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The Role and Importance of Touch

Answered on August 19, 2014
Created April 09, 2012 at 4:18 PM

I answered Sol's query, "What non-diet interventions have improved your health?" with a story about the ways in which dance has brought out the animal in me. I touched on the importance of skin-to-skin contact, but thought it would make an interesting question/thread in its own right.

I haven't slept well these past couple of weeks. At first I blamed it on the barn owls, on the series of mournful hoots that peppers these spring evenings. But the birds have never bothered me in the past; their call lulls me to deeper sleep. I made a list of the foods I've eaten, noted exercise and water intake. Must be a pattern, I figured, a tangible reason why my pillow no longer offered solace. Took a couple of days but I sorted through it and discovered something. Touch. Or a lack of it, rather. I haven't danced in a few weeks, and though I've gotten the same amount of exercise in other ways, I haven't been held in a man's arms, haven't felt the rush of sensuality that dance gifts.

As a single woman, I have found dance to be my salvation. I haven't dated in some time, seems like my teenaged sons steal my dating time with school event and homework needs. I know, too, that I'm not alone.

I'm wondering how important you feel touch is in your paleo life?

Do you crave touch? Do you find ways to bring it into your life?

In what ways has touch enriched you? I know for me, I sleep better, my mood improves, even my response to stress seems lighter, more positive and proactive.

I'm wondering, too, if self-massage would offer similar benefits during those weeks when school and work collide in a fiery explosion.

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on April 11, 2012
at 10:01 AM

+1 very cool April!

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on April 10, 2012
at 11:31 PM

@Twinkletoes: *Hugs!*

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on April 10, 2012
at 07:36 PM

Jenny, what a beautiful comment, so full of life and experience. I love the story about your mom. She sounds like such a wonderful person. I like that idea of caring for others, maybe my own answer is inside that thought. I have a lot of love to give, perhaps it is time to give some out to others who need it as much as I do.

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on April 10, 2012
at 07:32 PM

I keep parrots and they are difficult to sleep with, although my african grey thinks I'm his mate! I might have to rescue a doggie. Massage sounds like a great compromise for me, thanks for the idea!

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on April 10, 2012
at 07:31 PM

April, that is ADORABLE! Piglet!!!! Eyeore!!!!! Sigh. I wanna hug now.

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on April 10, 2012
at 07:31 PM

Oh man, sex IS awesome! I think. If I can remember!!!!!!!!

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on April 09, 2012
at 11:55 PM

touch is very important whether I'm paleo or not. Sex is awesome :)

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on April 09, 2012
at 11:51 PM

Sex is amazing.

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on April 09, 2012
at 04:28 PM

I'm not a very touchy-feely person, but I love hugs.

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0905a0f8cd1e48f6d39fe625a65b6ef1

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on April 10, 2012
at 07:31 PM

April, that is ADORABLE! Piglet!!!! Eyeore!!!!! Sigh. I wanna hug now.

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(10663)

on April 10, 2012
at 11:31 PM

@Twinkletoes: *Hugs!*

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(20378)

on April 11, 2012
at 10:01 AM

+1 very cool April!

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on April 09, 2012
at 04:30 PM

So essential, IMO. We are mammals and operate like "packs" in may ways...

When I was single, I traded coaching sessions for weekly massages from a couple of talented practitioners. It helped me stay "in touch" with myself and feel loved.

I also had a furry Husky Shepard and he slept with me when I didn't have a boyfriend over.

I think it's about connection even more than touch--so self-massage is helpful, but not a replacement.

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on April 10, 2012
at 07:32 PM

I keep parrots and they are difficult to sleep with, although my african grey thinks I'm his mate! I might have to rescue a doggie. Massage sounds like a great compromise for me, thanks for the idea!

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on April 09, 2012
at 11:48 PM

I did a huge term-project on the placebo effect, and found that a lot of treatments that shouldn't necessarily have a strong physiological effect would have a really massive one the more the practitioner touched and manipulated the bodies of the patients. I think it is really important, and I know that when my boyfriend goes fishing and we are apart for a long time I start to physically contact friends and family way more- more hugging, more leaning on them, just looking for some contact. I have one really good buddy that was going through a rough time last year during fishing season, and we decided to share a bed (with no sexual connotation, he is homosexual and we weren't looking for that kind of contact) and we both just felt so much better waking up next to each other and being able to hug each other whenever.

Whenever a friend or family member is widowed my mother always brings gift certificates for massage along with a whole bunch of food, because she always says they'll need it when they're ready. I think after working in the hospital for her whole life, she sees how important being able to hold someone's hand or rub someone's back and shoulders is. She used to bring us to the hospital sometimes on her day off and we would give some of the elderly widowed ladies manicures, pedicures, food massages, and hand massages, and it always made them tear up they were so happy. Some of them hadn't been touched, except to be shuttled to different hospital rooms or poked at by doctors, in ages.

I think self massage is really great for staying in contact with yourself, but saving up for some massages (you can go to massage schools for a deal too) would be a great way of getting some human contact.

0905a0f8cd1e48f6d39fe625a65b6ef1

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on April 10, 2012
at 07:36 PM

Jenny, what a beautiful comment, so full of life and experience. I love the story about your mom. She sounds like such a wonderful person. I like that idea of caring for others, maybe my own answer is inside that thought. I have a lot of love to give, perhaps it is time to give some out to others who need it as much as I do.

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