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Quick question : what do you think of my body? [pic]

Answered on August 19, 2014
Created August 30, 2013 at 8:01 AM

I know, it's always weird to post your body pics and ask random strangers what they think about it, but I really need honest opinions. I'm not an attention seeker. The thing is, mirrors lie to me.

http://postimg.org/image/unatlbqp1/

Cf08ad26759fdd206a2c9f9385080a57

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on November 08, 2013
at 07:58 AM

"Hey everyone, come and see how good I look!"

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on November 07, 2013
at 03:13 PM

just read the story after my post, i am glad you got it out there, this is much more helpful than having a bunch of people each with their own conceptions of ideal comment on your form. Your body is perfect if it is well loved.

http://www.joshilynjackson.com/ftk/?p=1675

86c97b2779feab3c330f5e1c5fea7e25

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on September 03, 2013
at 03:34 PM

Eat carbs...eat more. If you are getting dizzy at the gym, make sure you eating enough and getting enough sodium (sea salt on food, etc).

F9217f2debe15e88ef089f4d04ad3c57

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on August 31, 2013
at 09:02 AM

Hey, thank you for your comment. Congratulations on your recovery! Unfortunately, I've moved away from home few months ago and since that time I'm not seeing any therapist/psychiatrist. I tried to get some help from my GP but I received a letter from NHS that I got into the waiting list and I'll get my first appointment in about 8-9 months... I can't afford to get any private help. Thank you for your support. It's an amazing inspiration for me and it proves that recovery is possible.

F9217f2debe15e88ef089f4d04ad3c57

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on August 31, 2013
at 08:50 AM

I'm trying to eat, that's the most important I think. Besides that, I do 4 weight lifting sessions per week and sprint at least 2 times a week. I'm trying to push it to my limits at the gym and workout with as heavy weights as possible. Sometimes I just get to dizzy to continue workout, for example yesterday, or just don't have energy to continue. Unfortunately, I still feel scared of carbs. I eat 4 eggs with loads of butter and some bacon/chorizo every morning because I really like it so it's easy for me to get probably 700-800 calories from breakfast (my estimation, I try not to calculate)

F9217f2debe15e88ef089f4d04ad3c57

(20)

on August 31, 2013
at 08:44 AM

You're right. Strong is the new skinny, isn't it? Congratulations on your satisfaction with your body and strength. I'm sure it wasn't easy to achieve it, you should be utterly proud of yourself. Amazing inspiration. Thank you and good luck!

B2eb3ff4456b2408e6db558072e7d3f2

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on August 30, 2013
at 11:45 PM

You're not alone, sweet-heart. I've struggled with very similar issues--grew up morbidly obese [grandfather even tried to pay me a quarter for every lb I lost], lost lots of weight through atkins, developed eating disorders, and depression. It has taken years to heal and shift the ED mindset. I still have moments where I slip into the mindset, but then I remember that I don't see myself as I truly am. Focus on strength [ignore nitty gritty nutrition issues] and the physique will come. Just know that you aren't alone, and if you need to reach out, let me know.

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on August 30, 2013
at 11:32 PM

Good if your normal, homeostatic weight. Otherwise, let it rise a few pounds. Just my 2 cents.

86c97b2779feab3c330f5e1c5fea7e25

(2312)

on August 30, 2013
at 09:22 PM

What are you doing exactly? Do body weight exercises (squat, pull up, push up, burpees), sprint, hike and eat enough to fuel your body (don't be scared of carbs, plenty of protein)

718fd304d7abab150730638bf2be5153

(184)

on August 30, 2013
at 08:30 PM

You have a lot of courage, and you've come a long way. I would only suggest that you keep concentrating on having the best health possible, and for that, weight is only secondary. Best wishes for you.

089dd41b18fbb95ebb5347cded708d98

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on August 30, 2013
at 08:13 PM

yeah, true. that's why I think if you generally feel good and have good bloodwork, I don't think it's a problem to have a lower bmi.

Fd7b128cf714044a86d8bd822c7a8992

(4292)

on August 30, 2013
at 06:48 PM

(2/2): you might like this series: http://gokaleo.com/2013/08/17/what-to-expect-when-you-stop-dieting-part-3-what-the-heck-is-happening-to-me/ (that's part 3; parts 1 and 2 are linked in the article) which is a very healthy perspective on the "OMG I've gained weight" panic when you stop restricting calories.

