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What do you do when non paleo eaters eat up all your stuff?

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Created December 11, 2011 at 7:20 AM

I own a restaurant and a lot of my employees are grossly unhealthy. I have recently lost 50 pounds thanks to eating Paleo, metcons, and lifting. Every time people I work with see my success, they want in on it. I am delighted to share info and even prepare some meals for them, but when I come into work and my food is being consumed, and then three hours later the culprits are hogging down French fries and pizza, and glaring at me like they know I will disapprove, I get upset. I don't expect people to do what I do, but why fake it? It's a waste of time and money. What do I do?

21fd060d0796fdb8a4a990441e08eae7

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on December 12, 2011
at 03:05 PM

loilo- please be nice. I believe you could still get your point across.

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on December 12, 2011
at 03:04 PM

And I will add that carrying 50 extra pounds is, in general, much, much worse for you than grains/gluten.

E167c0387a5f0b87bb1f2c3e6aec73a8

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on December 12, 2011
at 02:54 PM

whatever, my restaurant, my food, my success, plus she calls clueless people "the culprits" "grossly unhealthy" and " non paleo" Get off your high horse lady, didn't you used to carry 50 pounds of fat yourself like RECENTLY? again what makes you so special?

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on December 12, 2011
at 01:15 PM

I'm tempted to downvote you, but I won't. Just be aware that insulting others could get you banned.

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on December 12, 2011
at 01:03 PM

Paleo aside, it sounds like you may need to institute some kind of rule about employee meals. I've never worked in a restaurant (are free meals a common perk?), but when I worked at a pizza delivery place, we could get pretty carried away with the free pizzas sometimes. We weren't supposed to have them unless they were mistakes or fake orders, but.... "Oops, overcooked that one just a smidge. Who's ready for supper?" If free meals are the rule, maybe limit it to foods on the menu, and say *anyone's* personal food is off limits.

03fa485bfd54734522755f47a5e6597e

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on December 12, 2011
at 12:59 PM

I wasn't going to downvote until you followed up with insults from nowhere. She's *giving* food to people who *asked* about it -- even preparing it for them -- and you call that interfering in other people's lives? She hasn't even put a stop to it; she's just kind of narked that they don't seem to appreciate what it costs, and is asking for opinions. We're not talking about a soup kitchen; no one's going to starve here if she says, "Don't use my $10/pint extra virgin coconut oil to fry your breaded chicken nuggets." She certainly hasn't claimed to be 'special.' Good grief.

Cf32992bfa1907147c7cdc451bba9c63

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on December 11, 2011
at 10:58 PM

I can't believe I'm agreeing with loilo...

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on December 11, 2011
at 10:38 PM

its a big assuption for someone to take what is not theirs without asking first regardless of how they eat- i'd be upset too.

E167c0387a5f0b87bb1f2c3e6aec73a8

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on December 11, 2011
at 10:09 PM

yea right "non paleo eaters" purist freaks like that just drive me mad. lol i bet you drink a shitload of coffee and eat rancid nuts non stop. btw fk-u down voter.

Cf32992bfa1907147c7cdc451bba9c63

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on December 11, 2011
at 10:05 PM

You are truly the image of generosity. "Here, share of my food, unless you plan on eating gluten, in which case I hope you promptly starve."

E08df3052941602678a89420ca0e66d7

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on December 11, 2011
at 09:26 PM

I don't feel special or entitled, just pissed off when people use up all my good stuff to half ass something I work for?

E08df3052941602678a89420ca0e66d7

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on December 11, 2011
at 09:24 PM

I am not really trying to control the people around me, I know that's a losing battle, but when someone comes to me for help, and I do all I can, it kinda jacks me when they feel entitled to use my sometimes expensive or a pain to acquire ingredients, to 20/80 it

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on December 11, 2011
at 09:18 PM

No one shares my Tiny Tots. No one.

828429fe885f42968c0519d5b84cec40

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on December 11, 2011
at 07:13 PM

Ooof. That is TOUGH.

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on December 11, 2011
at 06:45 PM

Everybody wants to go to heaven but nobody wants to die....

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on December 11, 2011
at 08:47 AM

I'm evil, I guess, because I would just stop preparing meals for them. You've given them the info. They obviously like the food. They can cook for themselves. Stop wasting your time, energy, and money on them. And if you prepare your own and find that someone has eaten it, spike the next meal you leave in a public fridge with TONS of salt. They'll stop snaking your food then.

E08df3052941602678a89420ca0e66d7

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on December 11, 2011
at 07:57 AM

For real! I am sensitive to their crappy food choices- you won't see me eating up all their easy Mac.. Why can't they help me out a little?

