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Do you still go out and party and be a cool person?

Answered on August 19, 2014
Created October 15, 2011 at 4:04 AM

I just got back from a club and left some friends because I was just not having fun and embarrassed with myself. Deep down all I want to do is to be able to socialize and party and get excited. There are so many hot girls but I can't get excited and be a likeable person! I'm 23, I've been having this problem since age 20. I no longer am able to have fun, be cool, and attract any girls because of this, besides the weird ones. From when I was 15, I started really partying and socializing and drinking and I loved it! I was always the life of the party and did this until age 20. It's incredible for the past three years I've just been a walking ghost of my previous life. I would be okay with this if it was happening to me at age 50, but I'm 23, I had planned on being excited and drinking at clubs for at least 15 years longer than I am. Maybe I'll just decide to embrace the boring, lame person I am now. To make a joke out of this, I think I would fit in better at a retirement home than with people my own age.

77877f762c40637911396daa19b53094

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on October 15, 2011
at 11:21 AM

See http://www.doctoryourself.com/prozac.html

77877f762c40637911396daa19b53094

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on October 15, 2011
at 11:20 AM

Its a very rich source of L-tryptophan, so its natural alternative to Prozac.

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on October 15, 2011
at 11:20 AM

It has a lot to do with paleo, I think. Paleo is not just diet, it's lifestyle. I, for example, became WAY less shy after going paleo.

77877f762c40637911396daa19b53094

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on October 15, 2011
at 11:18 AM

http://www.google.com/search?gcx=c&q=cashews&qscrl=1&um=1&ie=UTF-8&hl=en&tbm=isch&source=og&sa=N&tab=wi&biw=1004&bih=595

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on October 15, 2011
at 09:13 AM

Yes, please clarify on the cashews.

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on October 15, 2011
at 08:30 AM

Just curious, whats in cashews?

77877f762c40637911396daa19b53094

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on October 15, 2011
at 08:05 AM

Whats wrong with weird ones ? I always preferred those.

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on October 15, 2011
at 05:48 AM

What does this have to with Paleo???

D117467bf8e8472464ece2b81509606c

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on October 15, 2011
at 05:46 AM

Well it's been the answer to all of my problems so far!

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on October 15, 2011
at 05:25 AM

+1 so funny!!!!!

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on October 15, 2011
at 04:24 AM

yeah but this applies to going to school, playing sports, jsut having anyone like me, it's not just going to bars. In everyway I'm just not good and not like I used to be.

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D117467bf8e8472464ece2b81509606c

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on October 15, 2011
at 04:13 AM

eat more coconut oil

D117467bf8e8472464ece2b81509606c

(2873)

on October 15, 2011
at 05:46 AM

Well it's been the answer to all of my problems so far!

B4e1fa6a8cf43d2b69d97a99dfca262c

(10255)

on October 15, 2011
at 05:25 AM

+1 so funny!!!!!

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77877f762c40637911396daa19b53094

(78467)

on October 15, 2011
at 08:20 AM

Ok, lets try something different.

  • 50mg Zinc
  • CoQ10 30-50mg
  • 2g DHA/EPA
  • 50 mg Niacin
  • 5 g Piracetam.
  • 1 tsp Lecithin or 2-4 egg yolks
  • 30 g cashews

  • Exercise

For at least 2 months.

Other then that, you may want to change your company or hang out more with weird girls.

I don't think its always normal for young males to behave like that. Females may behave like that even in 16, but males usually not. We play games entire life. Parties can become boring but thats usually more about company and other reasons, like your inability to listen crappy mainstream music.

44348571d9bc70c02ac2975cc500f154

(5853)

on October 15, 2011
at 08:30 AM

Just curious, whats in cashews?

77877f762c40637911396daa19b53094

(78467)

on October 15, 2011
at 11:21 AM

See http://www.doctoryourself.com/prozac.html

77877f762c40637911396daa19b53094

(78467)

on October 15, 2011
at 11:18 AM

http://www.google.com/search?gcx=c&q=cashews&qscrl=1&um=1&ie=UTF-8&hl=en&tbm=isch&source=og&sa=N&tab=wi&biw=1004&bih=595

77877f762c40637911396daa19b53094

(78467)

on October 15, 2011
at 11:20 AM

Its a very rich source of L-tryptophan, so its natural alternative to Prozac.

