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Hack my Son's 1st birthday "cupcake" options?

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Created July 25, 2011 at 2:37 PM

My son's 1st birthday is coming up in 2 weeks and my wife and I are having a little disagreement. He's been 100% paleo since birth, completely breast fed until 7 months and then added liver, ground beef, egg yolks, fruit, startches, etc. We are having a family gathering for him and my wife feels he needs the "first birthday cupcake experience." You know the one where you get all these cut pictures with your child shoveling icing and cake all over his face. We did it with our oldest son, however, we were not Paleo then.

I would prefer just to make him some Paleo Pudding (avocado, banana, cocoa) and put a candle on it but she wants a cupcake. She's willing to compromise with a Gluten Free Cupcake but we can't bake to save our lives and I am afraid of the amount and type of sugar a local baker will add to it. Should I just chill and compromise with a gluten free cupcake from a baker or should I stick to my guns?

3491e51730101b18724dc57c86601173

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on June 12, 2013
at 03:43 AM

Lol, my eldest fell asleep IN the cake! Face plant right into the chocolate frosting (before Paleo). She was so excited about her party I couldn't get her to nap beforehand. It was so funny!!!

2f931662684a7747be36255c8b486228

(1049)

on July 27, 2011
at 08:50 AM

Well, my daughter is intolerant to lactose (in most of those sweets) and probably glutin...IBS so she isn't going to be enjoying things in the same way....But she will take part. I think when someone "feels" they are an outsider because they are inferior is one thing, when they feel they are different for a positive reason (this is the key) they can accept it, maybe even enjoy it. Even though granted some will suffer regardless. My daughter is not 100% because I would be a Hitler, I allow her to take part and make her own choices often but I DO NOT ACTIVELY PROMOTE

B14dc4aa1ddefbec3bc09550428ee493

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on July 27, 2011
at 04:35 AM

Kathi, I WAS that kid who didn't belong when I was growing up. We don't want them being lemmings for sure, but kids do need to feel that they belong. Haven't you noticed that the outsiders are the ones who are prone to depression and anxiety? It's a basic human need to belong and feel accepted. I'm all for teaching kids to have their own mind and make good decisions, but is 100% paleo vs. 99% really worth it if your child is feeling sad and lonely because he can't participate in the same cultural traditions that everyone else is?

78fcdeee6ac4ee7d071bbac56b9e359f

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on July 26, 2011
at 10:46 PM

My grandmother (who died before I was born) apparently always had a watermelon instead of a cake on her 4th of July birthday. My dad still buys a watermelon on the 4th in honor of her.

2f931662684a7747be36255c8b486228

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on July 26, 2011
at 06:30 PM

I see your point Turkeytyme, but I also worry about that needing to "belong" back firing. I remember what I was told as a kid. If your best friend (or all your friends) jump off a bridge are you compelled to do the same? Sometimes being left out is best. Your kids will run into smokers, drinkers and worse. Of course it is difficult for kids to be different but that is exactly what they learn eventually (we hope) to be strong enough to be themselves. Some people just have that nack to be different, artsy fartsy..some never learn to stand out in a lifetime and suffer MORE for it.

2eae6378699f84d350e9b6cc357d9dc3

(50)

on July 26, 2011
at 05:25 PM

Heck, I'm doing this for MY birthday! cherry pie, I'm thinking, or key lime.

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on July 26, 2011
at 01:04 PM

P.S. Cupcakes for delivery here: http://whitelionbakingco.com/our-products/cupcakes-and-muffins/

A89f9751a97c3082802dc0bcbe4e9208

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on July 26, 2011
at 01:04 PM

Fascinating! I checked the website (even though I'm wary that this is just a spam posting) and the ingredients lists look legit (aside fro the agave). They look like what I'd bake in my own kitchen for a special occasion. Barbie, I hope you post more to legitimize this answer. ;)

93f44e8673d3ea2294cce085ebc96e13

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on July 26, 2011
at 06:33 AM

We just had the same dilemma at our place -- we will prob make this for our Paleo babby: http://www.fileden.com/files/2010/9/28/2981183/Microsoft%20Word%20-%20Sacher%20t.pdf

446d2dddaeeccb2cc31a09cf20e40d46

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on July 26, 2011
at 06:20 AM

LiciaH: perhaps a good way to learn that, even though regular cakes taste to kill for, they do have 'long-term' downsides?

