to stay at the new weight than what you were eating before?" and also tell her, "insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results." she can lose the weight - anybody can - but can she keep it off? And so I would recommend the perfect health diet, http://perfecthealthdiet.com/2011/02/perfect-health-diet-weight-loss-version/

I can't get anyone in my family to sit down a read a book either. But maybe if you sit down and read a blog post with her - much less time commitment - she'll slowly be convinced. I find the technical posts to be more curious and stimulating for people than mark's daily apple's "Look at my transformation!" pictures.

Just tell her that to lose weight, she has to be in good health and people who are in good health are NOT eating 500-1000 calories a day and eating in a way that they can't for the rest of their lives.

Good luck.

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on June 20, 2013
at 12:35 PM

My take is that Paleo is a gradient. Reading a paragraph about it and then launching immediately into a Whole30+keto eating plan is bound to fail for an undisciplined SAD eater.

Why not just start her eating simply "better"? Start to cut out processed stuff and then continue to keep moving on to more compliant food choices. You couple this with really tasty alternatives (not tepid substitutes - I'm sorry, but spaghetti squash for actual spaghetti?) and she'll miss the old stuff less and less.

I've also found that working to be a more "exploratory" cook helps as well. There are hundreds of spices, sauces or whole cuisines many of us know nothing about. Being able to have an even better-tasting and fulfilling alternative to a SAD meal choice helps to make the conversion.

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on June 20, 2013
at 03:33 PM

Other than maybe showing her some success stories as an eye-opener, don't try to convince her.

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on June 20, 2013
at 12:46 PM

Check out this thread for a similar question:http://paleohacks.com/questions/199336/how-do-i-make-my-parents-see-the-truth/199359#199359

The gist of my post in that thread was: stop trying to convince them. No one changes diets because someone convinces them, they change diets because they start looking for a change. Until she feels like she needs a change, you're not going to change her mind. But leading by example is a great way to non-threateningly encourage family members to open up to your lifestyle: enjoy your meals and live healthily and she may come around. Also, at least in my experience, parents like doing things with their kids; maybe try and make cooking meals a group activity between the two of you and ask her to tolerate your "eccentricities" and you may find her coming around eventually.

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on June 20, 2013
at 03:47 PM

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on June 20, 2013
at 03:52 PM

Shoo .

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