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03fa485bfd54734522755f47a5e6597e

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on December 11, 2011
at 12:41 PM

If I understand you right, it sounds like you're voluntarily making paleo meals for these people because they show an interest, and then they don't stick with it. That's generous of you, and it makes sense to do that for someone once. But if you see them eating junk later, and the next day they're hitting you up for some paleo cooking again, you need to remember the saying, "Fool me once, shame on you; fool me twice, shame on me." Hand them some recipes, or some URLs to paleo recipe sites, and point out that if they're serious about it, they're going to have to learn to do it themselves. If they work in a restaurant, surely they can cook steak and eggs or bake a potato?

My situation isn't that bad, but I recently bought a small Catholic book/gift store, and there are some people who volunteer there a few hours a week. The previous owner provided snacks for the volunteers, so I've continued that practice, but the snacks were always things like soda, chips, candy, crackers, etc. The healthiest thing on the shelf was probably the peanut butter. And yet this cheap junk food is a significant cost to the business.

Now that I'm bringing in food for myself (to keep me from being tempted by the junk), different things are showing up on the shelf and in the fridge (next to the junk), like sardines, pork rinds, deli meat, boiled eggs, cheese, and lettuce. I haven't told them not to eat my stuff; but I haven't made a point of saying, "Hey, feel free to indulge in sardines," either, because if they did it would multiply the snack budget substantially. And it's not like I'd be doing anything for their health if they eat SAD all week and then have a can of sardines on me for a single meal. So I've just kept my mouth shut, and hoped that they're continuing to eat the chips and candy because they prefer that to sardines, and not because they think there are two tiers of snacks -- one for management and one for them. If they do start eating my stuff, I'll just hope it does them some good, and maybe it'll turn into a positive conversation at some point.

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on December 11, 2011
at 09:18 PM

No one shares my Tiny Tots. No one.

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D117467bf8e8472464ece2b81509606c

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on December 11, 2011
at 07:28 AM

I feel you. I can't stand my family using the Kerrygold for their Wonderbread and my grass-fed beef for the hamburger helpers.

828429fe885f42968c0519d5b84cec40

(608)

on December 11, 2011
at 07:13 PM

Ooof. That is TOUGH.

E08df3052941602678a89420ca0e66d7

(18)

on December 11, 2011
at 07:57 AM

For real! I am sensitive to their crappy food choices- you won't see me eating up all their easy Mac.. Why can't they help me out a little?

Cf32992bfa1907147c7cdc451bba9c63

(2890)

on December 11, 2011
at 10:05 PM

You are truly the image of generosity. "Here, share of my food, unless you plan on eating gluten, in which case I hope you promptly starve."

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on December 11, 2011
at 06:42 PM

If they're literally stealing your food I'd be locking the fridge.

If you are displacing some bad food in their diet, then you've made them healthier. A good thing. One more order of bacon and eggs is one less bowl of frosted flakes.

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on December 11, 2011
at 09:43 PM

My take is it's clear they love the free and delicious paleo food that you're making, but they don't care about adopting the diet. You feel great, have lost weight, and hope to spread the word, which we all want to do to some extent. Move on and spend your energy elsewhere, though; people have to want to help themselves first and it can't be forced no matter how clear your evidence may be. They clearly have no interest in anything but free food. As for keeping your food safe, can you make it clear that it's off limits? Is there a place you can store it out of their reach?

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on December 11, 2011
at 07:45 PM

I work as a trainee in a restaurant. I never eat there anything except some reindeer stew or good fish. There is always leftover cakes around which they almost seem to want us to eat and i hate that. We have to pay for staff meal, but for reindeer etc its a good deal. I rarely eat anything there. I bring my own paleo foods with me :)

I wish i could train in a place that served foods that i believe in. Not some non-food ;)

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on December 11, 2011
at 06:14 PM

Sounds like you want success for them more than they want that success.

Once you've shared information and maybe a few snacks, I think your job as a paleo ambassador is done. I'm with those who think you should stop providing paleo food for those employees: if they want to eat paleo food, they can make some effort and make it themselves.

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on December 11, 2011
at 04:37 PM

Everybody wants in on the fruits of success but few want to do what it takes. That's why states sell lottery tickets and BMW sells economy vehicles you can finance the yourself into a hole for.

They're not faking anything, unless eating free food and indulging gastronomic curiosity is fake. Even while I was losing weight and getting healthy on a paleo diet, I still had naysayers telling me I was over-thinking it. I still had naysayers telling me I was taking extremes when I came back from the doctor and told them I was no longer pre-diabetic and didn't need medication anymore or giving away unopened bottles of Pro-Activ because I didn't have acne anymore.

