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Hack my husband to get him started off right.....

Answered on August 19, 2014
Created July 05, 2011 at 6:28 PM

My husband is finally coming around after watching me loose 30 lbs in 7months and improved health due to food intolerances, allergies.

What finally did it was this weekend away, our niece told him he had a big belly (4 year olds don't hold back) and then someone mistook him for her grandfather!!

I want to do the right things for him so I hope you can get me started in the right direction. Here is some information that might be important.

-He is 49, 5'10", approx 180lbs (normal weight is about 165)

-non smoker, moderate drinker (wine/whisky),

-he is currently on a statin for cholesterol (my goal would be to remove him from this eventually-but he won't listen to me on this point now....but I'll get there)

-he is on blood pressure meds/hypertensive and on a daily cocktail of meds for post treatment prostate cancer. He had robotic surgery a year ago, had the prostate removed, it may or may not have ventured outside, so far, numbers are clean and no further treatments.

-He has a high powered stressful job, starting a new job now which will add about 50% global travel and a move to Brazil. (not an option to loose the job!!)

-he is very good about his sleep

-he is a meat/potatoes/rice and beans man/loves pasta and bread, corn based masa products are common here as well as fried everything. He's now only eating beef once a week, beans I soak and sprout for him and helps. No more bread or pasta in the house either. But I can't control what he eats outside of the house. (there is a cultural element here as well, he was raised on this and I don't believe he has any intolerance or resistance to starches, just need to back them down)

-He can not eat lettuce without issues so we add regular carbs and stay away from salads.

-Exercise, he walks on the treadmill maybe 3 times wk/1 hr each time. He tries to walk as much as possible, 10,000 steps a day they told him, he wears an odometer on his belt. He bikes once a week for about 1 1/2 hrs. (we live in a dangerous city and can't do much outside too often or after dark)

-His build is thin legs, normal body strength-not muscular not scrawny, no real amt of fat, but his tummy is puffed out, doesnt really have love handles either. His father and brothers are built the same. Trying to get him to do sit ups or something for the stomach has been impossible to date--married 26 yrs!)

So how many calories should a man in this situation have per day to loose weight?

Should his %s be the same as mine (65%fat, 25%protein, <50gr carbs)?

Is this kind of dietary change good for reducing his risk of further cancer?

He will eat what I give him for breakfast and dinner, its lunch that rough, he wont take a lunch, and he often can't get a decent meal because of running from meetings to meetings (dealing with numerous time zones, quick sandwiches etc).

-The simplier the better to get him started.....anything else you can suggest?? (forget supplements etc. he won't take them)

345c1755efe005edd162b770dc6fb821

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on July 06, 2011
at 12:32 PM

well she told me I was fat too (she was poking my boobs at the time)! lol....I figure we all must look fat according to her!

345c1755efe005edd162b770dc6fb821

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on July 05, 2011
at 08:43 PM

let me know when you figure it out and I'll do the same!!

345c1755efe005edd162b770dc6fb821

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on July 05, 2011
at 08:43 PM

good thinking, I guess the big meals minus one are under control. He might take some snacks, he's been taking my chocolate protein bars and my lara bars that i make....so theres hope!!

345c1755efe005edd162b770dc6fb821

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on July 05, 2011
at 08:42 PM

great link thanks! I'll print it out for him!

345c1755efe005edd162b770dc6fb821

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on July 05, 2011
at 08:36 PM

he's ready to start, just not all at once. He's a typical SAD eater and he's ready to make some changes but I don't expect he will stay with it if I do it all at once. Also, he believes of what the Drs have told him, eat oats, grains etc. So I'm taking baby steps so I can be successful in the long run. But you are right, he's gonna be a tough nut to keep on track.

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on July 05, 2011
at 07:38 PM

I take my 4 year old into the dressing room when I shop for clothes. He WILL tell me if my butt looks fat.:)

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on July 05, 2011
at 07:23 PM

So how many calories should a man in this situation have per day to loose weight?

I would have him track his calories for a week to get a baseline and then reduce by 15/20%. If you want me to just take a guess at it, I would say 1700-2000, but I have a tendency to lean toward the low side.

Should his %s be the same as mine (65%fat, 25%protein, <50gr carbs)

This is a great starting point, if he doesn't lose at this level, then mess with it. I might start him at 100 grams of carbs, just so he doesn't feel too restricted, plus it gives you more room to move him down if he doesn't lose at 100 grams of carbs.

Is this kind of dietary change good for reducing his risk of further cancer?

Sorry! I'm no help on this one!

He will eat what I give him for breakfast and dinner, its lunch that rough, he wont take a lunch, and he often can't get a decent meal because of running from meetings to meetings (dealing with numerous time zones, quick sandwiches etc).

I would suggest getting menus from his typical lunch time choices and find the best options for him. That way, he knows what to get when he walks in. Also, send him with good snacks, bag up some nuts in serving size portions, or string cheese/salami and almond butter with apples, hard boiled eggs or things like that. That way, he can have a quick snack if lunch is going to be something not as optimal. If he is eating breakfast, dinner and snacks Paleo and sometimes his lunch is not, that is still better than what he was doing before.