Fd7b128cf714044a86d8bd822c7a8992

(4292)

on August 30, 2013
at 06:47 PM

You sound like an incredibly strong person. I was about to join in the chorus of "you look a little undernourished" and I'm so glad I scrolled down to read this first. Congratulations on your recovery so far - it's such a hard journey and you're doing fantastically well. And everyone else has already said it but I'll say it again: the mirror is lying to you. You don't need to diet. You're beautiful exactly as you are, but I'd suggest you put on a little weight for health purposes, especially reproductive health/fertility.

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on August 30, 2013
at 06:46 PM

Search Melissa McEwen's blog "Hunt, Gather, Love" for her post on "Why women need fat". Basically, below a certain %, you can't reproduce. I like your muscles, but women look healthier with some curves. In the words of Mrs. Claus: "Eat, Santa eat!"

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on August 30, 2013
at 06:44 PM

I can't see the invisible man's cock.

B2eb3ff4456b2408e6db558072e7d3f2

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on August 30, 2013
at 06:26 PM

But it's worth it! B/c along with putting on muscle, you will put on strength. I can speak from experience b/c I was skinny like you, but over the past year I have put on 20+ lbs of muscle and gotten very strong. It's changed my life--I feel like a new person. My confidence is solid and I have more direction. As women, we should focus on getting stronger and more toned not thinner/skinner. Scales are a bunch of bullshit and should only be consulted rarely or if a person is in a competitive sport that necessitates staying at a certain weight to make a weight class.

F9217f2debe15e88ef089f4d04ad3c57

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on August 30, 2013
at 05:25 PM

Thank you! I'm trying to sprint at least 2 times a week and do a weight lifting 4 times per week.

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on August 30, 2013
at 05:24 PM

posted before your entry above...

F9217f2debe15e88ef089f4d04ad3c57

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on August 30, 2013
at 05:23 PM

Thank you! According to BMI, I'm still underweight but I wouldn't rely on it as a prime measurement type.

F9217f2debe15e88ef089f4d04ad3c57

(20)

on August 30, 2013
at 05:22 PM

Thank you! I've burned all my back muscles because I restricted my calories intake while training box so that's my main problem and I struggle to get those muscles back where they should be.

F9217f2debe15e88ef089f4d04ad3c57

(20)

on August 30, 2013
at 05:20 PM

I'm trying! I wish it could be easier:/

F9217f2debe15e88ef089f4d04ad3c57

(20)

on August 30, 2013
at 05:20 PM

Too late for that. It's time to STOP being so obsessed though.

F9217f2debe15e88ef089f4d04ad3c57

(20)

on August 30, 2013
at 05:19 PM

All I can say is that losing weight is SO MUCH easier that putting on muscle.

F9217f2debe15e88ef089f4d04ad3c57

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on August 30, 2013
at 05:18 PM

Mirrors lie to me, that't the problem. I wish I could be healthier and stronger. I'm on my way to achieve it! But putting on weight terrify me...

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on August 30, 2013
at 02:08 PM

I would make sweet sweet love to you.

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61f9349ad28e3c42d1cec58ba4825a7d

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on August 30, 2013
at 03:39 PM

Honest answer: I want to feed you, not eat you. In my opinion, you are quite a bit too thin all over and do not look very healthy.

7
1d1a1aa53ec46345db814f2e5bc03838

(108)

on August 30, 2013
at 08:54 AM

Too thin for my taste.

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86c97b2779feab3c330f5e1c5fea7e25

(2312)

on August 30, 2013
at 03:46 PM

Good start...now eat more and put on some lean muscle

F9217f2debe15e88ef089f4d04ad3c57

(20)

on August 31, 2013
at 08:50 AM

I'm trying to eat, that's the most important I think. Besides that, I do 4 weight lifting sessions per week and sprint at least 2 times a week. I'm trying to push it to my limits at the gym and workout with as heavy weights as possible. Sometimes I just get to dizzy to continue workout, for example yesterday, or just don't have energy to continue. Unfortunately, I still feel scared of carbs. I eat 4 eggs with loads of butter and some bacon/chorizo every morning because I really like it so it's easy for me to get probably 700-800 calories from breakfast (my estimation, I try not to calculate)