64a152b22b830b971382eeb90fb27c7f

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on July 26, 2011
at 04:47 AM

Oh, I just noticed Chapa had that same link! :D

64a152b22b830b971382eeb90fb27c7f

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on July 26, 2011
at 04:46 AM

I suggest Elana's Pantry and her new cupcake cookbook using almond and coconut flour only. Most of her recipes are paleo, or can be tweaked. http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/158761166X?ie=UTF8&tag=elanaspantryc-20&linkCode=as2&camp=1789&creative=390957&creativeASIN=158761166X

6120c989fd5b69f42a0834b69b87955b

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on July 26, 2011
at 02:34 AM

Love the milk shake idea!

6120c989fd5b69f42a0834b69b87955b

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on July 26, 2011
at 02:32 AM

My son learned the word "cake" at 15 months, and gets very excited whenever he sees one, but I've never seen him take more than 1 bite when we offer it to him. He just gets a look on his face like he was expecting something else and wants to go play.

91d422b073139d35e0856967ba1c21d6

(1054)

on July 25, 2011
at 09:22 PM

Agreed that the kid won't know the difference or care at age 1 yr. So long as it looks good for the photos, then whatever. I'd worry about ages 2 or even 3 years on up, when the kid has seen friends (or even his brother) eat "fluffy white death" cupcakes on their birthdays and doesn't want to feel left out. (Why does that older kid's situation make me want to cry?)

B96486cc39cf24fdf259424f833a5d5b

(493)

on July 25, 2011
at 07:30 PM

Since it's his first birthday, and he's never been exposed to anything not Paleo, not a good idea to splurge and let him have regular cake. I really think that's just inviting a lot of tummy trouble and sleepless nights.

Af1d286f0fd5c3949f59b4edf4d892f5

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on July 25, 2011
at 06:38 PM

Wendy - I put that in my answer right above the pictures. I would not ever use canola oil :)

E9798942dfaa0cda97a8f9a71c128c5d

(168)

on July 25, 2011
at 06:30 PM

Please substitue coconut oil for the canola oil!

Af1d286f0fd5c3949f59b4edf4d892f5

(18472)

on July 25, 2011
at 06:07 PM

lol. what i meant was... it's 'never' the best option. like, as in... it's not the best option, ever. but anyways, i was just being nitpicky, and i'm just sad to see agave syrups rise up as a good healthy sweetener being promoted by the makers. But i get what you were saying though :)

6b72eeb3f0c98b487f712efcb5092c90

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on July 25, 2011
at 05:47 PM

I agree with this, and with the Whole30 post here: http://whole9life.com/2011/01/hypocritical-or-human/.

Ce7e28769d92d5de5533e775b1de966e

on July 25, 2011
at 05:07 PM

Ahh.. never said best option **ever** - best option ever would be coconut sugar. Best **now** as they are the only bakery in the city providing an actual palatable, safe, "healthy", option outside of custom orders. I appreciate their efforts. But that's just me and I'm totally cool if people don't agree :)

Af1d286f0fd5c3949f59b4edf4d892f5

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on July 25, 2011
at 04:23 PM

hmmm. i am not so sure something that is 90% fructose as a sweetner is the best option ever. that's really more what I meant by it. It 'might' be better than HFCS because of the GMO corn, but it's basically HFAS and I think even sugar would be better, personally.

Ce7e28769d92d5de5533e775b1de966e

on July 25, 2011
at 04:02 PM

totally understand where you're coming from but it's the best option in the city for those who are trying to change or have dietary issues. for me, if i don't have time to bake, this is my go-to for those friends with certain food allergies because if they want a big old treat then i want them to have it. it's not an every day occurance :)

Ce7e28769d92d5de5533e775b1de966e

on July 25, 2011
at 03:48 PM

holy hell if that isn't the cutest thing ever. adorbs!

