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How can I encourage my fat-phobic SO to join me?

Answered on August 19, 2014
Created August 31, 2012 at 8:24 PM

Okay, so my fiance is an avid weightlifter, health-nut, whatever you'd like to call him. But the man is a fat-phobe. I have no idea how to get it across to him that Paleo is healthy. Since I have started my own Paleo journey, I have lost belly fat, am sleeping better, am less moody, I could go on forever regarding the benefits...And yet, he still goes on his "low fat, high carb" diets and expects to have a six pack and sleep like a baby (he gets up at least 3 times a night).

Have any of you dealt with getting a spouse on board? What tactics have you used to encourage them? I do all the cooking so other than sneaking it in, I am at a loss. Would love to hear suggestions! Thanks in advance.

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on September 01, 2012
at 01:04 PM

So funny! we had the processed GMO vegetable oil discussion last night and why it's so bad. He looked like I stepped on his dog. He understands why it's so bad for him, but it's like you are taking something away from him. Then of course I explained to him that things like coconut oil, avocado oil, those fats are much better. He says he'd rather use his EVOO and just eat avocados. so I guess I'm making a little progress....

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on August 31, 2012
at 08:30 PM

Don't. Just be a good example. They'll imitate you if they like the results they see in you.

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on August 31, 2012
at 08:37 PM

My household sounds just like yours!

First thing I did was get him hooked on using coconut oil instead of the crap he was using before. I told him all the benefits of coconut oil and the disadvantages of the one he was using currently. That was easiest.

Second thing was I always told him the benefits of every vegetable, meat, and fruit that we ate. Pretty soon he started asking me what the benefits of something were that he'd find in the fridge.

Third, I let him know that the butter we are buying is really high quality. He was interested in where it was from and how much better it tasted than the crap he was buying.

Fourth, he was really excited to know that introducing these fats got him up closer to his caloric goals. He hated the heavy feeling of pasta and got tired of feeling like he was forcefeeding himself. Now the extra fats are add-ons to enjoyable food that keeps him feeling good.

Lastly, always be an example.

Edit: My bf isn't paleo, but he sees the benefits. While he still does eat things that aren't paleo, he is making different decisions because of the increased awareness. He got a nutribullet AND a steamer all on his own. Tonight I suggested chicken parm and HE suggested grilled chicken instead! It just takes time.

F0a9dea438e7943fa05da318773e785e

on September 01, 2012
at 01:04 PM

So funny! we had the processed GMO vegetable oil discussion last night and why it's so bad. He looked like I stepped on his dog. He understands why it's so bad for him, but it's like you are taking something away from him. Then of course I explained to him that things like coconut oil, avocado oil, those fats are much better. He says he'd rather use his EVOO and just eat avocados. so I guess I'm making a little progress....

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on August 31, 2012
at 08:29 PM

Just work on getting really in shape yourself, at some point you'll surpass him, and he'll come to you.

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on August 31, 2012
at 09:25 PM

Perhaps let him come to his own conclusions by giving him a book or article to read on the subject? There are plenty of "fat isn't evil" messages around these days, fortunately!

You could also do a challenge with him, such as doing Whole30 for a month together, let him know how much his support means to you and how much doing it together would rock, and see if he notices any changes. If he doesn't think there's anything wrong with his current lifestyle then that's a little more difficult. Being the example is always a good fallback. :)

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