86c97b2779feab3c330f5e1c5fea7e25

(2312)

on August 30, 2013
at 09:22 PM

What are you doing exactly? Do body weight exercises (squat, pull up, push up, burpees), sprint, hike and eat enough to fuel your body (don't be scared of carbs, plenty of protein)

F9217f2debe15e88ef089f4d04ad3c57

(20)

on August 30, 2013
at 05:20 PM

I'm trying! I wish it could be easier:/

86c97b2779feab3c330f5e1c5fea7e25

(2312)

on September 03, 2013
at 03:34 PM

Eat carbs...eat more. If you are getting dizzy at the gym, make sure you eating enough and getting enough sodium (sea salt on food, etc).

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B2eb3ff4456b2408e6db558072e7d3f2

on August 30, 2013
at 01:37 PM

Honey, you look too thin. Putting on some muscle would make you look and feel hellah fly.

F9217f2debe15e88ef089f4d04ad3c57

(20)

on August 30, 2013
at 05:19 PM

All I can say is that losing weight is SO MUCH easier that putting on muscle.

F9217f2debe15e88ef089f4d04ad3c57

(20)

on August 31, 2013
at 08:44 AM

You're right. Strong is the new skinny, isn't it? Congratulations on your satisfaction with your body and strength. I'm sure it wasn't easy to achieve it, you should be utterly proud of yourself. Amazing inspiration. Thank you and good luck!

B2eb3ff4456b2408e6db558072e7d3f2

(414)

on August 30, 2013
at 06:26 PM

But it's worth it! B/c along with putting on muscle, you will put on strength. I can speak from experience b/c I was skinny like you, but over the past year I have put on 20+ lbs of muscle and gotten very strong. It's changed my life--I feel like a new person. My confidence is solid and I have more direction. As women, we should focus on getting stronger and more toned not thinner/skinner. Scales are a bunch of bullshit and should only be consulted rarely or if a person is in a competitive sport that necessitates staying at a certain weight to make a weight class.

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on August 30, 2013
at 08:38 AM

Nice legs, but not too fond of the ribs...

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F9217f2debe15e88ef089f4d04ad3c57

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on August 30, 2013
at 05:16 PM

Thank you all for your comments. After reading your responses, I took my time to think about it but I finally decided to share 'my story' with you. Yes, I'm doing it to feel better. It's very hard to keep things like this only for yourself for a very long time. Yes, I'd be grateful if you leave few words for me after reading this.