Af1d286f0fd5c3949f59b4edf4d892f5

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on July 25, 2011
at 03:46 PM

no eggs? agave?.... agave is no good juba. it may not be much better than HFCS. sorry :(

Af1d286f0fd5c3949f59b4edf4d892f5

(18472)

on July 25, 2011
at 03:42 PM

yah good call on the baby with sugar alcohols. I think that's smart to stick with stevia and raw honey. I am not at home right now but I will see if I can get the recipe and post it here.

Aead76beb5fc7b762a6b4ddc234f6051

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on July 25, 2011
at 03:41 PM

oh. my. goodness. that is the cutest cupcake ive ever seen. my fruitbat kids would choose this one over anything.

Aead76beb5fc7b762a6b4ddc234f6051

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on July 25, 2011
at 03:40 PM

watch out for vegan bakeries- they tend to favor margarine over butter.

Ce7e28769d92d5de5533e775b1de966e

on July 25, 2011
at 03:35 PM

OH! If you happen to live close to NY I can highly recommend Baby Cakes Bakery for some ace baked goods: no wheat, gluten, dairy, casein, eggs and they mostly use agave to sweeten.

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on July 25, 2011
at 03:17 PM

I have used several of this lady's recipes- and she wrote a cook book about gluten free cupckaes: http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/158761166X?ie=UTF8&tag=elanaspantryc-20&linkCode=as2&camp=1789&creative=390957&creativeASIN=158761166X

C4134ed417dbc0a6b79ab2cee32632d3

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on July 25, 2011
at 03:10 PM

Upvoted for altering expectations :-)

77877f762c40637911396daa19b53094

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on July 25, 2011
at 03:08 PM

MMMMM. That is great, Jack! Though I wouldn't do the sugar alcohols for the baby. We get painful stomach cramps that literally have us doubled-over in pain. Go for stevia or the raw honey. Jack - can you share the recipe?

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A65499f2f8c65602881550fe309cd48c

(3501)

on July 25, 2011
at 04:21 PM

Stick to your guns...there's plenty of paleo options out there. If your child has only been eating this way then why introduce "fluffy white death" (that's what we call sugars, flours, etc. in our house) when it's not needed? The baby isn't going to care. After raising three kids and going through the whole "first birthday" thing with all three i've realized that as long as the child has boxes to play with, (from the presents), people to ooh and ahh over them, give them attention and hold them when they're tired, THAT is what makes a child happy. That cupcake that Melissa posted is cuter than any "traditional" cupcake i've seen (and I work at a gluten free bakery) and would make a lovely picture opportunity. Remember what the party is for...to remember your childs first birthday with friends, family and good times. Focus on THAT....not on food. You've got him off on a great start, GOOD FOR YOU! Don't let societal peer pressure and what is deemed as "birthday tradition" throw you off that track. You're amazing parents for giving him the start he's gotten already. What a great way to show others how to do it right. You're excellant examples of showing others what kids SHOULD be eating. I hope this doesn't sound preachy, it's not meant to be...just think about it. I hope, that whatever you decide, that this day will be amazing and the memories will bring you joy in the years to come.

91d422b073139d35e0856967ba1c21d6

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on July 25, 2011
at 09:22 PM

Agreed that the kid won't know the difference or care at age 1 yr. So long as it looks good for the photos, then whatever. I'd worry about ages 2 or even 3 years on up, when the kid has seen friends (or even his brother) eat "fluffy white death" cupcakes on their birthdays and doesn't want to feel left out. (Why does that older kid's situation make me want to cry?)

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9d43f6873107e17ca4d1a5055aa7a2ad

on July 25, 2011
at 03:08 PM

If you have a food processor, you can make a raw "cupcake" with nuts and dates, like this woman does. A cheat I've done is you buy a chocolate larabar, split it in two and squish it into a mini-cupcake pan (with liners or use a silicon pan). Then you ice it with coconut butter mixed with honey. Voila...a cupcake of sorts. Here is one that blogger made, which is more fancier than my version. hack-my-son's-1st-birthday-

But honestly, any baker worth their salt will do custom orders. Maybe if you shop around you can find someone who will work with you to find a recipe you like. I'd particularly look on the internet. I have a lot of friends who do low-sugar custom baked goods in the NYC area and they don't have shops, but they take orders over the internet.

