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When did your internal dialogue change from calling you a "Boy" to a "Man"?

Answered on August 19, 2014
Created June 04, 2012 at 12:32 AM

Pretty straightforward. For some reason I still think of myself internally as a boy. I'm 22 years old. I'll also refer to my friends as "kids," as in telling someone that "I'm going to meet up with some kids at a bar." Is this weird? Some people have commented on it. When did you stop thinking of yourself as a boy and instead as a man? Was it when you graduated college and were really on your own? Was it when you had kids and became a father? Is this weird or are the people that make note of it and point it out to me the weird ones?

I realize this may be voted to close because it's not a paleo question, but it's about evolution, isn't it? Evolution from boy to man. Evolution is paleo, right?

Oh this could also go for girls too. WHen did you start thinking you were a woman and not a girl?

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on June 04, 2012
at 04:53 PM

Haha I have lots of male friends that I would not classify as boys or men but only as "guys." "Guy" is definitely the middle stage between boy and man.

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on June 04, 2012
at 04:48 AM

Age is just a number and the happiest old dudes are the ones who still joke around like kids. Whether you call yourself a boy or a man doesn't really matter either. When serious events happen it's important you draw on past experiences and stand up and act like a man but at other times staying simple like a kid is important to enjoy life. Has nothing to do with eating paleo though in my opinion.

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on June 04, 2012
at 01:06 AM

Good call. I've grown out of comics for the most part (although I still follow a couple manga online) so maybe I'm now more "nerd" than "dork".

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on June 04, 2012
at 12:59 AM

Sorry, folks. I do find this interesting myself, probably because I'm still a boy, but it is off topic.

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on June 04, 2012
at 12:59 AM

Fair enough. I got 3 good answers though. Thank you!

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on June 04, 2012
at 12:58 AM

sorry to nit pick, but i don't think you evolve from a boy to a man

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on June 04, 2012
at 12:56 AM

not to nit pick, but i don't think you evolve from a boy to a man.

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on June 04, 2012
at 12:52 AM

Thanks for the response. Marriage, establishing yourself in a career path, and financial independence seem like the kickers here for me. I'm not fully there yet on any of those fronts. As for being a nerd, that can't be it because I'd be ancient. And everyone is a nerd when it comes to something. Well, not technically cause I'm told there are nerds, geeks, and dorks. I think you're a nerd. If you were into comics like you are into exercise/fitness/health, then you'd be a dork (or a Geek?).

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on June 04, 2012
at 12:41 AM

It was maybe a year or two ago that I started considering myself a man (I'm also 22). When I started being intimate with Woman and growing legitimate facial hair, I think I looked at myself in the mirror one day and thought "I am a beautiful man"

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on June 04, 2012
at 12:43 AM

I think it's an interesting question because, at 29 and married, I am only now starting to consider myself a "man".

Perhaps it is because I have been self-sufficient for the better part of a decade, have been in a stable monogamous relationship for 8 years, and have been working in the same field (exercise/fitness/health) for my entire professional career.

Maybe it has to do with taking responsibility for my life and getting over hang-ups about being "cool" (I've decided that I prefer to be myself, a natural "dork").

My relationship with my parents is also completely different than it was when I was a "kid". I don't depend on them and don't expect them to provide for me. Without this pressure on the relationship, we can relate more like friends and peers which makes me feel "grown up."

Also, I discovered my first gray hair a few months ago, which pretty much sealed the deal.

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on June 04, 2012
at 01:06 AM

Good call. I've grown out of comics for the most part (although I still follow a couple manga online) so maybe I'm now more "nerd" than "dork".

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on June 04, 2012
at 12:52 AM

Thanks for the response. Marriage, establishing yourself in a career path, and financial independence seem like the kickers here for me. I'm not fully there yet on any of those fronts. As for being a nerd, that can't be it because I'd be ancient. And everyone is a nerd when it comes to something. Well, not technically cause I'm told there are nerds, geeks, and dorks. I think you're a nerd. If you were into comics like you are into exercise/fitness/health, then you'd be a dork (or a Geek?).

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on June 04, 2012
at 12:56 AM

I think we become 'guys' in between being a boy and a man

E68bdbd83e45fd5be130e393ace9c9a9

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on June 04, 2012
at 04:53 PM

Haha I have lots of male friends that I would not classify as boys or men but only as "guys." "Guy" is definitely the middle stage between boy and man.

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on June 04, 2012
at 12:42 AM

It was maybe a year or two ago that I started considering myself a man (I'm also 22). When I started being intimate with Woman and growing legitimate facial hair, I think I looked at myself in the mirror one day and thought "I am a beautiful man"

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