I've always been a chubby kid. According to BMI charts I've even been overweight for most of my childhood. Instead of support from my family/doctors I received more and more high-carb meals and loads of jokes about how fat I look. Since I can remember I had a 'fatty' label. I went on my first serious diet when I was 10 years old. After that I tried many other diets and read tons of glossy fitness magazines in search of perfect solution to lose weight. Not surprisingly every time I managed to lose few kilos, the weight came back with extra fat as a gift. Moreover, I've always had huge problems with digestion/bloating/stomach pains as well as very poor health, asthmatic tendencies and insomnia. When I was 12 years old I had a to go to the hospital to have my appendix removed and after the surgery I lost few kilos. I felt so great! For the first time people start to say that I look better, nicer... I tried not eating at all, making myself sick... Then I gained back all the weight. In the age of 14/15 I weighted 67kg and wore size 10/12. I looked like a whale. Then I started to party a lot, had my first serious boyfriend and because I kept myself entertained all the time I didn't have to even think about food. At my lowest back then I reached 49kg and my friends were terrified by my look and were even trying to force food inside my mouth. I don't remember how but then I gained few kilos back. Then I started partying again and went down to 55-53kg. I went to visit my brother for two weeks. Back then he discovered paleo diet and I ate this way while being there. Of course I had pizza, ice cream and maltsers with his girlfriend when he was at work. So I ended up with 5 additional kilos. Then I converted to paleolish way of eating just to quit it when I realized that it triggers further weight gain (I didn't know far too many things about paleo back then so almost everything I've done was wrong). I started training thai boxing (the first of attached photos: http://postimg.org/image/8mh5j8q3x/ is from this period of time). My workouts were VERY hard, about 3-5 times a week + additional working out at home/gym/swimming. I ate everything, but always bearing in my mind that my goal is to lose weight, that I need to look better, be skinnier. I had really bad cravings for sweets, I literally ate handfuls of chocolates every day. That's why even though I've been exercising very hard all the time I still looked chubby. One day I found a photograph from the times when I was about 55kg. I started crying and I couldn't stop. I was incredibly angry at myself, at my lack of will power. The decision was simple : lose weight you fat lazy cow. I started working out at the gym with my brother and eating rather low-carb. I've lost weight, gained muscle, felt amazing, had the time of my life. Then I went back home from holidays and converted to strict paleo diet. I kept losing weight. More and more. And I really liked it. Also, I started to restrict my food more and more... After few months I ended up eating 2 eggs for breakfast, 4 walnuts for lunch, a little piece of meat with some veggies for dinner and half can of tuna as a last meal. And I thought it's still too much and I was exercising at least three times a day + my thai boxing workout. I went down to 52kg with 168cm height (photo : http://postimg.org/image/52uu9ackx/) and two weeks after I was meant to fight at the cheampionships I ended up in a hospital being so dizzy for a few days that I couldn't tell you the difference between the ceiling and the floor or to sit/walk/stand on my own. I was probably around 50kg back then, maybe less. I remember when they gave me the tube with the glucose all I could think about is how to get rid of it as it was interrupting my low-carb dieting. But also I was to terrified that I'm dying to do anything about it so I just cried. I spent 2 weeks in the hospital at the neurology department and nobody knew what's wrong with me. They sent me a psychologist and after talking with her I developed anxiety which few days later became a full GAD which is still my problem. When I could walk on my own I requested to be sent back home. It was really bad time for me. But I couldn't understand why people start asking me if I'm sick/have cancer/drug problems, they kept saying that I look terrible/too skinny. Even my family for whom I've always been 'fatty' started to call me the skeleton. I couldn't eat in public. I couldn't eat anything what had even one non-paleo ingredient. I had to weight and put into calorie-counting diary every single piece of carrot that I ate. I was still below 30g of carbs per day only from veggies. Then I distracted myself by studying a lot. Just not to think about eating and food. I became the best student in my class. Of course after being hospitalized I gave up my boxing career, but I kept exercising and working out at the gym. After some time I tried to reintroduce carbs/grains/dairy for a while to check if it would help me with my anxiety. It didn't, I just gained few kilos of weight. Then I started dieting again and developed weird depression, started taking SSRI for my anxiety disorder. I was 46kg at my lowest (photo : http://postimg.org/image/jcxii3lon/). My psychiatrist said that I have an anorexia nervosa and I need to start therapy immediately. I couldn't understand what he was talking about. Looking at the mirror I was still the same fat girl that I've always been. I probably mixed up few things while trying to recall it, missed even more trying to keep it brief but I don't think that many of you will read it to the end anyway. Now, I'm fully aware of my eating disorder. I'm trying to fight with it. I even went to my GP to get some help but then I got letter from the NHS that they put me on the waiting list and I'll get my first appointment in approximately 8-9 MONTHS. So I don't have any support. I decided to withdraw my SSRI medication and now I take only 5mg (which is half dose) and soon I'll stop taking it completely. I want to be healthy and feel normal again. Feel pretty. Have a boyfriend. Go for a meal out with friends. Enjoy my food. Stop planning every meal. Get rid of anxiety. Be happy. See myself as I really look. They say that when you admit that you have a problem you take the first step towards recovery. I'm a strong person, if I could lose over 3 stones I can beat the ED. Food shouldn't control anyone's life. Eating supposed to be pleasant. I'm about 48-50kg right now and I exercise all the time at the gym + subtle stretching and exercises every morning and before sleep. I still eat paleo but I allow myself for food that I wouldn't touch before such as sweet potatoes, occasional rice, dark chocolate, coconut milk. After I decided I want to recover I struggled with the same pattern : Monday-Saturday restrict and exercise, Sunday - binge eating till my stomach hurts. I read that it's a common thing when someone is trying to eat healthy again after months/years of starvation. I want to look and feel healthy but I'm terrified of putting on weight. I'm never full and very rarely hungry but when I start eating I have to restrict my food intake, otherwise I wouldn't know when to stop. The worst thing is, I still feel fat. I still think all the time about losing weight. I'm obsessed with food/carbs. But I quit counting them months ago. I'm really scared that I won't be able to stop putting on weight and I'll end up overweight again. It's a struggle for me to put on the lean muscle mass, probably because I still don;t eat enough. I remember about two weeks ago I bought 3kg of nut butters (almond, hazelnut, walnut), a pack of my favorite pistachios and Lindt dark chocolates. I allowed myself to eat a little of it for two-three days. I also indulged in avocados which I really like as it's easy to eat without feeling disgusted and sick. I still ate big fry up in the morning and meat with veggies for dinner. I felt amazing, not even slightly anxious. Then I woke up one day, looked in the mirror and caught myself thinking 'diet time, you've put on weight, diet time!'. (Up-to-date photo once again : http://postimg.org/image/unatlbqp1/)