2eae6378699f84d350e9b6cc357d9dc3

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on July 26, 2011
at 05:25 PM

Heck, I'm doing this for MY birthday! cherry pie, I'm thinking, or key lime.

Aead76beb5fc7b762a6b4ddc234f6051

(15239)

on July 25, 2011
at 03:41 PM

oh. my. goodness. that is the cutest cupcake ive ever seen. my fruitbat kids would choose this one over anything.

Ce7e28769d92d5de5533e775b1de966e

on July 25, 2011
at 03:48 PM

holy hell if that isn't the cutest thing ever. adorbs!

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on July 25, 2011
at 03:03 PM

on my daughter's first, I lost out on the cake argument, so I just pushed for as traditional recipe as we could find; real butter, cream cheese frosting, etc. Baby didn't even touch it. She wasn't exposed to sweets, and the stress of the party made her not even like the stuff.

There a lot of less-than-lethal options out there for a good compromise. It's a rare occurrence, and providing no allergies may be nothing more than a temporary sugar buzz. The cranky fit following would be enough to reinforce your reasons to raise kids on real food.

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50637dfd7dc7a7e811d82283f4f5fd10

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on July 25, 2011
at 02:55 PM

Were I in your position, I would stick to my guns. Until faulty societal norms/expectations are done away with, things like this will remain "an issue".

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77877f762c40637911396daa19b53094

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on July 25, 2011
at 02:46 PM

The kid will be jumping off the walls but its his first bday - chill out :) However, I found this great gluten free/sugar free carrot cupcake recipe. It has liquid stevia but its the bday!

I don't bake either (can't) so I asked my mom to make them when my kid was little. Or you can ask a friend or neighbor? People are willing to do anything for a baby's 1st bday!

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on July 25, 2011
at 06:05 PM

He's only one year old. Who are the cupcakes for? Him or the adults? What is his favorite food? Why not celebrate with that.

Edit: My child & grandchild never had any trouble smearing anything smearable at that age. I have great pics of DGC wearing a frozen strawberry pop (just blended strawberries - VERY red and messy).

Although of course, it's good to keep your marriage intact also.

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Af1d286f0fd5c3949f59b4edf4d892f5

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on July 25, 2011
at 02:49 PM

We made amazing cupcake style muffins with rice flour. Here is the pic of how they turned out. You can use maple syrup, raw honey, or stevia or a combination of those. For 'frosting' there ain't nothing like straight heavy cream whipped up with a pinch of vanilla for flavor.

This combo won't taste like the hyper sweet store bought mix with nasty hydrogenated frosting, but the kids should have never known about those options anyways. I saw let's alter our children's expectations when it comes to this stuff.

:)

Edit: We modified the recipe from the back of the package:

For "Liquid", we used cream.

Sweetener: substitute raw honey and stevia mix. You could use some sugar too. It's not much anyway.

Replace Canola with Coconut oil.

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C4134ed417dbc0a6b79ab2cee32632d3

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on July 25, 2011
at 03:10 PM

Upvoted for altering expectations :-)

E9798942dfaa0cda97a8f9a71c128c5d

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on July 25, 2011
at 06:30 PM

Please substitue coconut oil for the canola oil!

77877f762c40637911396daa19b53094

(78467)

on July 25, 2011
at 03:08 PM

MMMMM. That is great, Jack! Though I wouldn't do the sugar alcohols for the baby. We get painful stomach cramps that literally have us doubled-over in pain. Go for stevia or the raw honey. Jack - can you share the recipe?

Af1d286f0fd5c3949f59b4edf4d892f5

(18472)

on July 25, 2011
at 03:42 PM

yah good call on the baby with sugar alcohols. I think that's smart to stick with stevia and raw honey. I am not at home right now but I will see if I can get the recipe and post it here.