7b494127ac67e85e572c5222aaee9b4d

(668)

on October 15, 2011
at 09:13 AM

Yes, please clarify on the cashews.

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Be1dbd31e4a3fccd4394494aa5db256d

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on October 15, 2011
at 04:55 AM

I thought that at one point, but I came to see it as of marginal importance compared with other things, and I couldn't derive the same feelings from that scene as I used to. Certainly romance is important, but "partying" and "being cool" have no value in themselves, only within that setting, and that setting is always going to be stagnant and somewhat frivolous in the big scheme of things, although undeniably enjoyable. Once I realized that and started demanding a little more purposeful behavior from myself I was actually able to enjoy myself more, because I knew that fun and games weren't the ultimate source of transcendence for me, and that made fun and games less like work. Perhaps this is a sign that you need more substance and direction in your life, and you can't feel that transcendence without achieving something else.

Often a symptom of growing up. The teen brain is different than the young adult brain, it is far more present-oriented and stimulation-seeking. You change, and so must your actions and environment to match the new you.

Finally, check your testosterone levels. Maybe I'm just full of it and you just have low T. Could be the case!

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on October 15, 2011
at 11:01 AM

its called depression? idk how about actually detailing your life regimen, daily schedule and esp your nutrition? are u even on a Paleo Diet? no info, no help

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on October 15, 2011
at 10:34 AM

Just do what comes naturally and don't get too screwed up about what happens. Take life in your stride Mens sana in corpore sano (courtesy of a Paleo lifestyle)

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B9cc28905ec54389c47cde031d709703

on October 15, 2011
at 09:17 AM

Don't hunt for deer in the desert.

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7b494127ac67e85e572c5222aaee9b4d

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on October 15, 2011
at 09:14 AM

To answer your question, yes.

I still go out, party, and am a cool person

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B4e1fa6a8cf43d2b69d97a99dfca262c

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on October 15, 2011
at 07:48 AM

50 is the new 25 if you eat right :)

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on October 15, 2011
at 04:37 AM

I totally get it, it sucks. However, when you get past the rigid thinking of 'it's only when I'm drunk and outrageous (or even just more relaxed), you will look around and meet girls in other places. Sports evens, coffeehouses, tea rooms, bookstores... I swear there are hot girls out there that are not in the bars that are dying to meet cool guys that won't have crap breath or splash beer on them!

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on October 15, 2011
at 04:21 AM

life has ebbs and flows and sometimes physiology dictates what activities you can do well. if you have the interest and the resources you can get a battery of health tests, and/or you can find other activities to do that are enjoyable.

i took years and years away from drugs and partying because i was burnt out and crazy. i learned meditation, non violent communication, self expression, etc. now i party moderately at age 32. the highs are not as high but the lows are not as low and to me that's the most important thing. suicidal depression and regret aren't worth it IMO.

it may sound corny. but learn to listen to the inner voice that wants you to feel good, not do things that SEEM good. learn to make those kinds of hard distinctions.

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on October 15, 2011
at 04:12 AM

If you cant be an "excited likable person" without getting hammered you have some other issues likely to be associated with beginning to drink at such a young age. I don't want to get to personal, but lets just say that if while you were socially maturing you utilized alcohol heavily to get through "meeting hot girls" and "being cool" then you learned these social functions in a state of intoxication...so this is what state dependent learning is. If you are now trying to abstain then the things you found use to come easy while you were drunk will have to be relearned. Same reason some people shoot pool, throw darts, and so on better while drinking.

If your mad you just don't feel like partying anymore, don't be. The party is fun while it lasts, but seriously think about how you feel about that 40 year old guy thats drunk off his arse in a bar full of twenty somethings trying to get laid.

77877f762c40637911396daa19b53094

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on October 15, 2011
at 04:24 AM

yeah but this applies to going to school, playing sports, jsut having anyone like me, it's not just going to bars. In everyway I'm just not good and not like I used to be.

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