I didn't want to make it so long and boring. I really put my heart into it and I feel a little relief.

Feel free to comment, I'd be happy to answer every question and think about every given advice.

Fd7b128cf714044a86d8bd822c7a8992

(4292)

on August 30, 2013
at 06:48 PM

(2/2): you might like this series: http://gokaleo.com/2013/08/17/what-to-expect-when-you-stop-dieting-part-3-what-the-heck-is-happening-to-me/ (that's part 3; parts 1 and 2 are linked in the article) which is a very healthy perspective on the "OMG I've gained weight" panic when you stop restricting calories.

Fd7b128cf714044a86d8bd822c7a8992

(4292)

on August 30, 2013
at 06:47 PM

You sound like an incredibly strong person. I was about to join in the chorus of "you look a little undernourished" and I'm so glad I scrolled down to read this first. Congratulations on your recovery so far - it's such a hard journey and you're doing fantastically well. And everyone else has already said it but I'll say it again: the mirror is lying to you. You don't need to diet. You're beautiful exactly as you are, but I'd suggest you put on a little weight for health purposes, especially reproductive health/fertility.

718fd304d7abab150730638bf2be5153

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on August 30, 2013
at 08:30 PM

You have a lot of courage, and you've come a long way. I would only suggest that you keep concentrating on having the best health possible, and for that, weight is only secondary. Best wishes for you.

B2eb3ff4456b2408e6db558072e7d3f2

(414)

on August 30, 2013
at 11:45 PM

You're not alone, sweet-heart. I've struggled with very similar issues--grew up morbidly obese [grandfather even tried to pay me a quarter for every lb I lost], lost lots of weight through atkins, developed eating disorders, and depression. It has taken years to heal and shift the ED mindset. I still have moments where I slip into the mindset, but then I remember that I don't see myself as I truly am. Focus on strength [ignore nitty gritty nutrition issues] and the physique will come. Just know that you aren't alone, and if you need to reach out, let me know.

B5141236ad924674a96803ee1ccccaf1

(485)

on November 07, 2013
at 03:13 PM

just read the story after my post, i am glad you got it out there, this is much more helpful than having a bunch of people each with their own conceptions of ideal comment on your form. Your body is perfect if it is well loved.

http://www.joshilynjackson.com/ftk/?p=1675

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on August 30, 2013
at 08:51 AM

What is it that a part of you is saying to yourself when you look into the mirror?

If you think like I do when looking at the pic you're thinking 'you need to make a hard decision. Just do it. Stop Get some flesh on these bones.' You'll probably be healthier and stronger if you do (I see the muscle toning tonage but think you could be a lot stronger if you put on some weight.

F9217f2debe15e88ef089f4d04ad3c57

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on August 30, 2013
at 05:18 PM

Mirrors lie to me, that't the problem. I wish I could be healthier and stronger. I'm on my way to achieve it! But putting on weight terrify me...

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on November 08, 2013
at 07:56 AM

Without wishing to sound nasty, the fact that you've posted a picture of yourself on the internet and invited strangers to judge it is indicative of an excessive (and unappealing) preoccupation with your appearance. What would you have done if you'd had nasty comments? You don't do things like that if you aren't at least reasonably sure of compliments!