Af1d286f0fd5c3949f59b4edf4d892f5

(18472)

on July 25, 2011
at 06:38 PM

Wendy - I put that in my answer right above the pictures. I would not ever use canola oil :)

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2f931662684a7747be36255c8b486228

(1049)

on July 25, 2011
at 11:12 PM

Well, when my daughter turned 1, I had never heard of Paleo and would not have dreamed of giving her cake. She'd never had it. Was her first experience with whipped cream however. I just filled a cupcake holder with fresh whipped cream. If you are permitting full fat dairy from 1 on, you could try this to satisfy the guests and cameras.

but be prepared; my daughter didn't like hers. I guess I should have expressed and whipped my milk.

And just why do his new memories have to pertain to somebody else's old memories? Convince your wife that he deserves something fresh, new and creative, not recycled memories.

MEMORIES ARE SO IMPORTANT! In our household, you know what a milkshake is? You cup your breasts, shake em up and down and sing milk-shake, milk-shake. This is certainly a better memory and food association for my daughter than a sugary drink in a cup.

These memories do not fade quickly (maybe never). My daughter is only 6, but can't pass up a chance to shake up a boob if its hanging loose while I get dressed.

Pity I did not know about Paleo then or I would have stuck to my guns. Not fair to the kiddies to back track and remove the bad habits we allow. I am still back tracking.

If you teach him a party has to have a cake, then every year you are in the same predicament. And in the end, it's really nothing special. It's the same thing every Tom, Dick and Janet is getting.

6120c989fd5b69f42a0834b69b87955b

(24553)

on July 26, 2011
at 02:34 AM

Love the milk shake idea!

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on July 25, 2011
at 04:08 PM

Maybe try a flourless chocolate cupcake? I think this is what we are going to do for our daughters birthday when she turns three in September! Well a full flourless chocolate cake. But you can make a cupcake for your kiddo. The ingredients in them are gluten free and delicious. Could even top it with some coconut milk ice cream! Happy early Birthday to your little guy!

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on July 25, 2011
at 03:17 PM

Coconut flour is a great alternative to regular flour or even "potato starch" or "rice flour" ingredients that you find in many gluten free recipes. Here is a pretty clean recipe-

http://comfybelly.com/2011/06/very-vanilla-cupcakes-using-coconut-flour/

I would keep it as clean as possible or he may feel sick to his stomach since his body isn't used to grains and white sugar!

Stephanie

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on July 26, 2011
at 09:25 PM

My mother was a celiac kid in the 1960s before they had gluten free anything. In fact, they didn't know what celiac was, her doctor told them she was "allergic to starches." It was only a few years ago that she was tested and diagnosed as celiac.

Anyways, when she was growing up she always had a great big "birthday watermelon" with candles stuck in it. It was always special and she has great memories of it. You could make a ritual like that without having to compromise and eat cake.

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(1035)

on July 26, 2011
at 10:46 PM

My grandmother (who died before I was born) apparently always had a watermelon instead of a cake on her 4th of July birthday. My dad still buys a watermelon on the 4th in honor of her.

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on July 25, 2011
at 05:40 PM

We didn't do paleo when my boys were little, but they didn't get much sugar anyway. We did the cake thing for their first birthday, and they were both a little horrified. They licked it a few times, then were done. One of them even pushed his cake right off the table, he was so done with it. The pictures are cute, but so are all the non-cake pictures we took that day. I don't think your kid will be missing anything without cake, but I also doubt he'll even eat that much if you offer it to him.

6120c989fd5b69f42a0834b69b87955b

(24553)

on July 26, 2011
at 02:32 AM

My son learned the word "cake" at 15 months, and gets very excited whenever he sees one, but I've never seen him take more than 1 bite when we offer it to him. He just gets a look on his face like he was expecting something else and wants to go play.