345c1755efe005edd162b770dc6fb821

(8767)

on July 05, 2011
at 08:43 PM

good thinking, I guess the big meals minus one are under control. He might take some snacks, he's been taking my chocolate protein bars and my lara bars that i make....so theres hope!!

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on July 05, 2011
at 07:01 PM

Sorry to answer a question with a question, but the one thing I notice throughout this makes me wonder if he is mentally ready to do this. I see a lot of "he wont do X" throughout your post. He needs to be commited to this.

It looks like you have control of his breakfast and dinner, so you make the call and feed him the right stuff. As far as lunch is concerned, make him that too, and make him take it. It's just that simple. I had been someone that ate out every day at lunch for the last 15 years. When I started this I realized that was a change I needed to make in my life. Now I have eaten out for lunch maybe twice in the last 6 months.

His exercise level looks good, but some added resistance training (weights, bands, bodyweight) and some mobility/flexibility probably wouldnt hurt. However, in the name of simplicity he doesnt have to jump right into any of this stuff. The diet is the key at first.

345c1755efe005edd162b770dc6fb821

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on July 05, 2011
at 08:36 PM

he's ready to start, just not all at once. He's a typical SAD eater and he's ready to make some changes but I don't expect he will stay with it if I do it all at once. Also, he believes of what the Drs have told him, eat oats, grains etc. So I'm taking baby steps so I can be successful in the long run. But you are right, he's gonna be a tough nut to keep on track.

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on July 05, 2011
at 07:02 PM

Sorry don't have time for a lengthy post.

Archevore "Get Started" to me is the simplest approach - http://www.archevore.com/get-started/. It is both prescriptive and proscriptive in nature. Just have him work his way down the list.

Additional quick comments - don't sweat the details and obsess about macronutrient ratios, supplements, caloric intake, etc etc. My simple advice - Eat whole foods, avoid toxins, get some sleep, and move around a little. The rest will work itself out. Building momentum and enthusiasm is probably more important in the short term.

345c1755efe005edd162b770dc6fb821

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on July 05, 2011
at 08:42 PM

great link thanks! I'll print it out for him!

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on July 27, 2012
at 08:00 PM

Hack your husband? Well that would be a great finale to a diet.

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on July 27, 2012
at 03:19 PM

First off, there is NOTHING at the airport that he can eat. So he needs to have a "travelers" bag made for him everytime he travels. Nuts, Jerky, Salami, Cheese (if you do that kinda thing), Dried fruit (not too much), etc. Things that can go in a bad and sit in his laptop bag on the plane to keep him full.

Second, don't force your macro ratios on him. We are all different. Let him find what works for him. Zucchini noodles (julianned or just sliced small like macaroni) cooked in butter, salt, pepper, and garlic will make him forget about pasta, and cook quicker!

Third, don't worry about his medicines. In time (like the next time he gets a good check up) they will monitor his levels. My father-in-law was off of statins within 9 months!

Fourth, since he travels to Brazil so much, you may want to include rice in your Paleo plan. Rice and meat are served all over the place in Brazil, this will make his transition easier.

Fifth, "don't believe he has any intolerance or resistance to starches" -- have him read Wheat Belly

Sixth, keep up the walking -- one of the best things you can do for stress -- but encourage him to get outside and do it. On weekends, take him to a trail/park (outside of the dangerous city) and bring along a picnic! Battlefields are great, lots to see, and lots of HILLS!

Finally, do not worry about his calories, worry about what he eats. Once he detoxes from SAD, his body will figure out how much it should eat. I did an experiment where I had a food journal and then had my wife enter it into a calorie counting app. I didn't know how many calories I was eating, I just ate what I wanted. At the end of two weeks, I was almost dead on 2800 calories a day. IF days would be a bit less, but my body just ate what it needed and self-regulated.

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on July 27, 2012
at 01:42 PM

I would add hibiscus tea to the mix too, here is an article discussing how it lowers blood pressure as well as medication.

http://www.motherearthnews.com/natural-health/lower-blood-pressure-naturally-zmgz11zrog.aspx

Also, try making one change at a time, replace one food like a deep fried chicken tender, with some grilled chicken drumsticks. Some people adjust better this way, for me though it was just much easier to dive in head first.

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on July 05, 2011
at 07:11 PM

As far as supplements go, you could get a liquid and slip it in a smoothie, perhaps?

Anyhow, I sympathize. My husband will only take a Flintstone's vitamin. eyeroll

Telling my husband that he'd get potatoes back after he shed the weight helped. He thinks he's getting wheat back, too... Not because I told him that, but because he's "only in this to lose weight". I think he still doesn't believe he could be effected by gluten and corn and...

I would suggest just treating it as a temporary thing for now. Let him see light (or masa) at the end of the tunnel. Then, when he gets to that point, let him be the judge of how he feels with or without it.

As for lunches... I'm still figuring mine out.

345c1755efe005edd162b770dc6fb821

(8767)

on July 05, 2011
at 08:43 PM

let me know when you figure it out and I'll do the same!!

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