Again, sorry - I don't wish to be mean, but I have to wonder what the point of this post really was. If you've had eating disorders in the past, posting a picture on the internet entitled 'quick question: what do you think of my body' seems a very odd way to deal with it.

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on November 08, 2013
at 07:58 AM

"Hey everyone, come and see how good I look!"

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on November 07, 2013
at 05:27 PM

Dear A_N,

THank you for trusting us with your pictures and story.

I am first of all feeling really grateful that you dare to share all that you shared with us.

I do have to say that a few things in your story makes me feel sad, and that some of the comments left here also makes me feel sad at heart.

I know we all grow up in a crazy society, with little support for our whole beings. I want to tell you that you are beautiful! I want to tell you that the most important thing is to FEEL healthy. To nourish your body, so you can feel better mentaly, a healthy body supports a healthy mind and emotions and the other way around.

Too me, I first get upset about what you said in your story that people would call you chubby. Those people are not speaking from a place of truth or a place of love. Those people are speaking from a place of fear and judgement, judgement made of a mass media that wants us to feel bad so we can buy stuff, and a fear of not feeling belonging, that the media targets heavily.

What we all need is loved ones that accept us for what we are now, for what are bodies are at any point. It doesn`t matter how our bodies are. In ancient traditions like auyurveda there are 3 classical types, characterized by everything from body shape, to habits and emotional patterns. Not everybody are supposed to be one size, just like we`re not suppost to all be talented in the same areas. Everybody have different bodies, values, wants, wishes, talents, things that feeds our wellbeing. That is a truth that the media just blatantly ignores. We`re not all supposed to be the same! Some people are just skinny, and get hurt when people tell them they should put on weight - they are perfect the way they are! Some are average, and are just perfect the way they are. Some tend to be more abundant - and they are perfect too!

I hear that you have dived into different diets that are focusing on whole foods and not so much of the processed foods. It sounds like you are listening to your body and trying to feel what is the best to eat for YOUR body.

I don`t know that there is one way for everybody, and I know that it might take time to recover from whatever has caused us to be out of balance. I hear that you are also doing gentle excercises with your body. I wouldn`t say that you are too thin or too chubby or anything - you are in a process, you are aware, you are looking for what feels good for you. But I do want to say that the first picture - It felt like I wanted to hug you, love the body you have there, and cherish you - because you are real, and to me it felt very welcoming.

The best gift I ever recieved in this world where there is way too much focus on ``success``, was a friend who touched my other friends stomach and said she loved it. Other people had probably called her chubby, I would probably have said that too - but that is not a judgement from a healthy place. It`s a judgement from an ignorant place, a wounded place, that thinks we can only be happy if we look like the picture perfect we think is perfect, but that is actually not perfect. My same friend would also say she loved my belly, just the way it is - that is love, unconditionally. Because our bodies do SO many things for us, every day - blood pumpig, nutrients delivered, oxygen transported, neurons reacting, and endless other jobs that I do NoTHING for to happen, and then I only focus on the fact that I think I look a certain way that I judge to not meet the standards! When do I stop to thank my body for breathing, for sensing, for my eyes! If I used as much time on being thankful for all the billions of things my body does for me every second, as I have used on hating it for not looking a certain way - I would live till I was, I don`t know, a million years old or something crazy like that to have the time to thank all the tings my body does for me!

Point is - I wish you the best on your journey, and I really hope you can find people who will support you as you are, and that you can find the strengt to not listen to the people that are casting judgement on you, or to even tell them it`s not ok to be saying stuff like that, stuff that is not respectful towards you or your body!

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on November 07, 2013
at 03:20 PM

Too skinny

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B5141236ad924674a96803ee1ccccaf1

(485)

on November 07, 2013
at 03:08 PM

I dont think this is the right venue for this kind of post. I would been more interested to know how you feel about your body, and why you even want to know how i feel about it.

This type of question is strange and frankly cultivating axiety.

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on November 06, 2013
at 05:17 PM

@A_N I battled an eating disorder for years before a doctor suggested that I tried Paleo, and it transformed my life.

You can read my story on my blog The Kosher Cave Girl

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on September 16, 2013
at 06:03 PM

I did some research, in fact a lot. Take your body weight in lbs and divide it by your height in inches. exp: 133 lbs / 68 in = 1.95 Something around 2.0 +/- .25 is a good result...you are a bit on the too thin side is my guess or at least look that way...