How do you avoid frustration? Stop sharing. Do your thing with horse-blinders on. Obviously your employees are capable of feeding themselves and now they know at least something about how the paleo lifestyle works. You're not their parent, and even though the employer/employee relationship can sometimes mimic the tension between adolescent children and their parents, don't give in by reacting to their defiant stares.

You know it's a waste of money to cook special meals for them, so stop wasting money on them. Simple.

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on December 11, 2011
at 06:45 PM

Everybody wants to go to heaven but nobody wants to die....

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B4e1fa6a8cf43d2b69d97a99dfca262c

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on December 11, 2011
at 04:00 PM

isn't eating 20/80 better than eating 0/100?

trying to control what other's eat is a bigger waste of time and emotion than the waste of good food in a predominantly poor diet. most parents learn this truth as their babies become teens and begin to take control of what goes into their mouths.

E08df3052941602678a89420ca0e66d7

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on December 11, 2011
at 09:24 PM

I am not really trying to control the people around me, I know that's a losing battle, but when someone comes to me for help, and I do all I can, it kinda jacks me when they feel entitled to use my sometimes expensive or a pain to acquire ingredients, to 20/80 it

B4e1fa6a8cf43d2b69d97a99dfca262c

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on December 11, 2011
at 10:38 PM

its a big assuption for someone to take what is not theirs without asking first regardless of how they eat- i'd be upset too.

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on December 11, 2011
at 01:15 PM

It sounds like your employees are just digging on the free meals without any real interest in changing their diet. It is noble of you to try to improve their diets, but this is probably not the way to do it. I think you also need to set clear expectations about how much / what food you are going to provide to them. Some restaurant workers expect free food of some kind, like a meal to start or finish their shift (which is also a way for them to become more familiar with the menu), but I think that giving them free run of the place is unusually generous.

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on December 11, 2011
at 07:58 AM

I think this sums up my feelings on the matter: you ate what?

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on December 11, 2011
at 06:22 PM

Pass'em copies of Robb Wolf or Mark Sisson's book and welcome them to the tribe.

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E167c0387a5f0b87bb1f2c3e6aec73a8

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on December 11, 2011
at 05:29 PM

simple: don't interfere in other people's lives.everybody makes mistakes.
How long have you been eating like this, and what makes you so special?

E167c0387a5f0b87bb1f2c3e6aec73a8

(1240)

on December 11, 2011
at 10:09 PM

yea right "non paleo eaters" purist freaks like that just drive me mad. lol i bet you drink a shitload of coffee and eat rancid nuts non stop. btw fk-u down voter.

Cf32992bfa1907147c7cdc451bba9c63

(2890)

on December 12, 2011
at 03:04 PM

And I will add that carrying 50 extra pounds is, in general, much, much worse for you than grains/gluten.

E08df3052941602678a89420ca0e66d7

(18)

on December 11, 2011
at 09:26 PM

I don't feel special or entitled, just pissed off when people use up all my good stuff to half ass something I work for?

03fa485bfd54734522755f47a5e6597e

(3944)

on December 12, 2011
at 12:59 PM

I wasn't going to downvote until you followed up with insults from nowhere. She's *giving* food to people who *asked* about it -- even preparing it for them -- and you call that interfering in other people's lives? She hasn't even put a stop to it; she's just kind of narked that they don't seem to appreciate what it costs, and is asking for opinions. We're not talking about a soup kitchen; no one's going to starve here if she says, "Don't use my $10/pint extra virgin coconut oil to fry your breaded chicken nuggets." She certainly hasn't claimed to be 'special.' Good grief.

E167c0387a5f0b87bb1f2c3e6aec73a8

(1240)

on December 12, 2011
at 02:54 PM

whatever, my restaurant, my food, my success, plus she calls clueless people "the culprits" "grossly unhealthy" and " non paleo" Get off your high horse lady, didn't you used to carry 50 pounds of fat yourself like RECENTLY? again what makes you so special?

Cf32992bfa1907147c7cdc451bba9c63

(2890)

on December 11, 2011
at 10:58 PM

I can't believe I'm agreeing with loilo...

21fd060d0796fdb8a4a990441e08eae7

(24543)

on December 12, 2011
at 03:05 PM

loilo- please be nice. I believe you could still get your point across.

A968087cc1dd66d480749c02e4619ef4

(20436)

on December 12, 2011
at 01:15 PM

I'm tempted to downvote you, but I won't. Just be aware that insulting others could get you banned.

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