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306aa57660d911781231f8090c2a5619

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on July 25, 2011
at 04:57 PM

One thing to keep in mind, whichever option you choose, is that your baby has no expectations as to what a birthday cake should be. You can cut way back on the sweetener, make it entirely fruit sweetened, or even do a meat cake (meatloaf baked in a cupcake pan) with mashed potatoes (or mashed cauliflower, turnips, sweet potato if you're in the anti-potato camp) for frosting. As long as it has interesting flavors and textures, the baby will be happy and provide amusing photo opportunities.

Of course, others in attendance may prefer a more traditional option.

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446d2dddaeeccb2cc31a09cf20e40d46

on July 25, 2011
at 03:54 PM

Just let him enjoy a real, proper cake. Nobody will die because of a cake or two litres of ice cream or whatever rubbish, now and then. Don't forget to enjoy life while you're at living healthy.

Birthdays should be special, loosen up I'd say!

6b72eeb3f0c98b487f712efcb5092c90

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on July 25, 2011
at 05:47 PM

I agree with this, and with the Whole30 post here: http://whole9life.com/2011/01/hypocritical-or-human/.

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(493)

on July 25, 2011
at 07:30 PM

Since it's his first birthday, and he's never been exposed to anything not Paleo, not a good idea to splurge and let him have regular cake. I really think that's just inviting a lot of tummy trouble and sleepless nights.

446d2dddaeeccb2cc31a09cf20e40d46

(676)

on July 26, 2011
at 06:20 AM

LiciaH: perhaps a good way to learn that, even though regular cakes taste to kill for, they do have 'long-term' downsides?

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on July 25, 2011
at 03:20 PM

I say do it. The pictures are priceless. We had cake for our son's first birhtday - got the great photos - he ate a smidge. This past weekend was his second birthday - I got him a gluten and dairy free cake - again took pictures, but this time he ate maybe 2 bites and was off playing again and eating watermelon.

In my opinion I think it's better to give them the option and have them choose what they want rather than not supplying the option at all. I think you'd be surprised with what the choice is (especially since they're little paleo kids so their sweet taste buds must be just like ours) But that's just my two cents.

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on July 25, 2011
at 03:16 PM

go for a gluten free cupcake.

if your child had no known intolerance to gluten i would even say let him have regular cake, but since he's never had gluten why trial it on his birthday, ykwim.

moderation is a great thing.

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Ef9f83cb4e1826261a44c173f733789e

on July 25, 2011
at 02:59 PM

You may find a vegan bakery that makes gluten-free items and other options. Otherwise, your pudding idea sounds good, but add some homemade whipped cream. Your wife should get loads of messy-face photos with that concoction.

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on July 25, 2011
at 03:40 PM

watch out for vegan bakeries- they tend to favor margarine over butter.

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on July 25, 2011
at 06:37 PM

You can make a flourless chocolate cake using cocoa powder instead of flour, I do it all the time and its extremely delicious and totally paleo(minus the sugar). Just google chocolate flourless cake.

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on April 02, 2012
at 12:00 PM

I think many posters here are certainly right, It WILL not matter to your daughter. However it seems like it is going to matter quite a bit to your wife. Go Gluten Free but let your wife have the experience she is looking for. More than likely your daughter will fall asleep/not like the taste/want to play with toys and not eat a whole lot of it anyway. Your wife only has this experience with your daughter once, try to understand that it is important to her even if you don't understand why.

3491e51730101b18724dc57c86601173

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on June 12, 2013
at 03:43 AM

Lol, my eldest fell asleep IN the cake! Face plant right into the chocolate frosting (before Paleo). She was so excited about her party I couldn't get her to nap beforehand. It was so funny!!!