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on September 16, 2013
at 05:21 PM

Your proportions are good, but you really look like you need to gain some serious weight.

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(128)

on August 30, 2013
at 07:40 PM

You're on the right track; taking it day by day, meal by meal. Please remember though that you can't recover overnight, it's a process and it is HARD. It could take a few years to rebuild your relationship with food, your body etc. I hope you are still seeing your psychiatrist, and a therapist. If you can, try and find one that specializes in EDs. I didn't make any progress in my own recovery (your story is red letter the same as mine) until I found an ED therapist with whom I clicked.

Yes, mirrors can lie; they are political and no two mirrors are the same. Most of us can't see what we really look like in the mirror or photographs due to all the baggage that has built up over our lifetimes. We're conditioned to believe we are ugly, fat or whatever. If you think otherwise, you're inviting criticism. However I'm not saying that you are seeking attention or compliments; I truly believe you are not. I struggle with the exact same thoughts as you, the exact same illness.And those are powerful, layered thoughts. One of the things that got in my way was that I truly believed that I was gorgeous when I was at my lowest, sickest weight, and that was the only way I could be beautiful. I literally didn't know what I looked like, and I don't think you do either. Allow yourself to believe that you are beautiful now, that you were beautiful before and you will be beautiful still, no matter in what way your body changes. But by the same token, remember that being beautiful, fit, in shape etc are great! Awesome actually, embrace them. Embrace other characteristics too.

Please, please read the link that Maria provided. It's a great one and will help ease some of the anxiety. Then go further in your research. But most importantly, seek professional help. It's not as simple as gaining weight or muscle mass.

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(20)

on August 31, 2013
at 09:02 AM

Hey, thank you for your comment. Congratulations on your recovery! Unfortunately, I've moved away from home few months ago and since that time I'm not seeing any therapist/psychiatrist. I tried to get some help from my GP but I received a letter from NHS that I got into the waiting list and I'll get my first appointment in about 8-9 months... I can't afford to get any private help. Thank you for your support. It's an amazing inspiration for me and it proves that recovery is possible.

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on August 30, 2013
at 05:22 PM

Beautiful. The envy of many, I suspect. Just a question of maintaining at this point, and working towards a strong, healthy body and mind, by moving daily (at a slower pace), and sprinting and strength training 1-2x per week.

F9217f2debe15e88ef089f4d04ad3c57

(20)

on August 30, 2013
at 05:25 PM

Thank you! I'm trying to sprint at least 2 times a week and do a weight lifting 4 times per week.

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(170)

on August 30, 2013
at 05:24 PM

posted before your entry above...

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(723)

on August 30, 2013
at 04:27 PM

You look amazing! Great job with the arm and shoulder definition! That stuff takes WORK and TIME to achieve. My only suggestion would be some weighted core exercises for a solid and more developed core.

F9217f2debe15e88ef089f4d04ad3c57

(20)

on August 30, 2013
at 05:22 PM

Thank you! I've burned all my back muscles because I restricted my calories intake while training box so that's my main problem and I struggle to get those muscles back where they should be.

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(5635)

on August 30, 2013
at 03:55 PM

You look great! I have the exact same figure as you but my bmi is lower than normal. I say as long as you are healthy, then just keep doing what ur doing.

089dd41b18fbb95ebb5347cded708d98

(5635)

on August 30, 2013
at 08:13 PM

yeah, true. that's why I think if you generally feel good and have good bloodwork, I don't think it's a problem to have a lower bmi.

F9217f2debe15e88ef089f4d04ad3c57

(20)

on August 30, 2013
at 05:23 PM

Thank you! According to BMI, I'm still underweight but I wouldn't rely on it as a prime measurement type.

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(149)

on August 30, 2013
at 02:22 PM

You look great, wouldn't hurt to put on a few kilos if you can. Don't become too obsessed.

F9217f2debe15e88ef089f4d04ad3c57

(20)

on August 30, 2013
at 05:20 PM

Too late for that. It's time to STOP being so obsessed though.

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(1677)

on August 30, 2013
at 02:04 PM

Perfect, I love women whos thighs do not touch at the top. Congrats on being leggy and lean.

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