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need thoughts on eating what Mom makes....

Answered on August 19, 2014
Created February 07, 2013 at 8:33 PM

So my parents know I am Paleo, but they really don't get it. They are older and were just brought up in a different generation. I don't by any means try to talk them into doing it, but this is the issue. They watch my son once a week, so to spend time with them after work, I have dinner with them. My mom does her best to make me Paleo foods, but doesn't always get it right (ie, putting breadcrumbs, mayo, or some cheese into a casserole). It seems disrespectful to refuse to eat it since she watches my son and then makes us all dinner, and she tries to make things I can eat. I know she isn't sabatoging me; she just doesn't really understand it all, and I don't want to "lecture" her on the ins and outs of what I can eat. So I end up eating it but then have bubble guts after for the evening. Any thoughts on what I could do? I know I could always east later at my house, but like I said, I fell it would be rude not to eat what she made for me.....

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on February 08, 2013
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Best of luck! I hope you can find a middle ground that leaves all of your happy. :)

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Not if it causes her physical distress.

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http://www.nerdfitness.com/blog/2010/10/04/the-beginners-guide-to-the-paleo-diet/ That source seems to have all of the information in one concise place and explains it in language that doesn't require a background in biochemistry.

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on February 07, 2013
at 09:06 PM

I think it's really nice that she's trying! Offer to bring over some recipes for her to use or that the two of you could make together when you get home. If it were my mom, I know I'd have to be careful offering up recipes, but if your mom is up for it, I think it's a good solution. You could do some shopping for her too, maybe get some staples that she wouldn't normally have around (coconut oil, nut flours, coconut milk).

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on February 07, 2013
at 09:38 PM

I agree with Mandy and Ves, in making it interactive, if that's something that your mom might be open to trying. If not, I would just talk to her as kindly and simply as possible. Something along the lines of, "I really appreciate everything, and dinner always tastes amazing, but there's some ingredients that really upset my stomach. I know it's a lot to keep up with, so could we just try to do simple dinners, like just some meat and veggies?" And then maybe tie in that a simple dinner would also save her some cooking time, and maybe you, your son, and your parents could all do something fun together in the time saved, like playing a board game.

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on February 07, 2013
at 09:20 PM

I think that making your mum happy is better than making yourself happy (by refusing) but hurting her. Just eat whatever she makes with a smile and with gratefulness. She won't be around forever!

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on February 07, 2013
at 11:04 PM

Not if it causes her physical distress.

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on February 08, 2013
at 03:33 PM

thanks everyone! i appreciate the input. i will try all your ideas!

61f9349ad28e3c42d1cec58ba4825a7d

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on February 08, 2013
at 04:24 PM

Best of luck! I hope you can find a middle ground that leaves all of your happy. :)

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on February 07, 2013
at 11:01 PM

I would eat what your Mom makes if it didn't affect you, but if it makes you have "bubble guts after for the evening" then I'd try and come up with a plan B. What about just keeping some stuff on hand that you can eat easily?

Maybe some cans of tuna in the cupboard and a few bags of SteamFresh veggies in the freezer plus some paleo fats (some butter or olive oil) would allow you to enjoy your parents company at dinner (surely the important thing) while enabling you to keep your guts happy too ;).

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on February 07, 2013
at 09:23 PM

I like Mandy's answer -- it sounds very respectful and helpful. Your knowledge of your mom's personality -- finding the best way to present "let me cook for you one night" or "let's cook together one night" would be the key to making it work.

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on February 07, 2013
at 09:55 PM

You could try to have a backup in case she happens to put a non-paleo ingredient in the meal. I also like the idea to doing a little shopping for your mom. Buy her some almond meal to use instead of breadcrumbs. Bring some homemade mayo, if possible. And make sure to always tell her you appreciate her support!

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