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on July 26, 2011
at 12:42 PM

Since my kids haven't been paleo since birth, I will make them gluten-free cakes (or order them from a bakery) for their birthdays - that way they can eat the same stuff as their friends at their party, etc. They are 8, 5 and 5 though. If they had never had any grains, I wouldn't blow it for their first birthday though! I would make these banana bread muffins (almond meal) and make a cream cheese frosting (cream cheese mixed with a little sugar) for the top. I would probably order regular cupcakes for the rest of the people coming to the party. My kids eat those banana bread muffins for breakfast almost every day and love them (and have since going paleo - there was no "learning curve" with these, they are yummy.) I add a pinch of salt to the recipe and 3 T of honey instead of 2 and bake them in cupcake liners for 22 minutes. I have also made them with pumpkin (canned) instead of bananas (equal amounts) and those are yummy too.

http://robbwolf.com/2011/04/21/recipe-paleo-banana-bread/

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on July 26, 2011
at 04:52 AM

My two cents is that he is probably not even going to notice this birthday so you guys are worrying yourselves for nothing. It's later birthdays you are going to have to worry about, when he starts noticing that he is getting different foods from his peers and he is feeling left out when he's not allowed to eat anything when he goes to friend's birthday parties. My advice? Don't do this to him. Teach him about moderation and how it's okay to occasionally have sugar and wheat (unless you definitely know he is allergic, of course) as long as you eat healthful food the rest of the time. These lessons will serve him well in the real world. Even if he turns out to be intolerant of wheat, the occasional cupcake isn't going to kill him. Better to let him live a little and participate in social gatherings. The health benefits of 100% vs. 99% just don't outweigh what he'll get from that.

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on July 26, 2011
at 06:30 PM

I see your point Turkeytyme, but I also worry about that needing to "belong" back firing. I remember what I was told as a kid. If your best friend (or all your friends) jump off a bridge are you compelled to do the same? Sometimes being left out is best. Your kids will run into smokers, drinkers and worse. Of course it is difficult for kids to be different but that is exactly what they learn eventually (we hope) to be strong enough to be themselves. Some people just have that nack to be different, artsy fartsy..some never learn to stand out in a lifetime and suffer MORE for it.

B14dc4aa1ddefbec3bc09550428ee493

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on July 27, 2011
at 04:35 AM

Kathi, I WAS that kid who didn't belong when I was growing up. We don't want them being lemmings for sure, but kids do need to feel that they belong. Haven't you noticed that the outsiders are the ones who are prone to depression and anxiety? It's a basic human need to belong and feel accepted. I'm all for teaching kids to have their own mind and make good decisions, but is 100% paleo vs. 99% really worth it if your child is feeling sad and lonely because he can't participate in the same cultural traditions that everyone else is?

2f931662684a7747be36255c8b486228

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on July 27, 2011
at 08:50 AM

Well, my daughter is intolerant to lactose (in most of those sweets) and probably glutin...IBS so she isn't going to be enjoying things in the same way....But she will take part. I think when someone "feels" they are an outsider because they are inferior is one thing, when they feel they are different for a positive reason (this is the key) they can accept it, maybe even enjoy it. Even though granted some will suffer regardless. My daughter is not 100% because I would be a Hitler, I allow her to take part and make her own choices often but I DO NOT ACTIVELY PROMOTE

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on July 25, 2011
at 07:26 PM

My daughter's first birthday was a month ago. I made this recipe for the cake, which is amazing, and I made whipped cream with a little bit of honey and vanilla for frosting. I halved the recipe to make one layer, and cut two circles making a small, personal layer cake for her to dig into. It was really cute. http://www.primal-palate.com/2010/09/happy-birthday-hayley-dark-chocolate.html

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on July 25, 2011
at 05:10 PM

It is his first birthday, you ONLY get 1!!! Let him live it up. You can also try the White Lion Bakery. They are a paleo friendly bakery and have all kinds of goodies. You can even order the cake mix and icing and make it at home yourself. This will give your wife a feeling of accomplishment that she was able to contribute to this special day. Here is a link to their website http://www.whitelionbakingco.com/

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(13978)

on July 26, 2011
at 01:04 PM

Fascinating! I checked the website (even though I'm wary that this is just a spam posting) and the ingredients lists look legit (aside fro the agave). They look like what I'd bake in my own kitchen for a special occasion. Barbie, I hope you post more to legitimize this answer. ;)

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on July 26, 2011
at 01:04 PM

P.S. Cupcakes for delivery here: http://whitelionbakingco.com/our-products/cupcakes-and-muffins/

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on July 25, 2011
at 03:32 PM

Here, I made these for a girlfriend of mine who is allergic to gluten. Super easy and I promise that you can do it :) Just don't rush the process and you will have less stress. All in all I think any of the options given to you would be amazing.

They're mini sized, so you could definitely make them full sized, but how cute would a little pyramid of these babies be in front of your baby!? Three would still probably be less than one whole one. You could even put a chocolate dipped strawberry on the top with a puff of whipped cream or that coconut whipped cream that I saw posted, and plunge the candle in. Good luck and happy birthday to your little boy!

1/2 c coconut flour, 6 eggs, 1/2 c palm shortenig, 1/2 c maple syrup, 1/2 tbsp vanilla, 1/4 tsp baking soda, 1/2 tsp salt, 1 c frozen raspberries 1/2 cup organic chocolate chips

Oven at 350, mix everything together in your mixer except for the chocolate chips and raspberries. Fold those in at the end by hand. Use cupcake liners, probably party ones to up the fun factor :) fill just shy of the top of the liner, bake for around 30 minutes but test with a toothpick.

Done!

Ce7e28769d92d5de5533e775b1de966e

on July 25, 2011
at 05:07 PM

Ahh.. never said best option **ever** - best option ever would be coconut sugar. Best **now** as they are the only bakery in the city providing an actual palatable, safe, "healthy", option outside of custom orders. I appreciate their efforts. But that's just me and I'm totally cool if people don't agree :)

Af1d286f0fd5c3949f59b4edf4d892f5

(18472)

on July 25, 2011
at 06:07 PM

lol. what i meant was... it's 'never' the best option. like, as in... it's not the best option, ever. but anyways, i was just being nitpicky, and i'm just sad to see agave syrups rise up as a good healthy sweetener being promoted by the makers. But i get what you were saying though :)

Ce7e28769d92d5de5533e775b1de966e

on July 25, 2011
at 04:02 PM

totally understand where you're coming from but it's the best option in the city for those who are trying to change or have dietary issues. for me, if i don't have time to bake, this is my go-to for those friends with certain food allergies because if they want a big old treat then i want them to have it. it's not an every day occurance :)

Af1d286f0fd5c3949f59b4edf4d892f5

(18472)

on July 25, 2011
at 03:46 PM

no eggs? agave?.... agave is no good juba. it may not be much better than HFCS. sorry :(

Ce7e28769d92d5de5533e775b1de966e

on July 25, 2011
at 03:35 PM

OH! If you happen to live close to NY I can highly recommend Baby Cakes Bakery for some ace baked goods: no wheat, gluten, dairy, casein, eggs and they mostly use agave to sweeten.

Af1d286f0fd5c3949f59b4edf4d892f5

(18472)

on July 25, 2011
at 04:23 PM

hmmm. i am not so sure something that is 90% fructose as a sweetner is the best option ever. that's really more what I meant by it. It 'might' be better than HFCS because of the GMO corn, but it's basically HFAS and I think even sugar would be better, personally.

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on June 11, 2013
at 11:13 PM

There's plenty of recipes for paleo cupcakes and frostings out there

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on July 26, 2011
at 05:35 PM

Back in 92, I made my son's first birthday cake using an apple-honey cake recipe (a Rosh Hashanna dish) and going with whole grains. Topped with blueberry "compote" (warmed in a pan, half pureed, half intact)

This was my mid-ground for the grandparents who were determined to get a cake at the grocery store (so his name could be on it ) and basically a date/dried fruit mold.

can't say it saved the marriage, but it saved the day.

I think anything that stands alone (like a baked good can) can be "frosted" and support a candle will do.

Good luck, and happy birthday to the kiddo.

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on July 25, 2011
at 07:20 PM

I've just been checking out all these good answers, love all the links as well!

Doesn't seem to me like too big of an issue really, its simply a matter of ordering or making a cake or cupcake for the little one that both of you can be happy with. As everyone has said, you'll take those photos and off they will go onto something much more exciting like presents!!!

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